# Dr. Craig Canapari
> Evidence-Based Sleep Solutions for Exhausted Parents
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### About Me
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I'm the guy on the left
I’m a pediatrician at [Yale-New Haven Children’s Hospital in New Haven, CT](https://www.ynhh.org/physicians/craig-canapari?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), specializing in the care of children with breathing and sleep problems. I'm also a husband, dad, dog dad, mediocre paddleboarder, and even more mediocre runner.
I live outside New Haven with my wife and our two boys. Once my first son was born, I learned the vital lesson that there is often a gulf between textbook “perfect” parenting, and what actually works in the real world.
## How this website came to be
It wasn’t long after I began my practice that I started to get phone calls and emails from friends, friends of friends, family members and their friends, and my wife’s cousin’s mailman. They all had questions and needed advice. Why does their kid get up at night? Do those tonsils really need to come out?
My academic background was in breathing issues like asthma and sleep apnea. I quickly realized I would need to get up to speed on behavioral issues as well. I spoke to mentors, read books and articles, and assembled everything I could into detailed handouts for parents. I then realized that it was going to be easier to share this information online, as it was easier to share a link. I made a connection with Dr. Wendy Sue Swanson, one of the first pediatrician bloggers writing online, and wrote [my first post for her back in 2012 on toddler night wakings](https://www.wendysueswanson.com/toddler-sleep-4-reasons-toddlers-wake-up-at-night/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). With her encouragement, I soon started this website.
There are few pediatric sleep specialists nationally, which makes it hard for people in need of help with sleep issues to access care. There are relatively few web-based resources as well. At this site, you can find help: not direct clinical care, but advice which will hopefully point you in the right direction. My goal is to provide simple, evidence-based information to families and physicians.
In 2019, I published[ *It's Never Too Late to Sleep Train: The Low Stress Way to High-Quality Sleep for Babies, Kids, and Parents*](https://amzn.to/2PfthnX?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), which is my guide to fast, effective, simple sleep training from birth through school age. I'm really proud of it.
Here are the topics I'm most passionate about:
- [Normal sleep in children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-101/)
- [Treating sleep problems](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training/)
- [Helping teens sleep better](https://drcraigcanapari.com/teen-sleep-information/)
- Validating parent's decisions about their children's sleep.
[My most recent project is starting The Sleep Edit Podcast.](http://drcraigcanapari.com/podcast)
## Academic biography
I graduated *cum laude* from Yale with a degree in English, and attended medical school at the University of Connecticut. I did my residency in Pediatrics and my fellowship in Pediatric Pulmonology at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, and stayed on there as an attending physician in the Division of Pediatric Pulmonary Medicine from 2007\. I also boarded in Sleep Medicine after doing my sleep medicine rotations at Brigham and Women's Hospital and Brown University. In 2013, I returned to my old college stomping grounds at Yale, where I am an attending physician in Pediatric Pulmonology, and Director of the Pediatric Sleep Center. Here, I have built a comprehensive sleep program for children, the first of its kind in Connecticut. We have three sleep laboratories, many sleep physicians, and now have a sleep psychologist helping us with behavioral issues.
I’m boarded in Pediatrics, Pediatric Pulmonology, and Sleep Medicine.
[Here is my very official and fancy faculty page at Yale.](https://medicine.yale.edu/profile/craig-canapari/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[Here is my Google Scholar page.](https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=0J53qOwAAAAJ&hl=en&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[Here is my Linked In page.](https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-canapari-b7247350?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## In the media
### Articles in Print or Online:
- French edition of *It's Never Too Late to Sleep Train* ([*Endormir son enfant sans s'épuiser*](https://www.amazon.fr/Endormir-son-enfant-sans-s%C3%A9puiser/dp/2263194266?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)) featured in ["Les 5 astuces infaillibles d'un pédiatre américain pour endormir son enfant"](https://madame.lefigaro.fr/bien-etre/forme-detente/les-5-astuces-infaillibles-d-un-pediatre-americain-pour-endormir-son-enfant-20260209?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *Madame Figaro*, 2/9/26
- Quoted in ["New study links melatonin and heart failure. Don't panic, experts say."](https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/2025/11/03/melatonin-heart-failure-sleep-aid/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *The Washington Post*, 11/3/25
- Quoted extensively in Romper's sleep regression series (2023-2024), including articles on the [4 month](https://www.romper.com/parenting/4-month-sleep-regression?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), [6 month](https://www.romper.com/parenting/6-month-sleep-regression?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), [8-10 month](https://www.romper.com/parenting/8-9-10-month-sleep-regression?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), [12 month](https://www.romper.com/parenting/12-month-sleep-regression?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), [18 month](https://www.romper.com/parenting/18-month-sleep-regression?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), and [teething vs. regression](https://www.romper.com/parenting/sleep-regression-or-teething?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) topics.
- Quoted in ["I'm a sleep doctor and a dad. 5 common mistakes parents make with kids and sleep"](https://www.today.com/health/sleep/kids-sleep-expert-tips-rcna73799?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) on *TODAY.com*, 3/13/23
- Quoted in ["Sleep Regression: What they are, why they happen, and survival tips"](https://www.romper.com/parenting/sleep-regression?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *Romper*, 2/14/23
- Quoted in "Why little kids' sleep is so wild" by Jessica Grose in *The New York Times*, 5/11/22
- Quoted in ["You might be using melatonin all wrong. Here's what you should know"](https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2022/03/25/melatonin-sleep-insomnia/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *The Washington Post*, 3/25/22
- Quoted in ["Teenagers need more sleep, and permanent Daylight Savings Time won't help"](https://www.washingtonpost.com/parenting/2022/03/22/daylight-saving-time-school-teens/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *The Washington Post*, 3/22/22
- Quoted in ["Daylight-Saving Time Ends Sunday. Yes, You Can Win the Transition"](https://www.wsj.com/articles/daylight-saving-time-ends-sunday-yes-you-can-win-the-transition-11635771600?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *The Wall Street Journal*, 11/12/21
- Wrote ["How to Prepare Babies and Kids for the End of Daylight Saving Time"](https://www.nytimes.com/article/daylight-saving-time.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *The New York Times*, 10/27/21
- Quoted in ["Break the Cycle of Insomnia"](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/11/14/at-home/insomnia-advice.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *The New York Times*, 11/15/20
- Quoted in ["Is Your Kid Just Refusing Bedtime, Or Is It Insomnia?"](https://www.romper.com/parenting/can-children-have-insomnia?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *Romper*, 11/12/20
- Quoted in ["Parents Are Relying on Melatonin to Help Their Kids Sleep. Should They?"](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/18/parenting/melatonin-sleep-kids.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *The New York Times*, 5/18/20
- Wrote ["Some Babies Sleep Better in Car Seats and Swings, but Are They Safe?"](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/17/parenting/baby/baby-sleep-car-seat-swing.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *The New York Times*, 4/17/20
- Wrote ["Bedtime Was Hard Enough. Then Came The Quarantine."](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/14/parenting/coronavirus-kids-sleep.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *The New York Times*, 4/15/20
- Wrote ["Your Kids Refuse to Nap? There's Hope."](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/24/parenting/child-stop-napping.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *The New York Times*, 3/24/20
- Quoted in ["Is your child sleep deprived? Here's how it can affect their development"](https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/your-child-sleep-deprived-here-s-how-it-can-affect-ncna1119376?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) on *NBC News*
- My book was featured in ["10 Books That Answer Ten Pressing Parenting Questions"](https://better.net/arts-events/books/books-that-answer-pressing-parenting-questions/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *Better Magazine*
- Quoted in ["Overcoming sleep disorders"](https://www.bostonglobe.com/lifestyle/health-wellness/2012/06/03/sleep-apnea-children-can-cause-other-health-behavioral-problems/iZzm5Ll0FrxuK5A3kYnxVP/story.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in *The Boston Globe*, 2012
### Podcast appearances:
- [The Matt Walker Podcast episodes 43 & 44: Sleep and Kids](https://podcastnotes.org/the-matt-walker-podcast/44-sleep-and-kids-pt-2-with-dr-craig-canapari-the-matt-walker-podcast/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) A two-part conversation with UC Berkeley neuroscientist and *Why We Sleep* author Matt Walker on sleep training, infant sleep, and common parenting sleep challenges.
- [Balance 365 Life episode 365: Parents, Kids and Sleep: A How-To Guide for Families](https://www.balance365life.com/episode65/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). I had a wide ranging conversation with the three women who run this podcast and provide great, positive information about health, weight, and body image.
- [The Dad Podcast episode 311: Talking Sleep with Dr. Jay and Dr. Craig Canapari of the Yale Sleep Center](https://www.blogtalkradio.com/dadpodcast/2018/03/21/311--talking-sleep-with-dr-jay-and-dr-craig-canapari-of-the-yale-sleep-center?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). This was a fun one-- I got to chat with two stand up comedians Justin Worsham and Dr. Jay Sutay. Fun fact-- when I was a med student I spend one afternoon a week with Dr. Jay for four years-- he taught me a lot about how to be good kid doc.
- [Kids Sleep, Parents Sleep - We All Need to Sleep! with Craig Canapari, MD ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/kids-sleep-parents-sleep-we-all-need-to-sleep-on-the-lucas-rockwood-show/)Lucas Rockwood, a yoga teacher and entrepreneur, interviewed me about sleep and health, and what you can and can't control about your child's sleep.
- [REDEFINING SLEEP TRAINING (IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT CRY IT OUT) ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-junkies-podcast/) I was honored to kick off the second season of Sleep Junkies, one of my favorite podcasts on sleep.
- [Strollercoaster: Can we get some sleep?](https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Xmk4Z4zI7kpORzg3hjTF4?si=lo6L56XoSrWTU-t%5FEecLAg&dl%5Fbranch=1&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) One of my favorite podcasts that I have been on, and my favorite parenting podcast.
## Do you want to make an appointment with me?
I am licensed in New York and Connecticut. I currently see patients in Old Saybrook, New Haven, and Trumbull Connecticut. Additionally I see children residing in CT or NY via telehealth. To book an appointment, either [book an appointment via Yale Medicine online](https://www.yalemedicine.org/specialists/craig-canapari/book-appointment-online?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) or call [1-877-YALEMDS (925-3637)](tel:+1-877-925-3637).
## Do you want to collaborate?
If you would like to contact me about speaking engagements or collaboration, please contact me below. Note that I will not respond to individual requests for medical advice.
### Comments Policy
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Last updated: 2013-04-23T02:34:55.000Z
All comments on this blog are approved by me prior to posting. I do expect that all commenters be civil and respectful. If I do not feel that a comment is in keeping with the tenor or intent of this blog, I will not approve it.
I appreciate that a lot of desperate and sleep deprived parents come to this blog, frequently late at night, for help with their child's sleep difficulties. I started this site with the goal of providing easily accessible and evidence-based guidance for parents. I have made an effort to provide general advice for parents and caregivers. Unfortunately, I cannot provide specific medical advice for parents and will not publish comments asking for specific advice. Thus, please do not make long, detailed comments about your child's difficulties here. Rather, write out your concerns and share them with your pediatrician; this is always a good strategy for [getting the most out of your doctor's visit](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/03/29/a-parents-toolkit-for-the-specialist-visit/).
Due to the volume of comments I receive (and my inability to keep up with them), I have now limited comments to 30 days after a post is published. Note that comments must be germane to the subject of the post. Thus, if I write about teenage sleep issues, I will not approve sleep training questions/comments.
Thanks for your patience and understanding. Best of luck.
### Supporting This Site
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I spend a lot of time writing and editing the content on this site. I also spend about $60 per month on hosting fees, not to mention start-up costs. I would like to make it self-sustaining. **If you have found this helpful, please support it by [shopping in my store on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/shop/drcanapari?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).** I have curated some of my favorite sleep hygiene products and also some of our favorite books which my wife and I read with our boys. **If you shop through this link, (or any of the Amazon links on my site) you provide me with a 4-6% commission** which will go to developing new content and covering web hosting costs. There is no cost to you.
Another great way to support this site is to share the content with your friends-- via Facebook, email, Twitter, smoke signal, or another way you like.
Thanks so much for your time, generosity, and attention. .
### Speaking, Consulting, and Media
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Last updated: 2026-06-22T18:58:06.000Z
I work with companies, journalists, and organizations on pediatric sleep — as a product and content advisor, a speaker, an expert source, and an institutional consultant.
Recent and ongoing work includes advising consumer brands on sleep-related products and content, speaking to parents and clinicians, and contributing to outlets like the *New York Times*, TODAY, and the Matt Walker Podcast. If you're working on something where pediatric sleep expertise would help, I'd like to hear about it.
## A few things to know
**Consulting** is the core of this work. I take on a small number of advisory engagements with companies building products, content, or programs where pediatric sleep matters. Compensation can be cash, equity, or a mix — happy to discuss what fits.
**Speaking** is something I genuinely enjoy. I tailor talks to the audience, whether that's parents, clinicians, school administrators, or teens. Evidence-based, practical, occasionally funny.
**Media inquiries** are welcome. I'm a working physician, so deadlines on the order of a day or two are usually workable; same-day is hit-or-miss. Short bio, headshot, and recent press are on the [About page](https://drcraigcanapari.com/about/).
## What I don't do here
- **Clinical questions about your child's sleep.** For medicolegal reasons, I can't respond to these via the form. If you're looking for help right now, the free [Sleep Training Starter Kit](https://drcraigcanapari.com/welcome-to-the-sleep-training-starter-kit/) is the best place to start.
- **In person in CT; telehealth in CT or NY.** If you're in Connecticut or New York and want to be seen as a patient, call my Yale office at [1-877-YALE-MDS (925-3637)](tel:18779253637)
- **Guest posts, link exchanges, or sponsored content.** I don't accept these.
## Get in touch
### Scheduling an appointment
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Last updated: 2012-03-08T04:25:06.000Z
To schedule an appointment, please call 203-785-4081\. Referrals can be faxed to 203-737-7635.
I currently see patients in four offices:
1\. [**Yale New Haven Children’s Hospital, 1 Park St, New Haven, CT 06519**](http://www.ynhh.org/yale-new-haven-childrens-hospital/visitor-information/locations,-directions,-parking-and-lodging.aspx?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)2\. [**Yale Specialty Center at Norwalk, 747 Belden Ave., Norwalk, CT 06850**](http://www.ynhh.org/yale-new-haven-childrens-hospital/medical-services/ch%5FPediatric%5FSpecialty%5FCenter%5FNorwalk.aspx?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)3\. [**Yale Specialty Center at Long Wharf, 1 Long Wharf Dr., New Haven, CT 06519**](http://www.ynhh.org/yale-new-haven-childrens-hospital/medical-services/Pediatric%5FSpecialty%5FCenter.aspx?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)4\. [Yale Specialty Center at Trumbull, 5520 Park Avenue, Trumbull, CT 06611](http://www.ynhh.org/yale-new-haven-childrens-hospital/medical-services/ch%5Fspecialty%5Ftrumbull.aspx?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
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I reserve the right to ignore any contact attempted through any means (Blog, Twitter, LinkedIn, Email, IM, etc). Most common reasons include but are not limited to: unwanted marketing, SPAM, hostile/aggressive/annoying behavior, unfamiliarity or lack of personal/professional relationship, etc.
Following, contacting, or “friending” people on any social media sites, blogs, etc. is not an endorsement by me of the message, opinions, beliefs, or mission of that person, group, or business.
### Privacy Policy
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/privacy-policy/
Last updated: 2026-03-01T22:05:03.000Z
Privacy Policy
Effective date: 11/2/2025
Welcome to https://drcraigcanapari.com, a website (the “Site”) owned and operated by EVIDENCE BASED PARENTING, LLC, a limited liability company duly formed and existing under the laws of the State of Connecticut with its principal offices located at at 800 Village Walk #120, Guilford, CT 06437, referred to in this document, by the terms "Provider" or "we" or "us" or "our." The terms "user" or "you" or "your" refers to any and all users and/or viewers of the Site. Your use of the Site constitutes your agreement to the following Privacy Policy which, together with our Terms and Conditions of Use located at this link, govern the relationship between you and us. If you do not agree to this Privacy Policy, please do not use this Site.
This page informs you of our policies regarding the collection, use, and disclosure of personal data when you use our Service and the choices you have associated with that data.
We use your data to provide and improve the Service. By using the Service, you agree to the collection and use of information in accordance with this policy. Unless otherwise defined in this Privacy Policy, terms used in this Privacy Policy have the same meanings as in our Terms and Conditions, accessible from https://drcraigcanapari.com/
## Definitions
**Service**
Service is the https://drcraigcanapari.com/ website operated by Evidence Based Parenting LLC
**Personal Data**
Personal Data means data about a living individual who can be identified from those data (or from those and other information either in our possession or likely to come into our possession).
**Usage Data**
Usage Data is data collected automatically either generated by the use of the Service or from the Service infrastructure itself (for example, the duration of a page visit).
**Cookies**
Cookies are small pieces of data stored on your device (computer or mobile device).
**Data Controller**
Data Controller means the natural or legal person who (either alone or jointly or in common with other persons) determines the purposes for which and the manner in which any personal information are, or are to be, processed.
For the purpose of this Privacy Policy, we are a Data Controller of your Personal Data.
**Data Processors (or Service Providers)**
Data Processor (or Service Provider) means any natural or legal person who processes the data on behalf of the Data Controller.
We may use the services of various Service Providers in order to process your data more effectively.
**Data Subject (or User)**
Data Subject is any living individual who is using our Service and is the subject of Personal Data.
## Information Collection and Use
We collect several different types of information for various purposes to provide and improve our Service to you.
### Types of Data Collected
#### Personal Data
While using our Service, we may ask you to provide us with certain personally identifiable information that can be used to contact or identify you ("Personal Data"). Personally identifiable information may include, but is not limited to:
- Email address
- First name and last name
- Cookies and Usage Data
We may use your Personal Data to contact you with newsletters, marketing or promotional materials and other information that may be of interest to you. You may opt out of receiving any, or all, of these communications from us by following the unsubscribe link or instructions provided in any email we send.
#### Usage Data
We may also collect information how the Service is accessed and used ("Usage Data"). This Usage Data may include information such as your computer's Internet Protocol address (e.g. IP address), browser type, browser version, the pages of our Service that you visit, the time and date of your visit, the time spent on those pages, unique device identifiers and other diagnostic data.
#### Tracking Cookies Data
We use cookies and similar tracking technologies to track the activity on our Service and hold certain information.
Cookies are files with small amount of data which may include an anonymous unique identifier. Cookies are sent to your browser from a website and stored on your device. Tracking technologies also used are beacons, tags, and scripts to collect and track information and to improve and analyze our Service.
You can instruct your browser to refuse all cookies or to indicate when a cookie is being sent. However, if you do not accept cookies, you may not be able to use some portions of our Service.
Examples of Cookies we use:
- **Session Cookies.**We use Session Cookies to operate our Service.
- **Preference Cookies.**We use Preference Cookies to remember your preferences and various settings.
- **Security Cookies.**We use Security Cookies for security purposes.
## Use of Data
Evidence Based Parenting LLC uses the collected data for various purposes:
- To provide and maintain our Service
- To notify you about changes to our Service
- To allow you to participate in interactive features of our Service when you choose to do so
- To provide customer support
- To gather and analyze valuable information so that we can improve our Service
- To monitor the usage of our Service
- To detect, prevent and address technical issues
- To provide you with news, special offers and general information about other goods, services and events which we offer that are similar to those that you have already purchased or enquired about unless you have opted not to receive such information
## Legal Basis for Processing Personal Data Under General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR)
If you are from the European Economic Area (EEA), the legal basis for collecting and using the personal information described in this Privacy Policy depends on the Personal Data we collect and the specific context in which we collect it.
Evidence Based Parenting LLC may process your Personal Data because:
- We need to perform a contract with you
- You have given us permission to do so
- The processing is in our legitimate interests and it's not overridden by your rights
- For payment processing purposes
- To comply with the law
## Retention of Data
Evidence Based Parenting LLC will retain your Personal Data only for as long as is necessary for the purposes set out in this Privacy Policy. We will retain and use your Personal Data to the extent necessary to comply with our legal obligations (for example, if we are required to retain your data to comply with applicable laws), resolve disputes, and enforce our legal agreements and policies.
Evidence Based Parenting LLC will also retain Usage Data for internal analysis purposes. Usage Data is generally retained for a shorter period of time, except when this data is used to strengthen the security or to improve the functionality of our Service, or we are legally obligated to retain this data for longer time periods.
## Transfer of Data
Your information, including Personal Data, may be transferred to — and maintained on — computers located outside of your state, province, country or other governmental jurisdiction where the data protection laws may differ than those from your jurisdiction.
If you are located outside United States and choose to provide information to us, please note that we transfer the data, including Personal Data, to United States and process it there.
Your consent to this Privacy Policy followed by your submission of such information represents your agreement to that transfer.
Evidence Based Parenting LLC will take all steps reasonably necessary to ensure that your data is treated securely and in accordance with this Privacy Policy and no transfer of your Personal Data will take place to an organization or a country unless there are adequate controls in place including the security of your data and other personal information.
## Disclosure of Data
### Disclosure for Law Enforcement
Under certain circumstances, Evidence Based Parenting LLC may be required to disclose your Personal Data if required to do so by law or in response to valid requests by public authorities (e.g. a court or a government agency).
### Legal Requirements
Evidence Based Parenting LLC may disclose your Personal Data in the good faith belief that such action is necessary to:
- To comply with a legal obligation
- To protect and defend the rights or property of Evidence Based Parenting LLC
- To prevent or investigate possible wrongdoing in connection with the Service
- To protect the personal safety of users of the Service or the public
- To protect against legal liability
## Security of Data
The security of your data is important to us, but remember that no method of transmission over the Internet, or method of electronic storage is 100% secure. While we strive to use commercially acceptable means to protect your Personal Data, we cannot guarantee its absolute security.
## "Do Not Track" Signals
We do not support Do Not Track ("DNT"). Do Not Track is a preference you can set in your web browser to inform websites that you do not want to be tracked.
You can enable or disable Do Not Track by visiting the Preferences or Settings page of your web browser.
## Your Data Protection Rights Under General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR)
If you are a resident of the European Economic Area (EEA), you have certain data protection rights. Evidence Based Parenting LLC aims to take reasonable steps to allow you to correct, amend, delete, or limit the use of your Personal Data.
If you wish to be informed what Personal Data we hold about you and if you want it to be removed from our systems, please contact us.
In certain circumstances, you have the following data protection rights:
**The right to access, update or to delete the information we have on you.**Whenever made possible, you can access, update or request deletion of your Personal Data directly within your account settings section. If you are unable to perform these actions yourself, please contact us to assist you.
**The right of rectification.**You have the right to have your information rectified if that information is inaccurate or incomplete.
**The right to object.**You have the right to object to our processing of your Personal Data.
**The right of restriction.**You have the right to request that we restrict the processing of your personal information.
**The right to data portability.**You have the right to be provided with a copy of the information we have on you in a structured, machine-readable and commonly used format.
**The right to withdraw consent.**You also have the right to withdraw your consent at any time where Evidence Based Parenting LLC relied on your consent to process your personal information.
Please note that we may ask you to verify your identity before responding to such requests.
You have the right to complain to a Data Protection Authority about our collection and use of your Personal Data. For more information, please contact your local data protection authority in the European Economic Area (EEA).
## Service Providers
We may employ third party companies and individuals to facilitate our Service ("Service Providers"), to provide the Service on our behalf, to perform Service-related services or to assist us in analyzing how our Service is used.
These third parties have access to your Personal Data only to perform these tasks on our behalf and are obligated not to disclose or use it for any other purpose.
### Analytics
We may use third-party Service Providers to monitor and analyze the use of our Service.
**Google Analytics**
Google Analytics is a web analytics service offered by Google that tracks and reports website traffic. Google uses the data collected to track and monitor the use of our Service. This data is shared with other Google services. Google may use the collected data to contextualize and personalize the ads of its own advertising network.
You can opt-out of having made your activity on the Service available to Google Analytics by installing the Google Analytics opt-out browser add-on. The add-on prevents the Google Analytics JavaScript (ga.js, analytics.js, and dc.js) from sharing information with Google Analytics about visits activity.
For more information on the privacy practices of Google, please visit the Google Privacy Terms web page: [http://www.google.com/intl/en/policies/privacy/](http://www.google.com/intl/en/policies/privacy/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### Payments
We may provide paid products and/or services within the Service. In that case, we use third-party services for payment processing (e.g. payment processors).
We will not store or collect your payment card details. That information is provided directly to our third-party payment processors whose use of your personal information is governed by their Privacy Policy. These payment processors adhere to the standards set by PCI-DSS as managed by the PCI Security Standards Council, which is a joint effort of brands like Visa, Mastercard, American Express and Discover. PCI-DSS requirements help ensure the secure handling of payment information.
The payment processors we work with are:
**Stripe**
Their Privacy Policy can be viewed at [https://stripe.com/us/privacy](https://stripe.com/us/privacy?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
**PayPal or Braintree**
Their Privacy Policy can be viewed at [https://www.paypal.com/webapps/mpp/ua/privacy-full](https://www.paypal.com/webapps/mpp/ua/privacy-full?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## Links to Other Sites
Our Service may contain links to other sites that are not operated by us. If you click on a third party link, you will be directed to that third party's site. We strongly advise you to review the Privacy Policy of every site you visit.
We have no control over and assume no responsibility for the content, privacy policies or practices of any third party sites or services.
## Children's Privacy
Our Service does not address anyone under the age of 18 ("Children").
We do not knowingly collect personally identifiable information from anyone under the age of 18\. If you are a parent or guardian and you are aware that your Children has provided us with Personal Data, please contact us. If we become aware that we have collected Personal Data from children without verification of parental consent, we take steps to remove that information from our servers.
## Changes to This Privacy Policy
We may update our Privacy Policy from time to time. We will notify you of any changes by posting the new Privacy Policy on this page.
We will let you know via email and/or a prominent notice on our Service, prior to the change becoming effective and update the "effective date" at the top of this Privacy Policy.
You are advised to review this Privacy Policy periodically for any changes. Changes to this Privacy Policy are effective when they are posted on this page.
## Advertising
Previously, CMI Marketing, Inc., d/b/a Raptive (“Raptive”) is a service provider of this Site for the purposes of placing advertising on the Site, and Raptive will collect and use certain data for advertising purposes. Raptive stopped providing service as of 12/23/25\. To learn more about Raptive’s data usage, click here: [https://raptive.com/creator-advertising-privacy-statement](https://raptive.com/creator-advertising-privacy-statement?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## Terms of service:
Binding Arbitration (“Arbitration Agreement”)
a. Applicability of Arbitration Agreement. You agree that any dispute or claim against us, or our vendors or service providers(collectively, “We” or “Us”), related in any way to your access or use of this website, to these Terms, or to any aspect of your relationship with Us, will be resolved by binding arbitration, rather than in court, except that (1) you may assert claims in small claims court if your claims qualify, so long as the matter remains in such court and advances only on an individual (non-class, non-representative) basis; and (2) you or We may seek equitable relief in court for infringement or other misuse of intellectual property rights (such as trademarks, trade dress, domain names, trade secrets, copyrights, and patents). You agree that you must commence any arbitration or other claim within one (1) year after the dispute arises; otherwise, the claim is permanently barred, which means that you will no longer have the right to assert a claim regarding the dispute. This Arbitration Agreement will apply, without limitation, to all claims that arose or were asserted before the effective date of these Terms or any prior version of this Arbitration Agreement.
You agree in advance that you will not participate in or seek to recover monetary or other relief in any lawsuit filed against Us, alleging class, collective, and/or representative claims on your behalf. Instead, by agreeing to arbitration, you may bring your claims against any of Us in an individual arbitration proceeding (except for any Batch Arbitration, as described below). If successful on such claims, you could be awarded money or other relief by an arbitrator. You acknowledge that you have been advised that you may consult with an attorney in deciding whether to accept these Terms, including this Arbitration Agreement.
The Federal Arbitration Act governs the interpretation and enforcement of this Arbitration Agreement.
b. Process. To begin a claim, you must first send a letter describing your claim in detail, including your name and contact information, your legal claim, the specific facts giving rise to your claim (including the date(s) and amount(s) of any relevant transaction or interaction with us), and the requested relief, to 211 Three Corners Road, Guilford, CT 06437\. You and We agree to attempt in good faith to negotiate an informal resolution of your claim. If a resolution is not reached within thirty (30) days, you may commence an arbitration action as set forth herein. The arbitration will be conducted by JAMS, an established alternative dispute resolution provider. Disputes involving claims and counterclaims under $250,000, not inclusive of attorneys' fees and interest, will be subject to JAMS's most current version of the Streamlined Arbitration Rules and procedures available at [http://www.jamsadr.com/rules-streamlined-arbitration/](http://www.jamsadr.com/rules-streamlined-arbitration/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com); all other claims will be subject to JAMS's most current version of the Comprehensive Arbitration Rules and Procedures, available at [http://www.jamsadr.com/rules-comprehensive-arbitration/](http://www.jamsadr.com/rules-comprehensive-arbitration/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). JAMS's rules are also available at www.jamsadr.com or by calling JAMS at 800-352-5267\. If JAMS is not available to arbitrate, the parties will select an alternative arbitral forum. You may choose to have the arbitration conducted remotely, based on written submissions, or in person at a mutually agreed location. We will be entitled to make an offer of judgment in the arbitration proceeding. If the offer of judgment is not accepted, and the award is not more favorable than the unaccepted offer, you will be solely responsible for all costs incurred by Us after the offer of judgment is made to the extent permitted by applicable law. Any judgment on the award rendered by the arbitrator may be entered in any court of competent jurisdiction.
c. Fees. If the arbitrator finds that you cannot afford to pay JAMS's filing, administrative, hearing, and/or other fees, and you cannot obtain a waiver from JAMS, we will pay them for you. If the arbitrator determines the claims are frivolous, you agree to pay Us our attorneys’ fees and costs in the arbitration, to the extent permitted by applicable law.
d. Authority of Arbitrator. The arbitrator, and not any federal, state, or local court or agency, will have exclusive authority to resolve any dispute related to the interpretation, applicability, enforceability, or formation of this Arbitration Agreement, including, but not limited to, any claim that all or any part of this Arbitration Agreement is void or voidable. The arbitration will decide the rights and liabilities, if any, of you and Us. The arbitration proceeding will not be consolidated with any other matters or joined with any other cases or parties. The arbitrator will have the authority to grant motions dispositive of all or part of any claim. The arbitrator will have the authority to award monetary damages and to grant any non-monetary remedy or relief available to an individual under applicable law, the arbitral forum's rules, and these Terms (including the Arbitration Agreement). The arbitrator will issue a written award and statement of decision describing the essential findings and conclusions on which the award is based, including the calculation of any damages awarded. The arbitrator has the same authority to award relief on an individual basis that a judge in a court of law would have. The award of the arbitrator is final and binding upon you and Us.
e. Waiver of Jury Trial. You and We hereby waive any constitutional and statutory rights to sue in court and have a trial in front of a judge or a jury. You and We are instead electing that all claims and disputes will be resolved by arbitration under this Arbitration Agreement, except as specified in Section (a) above. An arbitrator can award on an individual basis the same damages and relief as a court and must follow this Agreement as a court would. However, there is no judge or jury in arbitration, and court review of an arbitration award is subject to very limited review.
f. Waiver of Class or Consolidated Actions. Except with respect to Batch Arbitration (as defined below), all claims and disputes within the scope of this Arbitration Agreement must be arbitrated on an individual basis and not on a class basis, only individual relief is available, and claims of more than one customer or user cannot be arbitrated or consolidated with those of any other customer or user. In the event that this subparagraph is deemed invalid or unenforceable neither you nor We are entitled to arbitration and instead claims and disputes will be resolved in a court as set forth in these Terms.
g. Batch Arbitration. You and We agree that, in the event that there are fifty (50) or more individual requests for arbitration of a similar nature filed against Us within an approximately (30) thirty-day period (or otherwise in close proximity) regardless of the state(s) in which such claims are filed, JAMS will administer all such similarly situated arbitration demands on a collective basis as a single, consolidated arbitration (subject to a single set of fees, proceeding schedule, and, if required, hearing) before a single arbitrator in accordance with the requirements outlined elsewhere in this section, provided that – in the event that the arbitrator deems it impracticable or inequitable to administer all such claims collectively in a single arbitration – (s)he may group demands for arbitration into groups of not fewer than twenty (20) matters, plus a remainder group as needed (or as otherwise deemed by the arbitrator to be practicable, equitable, and in best keeping with the spirit of this provision) and arbitrate each group of matters as a single, consolidated arbitration (either structure a “**Batch Arbitration**”). You and We agree (1) to work with JAMS in good faith to facilitate the resolution of disputes on a Batch Arbitration basis and (2) that requests for arbitration are of a “similar nature” if they arise out of the same event, agreement, or factual scenario and raise the same or similar legal issues and seek the same or similar relief. Disagreements over the applicability of this Batch Arbitration process will be settled in a single, consolidated arbitration proceeding that includes all affected parties and is resolved by a single arbitrator subject to the requirements of this section. This Batch Arbitration provision shall in no way be interpreted as authorizing a class or collective arbitration or action of any kind, or any suit or arbitration involving joint or consolidated claims, under any circumstances other than those expressly set forth in this section.
h. Severability. If any part or parts of this Arbitration Agreement are found under the law to be invalid or unenforceable, then such specific part or parts will be of no force and effect and will be severed, and the remainder of the Arbitration Agreement will continue in full force and effect.
i. Survival. This Arbitration Agreement will survive the termination of your relationship with Us.
j. Modification. Notwithstanding any provision in these Terms to the contrary, We agree that if We make any future material change to this Arbitration Agreement, it will not apply to any individual claim(s) for which that you had already provided notice to Us.
Consent to Data Collection. These Terms of Service incorporate our Privacy Policy (above), which discloses how we, our vendors, and our service providers collect and use data when you use the Site and/or mobile applications. You hereby consent to the collection and use of data by us, our vendors, and our service providers as described in the Privacy Policy (including any links to other policies therein). You can revoke this consent at any time by following the opt-out instructions in the Privacy Policy or clicking the provided links on the Site.
Limitations on Liability. YOU UNDERSTAND AND AGREE THAT, TO THE MAXIMUM EXTENT PERMITTED BY APPLICABLE LAW, WE, OR OUR VENDORS OR SERVICE PROVIDERS (COLLECTIVELY, “WE” OR “US”), SHALL NOT BE LIABLE FOR ANY INDIRECT, INCIDENTAL, SPECIAL, CONSEQUENTIAL OR PUNITIVE DAMAGES, OR ANY LOSS OF PROFITS OR REVENUES, WHETHER INCURRED DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY, OR ANY LOSS OF DATA, USE, GOODWILL, OR OTHER INTANGIBLE LOSSES, RESULTING FROM YOUR ACCESS TO OR USE OF OR INABILITY TO ACCESS OR USE THE WEBSITE. IN NO EVENT SHALL THE AGGREGATE LIABILITY OF ANY OF US EXCEED THE GREATER OF (A) THE TOTAL AMOUNT PAID OR PAYABLE TO RAPTIVE BY YOU FOR THE WEBSITE DURING THE SIX-MONTH PERIOD PRIOR TO THE ACT, OMISSION, OR OCCURRENCE GIVING RISE TO SUCH LIABILITY; OR (B) ONE HUNDRED U.S. DOLLARS ($100). THE LIMITATIONS OF THIS SUBSECTION SHALL APPLY TO ANY THEORY OF LIABILITY, WHETHER BASED ON WARRANTY, CONTRACT, STATUTE, TORT, OR OTHERWISE, AND WHETHER OR NOT THE PARTIES HAVE BEEN INFORMED OF THE POSSIBILITY OF ANY SUCH DAMAGE, AND EVEN IF A REMEDY SET FORTH HEREIN IS FOUND TO HAVE FAILED ITS ESSENTIAL PURPOSE.
## Contact Us
If you have any questions about this Privacy Policy, please contact us:
- By email: Craig@drcraigcanapari.com
### Welcome Morgan Stanley!
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/morgan-stanley/
Last updated: 2017-06-26T21:32:22.000Z
I hope you guys enjoyed the talk. Obviously, we couldn't cover everything. Here are links to some articles which I've written about the topics we discussed.
First off, if you are struggling with your child's sleep, I have a free Sleep Training Mini-Course for parents of children less than six. You can sign up for it here.
[Why you fall asleep: Harnessing Sleep Drive for a better bedtime](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/)
[Understanding Your Body Clock](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/)
Here's a post on [whether or not you should consider melatonin for your child.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/)
Here's my compendium of the [top sleep training mistakes parents make, and how to avoid them.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-mistakes-and-pitfalls/)
Here's info on [obstructive sleep apnea](https://drcraigcanapari.com/obstructive-sleep-apnea-a-common-and-serious-problem-in-kids/) and [restless leg syndrome.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/growing-pains-restless-legs-an-under-diagnosed-cause-of-insomnia-in-children/)
Finally, here's my [big list of sleep resources for teenagers.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/teen-sleep-info/)
### Thanks so much!
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/thanks-much/
Last updated: 2017-11-16T16:25:44.000Z
I appreciate your readership. I'll keep sending you the best sleep content on the web.
[As an added bonus, here is a link to the podcast where John Hodgman calls me a monster for dog-earing library books.](http://www.maximumfun.org/judge-john-hodgman/judge-john-hodgman-episode-251-wrecks-libris?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### Thanks so much for signing up!
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/thanks-much-signing/
Last updated: 2018-06-29T17:15:15.000Z
I'm furiously working on your next email!
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### Book Resources for It’s Never Too Late to Sleep Train
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/nevertoolate/
Last updated: 2026-04-30T21:12:24.000Z
Hello reader!
If you have found this page, you likely have a copy of my book, [It’s Never Too Late to Sleep Train](http://itsnevertoolatetosleeptrain.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). (If not, by all means pick up a copy ;)).
The book references several resources — the Sleep Diary, the Double Habit Loop, and the Bedtime Funnel — and you'll find them all here.
**Sign up for a free membership to access the workbook.** You'll also get my newsletter with practical sleep guidance for parents. No spam, unsubscribe anytime.
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### Resources for pediatricians and pediatric providers
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/resources-pediatricians/
Last updated: 2019-03-20T21:33:41.000Z
Thanks so much for signing up for my list!
Here are some of the articles which you might find most useful, and that you may have missed:
[Should My Child Take Melatonin?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/)
[Five Mistakes Doctors Make When Counseling about Sleep](https://drcraigcanapari.com/five-mistakes-doctors-make-when-counseling-parents-about-sleep/)
[Restless Leg Syndrome in Children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/growing-pains-restless-legs-an-under-diagnosed-cause-of-insomnia-in-children/)
[Sleep Training Tools for the Exhausted Parent](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
[The Top Ten Sleep Training Mistakes](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-mistakes-and-pitfalls/)
[Teen Sleep Resource Page](https://drcraigcanapari.com/teen-sleep-info/)
And remember, you guys are the best.
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### Thanks for letting me know who you are!
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/thanks-for-letting-me-know-who-you-are-consultants/
Last updated: 2019-03-24T19:17:37.000Z
I'm a big fan of sleep consultants as you help so many families who are struggling. I'm honored that you have signed up for my list.
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### Thanks for letting me know who you are
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/thanks-for-letting-me-know-who-you-are-parents/
Last updated: 2019-03-24T19:19:12.000Z
I started this list to help tired parents such as yourself navigate the confusing amount of sleep information out there. I am inspired by your comments and emails to keep writing. Thank you.I believe in you.
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## Posts
### Avoiding Sleep Problems with Falling Back: Your Child and the End of DST
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/daylight-savings-time-and-your-child-falling-back/
Last updated: 2026-10-23T15:17:05.000Z

Ahh, autumn. Halloween costumes, fall foliage, carving Jack-O-Lanterns and enjoying the crisp bite of a fresh apple. Those of use who live in New England often cite this season as the finest of the year, prior to the long nights and cold days of winter. There is one part of it that I don't look forward to as a parent of small children, and a sleep doctor: the end of [Daylight Savings Time](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daylight%5Fsaving%5Ftime?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (DST) when the clock falls back by one hour. This year, clocks in the United States will fall back by one hour at 2 AM on Sunday, November 1rst. There is some evidence that DST is associated with adverse health and safety effects, but this is controversial; Brad Plumer [nicely outlined this in the Washington Post](http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/ezra-klein/post/daylight-saving-time--still-mostly-a-scam/2012/03/09/gIQATaxP3R%5Fblog.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
## What is Daylight Savings Time? When Does it End
I always have to pause and think about these terms because they are pretty confusing. Here's a brief primer:
1. **When is daylight saving time?** "Daylight Saving Time" (or DST) refers to the practice of advancing the clock an hour later for the summer months for an extra hour of daylight. In 2016, it occurs between March 13th and November sixth.
2. **What happens when daylight saving time ends?** The end of DST occurs when the clock is dialed back an hour, which we call "falling back".
3. **Why do you keep calling it daylight SAVING time?** Although it sounds weird, "daylight savings time" is incorrect; **it is correct to say daylight saving time.** But don't be pedantic about correcting people.
## What does "falling back" do to kids' sleep?
If you don't have children and don't work nights (medical residents on call that night-- I feel for you as you will be on call for another hour), congratulations! You get an extra hour of sleep. For those of us with little children who get up earlier, however, this can be painful. The reason is that little children tend to get up earlier than their parents would like them to. Thus, a child who is sleeping from 8 PM to 6 AM will now be on a 7 PM to 5 AM schedule. The sleep period has not moved, but the clock has. **In general, early risers DO WORSE with falling back.**
There is not much research on this, especially in children, but an abstract from the American Academy of Sleep Medicine meeting[ from 2023 looked at sleep data from 510 infants before and after the sleep change. The authors found:](https://watermark.silverchair.com/zsad077.0764.pdf?token=AQECAHi208BE49Ooan9kkhW%5FErcy7Dm3ZL%5F9Cf3qfKAc485ysgAAA3MwggNvBgkqhkiG9w0BBwagggNgMIIDXAIBADCCA1UGCSqGSIb3DQEHATAeBglghkgBZQMEAS4wEQQMpZ4bnqJnVbJBBtHiAgEQgIIDJsjrL9evXHk3bwWwjc9TAGnxXCdaqKFcteH%5FSYm8daPllQKLJPPRiwQS1CQOB31oxwBhCk8eIkLiCKQ5Ea0ZKY8pYAwqaSEfl7E1nRv2aufr6A2IVEu773vhQd6ASLUlWHxKwHXg5KvlrLAaUhtThewkLlKkL9Mi82SfnFHPF3hdLXvfCfGEHYjTDNDNw5pBxmBMn6RhXs7pEoGLwFCII4IR9H-uqQTg5R6OrtCkjFbpM4p1fnqy6MfjyHwC4YX674Q9lKBGECh2jFBLwHIUW%5FrrE14zreX82Xp3zfnvwg9dhYgmhOaivWG2iR3DdzJgNAgTefjN1diB2SDj9ZRtmQcnrrDPZoYhNrxRfOY5i-u5SFYGVFgXVE6xHB9CDdbs3ybtzkXKAkUDKoyyK-KGj%5FLtkimh4Ty3VKvVpdgc7CfqpkKtkH%5FOuqwK8f7LjrL-WaJ7wf5fdp84CRV3AmKTGk1LigCxUdkahHPsO9kEM2lTYmdrLjBFtsBYUdxBiQtUJtGl2QmCAmJrhnEdY7MNgaJY5D1UaIzdMbuCjHBeSBYUFJWlMh36j-keiu5ytLFCoMcN2KAsdq4tgu-D94QSABYMkVZtLEcndEjGJFHd%5F0IaPoba8kkbkLJVhHPIq2Kh8hNvLLnPUa0ijfnFdSVE8fbshZy3Z6A2lVssKegieuxZh3OfhmQyqpkXldUSvWqMaaP2hX4uHkY-r1dE5lDNdAL57hQrhniL3kYI3KRbvagGWHb99WbpffvxDnLnqqO84rVlgHuEjZJfbohLVVqvKPs00DQ8qt7BhwZi5rSPlttlSYc2%5FUPThbHdyYx2B09vvB8TndncjqwrReHkUZ8NJ1DhrwFrdeKgbbDQcOF%5FrUS1SX-V96oDKxi4GVMY-18R%5FxoDJOxoHdXio1ABWf5YmlBqYOiIQQWti9RU8OPGFb0efELKZy5LGHzaYouggumci8w3x6C5m9fNTLAqcfCyiQ-XiukIhh9cTzwJoqddnHwcWWxJEFo%5FkL0DqezusvjAU5hk3GwLwnLKixQr0asu0bs%5FEYa4UUenXEQjB46op14Qoo%5F2q0Le&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Infants in the 3-6 month age range had FEWER night time awakenings in the following week
- The midpoint of the children's sleep period was about ten minutes earlier for ONE week after the transition.
This indicates that children were waking up earlier for at least a week after the transition
Teenagers are a different story as they usually have problems with getting up late-- [thus they struggle with the beginning of DST, or "springing ahead.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/03/08/daylight-savings-time-and-your-child-springing-ahead/)"
## Teenagers Benefit from Falling Back
Falling back is a great opportunity on reseting your sleep schedule if you struggle to get up in the morning. It is especially helpful for teenagers.
Unlike little kids, [teenagers naturally tend to stay up later and struggle to get up in the morning](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-sleepy-teenager/). Thus, "falling back" tends to feel pretty great for your teenager as the world essentially moves closer to his or her natural sleep schedule.
If you want to capitalize on this, I encourage teens to try to stay on the clock time and not use this as an excuse to stay up later. Practically speaking, this means continuing to going to bed a bit earlier based on clock time. For example, if your teen struggles to fall asleep before 11:30 PM, this is a good opportunity to have her go to sleep at 10:30 PM as it will "feel" the same.
## Preparing your child for falling back: tips and strategies
First of all, you don't need to do anything! Your child will be fine. **But if your child gets up uncomfortably early, a quick intervention may be helpful.**
Fortunately this is pretty easy:
Just move your child's sleep period later by 30 minutes for three days before "falling back" and then back to their old schedule on the "new time", effectively moving their sleep period an hour later.
### How to prepare your child for falling back
Let's take the example of a child who is on a set 8pm to 6am wake schedule. The day after daylight savings time, this child will be sleeping from 7pm to 5am. Ouch! 5am is pretty earlier.
Fortunately, it is pretty easy to address this. I would just move your child's schedule later by 30 minutes for 3 days prior to the transition.
In this example, you will have your child go to sleep at 8:30 PM to 6:30 AM (DST-- OLD TIME) for three days (Thursday, Friday, Saturday) before falling back, then move them back to the old clock schedule at the new time (8 PM to 6 AM STANDARD TIME).

Not everyone's child will sleep in 30 minutes later but the important thing is to move bedtime. This approach will hopefully cushion the landing from "falling back" and help you get a little more shuteye. I have found this to be useful in my household and my clinic, where the ramifications of DST seem to extend beyond a simple shift; many children seem to have disrupted sleep at night as well around this transitional period.
In my experience, these difficulties may be exaggerated in children with autism, so it may be worth a more gradual transition in sleep periods. If early morning awakenings remain an issue, here are some more [strategies for addressing them](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/03/20/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/).
## The controversy around DST
We all enjoy the extended light period in the summertime with DST. Here's the problem with it-- it does not align correctly with our body clocks. In Standard Time, noon occurs at solar noon-- when the sun is highest in the sky. When we shift to DST, we are changing our biological relationship to time. Many professional organizations, such as the [American Academy of Sleep Medicine, recommend a shift to Standard Time year round. ](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32844740/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) There are powerful lobbying groups against it-- most prominently golf (DST results in more golfing and more revenue), and Big Candy (there is a reason DST ends after Halloween-- so kids can go trick or treating later. [Here's a great documentary on the role of Big Golf and Big Candy extending DST, and the value of permanent standard time.](https://youtu.be/bQX-rhw41RU?si=-Mmdrmy9oUdLVpes&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## Further reading
My[ Sleep Edit cohost Arielle Greenleaf ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/podcasts/the-sleep-edit/)has a [nice guide for parents for what to do after the time change if you have issues.](https://expect-to-sleep.kit.com/fall%5Fback?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[I wrote an article on Daylight Savings Time and children for the New York Times which you can read here.](https://www.nytimes.com/article/daylight-saving-time.html?unlocked%5Farticle%5Fcode=1.wU8.zsRm.PLMDTsLIv63R&smid=url-share&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[I was also quoted in an article on this issue in the Wall Street Journal.](https://www.wsj.com/articles/daylight-saving-time-ends-sunday-yes-you-can-win-the-transition-11635771600?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[Why permanent Daylight Saving Time is a terrible idea for kids](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-permanent-daylight-saving-time-is-a-terrible-idea-for-kids/)
[A nice article on Falling Back from McMaster University](https://healthsci.mcmaster.ca/what-this-sleep-expert-wants-you-to-know-about-the-end-of-daylight-time-and-its-impact-on-kids/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
I'd love to hear about your experiences with this. Has this been a problem for you in the past?
### Toddler Night Wakings: What Causes Them and How to Fix Them
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/
Last updated: 2026-09-22T13:45:59.000Z
**Toddler night wakings** are especially painful as they can cry longer than infants, and are harder to reassure than older children. One of the most common causes of night wakings in infants, toddlers, and even older children is **inappropriate sleep onset associations**. This is a problem which will respond to behavioral management (aka sleep training).
Let me paint a picture for you. It's been a long evening in the Smith household. Jimmy is 14 months old. Every night, since he was an infant, his parents have rocked him to sleep every night and then put him in his crib, at around 8 PM. His parents put him to sleep, sit down to watch some television and try to relax, but they are dreading the night ahead. Just when they get into bed, around 11 PM, they hear Jimmy crying out. They rush into his room frantically to try to rub his back so he falls asleep more quickly. These awakenings occur for the rest of the night every hour to an hour and a half. When he gets up for the day at 5:30 AM, Jimmy is quite irritable, and his parents are exhausted. They don't have the luxury of taking two naps today. Jimmy's problem is that he has developed **inappropriate sleep onset associations, the most common cause of frequent night time awakenings in toddlers.**
It’s important to note, however, that **many other problems can cause crying and screaming at night in toddlers.** Read on and see which may fit your child the best. Note that some children have more than one issue going on at a time. As always, if you are having trouble teasing out the cause of your child’s crying, check with your child’s pediatrician.
Want to learn more? We discussed this in [the Sleep Edit podcast episode on night wakings.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/podcast/episode-13-toddler-night-wakings-early-rising-and-nap-refusal-your-pediatric-sleep-questions-answered/)
## Inappropriate Sleep Onset Associations Cause Frequent Awakenings
The typical child with inappropriate sleep onset associations is between 6 and 36 months but may be older or younger. This child needs his parent present to fall asleep and wakes up very frequently during the night. Parents view the awakenings as the problem, but they are a symptom of the primary issue: the child has not learned to fall asleep by himself.
**In a nutshell: if your child needs you to fall asleep at bedtime, then needs you there to go back to sleep in the middle of the night, you are likely dealing with a sleep onset association. The fix is teaching your child to fall asleep without you, a process we call *sleep training.***
To understand why this is the case, I've created a few illustrations.
First, let's look at a night of normal sleep, on a graph called a hypnogram, which represents the various stages of sleep that a child goes through at night. Notice that the child falls asleep into very deep sleep at the beginning of the night, then has more REM or dream sleep as the night goes on. (REM is highlighted in red.)

**A normal night of sleep. The vertical red line is a single brief awakening.*
Note that the child briefly awakens after bouts of [REM sleep](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rapid%5Feye%5Fmovement%5Fsleep?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). However, this child is used to falling asleep on his own. Thus, he does not *signal* to his parents.
Compare this with a child who needs her parents present to fall asleep. She may be held and rocked until she falls asleep. She may need his back rubbed or to nurse to fall asleep. She may even fall asleep with a pacifier in her mouth which falls out during the night. In Jimmy's example, his parents rock him to sleep.

**Kids with inappropriate sleep onset associations take longer to sleep, have multiple times they wake up during the night, and tend to wake up earlier. Note that the first awakening typically occurs 2-3 hours after falling asleep.*
This child has not yet learned to fall asleep by herself. Thus, every time she has a normal awakening, she will call out to her parents and need them present to fall back to sleep. **If your child falls asleep under a set of circumstances that are not present during the night (being held, having their back rubbed, nursing, even having a pacifier in their mouth) they will need the same set of circumstances multiple times during the night.** So if they falls asleep in your arms, you are likely going to have to get up multiple times during the night. Often, they wake up earlier as well as exhausted parents bring them into bed with them (thus causing another sleep onset association). Thus, sleep onset associations are a common cause of [early morning awakenings](https://drcraigcanapari.com/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/).
Here's a comparison of the two nights of sleep:

Again, note that the child who is rocked to sleep falls asleep later, gets up multiple times during the night, and gets up earlier.
Common sleep on associations include:
- Rocking to sleep
- Laying down with a parent
- Falling asleep in parent’s bed
- Feeding or nursing to sleep
- A pacifier, blanket, or lovey that gets lost during the night
- A music source that turns off after the child falls asleep
Dr. Ferber used a great analogy in his [classic book](https://amzn.to/1GDhIwt?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affiliate link). Most of us fall asleep with a pillow and blanket. If we woke up and our pillow and blanket were missing, we would get up and go looking for them. We would likely worry about where they had gone
**The key to addressing inappropriate sleep onset associations is helping your child to fall asleep on their own. For more advice, please see** [**my post on various sleep training methods**](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)**.**
Note that a subset of children may have significant separation anxiety that persists as they get older. The practical way to determine if separation anxiety is a problem is that-- do they need help settling to sleep (with rocking or a pacifier) or is distress about your absence specifically? Often separation anxiety is focused on one parent predominantly. [Often parents make concessions to their child’s anxiety (called accommodations)](https://drcraigcanapari.com/help-kids-with-anxiety-sleep-better/) which can perpetuate the problem. The end result can be persistent cosleeping. Here’s an article on [how to stop co-sleeping](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/), even if your child is anxious.
### The technical classification of sleep onset association problems
Once upon a time, when I was a wee sleep doctor, we used to classify these sorts of problems as *behavioral insomnia of childhood*, which had two subtypes: sleep onset association disorder (covered above) and [limit setting disorder](https://drcraigcanapari.com/curtain-calls-limit-setting-and-bedtime-battles-behavioral-sleep-problems-in-kids-part-2/) , which is where a child would come out of their room multiple times demanding parental attention, a phenomenon called “curtain calls”. The fact is, curtain calls often occur in children have moved to a bed and also have sleep onset association disorder, so now these issues are grouped under the diagnosis of *chronic insomnia* provided they have happened for three months or more.
## Night terrors: another reason why your toddler wakes up screaming
Has your child woken up crying and screaming inconsolably? And nothing you did was able to stop them from crying? If so, they likely are having a night terror. Night terrors are part of a group of disorders called NREM parasomnias. (NREM means they occur out of non-REM sleep stages, and parasomnias are behaviors that occur out of sleep but have features of things you do during wakefulness.)
Night terrors are common in toddlers, [occurring in one third of 18 month olds, falling to roughly one in five by age two and a half.](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/2281574?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) They really stink! My son used to have one every time we slept at my in-laws and he would wake up the whole house.
They are pretty easy to differentiate from sleep onset associations, however. First off, they occur out of NREM sleep. Remember how we discussed the long period of deep sleep at the beginning of the night? That is the most common time for night terrors to occur, although they can occur later in the night.
More importantly, you cannot console your child during them. Sleep onset associations? Rocking your child back to sleep works-- that’s the whole trouble; you’ll be doing it again in two hours. Night terrors? Buckle up as they will be screaming and crying no matter what you do. They typically last 10-15 minutes but can last up to 30 or 40 minutes. The upside is that generally, night terrors don’t occur nightly (although they can) and usually only occur once per night. And they are usually benign and resolve on their own.
The main thing is to keep your child safe. Generally they stay in the crib or bed (if they leave the bed, it is technically sleepwalking), but they may still thrash about.
[Here’s an article I wrote on sleepwalking and night terrors in children.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/night-terrors-sleep-talking-and-sleepwalking-in-children/)
## Did something temporarily disrupt a good sleeper?
A few causes of night time awakenings just happen in the course of normal family life and don’t typically need much intervention from parents. But they can still cause a problem if you respond by creating a new sleep onset association.
### Are you dealing with a sleep regression?
If your child has been sleeping well then started waking up out of the blue, you may be dealing with what everyone calls a sleep regression.
Now, to be clear-- these disruptions are very real. You know: you were up at 3 a. m.for no obvious reason after 3 months of solid sleep with a fussy 18-month-old. I’m just not a believer in the purported age based predictable regressions that are all over social media. When researchers track night wakings over time, they decline steadily-- there is no bump at 12 months, 18 months, or 2 years. What I do know is that big-ticket developmental milestones (most famously walking and potty training) may be associated with short night wakings. And look how many happen during toddlerhood, as well as how they line up with purported age based sleep regressions.
| Age | What parents call it | What's actually going on |
| ---------------- | ----------------------------------- | -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- |
| **12–15 months** | "the 12-month regression" | Independent walking (typical 12–15 months, normal range 9–18). Pulling up and cruising just before. Often still on two naps and starting to fight the second. |
| **15–18 months** | "the 15- or 16-month regression" | The 2-to-1 nap transition — most common in this window (range 12–24 months). Separation awareness sharpens. First molars erupting (13–19 months). |
| **18–24 months** | "the 18-month or 2-year regression" | Autonomy and limit-testing arrive. Canines erupt (16–23 months). Climbing out of the crib becomes physically possible. |
| **2–3 years** | "the 2-year or 2.5-year regression" | Crib-to-bed transition (often forced by climbing out, or by a new sibling). Potty training. Second molars erupt (23–33 months) — the last teeth, and the most blamed. Imagination and night fears begin. |
| **3–3.5 years** | "the 3-year regression" | Dropping the nap (commonly 3–5 years). Total sleep need falls to roughly 10–13 hours. Night fears more prominent. Preschool starts — new schedule, new separations. |
Plenty of what disrupts toddler sleep isn't pegged to an age at all: illness, travel or a schedule change, a new sibling, a house move, a new caregiver.
The problem with the age-based framing is that it makes parents worry about things that may never happen. So before some scaremongering post about the Halloween sleep regression or the Mercury in retrograde sleep regression, take a breath and recognize the exciting developmental work your child is doing (which may have the cost of a few nights of disrupted sleep).
If you do nothing, these events tend to resolve on their own. But if you respond to them by, say, getting in the habit of rocking your child back to sleep, you may generate a new sleep onset association and cause the night wakings to persist.
I have a comprehensive post on the problems with age-based sleep regressions, as well as [recognizing and addressing sleep regressions.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-deal-with-a-sleep-regression/)
### Is your toddler sick right now?
This isn’t rocket science. If your child has a cold or fever, sleep disruption is common. Nasal congestion and ear pain are both worse when lying down. If your child is sick, just soothe them and take care of them. Obviously call your pediatrician if you are worried. This too shall pass (until the next cold).
Just be a bit wary-- if you take your child into your bed for a week when they have a cold, you run the risk of creating another sleep onset association you may need to unpack later.
### Is it teething?
Teething is commonly blamed for sleep problems. However, it generally only causes [local, mild and brief symptoms of irritability around tooth eruption.](https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article-abstract/137/3/e20153501/81436/Signs-and-Symptoms-of-Primary-Tooth-Eruption-A?redirectedFrom=fulltext&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) Think maybe a night or two. And, importantly, teething does not cause fevers although it can nudge the temperature up slightly. If your child is having fevers or seems unwell, don’t just attribute it to teething; call your pediatrician.
### Is there a new baby in the home?
Some parents struggle with their toddler's sleep when a new baby comes into the home. If the children share a room, this can be especially challenging. (Of course in early infancy, [your infant should likely sleep in your room, provided that you can do so safely](https://drcraigcanapari.com/room-sharing-infancy-isnt-necessary-for-safe-sleep/)). If you have a small home, a crying infant in another room can wake up your toddler, so using a sound machine can be helpful. [Just mind the volume and where you place it.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/is-your-sound-machine-harming-your-childs-hearing/)
Sometimes, just the stress of welcoming a new baby to the home can disrupt your child's sleep. Usually, these disruptions are brief and last less than a week. If you can spend some time during the day with your toddler (and without the baby), that can help your child feel secure and calm as she goes through the exciting process of welcoming a baby brother or sister to the home.
## Is a medical disorder waking your child?
Many common and chronic medical problems are overlooked as a cause of sleep disruption. I’m not talking about things that last for a night or two. I’m talking about problems that either occur multiple times per week, or in the context of a known chronic medical problem. You may be aware of the condition, or the night time symptoms may be your first clue that you need to chat with your child’s pediatrician.
For example, if your child coughs frequently at night they may have [asthma which needs to be treated.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-in-a-coughing-child/) Acid reflux can be associated with belly pain and vomiting at night. [Obstructive sleep apnea is a very common problem](https://drcraigcanapari.com/obstructive-sleep-apnea-a-common-and-serious-problem-in-kids/) associated with snoring which can disrupt sleep.
## Is the schedule or the environment the problem?
Sometimes, there are some structural issues that you can address to help your child sleep better.
### Is your toddler waking up hungry?
Toddlers should not need to eat during the night unless there is a medical reason for them to eat. (If you are concerned about your child's growth, please talk to your pediatrician about this). If you are giving your child a bottle of milk or breast feeding your child during the night, weaning these feeds will likely help improve your child's sleep rapidly. [Here is my comprehensive post on dealing with night feeds.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/)
Still feeding at night?
Night feeds are one of the most common reasons night wakings persist. My weaning guide has the exact bottle taper I use in clinic, plus approaches for breastfeeding families. Free for members.
[Get the weaning guide →](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-wean-night-feedings-bottles-and-breastfeeding/)
### Is your child in bed for too long?
Some kids suffer from "too much time in bed syndrome". (I’m shamelessly borrowing this phrase from [Brett Kuhn](https://www.childrensnebraska.org/provider/3216124/brett-r-kuhn-phd?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), whom I heard use it in a talk many years ago). This happens when parents keep the same schedule their toddler had at twelve months, even though the child now needs less sleep. Imagine a child who was sleeping from 6 PM to 6 AM at age 1\. At age 3, this is likely too long a sleep opportunity, especially if the child is still napping. This child's sleep needs may have decreased from 13 to 11 hours per 24 hour period. Thus, if you keep the same nocturnal sleep period, your child may be awake for an hour or two at night. Usually in this scenario, your child is happy when she wakes up at night and is well rested in the morning. This may be the right time to get rid of a nap or consider a later bedtime. For more information, here's my post on [how much sleep kids need.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/)
### Is the environment waking up your child?
Environmental cause tend to be obvious. [Is there a or other electronic device on in the room? If so, please take it out of there.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/get-that-television-out-of-your-kids-room-now/) Is there loud noise from neighbors or the road outside? Does your child share the room with a sibling or parent who makes a lot of noise? Room sharing with siblings can make it particularly challenging to manage toddler night wakings. If one child wakes up, frequently the other does too. [Here's more information on how to navigate the tricky waters of room sharing.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/agony-ecstasy-room-sharing-siblings/)
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## In summary
Night wakings in toddlers are painful and common. If your child needs your help to fall asleep at bedtime, teaching them to fall asleep via sleep training will help them sleep through the night in a matter of weeks. So you can sleep through the night as well. If they fall asleep independently, there are other causes you can address. If you found this article helpful, please share with your friends and family.
### New Podcast: You're Not Doing it Wrong, with Dr. Lauren Hughes
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/new-podcast-youre-not-doing-it-wrong-with-dr-lauren-hughes/
Last updated: 2026-09-08T13:59:45.000Z
I'm a pediatric sleep doctor, but that didn't mean I knew what I was doing when we brought our first baby home. Breastfeeding was harder than my wife and I expected, and we needed help. That is one reason I was so glad to have Dr. Lauren Hughes join Arielle and me. Lauren is both a pediatrician and a lactation consultant, and she understands how tangled feeding advice and sleep advice can get. We talked about bottles, protecting milk supply, sharing the overnight work, and a distinction I wish more parents heard: sleep training and night weaning are separate decisions. We also talked about what happens when parents are too exhausted, or too worried about being judged, to tell their pediatrician how nights are actually going. Her closing line is the one I keep coming back to: you are not doing it wrong if your kids aren't sleeping through the night, and the only people who get an opinion are the ones waking up with that child overnight.
## Key Takeaways
- Sleep training and night weaning are two separate decisions. Lauren sleep trained her twins at eight months and did not night wean them until eighteen — a baby can learn to fall asleep without help and still get every overnight feed they need.
- Six hours counts as sleeping through the night. It may not be the six hours you wanted — 8 p.m. to 2 a.m. qualifies — and reframing the target is sometimes the entire intervention.
- Milk storage capacity runs from roughly two to twelve ounces per breast and has nothing to do with breast size, which is why dropping a night feed is a non-event for one parent and tanks supply for another. How long you can go before engorgement is roughly your own ceiling, since engorgement is what tells the body to make less.
- "Normal" is far wider than parents are told: in the newborn weeks three hours is a maximum, not a minimum — babies can eat sooner, and three hours is when you wake them. Breastfed babies average about 24 ounces in 24 hours, range 19 to 32.
- It isn't nipple confusion, it's flow preference — babies take the path of least resistance, so a fast bottle beats the work of the breast, and paced feeding is the fix. Offering a bottle once a week from about a month old heads off the refusal that surfaces the week daycare starts.
- The research on feeding method and sleep genuinely conflicts, and we don't pick a side. Under six months exclusively breastfed babies wake more often, though most studies find no difference in total sleep; after six months most find breastfed infants sleeping less — and much of the older literature simply asked parents, whereas Rudzik's actigraphy study found no difference in measured sleep even as formula-feeding mothers reported more.
### **Listen and watch**
- The Sleep Edit episode page: [https://sleepedit.show/episodes/youre-not-doing-it-wrong-breastfeeding-and-sleep-with-dr-lauren-hughes](https://sleepedit.show/episodes/youre-not-doing-it-wrong-breastfeeding-and-sleep-with-dr-lauren-hughes?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Or find us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Overcast — wherever you get your podcasts
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### Meta Just Agreed to Stop Waking Your Teenager Up. Don't Wait for It.
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/meta-just-agreed-to-stop-waking-your-teenager-up-dont-wait-for-it/
Last updated: 2026-08-31T20:44:56.000Z
On August 26th, Meta reached a settlement with **47 states, the District of Columbia, and three U.S. territories** regarding allegations that its products have harmed children and teenagers. Meta will pay **at least $12.1 billion and potentially up to $17.1 billion** over the next decade, depending in part on whether other major social media companies agree to similar restrictions. That is a lot of money for most of us, but not particularly a lot for Meta. Meta continues to deny wrongdoing, but the settlement resolves allegations that Facebook and Instagram were deliberately designed to keep young people engaged and that Meta misled the public about the risks of those products. For a summary I would recommend [this article by Casey Newton at Platformer](https://www.platformer.news/meta-child-safety-settlement-instagram-facebook-youtube-tiktok/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), who really goes in depth.
Meta also agreed to change how its products behave for teenage users. There are two changes specifically relevant to sleep health. The first is a **nighttime block restricting access to feeds between midnight and 6 AM**. The second is **turning off notifications between 10 PM and 7 AM**. They are also going to implement a two-hour daily cap, with pauses at 15, 60, and 90 minutes. This can be disabled with parental permission. [Here is the D.C. Attorney General’s summary of the settlement.](https://oag.dc.gov/release/attorney-general-schwalb-announces-meta-will-pay?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## The problems with the settlement
Although I think this is a step in the right direction, I really would not recommend that parents or teens rely on the goodwill of tech companies and their oligarch owners to keep them safe or help them sleep well.
First, the proposed changes are not in effect yet and it's unclear when they will be.
It is also reliant on Meta knowing the correct age of users; as of now it's pretty easy to circumvent verification on Meta platforms. As part of the settlement, Meta does have to build an age assurance framework for children under 13, teenagers, and adults, but they have a year to do so. It is also unclear how effective this will be.
Finally, teenagers need a sleep opportunity that allows for the **recommended 8–10 hours of sleep per night**. There is no reason this couldn't be, say, a 10 PM–7 AM blackout period nightly, or at least on school nights. The [American Academy of Sleep Medicine recommends that teenagers ages 13–18 regularly obtain 8–10 hours of sleep](https://aasm.org/advocacy/position-statements/teen-sleep-duration-health-advisory/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). If the blackout is only midnight–6 AM (as it is under the current settlement), that allows only six hours of sleep.
## You need to have control of the phone at night
**I would not rely on your teen's willpower to keep them from using their cell phones at night.** You need to have custody of the phones, either having them in a central charging area with associated consequences if they're not there, or keeping them someplace safe.
I've had parents who've really struggled with their teens' social media use who've actually gotten safes or locked their kid's phone in their car. Hopefully that does not need to be the case in your home, but we're not relying on anyone's willpower to not use their phone. How good are you at not picking up your phone when it's in your pocket or sitting on your desk? Honestly, I struggle with it. Your teenagers may struggle even more.
And there is evidence supporting this approach: **bedroom access to phones and other portable media devices is associated with shorter sleep, poorer sleep quality, and greater daytime sleepiness.** A large [JAMA Pediatrics systematic review and meta-analysis](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/2571467?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) found associations not only with bedtime device use, but even with simply having access to a device at bedtime.
I've been beating the drum on the issues with electronics in kids' bedrooms. One of the earliest posts I wrote on this site (back in 2014) was called ["Get That Television Out of Your Kid's Room. Now."](https://drcraigcanapari.com/get-that-television-out-of-your-kids-room-now/), written back when the biggest technology worry we had was bedroom TVs. I've also written about [how and why to implement a light diet with your devices](https://drcraigcanapari.com/light-is-like-caffeine-avoid-insomnia-by-managing-your-screens/). And, finally, here's my guide [to keeping technology out of your child's bedroom.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/prevent-sleep-problems-in-kids-keep-technology-out-of-the-bedroom/) This includes a guide to dealing with smartphone excuses and arguments.
## The most cynical part
Perhaps the most breathtakingly cynical part of the settlement is this: Meta has agreed that the nighttime feed blackout will expand from **midnight–6 AM to 10 PM–7 AM—**[**but only if major competitors including Snapchat, TikTok, and YouTube**](https://www.reuters.com/legal/government/what-meta-agreed-us-teen-safety-settlement-2026-08-26/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) **agree to comparable protections**. In other words, apparently 10 PM–7 AM is a reasonable time to protect teenagers' sleep, as long as everybody else has to do it too.
### How Much Sleep Do Kids Need? (With Bonus Grown-Up Info)
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/
Last updated: 2026-08-09T20:33:45.000Z
As a sleep expert, I understand how important it is for parents and caregivers to ensure their children get enough sleep for optimal health and development. That's why I created a comprehensive guide on how much sleep kids really need. In this guide, parents will discover the optimal sleep duration for children of all ages and learn essential tips for making sure their child gets the rest they need to thrive. I also provide bonus advice on how grown-ups can improve their own sleep quality, making this guide a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve their family's sleep habits.
I get asked all the time, "Is my child getting enough sleep? How much sleep do kids need?". There are a couple of ways to answer this question. Here's one way of answering the question.
- **Does your child wake up in the morning without complaint?**
- **Does she pay attention in school without difficulty?**
- **Does she stay awake on short car trips around town?**
If the answer to all of these questions is yes in a school age or older child, the answer is likely yes. However, **sleep quality matters too**\-- your child could be getting twelve hours of sleep a night and still wake up exhausted if he has a sleep disorder like [obstructive sleep apnea](https://drcraigcanapari.com/obstructive-sleep-apnea-a-common-and-serious-problem-in-kids/), or if [the TV is on in her room all night long](https://drcraigcanapari.com/get-that-television-out-of-your-kids-room-now/). It can be harder to judge in younger children who nap routinely. That is why it is important to know what the normal range of sleep duration is by age.
In 2016, the American Academy of Sleep Medicine published new guidelines. [These numbers were recently validated in a study published in 2026.](https://www.sleephealthjournal.org/article/S2352-7218%2826%2900106-3/fulltext?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
| Age | Recommended sleep per 24 hours |
| ---------------------- | ------------------------------ |
| Infants 4–12 months | 12–16 hours (including naps) |
| Toddlers 1–2 years | 11–14 hours (including naps) |
| Preschoolers 3–5 years | 10–13 hours (including naps) |
| School age 6–12 years | 9–12 hours |
| Teenagers 13–18 years | 8–10 hours |
*Recommended sleep durations from the* [*American Academy of Sleep Medicine consensus statement*](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5078711/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)*, endorsed by the AAP.* (Full citation: Paruthi S, et al. Recommended Amount of Sleep for Pediatric Populations: A Consensus Statement of the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. *J Clin Sleep Med.* 2016;12(6):785–786.)
## If you need a lot of sleep as a baby, you will need a lot when you are older.
One thing I would add- if your child is on the high end of sleep needs in early childhood, they will likely continue to be in the high end of the range when they are older.
If you have a high sleep needs baby, you often don't end up needing to sleep train or have any struggle with early morning awakenings. You feel like a parenting genius, and your friends are secretly jealous. But your child may struggle a bit as a teen.
Likewise, kids who need less sleep are challenging to parents– they get up early, give up naps early, and may be challenging. But as teens they tend to have an easier time of it.
Figuring out how much sleep your child needs (and designing a schedule around it) is one of the best tricks to ensure that everyone is sleeping well at night.

Struggling with your child's sleep? I have a short [8 lesson Starter Kit](https://canapari.mymagic.page/sleep-training-starter-kit/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) that will get you going on your journey to better sleep for your family.
Need advice getting more sleep? Here are posts on how you can:
- [Get 30 more minutes of sleep per night](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sample-post/)
- Address [early morning awakenings](https://drcraigcanapari.com/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/) in your child
- Effectively [sleep train your children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
- Help teenagers get more sleep by advocating for [later school start times](https://drcraigcanapari.com/aap-school-start-times/)
### The Back to School Sleep Tune-Up (Plus Summer Sleep Rules)
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-back-to-school-sleep-tune-up/
Last updated: 2026-08-09T19:56:20.000Z
Summer vacation means freedom for most kids. However, sleep schedules tend to fall by the wayside during the summer months. Many parents worry about teen summer sleep. Learn how you can help your child and teen develop healthy sleep habits during the summer months.
## Sleep schedule changes in the summer months
Younger children (think from birth through elementary school) tend to be early risers. Thus, even if they are in school during the year and off for the summer, they tend to get up about the same time, or perhaps a little later. However, they are often up with the light, which can actually be earlier with the longer days of summer.
However, as children enter puberty, [their sleep schedule gets later by about three hours.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/) Thus, during the summer when schedules are more relaxed, many teens will start staying up and getting up later unless they have to get up in the morning for camp or work.
In a study of children in early adolescence (ages 12-14), [the average shift in the timing of their sleep schedule was later by about 41 minutes](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28922020/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) when compared to how they slept during the school year. Interestingly, data on older teens is somewhat limited.
### Can you be more relaxed about sleep in the summer?
Most teenagers are [chronically sleep deprived during the school year.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/less-than-10-of-high-school-students-get-enough-sleep-at-night/) Some catch up sleep, and synchronization with their natural, later body clock schedule is to be expected. **I don't think that teens need to stay on their school sleep schedule.** However, there are a few caveats you should be aware of.
#### Many children, especially obese children, tend to gain weight in the summertime. Sleep is likely a factor
Many children in the US struggle with maintaining a healthy weight. Obesity researchers have explained this using something called the [Structured Days Hypothesis](https://ijbnpa.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12966-017-0555-2?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). Essentially, the idea is that children have less structure during the summer. They can eat when and what they want to, they are less physically active, and their sleep schedule shifts later and is less consistent. All of these behaviors are obesogenic-- they predispose children to gaining weight.
#### Summertime schedules are not a guarantee that children are getting more sleep.
A study of 7 year olds in New Zealand showed that the children were actually getting less sleep on weekends and summer days when compared to weekdays during the school year. Other studies have shown that teens, especially urban minority girls, [are likely to continue to be sleep deprived during the summer.](https://academic.oup.com/jpepsy/article/41/6/692/2579905?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
#### Later sleep schedules are associated with less sleep and worse dietary choices.
An interesting study [surveyed over a hundred to 9-15 year olds in a gifted program in Mississippi](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28709514/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). They split the study participants into groups with early and late sleep periods. (They used a marker known as "midsleep time"-- essentially the midpoint of a night of sleep.) The earlier group's midsleep time was 2:11 am and the late group was 6:14 am during the summer. Assuming 9 hours of sleep, the early group was sleeping from 9:40pm to 7:50am; the late group was sleeping from 1:45 am to 10:45 am. The researchers found that children in the late group were more likely to make poor dietary choices-- specifically to consume more sugary, caffeinated beverages, and select other foods with high energy density and poor nutritional content. This adds to the [literature suggesting that short sleep and late sleep are associated with obesity in children.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/lack-of-sleep-may-make-kids-obese/)
#### Should parents expect kids to take ownership of getting enough sleep in the summer?
In the study above, children in the early sleep group were much more likely to have a parent set bedtime. Thus, **parents can influence their child's sleep time, even in adolescence.** Although it may not feel that way, the way you talk about sleep and the expectations you set matter.
#### Should kids have a bedtime during summer break?
I would recommend one through age fourteen. After this I would set a wake time for weekdays. More on this below.
#### Is it OK to let your teenager sleep all day?
I wouldn't let it become a habit as it will make it difficult to adjust to school in the fall.
#### How much sleep is too much for a teenager?
Teenagers who are consistently needing more than 10-11 hours per night could have a sleep disorder. You should talk about this with your pediatrician. In my experience, however, most kids who are sleeping all day just have an inappropriately late bedtime.
### Here's what you should do about your child's sleep schedule in the summer.
**First, I think it is important that your child still have a set bedtime**, up through ages 12-14\. It's ok if it is later. For my patients, I recommend a 1+ schedule for children in elementary school and younger (one hour later to bed and one hour later to rise), and a 2-3+ schedule (two to three hours later to bed and rise) on average days during the summer. Especially for older teens, you will have more luck if you negotiate this with them. **For older teens agreeing upon a wake time and letting them set the bedtime is appropriate.**
**Second, it's important for your children to have some structure during the day.** Camp or jobs are ideal, but not everyone has access to them. I do think that every child should get out of the house every day and get some physical activity and sunshine. Give them chores. Help them make plans with friends, especially in the morning.
**Third, don't let electronic use get out of control over the summer.** I get being a little more lax in the summer. But many of the children in my clinic seem to spend all day and much of the night on their devices. **At a bare minimum, I would encourage you to keep electronics out of the bedroom at night and place screen time limits during the sleeping hours.**
**Finally, and most important, check and see if your child getting enough sleep during the summer.** You can't take this for granted. (For more on the appropriate amount of sleep, read on!)
Now, all these rules apply to an average day. Don't freak out if your child sleeps in to 2pm on one occasion after a sleepover with friends.
## What to think about a month before school
**As a parent, you may want to start thinking now about how you will adjust your child's schedule to get them back on their school schedule.** It can be a rocky landing if teens need to adjust to a new school year and are used to staying up late and sleeping late-- a [condition known as social jet lag](https://drcraigcanapari.com/social-jet-lag-and-the-teenager/). To me, professionally, what this means is that it is **time for a sleep tune-up** for my patients who have trouble sleeping. I usually see my patients in July, especially those with [body clock or circadian problems](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/), to make sure that they are on the right trajectory to re-enter school successfully. **The beginning of school sets the tone for the year** and kids who are having trouble sleeping may struggle. I would advise parents to think about the sleep habits of their children, and how they may need to be readjusted prior to restarting school.
If you are wondering about whether or not your child could use some sleep adjustment, I would recommend answering two questions:
1. Does your child's bedtime routine need adjustment?
2. Does your child's sleep schedule need adjustment?
(By the way, here's a video I shot back in the pandemic when many kids were heading back to full time school– on how to adjust back to a typical school sleep schedule). Many of these tips are still valid.
## Does your child's bedtime routine need adjustment?
It’s ok to be a LITTLE more relaxed about routines and rules in the summer. I would argue, however, that you should not normalize screen use at night in the bedroom. If your teens have gotten used to using screens at night before bed, it’s critical that you start putting the brakes on screen time use in the evening and ensure that there are clear rules about keeping the [cell phone](https://drcraigcanapari.com/prevent-sleep-problems-in-kids-keep-technology-out-of-the-bedroom/), [tablet](https://drcraigcanapari.com/light-is-like-caffeine-avoid-insomnia-by-managing-your-screens/), or [television](https://drcraigcanapari.com/get-that-television-out-of-your-kids-room-now/) out of your kid's room at night. I would also try to pick a bedtime which will allow your child an adequate opportunity to get enough sleep at night. Here are [the recommended sleep requirements by age.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/)
| Age | Recommended sleep per 24 hours |
| ---------------------- | ------------------------------ |
| Infants 4–12 months | 12–16 hours (including naps) |
| Toddlers 1–2 years | 11–14 hours (including naps) |
| Preschoolers 3–5 years | 10–13 hours (including naps) |
| School age 6–12 years | 9–12 hours |
| Teenagers 13–18 years | 8–10 hours |
*Recommended sleep durations from the* [*American Academy of Sleep Medicine consensus statement*](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5078711/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)*, endorsed by the AAP.* (Full citation: Paruthi S, et al. Recommended Amount of Sleep for Pediatric Populations: A Consensus Statement of the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. *J Clin Sleep Med.* 2016;12(6):785–786.)
Recommended hours of sleep by age
Some children fall outside of this age range and are doing great. If your child routinely falls outside of this range, it would be worth talking with your child's doctor to make sure they are getting enough sleep (if they are on the low end) or that they don't have a sleep disorder (if their sleep requirements are at the high end).
## Does your child's sleep schedule need adjustment?
This is a pretty easy question to answer. Look at when your child is waking up on a day where they don't have any activities. If your child is consistently waking up more than two hours later than the school wake up time (for teens) or one hour (for preteens and younger), I would recommend that you work together to get their schedule on track. **This tends to be a much more common problem in teenagers.**
In general, getting your child up at 8am for a week before school starts and taking them out for a walk in the sunshine will help their body clock adjust to an earlier schedule. If your child is sleeping in VERY late (think noon or later), you may need to roll the clock back slowly as described below.
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## How to adjust your child's sleep at the end of the summer vacation
Here are the best practices for prepping your child's sleep for school:
- **For elementary school age children,** their schedule tends not to deviate too much during the summer. (Even if you want them to when you are on vacation, [they don't sleep in](https://drcraigcanapari.com/vacation-sleep/)). However, you may have relaxed your routine a little bit. Here's what I would recommend:
- Mark one week prior to the beginning of school and plan on establishing more rigorous bedtime routines about a week prior to the first day of school.
- If you have been a bit lax about electronics in the bedroom, I would encourage you to [take them out right now](https://drcraigcanapari.com/prevent-sleep-problems-in-kids-keep-technology-out-of-the-bedroom/).
- **Teenagers tend to have more difficulty with this**. Teenagers have a natural predisposition to go to bed later and stay up later. If they have time shifted later by more than an hour, and they probably have, you can anticipate some difficulty in the first week of school. This is due to their [natural body clock predisposition](https://drcraigcanapari.com/social-jet-lag-and-the-teenager/) to stay up later and go to bed later, which can become exaggerated over the summer.
- **Roll the clock back, slowly.** It is always harder to go to bed earlier than to stay up later. You can only move the schedule back by about 10-15 minutes a day. So if your teenager is sleeping from 1-10 AM and your target sleep period is 10 PM-7 AM, you will need at least 12 days to make the move. Ideally, you will make a move every other day, so a three-hour shift can take about a month. **The most important variable to move is wake time** as bedtime will slowly adjust.
- **Open those blinds.** Early morning exposure to light will help to shift your child's sleep schedule earlier. Conversely, late-night light exposure (usually from TVs, iPads, phones, gaming consoles) will move your child's sleep schedule later.
- **Enlist your child**. If there is one thing I have learned as a sleep doctor is that a parent's (or doctor's) best laid plans are doomed to fail if the child is not on board. Discuss your concerns with your child in terms that they get.
- **Recognize when things are a bit out of control**. Some teens with a condition called [delayed sleep wake phase disorder](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-sleepy-teenager/) may have a severe, marked delay where their day/night schedules become reversed. If a teenager has become nocturnal by the beginning of August, I would meet with your pediatrician now. [Medication like melatonin](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/) may be necessary but please discuss with your physician.
I also want to share some related links:
- Here's a great article on [social jet lag from the Guardian.](https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/jan/21/social-jetlag-are-late-nights-and-chaotic-sleep-patterns-making-you-ill?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Here’s an article from the AP on [how to get kids back to sleep in time for school.](https://apnews.com/article/back-to-school-sleep-schedule-5a3269b20512d9e00802e5571bf14e4f?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Here's some [great information on this topic from Johns Hopkins](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/teenagers-and-sleep-how-much-sleep-is-enough?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Summer Sleep Schedules: Does Your Teen Need One?](https://yourteenmag.com/health/physical-health/summer-sleep-schedules?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
I remember always having marked difficulty sleeping before the first day of school perhaps due to my [undiagnosed restless leg syndrome.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/growing-pains-restless-legs-an-under-diagnosed-cause-of-insomnia-in-children/) Or maybe it was just because I was a super nerd who was excited about my meticulously ordered folders and pens and all the math I was going to be doing in the fall.
In any case, I hope these tips help your kid have a great time going back to school.
### How to Wean Night Feedings: Bottles and Breastfeeding
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-wean-night-feedings-bottles-and-breastfeeding/
Last updated: 2026-07-04T18:07:34.000Z
How to wean night feeds: the exact night-by-night bottle taper I use in clinic, plus approaches for breastfeeding families.
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### How to Deal with Early Risers: The Morning Light Protocol
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-deal-with-early-risers-the-morning-light-protocol/
Last updated: 2026-07-04T18:02:29.000Z
A step-by-step plan for kids waking before 5:30–6 AM — including the Morning Light protocol I use in my sleep clinic.
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### Sleep Training Techniques Compared: Which One Fits Your Child?
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-technique-comparison/
Last updated: 2026-07-04T18:03:23.000Z
Nine sleep training methods side by side — what each involves, who it's for, pros, cons, and my clinical notes on choosing the right one for your child.
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### Bonus Episode: Summer and Back to School Sleep
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/bonus-episode-summer-and-back-to-school-sleep/
Last updated: 2026-06-29T15:38:04.000Z
We taped this one in late July of last year, with summer in full swing and the back-to-school reckoning closer than anyone wants to admit. Arielle and I talk through what actually happens to kids' sleep over the summer — why relaxed routines can quietly cost sleep rather than add it, how heat becomes a genuine safety issue for babies, and what to do when travel blows up the schedule. We go age by age, from infants napping on the go to teenagers sleeping until noon, and finish with a practical plan for easing everyone back onto a school schedule before the first day. If your household runs looser in July and August, this is the episode for getting back on track without making the whole summer joyless.
## Key Takeaways
- Summer's relaxed routines can quietly cost kids sleep. Later bedtimes plus early-brightening rooms often mean less total sleep, not more — so let the schedule slide a little, but keep an eye on the total.
- The "structured days" effect is real: school imposes wake times, activity, and meal and screen structure. Losing it in summer shifts sleep later and loosens eating and screen habits, which research links to higher BMI.
- Heat is a safety issue for infants. Overheating is a SIDS risk factor — keep the room cool with fans or a window AC, dress babies lightly, and draw the shades during the day.
- When you travel, aim to keep schedules within about 30 to 60 minutes and protect the main nap. Don't be afraid to deviate: a child who has slept well can usually get back on track within a day or two at home.
- Teens drift the latest. Camp, summer jobs, and especially camping — natural light, no screens — are powerful resets. Before school starts, move wake time earlier by 10 to 15 minutes a day and get morning light.
- Keep a bedtime through roughly ages 12 to 14, hold the same screen rules as the school year, and keep devices out of the bedroom at night. And remember parental satisfaction counts — if a relaxed change is working for everyone, it's fine.
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- Watch on YouTube:
We taped this one in late July, with summer in full swing and the back-to-school reckoning closer than anyone wants to admit. Arielle and I talk through what actually happens to kids' sleep over the summer — why relaxed routines can quietly cost sleep rather than add it, how heat becomes a genuine safety issue for babies, and what to do when travel blows up the schedule. We go age by age, from infants napping on the go to teenagers sleeping until noon, and finish with a practical plan for easing everyone back onto a school schedule before the first day. If your household runs looser in July and August, this is the episode for getting back on track without making the whole summer joyless.
## Key Takeaways
- Summer's relaxed routines can quietly cost kids sleep. Later bedtimes plus early-brightening rooms often mean less total sleep, not more — so let the schedule slide a little, but keep an eye on the total.
- The "structured days" effect is real: school imposes wake times, activity, and meal and screen structure. Losing it in summer shifts sleep later and loosens eating and screen habits, which research links to higher BMI.
- Heat is a safety issue for infants. Overheating is a SIDS risk factor — keep the room cool with fans or a window AC, dress babies lightly, and draw the shades during the day.
- When you travel, aim to keep schedules within about 30 to 60 minutes and protect the main nap. Don't be afraid to deviate: a child who has slept well can usually get back on track within a day or two at home.
- Teens drift the latest. Camp, summer jobs, and especially camping — natural light, no screens — are powerful resets. Before school starts, move wake time earlier by 10 to 15 minutes a day and get morning light.
- Keep a bedtime through roughly ages 12 to 14, hold the same screen rules as the school year, and keep devices out of the bedroom at night. And remember parental satisfaction counts — if a relaxed change is working for everyone, it's fine.
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### The Cognitive Shuffle: The anti-insomnia tool I use when I can’t sleep
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-cognitive-shuffle/
Last updated: 2026-06-29T15:12:31.000Z
I’ve struggled with insomnia intermittently since I was a child. Partly due to [undiagnosed restless leg syndrome ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/growing-pains-restless-legs-an-under-diagnosed-cause-of-insomnia-in-children/)coupled with caffeine (turns out the 1980s practice of having Coke with dinner is not useful). I just spent a few days in Barcelona with some friends and my sleep is always worse when I travel.
When this happens, I reach for my favorite tool in my arsenal: the cognitive shuffle. I was first introduced to this technique by [Brendan Duffy](https://www.linkedin.com/in/brendan-duffy-08622049/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) at a conference and I find it super useful. [This technique was originally created by Luc Beaudoin, a cognitive scientist and insomnia sufferer; here is a nice summary from CNN.](https://www.cnn.com/2025/04/08/health/cognitive-shuffling-sleep-technique-benefits-wellness?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). [Dr. Beaudoin is an academic, writer, and software developer based in Canada.](https://cogzest.com/about/founder/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Here's a complete video on the topic, btw:
## How to perform the cognitive shuffle
This is really simple. In a nutshell, you pick a word, and come up with as many words starting with each letter of the word. Rinse and repeat. Let’s go through this in a bit more detail.
Let’s say you pick the word “bedtime.”
Begin with the first letter "b" and think of a word that starts with the letter "b". For example "broom". Bring up the mental image of a broom.
Then think of another word that begins with the letter "b" and visualize that word. Don’t stress about the word choice. “Booger” works as well as “beautiful”
Keep going until you run out of words that begin with the letter "b".
Go to the next letter in "bedtime" - "e", and think of words that begin with "e". Visualize the words as you think of them.
Continue at your own pace, but just keep going until you fall asleep. Dr Beaudoin recommends if stressful thoughts come your way, just acknowledge them and go back to shuffling your thoughts instead.
### Other tips
1. It’s useful to pick a word without repeating letters (like SLEEP) but don’t agonize over word choice. You can just finish your word then go on to the next one
2. Don’t keep score. It’s easy to stress yourself if you can’t come up with a lot of words if you are an anxious person (like me). [You aren’t trying to get Queen Bee on the NYT Spelling Bee game.](https://www.nytimes.com/puzzles/spelling-bee?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
3. Sometimes words with a negative or stressful connotation will come up. Just acknowledge them and move on.
4. Go slow! Take the time to picture the image associated with the word before you move on.
5. You can try matching this with breathing. Breathe in as you come up with the word. Breathe out as you visualize the word. This will slow down your tempo further. Plus, slow exhales activate the parasympathetic system, which helps to calm you down [(Magnon et al., 2021)](https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-021-98736-9?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) *Some people found this helpful, but personally I found it stressful to try to sync up breathing with finding and visualization.*
6. If you find yourself getting frustrated, take a break.
## Why this works
Dr. Beaudoin and his colleagues published [a review article in 2020 looking at the thought processes](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1087079219302217?via%3Dihub&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) prior to sleep in normal adults and in patients with insomnia. In general, the transition from wakefulness to sleep was characterized by hallucinatory, disconnected imagery.
In the review, they cite [an article by Wicklow et al analyzing the thought content of insomnia sufferers prior to sleep.](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0005796799001369?via%3Dihub&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) Insomnia sufferers had more unpleasant and less random thoughts. Instead of images, they focused on planning, problem solving, sleep and consequences, arousal status (“I’m wide awake!”), and external noise.
To me, this sounds like what I experience when I can’t sleep—I’m worrying about problems I have, the bad day I will have if I can’t sleep, and bedroom factors (feeling too hot, noticing noises in the house, etc.)
In the CNN article above, the author quotes Dr. Beaudoin:
> In addition to taking the mind off one’s worries, cognitive shuffling “resembles in critical respects natural sleep onset,” Beaudoin said.
> In the natural transition into sleep, people tend to have “microdreams” and fragmented, nonlinear thought patterns, Beaudoin and Kaylor said. Intentionally engaging in random, disconnected thinking may replicate this cognitive pre-sleep state.
Personally, I have found that using the technique does mimic that feeling I have when I fall asleep more easily—I have disconnected thoughts and dreamlike imagery as I am drifting off.
Research on this technique is limited. [Beaudoin et al published an abstract of research studying an analogous method he calls Serial Diverse Imagining Task (SDIT)](https://summit.sfu.ca/item/16196?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) where external neutral words were given to 154 college students suffering from insomnia, reporting decreased pre-sleep arousal and effort, and improved sleep quality. [He also created an app called MySleepButton which replicates this process.](https://mysleepbutton.com/en/home/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## Conclusions
The cognitive shuffle is one of my go-to techniques when I can’t sleep. If you have intermittent insomnia like me, it’s definitely worth trying out. Obviously, this is not a treatment for an underlying sleep disorder. If you are really struggling, check in with your physician.
## Sources
1. Beaudoin LP, Digdon N, O’Neill K, Racour G. Serial diverse imagining task: A new remedy for bedtime complaints of worrying and other sleep-disruptive mental activity. the American Academy of Sleep Medicine and the Sleep Research Society. Published online March 17, 2016\. Accessed June 17, 2026\. [https://summit.sfu.ca/item/16196](https://summit.sfu.ca/item/16196?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
2. Lemyre A, Belzile F, Landry M, Bastien CH, Beaudoin LP. Pre-sleep cognitive activity in adults: A systematic review. Sleep Medicine Reviews. 2020;50:101253\. doi:10.1016/j.smrv.2019.101253
3. Magnon V, Dutheil F, Vallet GT. Benefits from one session of deep and slow breathing on vagal tone and anxiety in young and older adults. Sci Rep. 2021;11(1):19267\. doi:10.1038/s41598-021-98736-9
4. Rogers K. Cognitive shuffling: A mental trick to help you quiet racing thoughts and fall asleep. CNN. April 8, 2025\. Accessed June 17, 2026\. [https://www.cnn.com/2025/04/08/health/cognitive-shuffling-sleep-technique-benefits-wellness](https://www.cnn.com/2025/04/08/health/cognitive-shuffling-sleep-technique-benefits-wellness?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
5. Wamsley EJ. Constructive episodic simulation in dreams. PLOS ONE. 2022;17(3):e0264574\. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0264574
6. Wicklow A, Espie CA. Intrusive thoughts and their relationship to actigraphic measurement of sleep: towards a cognitive model of insomnia. Behaviour Research and Therapy. 2000;38(7):679-693\. doi:10.1016/S0005-7967(99)00136-9
### The Sleep Edit #19: Debunking Bad Online Sleep Advice
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-sleep-edit-19-debunking-bad-online-sleep-advice/
Last updated: 2026-05-31T13:14:00.000Z
This week on The Sleep Edit, Arielle and I take on the sleep advice that spreads fastest online — and holds up worst. We start with the big one: the idea that an "overtired" child floods with cortisol and spirals into worse sleep. I walk through where that story actually comes from, why the study behind it doesn't say what social media thinks it does, and what the better-controlled research really shows. From there we get into wake windows, the 3-6-9 rule and the Wonder Weeks, magnesium lotions and melatonin, and the stubborn myth that bedtime has to be exactly 7 p.m. We close on a question I get asked constantly: in a field anyone can enter, how do you tell a trustworthy sleep expert from a confident voice with a big following?
## Key Takeaways
- The "overtired child floods with cortisol and can't sleep" claim gets the science backwards. Poor sleep can nudge cortisol up, but cortisol is a marker of inadequate sleep, not its cause — and it is not something you need to manage at home.
- The Middlemiss (2012) study used to argue that sleep training is harmful had no control group and studied infants in an unfamiliar inpatient setting, nothing like sleep training at home. Better-controlled work, including Gradisar's randomized trial, found infant cortisol did not rise after sleep training. A few hard nights are brief, harmless stress — not the chronic toxic stress that genuinely affects development.
- [Wake windows ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/do-wake-windows-help-kids-nap-better/)describe something real — sleep drive builds the longer a child is awake — but the rigid, age-based formulas online are not research-based. Watch the child in front of you and their 24-hour sleep totals, not a chart. "Average" sleep needs span wide ranges and were never meant as individual targets.
- [Magnesium lotions have no evidence they do anything](https://drcraigcanapari.com/magnesium-sprays-and-lotions/); melatonin is a hormone, not a routine fix for healthy children, and should follow behavioral changes and a conversation with your pediatrician. [Melatonin is now the most common substance U.S. children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-overdoses-are-on-the-rise-why-parents-should-worry/) accidentally ingest — store it like medication.
- For most children before puberty, a bedtime roughly between 7:30 and 8:30 works well; an artificially early bedtime mostly manufactures bedtime battles. And the pediatrician is the first stop for sleep questions — "evidence-based" has become a marketing phrase, so ask any consultant how they actually make decisions.
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### How not to ruin a perfectly good walk
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-not-to-ruin-a-perfectly-good-walk/
Last updated: 2026-05-24T11:42:14.000Z
Recently, I went for a hike with my dog. I'm fortunate in that some days of the week I'm able to take her out first thing in the morning and go for a long hike in the Westwoods, which is a local network of hiking trails where we seldom see any other people, houses, or cars.
Lately, I've been on a quest to get a new mattress. Our current mattress is about 13 years old and is showing signs of aging-- and so am I. My shoulders feel crammed into my sides some nights. So I have been obsessively researching mattresses.
While on this hike, I had an extended dialogue with Gemini where I sussed out my mattress thoughts, feelings, and then did research about the mattresses I was considering. The result was that I had a fairly comprehensive document about mattresses. And I had ruined a perfectly good walk.
One of the challenges of being a human being, and especially a parent, today is that you can always learn more. You can research more about your child-- their development, challenges you're having, or sleep training techniques. The problem is, it's hard to turn this off. It's always tempting to just go click one more link and go a little bit deeper in the internet rabbit hole. This can be especially pernicious when you're worried about something or you're just trying to go to bed at night.
To me, the rise of large language models has put this impulse on steroids. You can sit and chat with Claude or Gemini or ChatGPT and feel like you are actually being productive or learning something, and sometimes you are, but on other occasions, it's just like picking an itchy scab. It feels good, but you might also be hurting yourself a tiny bit.
The extreme version of this is what [*The Verge’s* Nilay Patel calls "software brain"](https://www.theverge.com/podcast/917029/software-brain-ai-backlash-databases-automation?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)\-- the idea that all of human existence can be flattened into data that can be processed and optimized by AI. This idea can be especially tempting if you are tracking your child's sleep with a device like a Nanit or Owlet.
> "I'm not saying regular people don't use Excel or Airtable to plan their weddings or have fun throwing PowerPoint parties, or even that AI won't be useful to regular people over time. I think a lot of people enjoy data and tracking different parts of their lives. I'm wearing a Whoop band as I write this. I'm just saying these things aren't everything. Not everything about our lives can be measured and automated and optimized, and shouldn't be."
So what's the antidote?
The fact is there is no perfect solution. You can feel that if you just had enough information and you fed it into Claude, you would find the ONE TRUE SOLUTION for your problem. There is no perfect answer to your mattress search, your parenting conundrum, or what you're going to have for lunch today. Having a pocket supercomputer that knows the answer to literally everything is an invitation to feed your anxiety.
Henry Shukman is a Zen and meditation teacher. I heard him on the Waking Up app and decided to make my way through his own meditation program ([called "The Way"](https://www.thewayapp.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)). One of the sessions really struck me. Henry asked the question, "What if you decided you didn't need to know right now?" Very simple. But I think about this often, especially when I'm anxious or spending too much time on my phone. Sometimes you don't need to know every answer. Sometimes you have to let it go and live with the ambiguity. It's okay to just put the question aside, put down your phone, and go for a walk with your dog in the sunshine.

Restful afternoon with a friend
### Welcome to my new site!
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/welcome_to_my_new_site/
Last updated: 2026-04-30T18:40:25.000Z
Long-time readers should mostly notice cosmetic changes for the time being, but there are big changes under the hood. I've switched from Wordpress (for the site) and Kit (for email) to a unified platform called Ghost. You don't need to do anything — your subscription carried over. If you see the following message, just click "Sign in" and put your email address in.

Don't be scared! You have access.
## What's new for you
Ghost is built around a simple idea: instead of an anonymous blog with a separate email list bolted on, the website and the subscriber list are the same thing. If you got this email, you're a free member. There's nothing to set up and no password to remember. When you want to read members-only content or access your account, you'll get a one-time sign-in link by email. Everything I publish goes both to the site and to your inbox, the way it always has.
If you signed up recently (or you just want to check it out), take a look at my new [Sleep Training Starter Kit ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-starter-kit/). It's an updated and expanded version of my old free sleep training email course. Just enter your email and you'll have access.
### How I got here
I've been writing for parents since 2012, a few years after I finished my training. I stayed on Wordpress that whole time and cycled through several email providers along the way.
In 2017 I created an online course called the Sleep Training Toolkit. I was proud of it, but I didn't want to keep updating it indefinitely. So I took the lessons I'd learned and turned them into my book, [*It's Never Too Late to Sleep Train*](https://amzn.to/2PfthnX?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), which came out in 2019.
In 2022, after writing a guest post for another blog, the owners suggested I sign up for an ad network. Initially it was great — ad density was low, and for the first few years the ads made a fair amount of money. It was the first time my online work had ever broken even.
Then in 2023, my traffic started to fall. I spent a lot of time and money trying to optimize for Google and speed up the site, and traffic kept dropping. I didn't realize at the time that this was largely a result of Google's algorithm changes (the so-called "[helpful content update](https://medium.com/the-bald-writer/googles-helpful-update-is-destroying-blogs-here-s-what-i-m-doing-3fe751a014f2?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)").
I'd gotten so caught up in the mechanics of running a website and an email list — endless theme tweaks, SEO settings, optimization — that I wasn't actually writing very much.
I was also disturbed by how aggressive online ad platforms had become, and worried I was part of the problem — part of what was making the web a worse place. So last year I removed the ads and rejiggered things. But I still felt like Wordpress and Kit were robbing me of joy.
### What's different now
In the era of algorithmic social media, there are only a few things you can really own: your own website, a podcast, and an email list. That's where I'm going to put my energy. Ghost lets me run all three from one place, with a fraction of the maintenance overhead. (It's also proudly open source, and was [just named a Digital Public Good](https://ghost.org/changelog/digital-public-good/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) by the United Nations.)
I also like writing — way more than making videos. And the written word is much easier to reference when you're trying to solve a problem at 2am than, say, a funny Instagram Reel. Although I also do like occasionally dropping a video like this one.
[Craig Canapari M.D. on Instagram: “Arielle and I had @thatsleepdoc on the latest episode of #TheSleepEdit to talk about parasomnias and restless leg syndrome. The rest of the episode is slightly more evidence based. #dreams #nightmares #parasomnias”217 likes, 20 comments - drcanapari on July 12, 2024: “Arielle and I had @thatsleepdoc on the latest episode of #TheSleepEdit to talk about parasomnias and restless leg syndrome. The rest of the episode is slightly more evidence based. #dreams #nightmares #parasomnias”.Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/drcanapari/reel/C9V7M8IBr0-/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## What's coming
I'm looking forward to getting back to writing instead of tweaking site settings. Expect more opinionated pieces alongside the longer reference guides, which I'll keep updating as the research evolves.
Honestly, running a website and a podcast costs money, and long-term this needs to be self-sustaining. I have some ideas about how to do that, and there will be a survey in a month or two — I want to make sure whatever I build actually meets your needs. My core commitment isn't changing: free, high-quality, evidence-based sleep information for parents and providers. Everything I've published so far, and most of what I'm going to make going forward, will remain free.
### New content I've been working on
While I've been working on the technical transfer, I've also been creating and updating work for you:
- A new article on the evidence for [theanine use in children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-you-give-your-child-l-theanine-for-sleep/) (TLDR: there isn't much)
- A major update to [my melatonin guide](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/), plus the separate guide to [melatonin risks and safety.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-overdoses-are-on-the-rise-why-parents-should-worry/)
- Two new podcast episodes:
1. [**Our sleep stacks and routines in 2026** ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-sleep-edit-17-our-sleep-stacks/)— our own sleep routines, supplements, and technology (or lack thereof)
2. [**Another reader mailbag episode**](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-sleep-edit-18-your-questions-answered/)featuring some of your questions.
- [The **Sleep Training Starter Kit**](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-starter-kit/) — an updated, expanded version of my old free email course
## Thanks, and an ask
If you've read this far, thank you.
Going forward, I'd love to know what you want to see. Hit reply and tell me what you want more of. And if you know someone struggling with sleep, send them my way. (And if there are any major technical issues, also LMK).
Thanks for joining me in this new chapter.
Craig Canapari, MD
### The Sleep Edit #17: Our Sleep Stacks and Routines in 2026
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-sleep-edit-17-our-sleep-stacks/
Last updated: 2026-04-30T16:03:03.000Z
We take a turn in the hot seat this week — sharing our own sleep habits, gear, and personal struggles. From frigid bedrooms and weighted blankets to trazodone, magnesium, and light therapy glasses, this episode is part confessional, part practical guide. We also dig into CBT-I for insomnia, the phenomenon of orthosomnia (when sleep tracking makes your sleep worse), what melatonin actually does at a low dose, and how to think about supplements when the evidence is thin but the risk is low.
### The Sleep Edit #18: Your questions, answered
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-sleep-edit-18-your-questions-answered/
Last updated: 2026-04-26T19:13:11.000Z
This week we opened the mailbag. You sent in a lot of questions, so Craig and Arielle grouped them by theme and worked through them in order: infant sleep and the baby who "can't" lie flat, whether to wean the SNOO and the night feed at the same time, inconsistent night wakings on an identical schedule, the right order for night weaning versus room transition versus sleep training, 4 AM wake-ups in toddlers and infants, a 30-month-old who fights bedtime but naps easily, the classic "I had a bad dream" that somehow isn't scary, managing toddler sleep through a cold, floor beds, containing a 2-year-old who won't stay put, and whether there's any real evidence that outdoor naps at daycare actually help. Plus a rapid-fire round on crib-to-bed transitions, SNOO versus traditional bassinets, and whether you have to sleep train at all (short answer: no).
### Melatonin For Children? A Guide for Parents
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/
Last updated: 2026-04-09T18:30:09.000Z
A common thread I find in children coming to Sleep Clinic is that many or all of them have been on melatonin at some point, or are taking it currently. Melatonin is an important tool in the treatment of sleep disorders in children, and because it is naturally derived, there is a widespread perception that it is safe. However, I have become concerned by the frequency of its use, especially in an unsupervised way. (In recent years magnesium has also become common– here is a full article on the [limited evidence for magnesium supplementation for sleep in children)](https://drcraigcanapari.com/magnesium-for-kids-sleep/).
It's hard to know exactly how many children are taking melatonin. A study in JAMA in 2022 [estimated that use in adults had tripled between 2005 and 2018, and that adults were using higher doses.](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/2788539?guestAccessKey=c85385a8-83d2-4319-b33b-21acf8daad72&utm%5Fsource=For%5FThe%5FMedia&utm%5Fmedium=referral&utm%5Fcampaign=ftm%5Flinks&utm%5Fcontent=tfl&utm%5Fterm=020122) **Melatonin for children products are being marketed aggressively.** I worry that the widespread availability of melatonin has led to some parents using it as a shortcut to good sleep practices.[ An article in the Wall Street Journal](http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424127887324637504578567670426190246?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (which also provided the sales figures above), quoted a father’s review on Amazon:
> OK, yes, as parents my wife and I should do a better job starting the bedtime routine earlier, turning off the TV earlier, limiting sweets, etc., etc. Well, for whatever reason, this is not our strong suit. This 1 mg light dosage of melatonin is very helpful winding our kids down and getting them ready for bed.
Short on time? Here's a quick video which should answer most of your questions:
## How often are children using melatonin?
It's hard to know for sure. An article the New York Times, ["Parents Are Relying on Melatonin to Help Their Kids Sleep. Should They?"](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/18/parenting/melatonin-sleep-kids.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), noted that melatonin sales overall had increased by 87% in the year prior to March 2020\. The Times conducted a survey of 933 parents with children under age 18\. One third had a history of sleep difficulties in the past year. Over half the parents reported giving melatonin to their children at one time.
More recent data has shown that there is an [almost 500% increase in melatonin prescriptions in Scandinavia](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2843284?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). Additionally, melatonin has become the [most common overdose in pediatric emergency rooms](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-overdoses-are-on-the-rise-why-parents-should-worry/) and calls to poison control centers in the US. This seems to be a worldwide issue.
## What is melatonin? What does melatonin do?
Melatonin is a hormone which is naturally produced by the pineal gland in your brain. It is both a **chronobiotic** agent, meaning that it regulates your circadian or body clock; and a **hypnotic**, meaning that at higher doses it may induce sleep. **Melatonin is usually used for its hypnotic effect, but it does not have this effect in everyone. Only the chronobiotic effect occurs in all individuals.**
The natural rise of melatonin levels in the body 1-3 hours before sleep onset is known as the “dim light melatonin onset” (DLMO). This is the signal involved in body clock scheduling of sleep and corresponds to the end of the “wakefulness” signal produced by the circadian system. Children with insomnia may be given melatonin after their scheduled bedtime passes; what this means is that their bodies are not yet ready for sleep. This is one reason why [bedtime fading can be so effective for some children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/bedtime-fading-the-secret-sauce-in-sleep-training/). The doses used clinically (0.5–10 mg or higher) greatly exceeds the amount secreted in the body.
There are a few things to be aware of:
- Blue-white light exposure in the evenings shift the DLMO later. This is why bright light exposure in the evenings can worsen insomnia. I highly recommend eliminating ANY screen time for preschool through elementary school children for an hour prior to bedtime. That means [**no light emitting Kindles, iPads, smartphones, computers**](https://drcraigcanapari.com/prevent-sleep-problems-in-kids-keep-technology-out-of-the-bedroom/)**,** [**or (God forbid) television in the bedroom**](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2014/11/24/get-that-television-out-of-your-kids-room-now/) For students in junior high and beyond who need to use computers to complete school work, I highly recommend lowering brightness settings and using software to reduce the blue light frequencies. ([For more on this read my post about going on a “light diet” here](https://drcraigcanapari.com/light-is-like-caffeine-avoid-insomnia-by-managing-your-screens/)).
- The effect of dosing melatonin (and light therapy for that matter) are *phase dependent*. What that means is that the timing of giving melatonin determines both the magnitude and direction of effect. Many people do not realize that **the optimal time to dose melatonin for shifting sleep period is actually a few hours before bedtime**– that is to say, before the DLMO. The other facet of this is that in teenagers with severely shifted sleep schedule (delayed sleep phase syndrome) may actually have a later shift in their sleep schedule if this is not dosed correctly. Thus I would leave the timing of this to a sleep physician. Jet lag is a similar case[\[1\]](#fn-1).
- "All natural" melatonin is from cow or pig brains and should be avoided. Most preparations around now are synthetic, which is preferable.
- The half life of melatonin is about 40 minutes. Thus it is much more likely to help with falling asleep (as opposed to with night wakings).
Here's a short video I put together to explain how when you give the melatonin dose really matters. (Maybe just for the supernerds out there like myself).
## How effective is melatonin for sleep problems in children?
The overall effects of melatonin for children include falling asleep more quickly and an increase in sleep time. Like all medicines used to help children fall asleep, there is fairly limited information available. This means that most studies have small groups followed for short periods of time. Furthermore, melatonin not regulated as a pharmaceutical in the U.S. Thus, there is no large pharmaceutical company bankrolling larger and long-term studies (more on this below) . Rather it is regulated as a food supplement by the FDA. [(I have more on the 1994 legislation which resulted in this here). ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-supplements/)For a terrific review, including dosing recommendations, [I highly recommend the melatonin material from the International Pediatric Sleep Association](https://ipsapedsleep.wildapricot.org/Melatonin-TaskForce?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), which includes parent guides in multiple langauage as well as literature revies of the use of melatonin in typically developing children, and children with autism.
**Here is the big picture, however. Melatonin seems to result in about 30 minutes more of sleep at night, predominantly due to shortening time to fall asleep. This seems to be fairly consistent across trials in children. Like all sleep medications– it's not magic.**
When breaking down the research in this group, I'm going to try to use meta-analyses– articles which combine multiple studies which often contain assessment of the quality of different studies– when available.
### **Chronic sleep onset insomnia and melatonin in typically developing children**
Problems with falling asleep are common in children, just like in adults. Chronic insomnia is defined as difficulty falling or staying a sleep for at least three times per week for three months or more, resulting in dissatisfaction with sleep or daytime issues.
[A meta-analysis by Edemann-Calleson in 2023 ](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10339185/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)combined data from 419 children and demonstrated about a 30 minute increase in sleep overnight, with 18 minutes coming from falling asleep more quickly (a reduction in *sleep latency*). Importantly, there was no improvement in daytime functioning AND there was an increase in adverse events in the treatment group when compared with placebo.
The [2025 IPSA position paper on melatonin for typically developing children ](https://cdn.wildapricot.com/284366/resources/Melatonin/Melatonin%20use%20in%20typically%20developing%20children%20-%20IPSA%20expert%20consensus%20recommendations%20for%20healthcare%20providers.pdf?version=1741927395000&Policy=eyJTdGF0ZW1lbnQiOiBbeyJSZXNvdXJjZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vY2RuLndpbGRhcHJpY290LmNvbS8yODQzNjYvcmVzb3VyY2VzL01lbGF0b25pbi9NZWxhdG9uaW4lMjB1c2UlMjBpbiUyMHR5cGljYWxseSUyMGRldmVsb3BpbmclMjBjaGlsZHJlbiUyMC0lMjBJUFNBJTIwZXhwZXJ0JTIwY29uc2Vuc3VzJTIwcmVjb21tZW5kYXRpb25zJTIwZm9yJTIwaGVhbHRoY2FyZSUyMHByb3ZpZGVycy5wZGY~dmVyc2lvbj0xNzQxOTI3Mzk1MDAwIiwiQ29uZGl0aW9uIjp7IkRhdGVMZXNzVGhhbiI6eyJBV1M6RXBvY2hUaW1lIjoxNzc1NzU0MjY3fSwiSXBBZGRyZXNzIjp7IkFXUzpTb3VyY2VJcCI6IjAuMC4wLjAvMCJ9fX1dfQ%5F%5F&Signature=XSwcaahwf5o8pJoCkViNL918iZME9Td~OIGwSQysHDjVLu7K2r5PQ6nJLwn7Px9k84MLGSlrHVKN2HtkIxodZI2hl0pdXA6uQJCGuR81NtLpIkUO89i2RfkkJ3axx0of2V9KHREjTEJdPnApAm5lQtI4GDvD4xsxbMOULFR0jUNn8ttLS061XKVqCX6koX9fBqYbmnjGQWn2FRx51mrPIhk2RLVPSu8~GpdhMxeGHzQIBv22WFV8i8RGvlXhUYBjFN9y4pL54JGzedUNJdcPtF0hqIeLHTgVFVyeP4LJMd-P5WACPmsq4eqc8Yck~dwJOpCelLIJHHXSzKcY-PQV4Q%5F%5F&Key-Pair-Id=K27MGQSHTHAGGF&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)offered some important recommendations for this age group:
1. There should be a thorough medical and sleep evaluation before starting melatonin, including a detailed sleep history.
2. A thorough clinical sleep evaluation should include current schedule, duration, sleep onset latency, and use of electronic devices.
3. Melatonin should only be used when supervised by a medical. provider.
4. Behavioral approaches should be used first.
5. Melatonin should not be administered to children less than age 2 except in very rare circumstances.
6. Melatonin is only indicated for insomnia or circadian disorders.
7. Melatonin should not be used to “make sleep better” in children without sleep-related complaints.
8. Melatonin should not be recommended to force adolescents (i.e., who do not have a circadian rhythm sleep-wake disorder) to fall asleep earlier to accommodate early school start times
### **Autism and melatonin**
Sleep problems are common in children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD). Multiple types of problems occur, including prolonged time to fall asleep, less sleep during the night, and problems with nocturnal and early morning awakenings. Some children with autism have decreased levels of melatonin as well as decreased variation in melatonin secretion throughout the day. Because of this, melatonin has commonly been used in autistic children, which seems to result in less difficulty falling asleep and more sleep at night. Some studies used immediate release preparations, whereas others use long acting forms of melatonin. The majority of studies involved melatonin dosing 30–60 minutes prior to bedtime.
[A 2025 meta-analysis by Yang et al ](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40768003/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)showed that the most significant effect was on sleep efficiency (which is essentially time asleep divided by time in bed) and total sleep time, as opposed to sleep latency. The benefit of melatonin was greater for older children (kids >10 benefited more than kids from 6-10 who benefited more than kids < 6 years of age). The effectiveness of melatonin sometimes lessenned with time. Higher doses seemed to be more effective than lower doses.
[A 2017 trial looked at a time released melatonin preparation called PedPRM at doses of 2-5 mg.](http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0890856717316726?via%3Dihub&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) The children in this trial slept 57.5 minutes more (compared with the children who did not receive the medication, who slept 9 minutes more). Most of the benefit seemed to be due to improvement in falling asleep– on average, treated children fell asleep 39 minutes faster. [This medication is available in Europe under the brand name Slenyto](https://www.slenyto.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) but is unlikely to be approved by the FDA in the USA, unfortunately.
The [2024 IPSA recommendations on melatonin use in ASD](https://cdn.wildapricot.com/284366/resources/Melatonin/Melatonin%20use%20in%20managing%20insomnia%20in%20children%20with%20autism%20and%20other%20neurogenetic%20disorders%20-%20as%20assessment%20by%20IPSA.pdf?version=1741927395000&Policy=eyJTdGF0ZW1lbnQiOiBbeyJSZXNvdXJjZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vY2RuLndpbGRhcHJpY290LmNvbS8yODQzNjYvcmVzb3VyY2VzL01lbGF0b25pbi9NZWxhdG9uaW4lMjB1c2UlMjBpbiUyMG1hbmFnaW5nJTIwaW5zb21uaWElMjBpbiUyMGNoaWxkcmVuJTIwd2l0aCUyMGF1dGlzbSUyMGFuZCUyMG90aGVyJTIwbmV1cm9nZW5ldGljJTIwZGlzb3JkZXJzJTIwLSUyMGFzJTIwYXNzZXNzbWVudCUyMGJ5JTIwSVBTQS5wZGY~dmVyc2lvbj0xNzQxOTI3Mzk1MDAwIiwiQ29uZGl0aW9uIjp7IkRhdGVMZXNzVGhhbiI6eyJBV1M6RXBvY2hUaW1lIjoxNzc1NzU1NjE4fSwiSXBBZGRyZXNzIjp7IkFXUzpTb3VyY2VJcCI6IjAuMC4wLjAvMCJ9fX1dfQ%5F%5F&Signature=oP4BuKxVcVlSRGz~hJ95KgbjwH6opgXw1Nfob3juRggqAmWjHSomSbi0Sp4CqxbZt0cxvjJhlKlFSJCqNnHh6BkMnefHSlFLXSy4TTSxUhSeRPpFZGcqERm5HF8d7aWyTOUGP1qBswSLFOUaCPFg53HdF6EVCH0kRfv70KO-zkOjDETtFguytGeF8BBP7n0jkD7~HLNrmOs8eTEljEFxHiGAhilCrPAWyKFfiVKKV8vW2~1PXzbnfPG9V95LTLMkKNLKaRtIwvKswd4RBiU28n1ojApJwGpJKiT4~ZjUGXo~SV~SbGOjVOck6Knct7ImLHRWoNm7TwJOqWvqPiEBBw%5F%5F&Key-Pair-Id=K27MGQSHTHAGGF&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) included:
1. A trial of behavioral strategies first
2. Ruling out other sleep disorders such as [restless leg syndrome,](https://drcraigcanapari.com/growing-pains-restless-legs-an-under-diagnosed-cause-of-insomnia-in-children/) [obstructive sleep apnea](https://drcraigcanapari.com/obstructive-sleep-apnea-a-common-and-serious-problem-in-kids/), and restless sleep disorder first
3. Starting a low dose and titrating up with a maximum dose of 10 mg, under the supervision of a specialist.
4. Dosing 30-60 minutes prior to bedtime
5. Periodically checking in to see if the medication is still necessary.
[Buckley et al have a 2020 American Academy of Neurology guideline ](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7238942/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)which also recommends addressing other issues first, then trying melatonnin, then trying long acting melatonin (10 mg) or short acting melatonin– starting at 2 mg and working up to a maximum of 10 mg. (True story– I worked with Ashura Buckley when I was a fellow and so was she).
As in other children, melatonin should be added to a behavioral management plan. For pediatricians, there is [a great practice pathway which suggests the addition of medication](http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/130/Supplement%5F2/S106.long?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) only after a behavioral intervention has failed. Two great resources for families are the [Autism Speaks Sleep Toolkit](https://www.autismspeaks.org/science/resources-programs/autism-treatment-network/tools-you-can-use/sleep-tool-kit?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), and the book [Solving Sleep Problems in Children with Autism Spectrum Disorders: A Guide for Frazzled Families](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1606131958/ref=as%5Fli%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1606131958&linkCode=as2&tag=drcraigcanapa-20&linkId=7TIGMC24ENFMIKXP&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)(affiliate link).
### **ADHD and melatonin**
Attention deficit hyperactivity (ADHD) is [commonly associated with sleep problems](https://drcraigcanapari.com/adhd-and-sleep-unraveling-the-connections/), just as sleep problems can cause attentional issues. Interestingly, the authors one of the early papers describing ADHD (referred to as "hyperkinetic disorder") wrote this:
> Generally, the parents of hyperkinetic children \[who would currently be referred to as children with ADHD\] are so desperate over the night problems that the daytime ones pale in significance. (Laufer MW, Denhoff E. Hyperkinetic behavior syndrome in children. J Pediatr. 1957;50(4):463–474\. doi: 10.1016/S0022-3476(57)80257-1)
As many as 70% of children with ADHD may have sleep problems. Sleep problems include difficulty falling asleep, abnormalities in sleep architecture (e.g. the proportions of different stages of sleep), and daytime sleepiness.
[A 2024 review article by Cortese on the management of sleep issues in ADHD ](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/10.1080/14737175.2024.2353692?url%5Fver=Z39.88-2003&rfr%5Fid=ori:rid:crossref.org&rfr%5Fdat=cr%5Fpub%20%200pubmed&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)noted that there were two positive randomized controlled trials showing benefit. [A systematic review by Larsson in 2024](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1389945722012709?via%3Dihub&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) showed a 30 minute decrease in sleep latency, improved sleep efficiency, but no evidence of improvement in quality of life or ADHD daytime symptoms
[One small trial did demonstrate that melatonin helped with insomnia on children with ADHD on stimulants](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6410756/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), but this was limited to chart review.
### **Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome and Melatonin**
Delayed sleep phase syndrome (DSPS) is a common disorder in teens, where their natural sleep period is shifted significantly later than the schedule which their commitments (usually school) mandates. Thus, teens with this disorder an unable to fall asleep by 1–2 AM in the morning or even later. I have seen kids who are routinely falling asleep between 4–5 AM. Melatonin has a clear role in this disorder, as small doses 3–4 hours earlier than sleep onset (along with light exposure limitation, sleep hygiene measures, and gradual changes in schedule \[chronotherapy\]) can be effective in managing this disorder. The reason for the delay is a marked delay in the DLMO, so melatonin dosing can move sleep periods earlier. For children with DSPS, giving a dose 4–6 hours prior to the current time of sleep onset, then moving it earlier every 4–5 days, is recommended, with low dose preparations. **Of all the conditions mentioned here, this has the clearest benefit from melatonin.** Here is [a terrific review article](https://www.mja.com.au/journal/2013/199/8/circadian-rhythm-disorders-among-adolescents-assessment-and-treatment-options?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
### **Children With Neurodevelopmental Delay and Melatonin**
Children with various causes of neurodevelopmental delay may have significant insomnia and melatonin may help. However, in some children melatonin use caused persistently high daytime blood levels of melatonin (and daytime sleepiness). [A different review article by Edemann-Callesen in 2023 looked at melatonin in a mixture of conditions ](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10339185/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)(including atopic dermatitis, epilepsy, mental retardation, Angelman, Dravet, Rett, cystic fibrosis, post-concussion. Total sleep time was increased by 19 min (mostly via reducing latency), but no evidence of subjective sleep improvement or daytime improvement.
### **Blindness and Melatonin**
Some children with blindness may have issues with sleep wake time as they do not have light regulating their circadian clock and may thus develop sleep disorders. Very small trials in adults have shown benefit ([here’s one](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25678831?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)) but the data is [very limited](http://www.cochrane.org/CD008473/BEHAV%5Fmelatonin-for-sleep-disorders-in-visually-impaired-children?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
### Eczema and Melatonin
Eczema is associated with dry, itchy skin and kids with it can have problems with insomnia and non-restorative sleep. Some research has suggested that children with eczema may have low melatonin levels, and [a recent trial suggest that melatonin may be helpful](http://health.usnews.com/health-news/articles/2015/11/24/melatonin-might-help-sleepless-kids-with-eczema-study-finds?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
## **It sounds great. Why should I worry about melatonin?**
There are several areas for concern, specifically known and theoretical side effects, and problems with preparations.
- **There is a risk of overdose.** A June 2022 study showed that the rate of melatonin overdoses in children had risen by 530% in the last ten years. [Here's an article on how you can avoid overdose and safely use melatonin.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-overdoses-are-on-the-rise-why-parents-should-worry/)
- **Side effects (known):** In the short-term, melatonin seems to be quite safe. Unlike many other sleep inducing agents, “no serious safety concerns have been raised” (from a review by [Bruni ](http://linkinghub.elsevier.com/retrieve/pii/S1090379814002086?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)). The most common side effects include morning drowsiness, bedwetting, headache, dizziness, nausea, and diarrhea. These effects are generally mild, and in my practice only the morning drowsiness seems to be significant. It can also interact with other medications (oral contraceptives, fluvoxamine, carbemazepine, omeprazole, and esomeprazole, to name a few).
- **Problems with preparations-- poor labeling:**Melatonin preparations have been shown have to variable concentrations from preparation to preparation. Moreover, [the amount that a child’s body absorbs may vary. ](https://www.sciencebasedmedicine.org/melatonin-for-sleep-disorders-safe-and-effective/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) Remember how I told you that melatonin was treated as a food supplement by the FDA?
- **Long term safety is limited.** [As pointed out in a 2026 analysis,](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/article-abstract/2844458?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) only two studies have looked at long term safety data.
- **Problems with preparations-- inaccurate dosing:** A recent study showed [that the amount of melatonin can vary anywhere from -83% to +478% from the labeled dose](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/27855744?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). This means that if you are giving your child a dose of 3 mg, the actual dose may actually be anywhere from 0.5 mg to 14 mg. Moreover, the lot to lot variability was as high as 465%– meaning that you may buy a different bottle of medicine, from the same manufacturer, and still one bottle may have more than four times as much as melatonin as another, Finally, the researchers found serotonin (a medicine used in other conditions, and also a neurotransmitter) in 71% of samples. [Furthermore, another study looked specifically at gummy preparations:](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/2804077?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)the actual preparations contained an amount of melatonin differenting from 74 to 347% of the labeled dose. **To me, this is the most concerning issue with melatonin– you don't know what you are getting.**
**Side effects (theoretical):** Melatonin given to children may lead to persistently elevated blood melatonin levels throughout the day. This can be associated with persistent sleepiness, but the other effects are unclear. It is important to know that melatonin has NOT been tested as closely as a pharmaceutical as the FDA regulates it as a food supplement. The studies following children who have been using melatonin long-term have relied mostly on parental reports as opposed to biochemical testing. A physician in Australia named David Kennaway has published two editorials pointing out the inadequacy of information on long-term use in children. (You can read this [here](http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jpc.12840/full?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)). He states his point of view in a pithy fashion\]"
> …parents should always be informed that (1) melatonin is not registered for use in children, (2) no rigorous long-term safety studies have been conducted in children and by the way (3) melatonin is also a registered veterinary drug used to alter the reproduction of sheep and goats ."

This is a common preparation. . .

. . .but the label is not clear that it is 0.25 mg in each dropperful. Many parents think it is 1 mg / dropperful.
This means there is [substantially less regulatory oversight in terms of safety and efficacy.](https://www.sciencebasedmedicine.org/whats-in-your-supplement/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) I also find that the labelling of preparations is frequently misleading. Take the example of this liquid preparation, which many of my patients have tried. It is labeled as “1 mg” but each dropperful contains 0.25 mg.
You need to go to the web to get this information as it is not on the bottle. (It may be in the package insert, but I suspect few people read these).
A 2020 study of the PedPRM long acting melatonin formulation followed 80 children for 2 years, and [did not show any evidence of effects on weight, height, body mass index, or Tanner staging (a measure of sexual development).](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0890856720300344?ref=drcraigcanapari.com#bib14) **This is the best long term study of melatonin safety and is quite reassuring– but I wish there were more long term studies.**
## My child is already on melatonin. Do I need to freak out?
I don’t think so, as there is little concrete evidence of significant harm. However, **if you started melatonin on your own I beg you to discuss it with your child’s physician to see if it is really necessary**. If your child has been using it long-term and sleeping well, you can consider slowly reducing the dose and seeing if it is still really necessary. Try to use it as needed as opposed to nightly. Also, I would take a hard look at sleep hygiene and ensure that you are ensuring good bedtime processes such as a [high quality bedtime routine](https://drcraigcanapari.com/what-makes-a-great-bedtime/) and avoidance of screen time for at least an hour prior to bedtime. I would try to reduce the dose, and potentially only use it as needed as opposed to nightly. Finally, as per the 2025 IPSA recommendations, I would limit use of melatonin to 3-6 months and try your child off of it periodically.
Please do take measures to keep melatonin in a safe place and dose it appropriately. [For more on melatonin safety, including reducing overdose risk and avoiding interactions with other medications, read this article.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-overdoses-are-on-the-rise-why-parents-should-worry/)
## My doctor and I have talked about it. What should we consider regarding how and when to give melatonin?
Melatonin can be a tricky medication to dose. Effects change depending on when you give it compared to your child’s usual sleep schedule. Thus, a small dose a few hours before bedtime can have more of an effect than a large dose given at bedtime. Generally 30-60 minutes before your child's bedtime is the sweet spot. Sometimes, earlier may work better.
As per the 2025 IPSA guidelines:
- Melatonin should only be used for for chronic insomnia disorder and circadian rhythm sleep-wake disorders
- NOT for sleepwalking, restless sleep, etc.
- NOT to force earlier sleep in adolescents with normal circadian timing
- Minimum evaluation before starting: detailed sleep history + 14-day sleep diary
- Behavioral interventions must precede and accompany melatonin
- Treat as medication requiring provider recommendation and supervision
- Immediate-release for sleep onset delay only; prolonged-release may help night wakings (in children with autism)
### What is the dose of melatonin for children?
As per the 2025 IPSA guidelines, the dose ceilings are age based. You should start at 0.5 mg and increase weekly by 0.5 mg to improvement, or when you hit the maximum dose:
[Here is a direct link to the parental information sheet from IPSA in English. ](https://cdn.wildapricot.com/284366/resources/Melatonin/IPSA%5FMelatonin%20-%20English%5F13032025.pdf?version=1741910305000&Policy=eyJTdGF0ZW1lbnQiOiBbeyJSZXNvdXJjZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vY2RuLndpbGRhcHJpY290LmNvbS8yODQzNjYvcmVzb3VyY2VzL01lbGF0b25pbi9JUFNBX01lbGF0b25pbiUyMC0lMjBFbmdsaXNoXzEzMDMyMDI1LnBkZj92ZXJzaW9uPTE3NDE5MTAzMDUwMDAiLCJDb25kaXRpb24iOnsiRGF0ZUxlc3NUaGFuIjp7IkFXUzpFcG9jaFRpbWUiOjE3NzU3NTk2MTJ9LCJJcEFkZHJlc3MiOnsiQVdTOlNvdXJjZUlwIjoiMC4wLjAuMC8wIn19fV19&Signature=dEAdbfJXEQvXZVRP9B1XqdsgkxoA7s72pZO2JxgOxJyFMYlzxp1DhIXeNYLlXk1w3A2h1EJnRe-~dfyQ4TZPv8EQVf7vdIycTkQ-wodg8aEJkLoiM7VqbqGUBkzVur23CEXGWBqNe13qJzObwCha2S28BLmw87Hp~cJmPrRt-xETsJ5vmz8kcZ4nApALIYe9Pps26F6MHKNHOFoNTGD~pOG1iDL0dkhcJA9lDs~Q0cNkFIeDj8PS~gFTqidu8zGjrDrTOCtiT7Rq~wBLUmyYm6H5ZUQdAp7WRbLtdPiXLWFf4q29xVWcUn-vjNbYuwPBKgnlRGjwcJIpSghOmLFzbQ%5F%5F&Key-Pair-Id=K27MGQSHTHAGGF&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
#### Age based dosing recommendations.
- Under 2: not recommended
- 2–3 yr: max 1 mg
- 4–5 yr: max 2 mg
- 6–10 yr: max 3 mg
- Older school-age/adolescents: max 5 mg
- Note that you may go higher in children with autism as noted above.
I've surveyed the latest guidelines and put together a [melatonin dosing calculator that will help you select the safest dose for your child. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-dosing-calculator-for-children/)
Here's the critical part. **Melatonin is not a substitute for good sleep hygiene practices and should only be used in concert with a** [**high quality bedtime**](https://drcraigcanapari.com/what-makes-a-great-bedtime/)**,** [**limitation on light exposure**](https://drcraigcanapari.com/light-is-like-caffeine-avoid-insomnia-by-managing-your-screens/)**, and an appropriate sleep schedule.**
**When possible, purchasing a USP Verified preparation** may indicate that [the product is manufactured to the requirements of the U.S. Pharmacopeial Convention](http://www.aasmnet.org/articles.aspx?id=6743&ref=drcraigcanapari.com), which could mean that the quality controllers are tighter.
**Please** [**read my article on the safety risks of melatonin.** ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-overdoses-are-on-the-rise-why-parents-should-worry/)
## What is the take home? Should my child take melatonin?
I have not met a parent who is eager to medicate their child. Such decisions are made with a lot of soul-searching, and frequently after unsuccessful attempts to address sleep problems via behavioral changes. Treatment options are limited. There are no FDA-approved insomnia medications for children except for chloral hydrate which is no longer available. Personally, I use melatonin for children commonly in my practice. It is very helpful for some children and families. I appreciate Dr. Kennaway’s concerns but I have seen first hand the consequences of poor sleep on children and families. I always investigate to make sure that I am not missing other causes of insomnia (such as restless leg syndrome). **My end goal is always to help a child sleep with a minimum of medications. I know that this is the goal of parents as well.** Some children, especially those with autism of developmental issues, will not be able to sleep without medication. So, melatonin may be a good option for your child if:
- ***Behavioral changes alone have been ineffective***
- **Other medical causes of insomnia have been ruled out**
- **Your child has chronic insomnia or a circadian disorder, not just "bad sleep" or difficulty with an early school start time**
- **Your physician thinks that melatonin is a safe option for your child and is willing to follow his or her insomnia over time**
- **You have a plan for when to stop. It should not be open ended for most children.**
[One other thing- if your child's sleep difficulties came out of the blue, perhaps you are dealing with a sleep regression. Here's what you can do.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-deal-with-a-sleep-regression/)
*A special thanks to Bob Young R.Ph (aka the legendary "Bob from Pharmacy") for his assistance with the initial version ofthis article.*
### Melatonin Safety for Children: What Parents Need to Know About Overdoses, Dosing, and Drug Interactions
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-overdoses-are-on-the-rise-why-parents-should-worry/
Last updated: 2026-05-02T21:37:05.000Z
A recent study shows that melatonin overdoses have risen a whopping 530% in the last ten years, with a more rapid rise since the COVID-19 pandemic began. As a parent and a sleep physician, this is concerning to me. Parent who give their children melatonin need to be aware of the risks. Here’s what parents need to know.
Melatonin has become one of the most common causes of emergency room visits for children under five. **A study of emergency visits estimated that 7% of all visits for accidental ingestions were** [**due to melatonin in children less than age 5**](https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/73/wr/mm7309a5.htm?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)**, with about half of those coming from ingestions of melatonin gummies.**
[A recent systematic review by Kracht et al in 2026](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2843284?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) confirms that the increase in usage in children is global, and points out that there is no good efficacy data for children under age 6, and only two trials looking at melatonin use in children. Thus, young children are more likely to overdose on melatonin than receive any proven benefit.
## **How melatonin overdoses took over the emergency room**
##
The first warning signs of this came from a study by Lelak published in 2022\. The study, [*Pediatric Melatonin Ingestions— United States, 2012-2021*](https://doi.org/10.15585/mmwr.mm7122a1?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (Lelak, K., 2022\. Pediatric Melatonin Ingestions — United States, 2012–2021\. MMWR Morb Mortal Wkly Rep 71\. https://doi.org/10.15585/mmwr.mm7122a1) In it, the authors reviewed poison control center data from the last ten years.
### **Who is overdosing on melatonin?**
Risk factors included male gender and being less than <5 years of age. The vast majority of the ingestions occurred and were managed at home. [A follow up study published in 2024](https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/73/wr/mm7309a5.htm?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) showed that 7% of ALL emergency room visits were for children <5; 47% of those ingestions were associated with gummy preparations. It turns out, if you make medicine look and taste like candy, young children will treat it as such.
In the Lelak study, 10.7% of ingestions were managed at health care facilities (hospitals, doctor's offices, etc.). Of this group, 14.7% were hospitalized, with 1% requiring an ICU stay. (To put this in perspective, 1.5% of cases were hospitalized and 0.1% ended up in the ICU). Most hospitalized patients were teenagers with intentional ingestions. It's important to note that, generally, a teenager who is suicidal and intentionally ingestions anything will be hospitalized for safety and assessment, so "hospitalization" does not necessarily reflect the danger posed by melatonin, but more the presence of suicidal intent. The largest increase in hospitalizations, however, was in children less than age 5.
### Melatonin ingestion frequency has increased by 530% in the last ten years, with a marked increase since 2020.
A total of 260,435 reported ingestions occurred in the last ten years. These represent 2.25% of all ingestions reported during the same period. In 2012, melatonin accounted for 0.6% of reported ingestions, whereas it accounted for 4.9% of reported ingestions in 2021.

Trend line showing marked increased in melatonin ingestions from 2012 to 2022\. (Source: Lelak, K., 2022\. Pediatric Melatonin Ingestions — United States, 2012–2021\. MMWR Morb Mortal Wkly Rep 71\. https://doi.org/10.15585/mmwr.mm7122a1)
More serious ingestions were also noted.
). So it may not be the melatonin that’s risky—it may be *why* people were taking it.
## We’re missing key details
We don’t know:
- What doses were used
- Why patients were taking melatonin
- How severe their insomnia was
## Other evidence points the other way
In fact, [some research suggests melatonin might *protect* the heart.](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9251346/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## The numbers sound worse than they are
- Heart failure: 2.7% → 4.6% (an 89% *relative* increase)
- Deaths: 4.3% → 7.8% (a doubling)
That’s not nothing—but it’s not a doomsday scenario either.
---
Social scientist [Matthew Facciani](https://www.threads.com/@matthewfacciani/post/DQo-ncZETMC?xmt=AQF0ZowQjkgSb-1DSVfXQCiXElUB3hqZM3-GEdt0k9926Tv4jKIvCjHjqkZCKOB-dzQ7vtjR&slof=1&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) summed it up well on Threads:

---
## My take
I’ll keep an eye out for the full paper when it’s published—but for now, I’m not changing anything.
I still take a small dose of melatonin (1 mg) for my own sleep, and I still recommend it cautiously for kids who truly benefit.
Until there’s stronger evidence, this looks like a **headline more than a hazard.**
If you want a deep dive on what we *actually* know about melatonin, check out my full article:
[Melatonin for Kids: What Parents Should Know](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-for-kids/)
I also covered the [most present risk for melatonin in children-- overdose.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-overdoses-are-on-the-rise-why-parents-should-worry/)
We’ve also covered melatonin use and safety on *The Sleep Edit* podcast—[you can listen here.](https://www.youtube.com/@thesleepeditpodcast?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
---
*Sleep well,*
**Craig**
### Why some kids stop napping earlier than others
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-kids-stop-napping/
Last updated: 2026-03-02T19:42:01.000Z
Nap transitions are a challenging topic— for parents, pediatricians, and sleep consultants. It’s difficult to predict when children when up a nap, and nap transitions are seldom smooth. A whole cottage industry [has evolved around predicting nap timing and transitions.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/do-wake-windows-help-kids-nap-better/) Even knowing this, I was surprised when a short reel from our [Sleep Edit napping episode ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-15-napping-spectacular/)really took off on social media.
## A shockingly successful video
I share a lot of short excerpts from the podcast on social media. This one outperformed anything I have ever posted before. (When I am writing this on 11/2/25, it has [185K views on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/p/DQIZcBXjMVI/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), [117k on TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@drcanapari/video/7564204270518684941?is%5Ffrom%5Fwebapp=1&sender%5Fdevice=pc&web%5Fid=7568192252117075469&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) and. . .[1.1k views on Youtube](https://youtube.com/shorts/yOarhJk32mU?feature=share&ref=drcraigcanapari.com), the redheaded stepchild of my social media accounts— please like and subscribe!).
This topic clearly hit a nerve — over 60 comments and counting on my Instagram post about naps and brain development.
Essentially this just briefly recaps a paper from UMass which hypothesized that maturation of part of the brain associated with memory, the hippocampus, is associated with nap transitions.
It made sense intuitively — the idea that as the brain matures, sleep needs change.
### What parents were saying
When I posted about the new research linking nap transitions to hippocampal development, the comments section lit up. Dozens of parents and clinicians chimed in with stories, questions, and a fair bit of humor — proof that nap transitions might be the most universal sleep dilemma of early childhood.
There were a few common themes:
#### Curiosity came first.
Many people simply wanted to know more.
“So interesting! I never thought naps could be linked to brain development.”
“Makes total sense once you think about memory consolidation.”
That curiosity is a great entry point for science: it shows how naturally parents connect what they see at home with what we study in the lab.
#### Then came the real-world sleep math.
“If my three-year-old naps, bedtime is a disaster. If he skips it, he’s cranky for three hours — there’s no winning.”
“We’re in the weird in-between: my son still needs a nap, but it ruins bedtime every single night.”
These comments capture what so many families experience — that uneasy phase when a child still needs rest but their internal clock is starting to change.
I often tell parents: your child doesn’t just raise their hand and volunteer to stop napping. There is frequently a period where they sort of need to nap but don’t want to. Or they nap in daycare (and then stay up late) but then refuse to nap on weekends.
#### Parents also reminded each other that every child’s trajectory is different.
“My daughter stopped napping right after turning two and her memory is incredible.”
“Our son gave up naps around 2½ and he’s seven now — super mature and focused.”
Those anecdotes don’t contradict the study; they highlight variability. Brain development isn’t a switch that flips on the same day for every kid.
#### A few parents wanted more clarity.
“Does dropping naps that young affect other parts of growth?”
“Are we talking about dropping all naps or just cutting from three to two?”
These are exactly the kinds of questions that deserve a clear, evidence-based explanation — which we’ll get to in the next section. The authors mostly focused on going from one nap to two. There is nothing to suggest that you should change your child’s sleep schedule as a result.
#### Others shared creative workarounds.
“Daycare still makes them nap, and bedtime is chaos — what should I ask the teacher to do?”
“We switched to quiet time instead of naps — books and soft music. It’s been a game-changer.”
This is where sleep science meets everyday pragmatism. The goal isn’t to win or lose the nap battle — it’s to protect rest and preserve an evening that still works for the family.
#### Finally, my favorite comment:
“I guess my husband’s hippocampus is still developing!”
## The study behind the post
Here’s the full study:
Spencer, Rebecca M. C., and Tracy Riggins. “Contributions of Memory and Brain Development to the Bioregulation of Naps and Nap Transitions in Early Childhood.” Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America 119, no. 44 (2022): e2123415119\. [https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2123415119.](https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2123415119.?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
This is actually a “perspective”— a type of editorial. This isn’t an experiment with new data, but rather a synthesis of existing research proposing a new model of how brain development influences nap timing.
First the authors summarized the different factors which contribute to sleep wake timing, specifically [sleep drive](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/) and [the circadian clock.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/)
Sleep drive is easy to understand— the longer you are awake, the sleepier you become. And there is good evidence to suggest that sleep drive accumulates much more quickly in infants, and the rate of accumulation slows as children mature. This is why newborns nap multiple times per day, a one year old may nap twice per day, and a three year old only once.
The problem is that nap transitions— say, when you go from three naps to two, or two naps to one, or stop napping altogether— are unpredictable.
Here’s a summary on the timing of the typical nap transitions (references are at the end of this post).
| Nap Transition | Typical Age Range | Description | References |
| --------------- | ----------------- | ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | ---------- |
| 3 naps → 2 naps | 6–9 months | Morning, midday, and late afternoon naps consolidate to two (morning and afternoon) naps. | \[1-4\] |
| 2 naps → 1 nap | 12–18 months | Morning nap drops; most children nap only in the afternoon. | \[1-4\] |
| 1 nap → no naps | 3–5 years | Afternoon nap gradually ceases; most children stop napping by age 5\. | \[2-6\] |
Note how broad those age ranges are.
The authors of the study review the evidence that the maturation of a brain structure called the hippocampus is associated with a slower accumulation of sleep drive. In other words, as the hippocampus becomes more efficient at storing memories, the brain may not need as many naps to ‘offload’ new information.
The hippocampus is a deep brain structure that is involved in memory. The word “hippocampus” is from Latin and means “seahorse”. Take a look at why:

Hippocampus (left) compared to a seahorse (right). Professor Laszlo Seress, CC BY-SA
As the authors state:
> A unique problem exists early in human development; there is a massive amount of information that must be learned, yet the neural systems that support learning are still under construction.
Synapses are connections between neurons. As the brain matures, the number of synapses is reduced so that useful connections are reinforced and others are lost. This is a process called synaptic pruning.
But in early childhood, there are too many synapses being made. Thus,
> naps provide a solution to what is essentially a memory problem; high learning demands on an immature system create an overproduction of synapses that reaches its peak in early childhood. Sleep has been argued to help meet space and energy challenges associated with development (40, 41). Thus, we posit that early childhood is a time of competing demands of learning, which loads the brain (the hippocampus in particular), and sleeping, which may unload synapses across the cortex.
They authors provide a great diagram which synthesizes their argument:
[](https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2123415119.?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
From Spencer and Riggins, 2022\. Referenced above.
The hippocampus is only one of the structures implicated in learning, but it is specifically implicated in emotional memories. Slow wave activity (SWA)— deep sleep— is associated with this type of learning. Here’s my favorite passage in the article:
> “Interestingly, SWA in children’s naps predicts the overnap protection of memory for emotional faces (80) and also, predicts reductions in the emotional attention bias following a nap in young children (81). We posit that consolidation of emotional memories from the morning decreases emotional load, and as a result, children are less reactive to emotional stimuli thereafter. This provides a potential explanation of the oft observed phenomena that habitually napping children are emotionally dysregulated at the end of the day if they do not nap (the “witching hour”).”
So, this is a potential explanation why your child may be FREAKING OUT if they miss a nap. They have not been able to process all the emotions and feelings from the morning.
## Translating Science into Daily Life
Here are a few things that this article does not suggest:
- That giving up naps earlier or later is associated with a child’s intelligence or memory.
- That you should try to stop your child from napping at a younger age to help their memory.
Every child matures at a different rate.
If you are struggling with naps, here is some good advice
- If naps cause bedtime chaos: Try capping nap length or switching to quiet time. Quiet time meets low stimulation play-- think sitting in bed and looking at books or playing with toys.
- If your child is exhausted without naps: Keep them as long as they’re helpful.
- If daycare mandates naps but napping means your child will be up until 10pm on weeknights. : Ask if your child can rest quietly with books or a blanket.
## The Bigger Message
Every child’s timeline is different; nap transitions are developmental, not moral victories. Don't judge your child by what your friend's child is doing. Likewise, parents often feel guilty when naps vanish early — this is common (although frustrating) and not cause for concern.
If your child is in the middle of this transition, I’d love to hear what’s working for you. Drop a comment below or join the conversation on Instagram, TikTok or (help me out) Youtube.
For more on nap transitions and sleep science, [check out Episode 15 of The Sleep Edit (the YouTube version has some useful graphics)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bcirqby8GwM&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) or my [blog post on nap problems.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/nap-problems/)
### References for nap table
1. Staton S, Rankin PS, Harding M, et al. Many Naps, One Nap, None: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis of Napping Patterns in Children 0-12 Years. Sleep Medicine Reviews. 2020;50:101247\. doi:10.1016/j.smrv.2019.101247\. PMID: 31862445
2. Spencer RMC, Riggins T. Contributions of Memory and Brain Development to the Bioregulation of Naps and Nap Transitions in Early Childhood. Proc Natl Acad Sci U S A. 2022;119(44):e2123415119\. doi:10.1073/pnas.2123415119\. PMID: 36279436
3. Newton AT, Reid GJ. Regular, Intermittent, and Spontaneous: Patterns of Preschool Children's Nap Behavior and Their Correlates. Sleep Medicine. 2023;102:105-116\. doi:10.1016/j.sleep.2022.12.019\. PMID: 36640556
4. Mindell JA, Leichman ES, Composto J, et al. Development of Infant and Toddler Sleep Patterns: Real-World Data From a Mobile Application. J Sleep Res. 2016;25(5):508-516\. doi:10.1111/jsr.12414\. PMID: 27252030
5. Athanasouli C, Stowe SR, LeBourgeois MK, Booth V, Diniz Behn CG. Data-Driven Mathematical Modeling of Sleep Consolidation in Early Childhood. J Theor Biol. 2024;593:111892\. doi:10.1016/j.jtbi.2024.111892\. PMID: 38945471
6. Acebo C, Sadeh A, Seifer R, et al. Sleep/Wake Patterns Derived From Activity Monitoring and Maternal Report for Healthy 1- To 5-Year-Old Children. Sleep. 2005;28(12):1568-77\. doi:10.1093/sleep/28.12.1568\. PMID: 16408417
### A Comprehensive Guide to Sleep Regressions
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-deal-with-a-sleep-regression/
Last updated: 2026-05-10T21:05:12.000Z
Sleep regressions– a temporary worsening of your child's sleep– are a common experience for parents. They are also a common reason I hear from worried parents whose children have finally started sleep well after hard work with myself and our team in the Sleep Clinic. Fortunately, they are pretty easy to address (and often you don't need to do anything.
Sleep regressions are a common concern for parents. If your child has been sleeping well, and then starts
- Waking up at night
- Fighting at bedtime
- Refusing naps
- Waking up painfully early in the morning
You may be in the the middle of a sleep regression.
In this article, I'm going to cover the problems with the term "sleep regression", the timing of typical sleep regressions, how to handle them as a parent, and end with a FAQ.
## Are Sleep Regressions Real?
I'm going to be honest here-- I don't love the term "sleep regression" because I feel like the term is imprecise. Eagle eyed readers may note that I put the term "regression" in quotes. Am I throwing a bit of shade on the concept? Maybe. . . **but tired parents still need help, even if the term is slippery.** There's a lot of talk about sleep regressions happening at certain ages (The "8 month sleep regression!" The "Two Year Old Sleep Regression!"). If you search on Google, you'll find a ton of search results on this.

If you search the medical literature, however, you won't find anything.

Why is this? Because it's terrible when your kid wakes up at night, but it isn't usually predictable.
## Why sleep regressions are often merely a phase
**Almost every parent has experienced the frustration of a child sleeping poorly after a period of good sleep.** These episodes seem to fit my definition of a phase: an annoying and inexplicable thing your child is doing that will probably get better soon, and that I as a pediatrician don't have a great explanation for. So let's call them regressions and be done with it.
Sleep regressions can have a few different forms:
- Babies or toddlers waking up crying
- Bedtime battles or refusals
- Nap strikes
- Early morning awakenings
That being said, I don't believe in the million different flavors of sleep regressions (the 4.75 Month Sleep Regression! The Left Handed Child who is 9 Months Old Sleep Regression! The Christmas Eve Sleep Regression!) Ok wait, that Christmas Eve one is real.
Here's a video on more of these weird sleep regressions.
## When do sleep regressions occur?
The problem is that there are only certain time periods when sleep regressions seem to predictably occur. Perhaps we could call these the Big Sleep Regressions.
- **Potty training and sleep regressions**. Potty training usually occurs between ages 3-5 (later for boys then girls). For whatever reason, this seem to be associated with night time awakenings. It makes sense. Children are usually getting a ton of positive reinforcement during the day. Then they wake up at night and are worried about whether or not they can hold it until morning. So they are crying out, either to use the potty, or because they are wet. (Part of potty training readiness is learning to dislike the sensation of a wet or soiled diaper. [Early morning awakenings](https://drcraigcanapari.com/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/) are also common. Here are some nice articles on [potty training and sleep from The Baby Sleep Site](https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddlers/potty-training-affects-sleep/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) and [Heaven Sent Sleep.](https://www.heavensentsleep.com/blog/potty-training-and-sleep?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- **Major motor milestones and sleep regressions.** Like potty training, this seems to be associated with night time awakenings. The most commonly associated milestones include crawling (ages 6-12 months), walking (ages 12-15 months) and pulling to stand (in between these milestones). Imagine how excited you are by being able to move around. Then you have a normal night time awakening out of REM sleep and just wanting to walk but you are TRAPPED IN A CRIB. Terrible, right? That's when you call for your mom. Fortunately, these seem to get better once your child has mastered the new skill.
- **When children are getting ready to get rid of a nap.** This is when things get a little tricky. Infants may drop their third nap anytime between 6-15 months of age. Toddlers usually drop a morning nap between 18-24 months of age. And preschoolers give up their nap between 3-5 years of age. Whenever a child STARTS to get ready to drop a nap, they are less tired at bedtime. So, most commonly, children will "fight sleep" by having problems falling asleep when they are taking a nap they don't really need [because they have less sleep drive at bedtime. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/) Less commonly, they may wake up during the night because, again, they got too much of their sleep during the day. If this is the case, they may play quietly in their room.
If you are struggling with naps, I have a[ guide to nap issues here. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/nap-problems/) And an article on [the special flavor of sleep regressions called a nap strike.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/what-to-do-about-nap-strikes/)
### What about all the other sleep regressions that you've heard about?
Jodi Mindell, one of the best pediatric sleep researchers around, examined the issue of predictability of sleep regressions.
"In 2018, she decided to do her own informal analysis using survey data she’d collected from a prior study she’d published in the journal Sleep in 2012\. Dr. Mindell examined the sleep patterns of children aged 6 years and under, looking for spikes in night wakings at specific ages. Her analysis, which was based on data from thousands of mothers but which hasn’t been peer-reviewed or published, turned up nothing. Just 28 percent of the 300 or so parents of 3-month-olds she surveyed had complained about sleep problems (leap 3, according to “The Wonder Weeks”). Just 30 percent of the 300 or so parents of 5-month-olds reported more frequent night wakings (leap 4). Those percentages don’t suggest that all infants follow the same schedule of regression and growth, said Dr. Mindell: “The data clearly indicate that there’s no specific age at which all of a sudden you see a shift in sleep.” [(From "Are Sleep Regressions Real?" in the New York Times.)](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/15/parenting/baby/sleep-regression.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Remember those Google suggestions from the image above? I think they are often related to transitions away from naps. Which happen at different times in different kids. It's really variable.
In general, parent report sleep difficulties decrease over time, although a[ 2020 review of two large groups (cohorts) of infants ](https://linkinghub.elsevier.com/retrieve/pii/S1389945720300381?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)found that sleep difficulties may increase a bit in the first year of life:

From Paavonen, E. Juulia, Outi Saarenpää-Heikkilä, Isabel Morales-Munoz, et al. “Normal Sleep Development in Infants: Findings from Two Large Birth Cohorts.” **Sleep Medicine* 69 (May 2020): 145–54\. [https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sleep.2020.01.009](https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sleep.2020.01.009?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
Sleep regressions as a concept feel similar to ["wake windows"](https://drcraigcanapari.com/do-wake-windows-help-kids-nap-better/)\-- an idea that has a lot more traction among sleep consultants and on parent message boards than in the scientific literature. It doesn't mean that
## What do I do if my child has a sleep regression?
Although I'm not that fond of the term, there is no doubt that many parents struggle with these unpredictable events. A few bad nights is unfortunately sometimes just the cost of doing business as a parent. Many parents who have been enjoying the hard-won fruits of a sleep training battle are justifiably freaked out when their sleeping angel becomes a little devil again.
**The first step is not to panic.** In my experience, anywhere from 1-3 nights of sleep difficulties happen periodically without a clear cause. I would wait and keep doing what you are doing-- keep the same schedule, comfort your child, and just try to wait it out. Sometimes [kids just do annoying things](https://drcraigcanapari.com/three-reasons-to-ignore-your-childs-annoying-behaviors/).
But if it persists for longer than that, it runs [the risk of being a bad habit.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/breaking-bad-sleep-habits-kids/) This is especially true if your reaction makes things worse. One example of this is starting to take your toddler into bed with you if they start waking up at night. Guess what? Your toddler really likes spending time with you. And they will likely start waking up to come into bed with you.
If you are a video person, here is a quick video on this material, [taken from Episode 4 of the Sleep Edit Podcast:](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep%5Fmyths/)
So, if your child's sleep behavior is disruptive and last for a few days, you might want to deal with it.
### Here's how to handle a sleep regression, regardless of your child's age
1. **Rule out a medical cause**. Is your child cutting a tooth? Does she have a cold or signs of an ear infection? Is she constipated? (Constipated kids don't sleep well. I'm not sure why. As I tell my patients, I'm an "above the waist" doctor). Symptoms like [snoring](https://drcraigcanapari.com/obstructive-sleep-apnea-a-common-and-serious-problem-in-kids/) or [complaining about leg pain at night](https://drcraigcanapari.com/growing-pains-restless-legs-an-under-diagnosed-cause-of-insomnia-in-children/) can suggest medical causes of sleep problems. If in doubt, call or visit your friendly neighborhood pediatrician.
2. **Take inventory of your sleep practices.** Have you gotten a bit lazy in your bedtime routine-- are you varying the time and sequence of events? Are you lying down with your child to fall asleep at bedtime when he used to fall asleep independently? Are you bringing him into your bed at night? If so, you need to go back to basics. Have a set bedtime routine every night at the same time and leave before your child falls asleep. If this is difficult, there is a [whole host of techniques you can use](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/). Specifically, [if you've started co-sleeping, here's how you can stop.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/)
3. **Look at your child's sleep duration at night.** Maybe you read Weissbluth's book and your child goes to bed at 6pm every night and you expect her to sleep until 6 AM and take two two hour naps. Maybe this worked in infancy, but your two year old won't sleep for sixteen hours a day no matter how much you want her to. Track your child's sleep for a few nights and consider adjusting her time in bed. Check your expectations versus [the actual sleep requirements expected of a child that age.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/) You may need [to drop a nap (terrifying, I know)](https://drcraigcanapari.com/does-napping-after-age-2-spoil-sleep-not-so-fast/) or move bedtime later.
4. **Consider how you are responding in the middle of the night**. If you are bringing your child into your bed you need to stop. You could consider the bedtime pass, where you give your child a pass to leave her room 1-2 times per night. After this you return her to her room without contact. Weissbluth also talks about the silent return-- if your child shows up to your room, bring her back to her room without comment. You may need to do this 20-30 times for a night or two. It feels crazy but it will work quickly if you are consistent. [Here’s a review of my favorite sleep training techniques.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
5. **Be patient.** Generally these issues DO improve if you do nothing.
6. **Consider bringing in a pro**. A sleep consultant or sleep physician may be helpful if none of this work. I hate to toot my own horn, but check out my book as well— if you followed the steps in my book, I suspect [your child will be falling asleep and staying asleep fairly quickly.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/itsnevertoolatetosleeptrainbook/)
## FAQ and tips on sleep regressions
What is the first thing parents should do if their child is now having sleep issues?
Check and see if your sleep habits have slipped a bit. Is bedtime later or more variable? Are you being lax with your bedtime routine?
### How long can we expect sleep regression to last?
Usually they are pretty brief— say, less than a week.
### If your child’s sleep regression is so disruptive and doing nothing is just not working, what can we do to make it come to an end?
It’s time to go back to basics and make sure that you have a high quality bedtime routine and that you do the minimum you need to to soothe your child. I would also check in with your child's pediatrician.
### Can they be prevented? For example, when you’re about to potty train your child, can you prepare for a possible sleep regression and stop it from happening?
I would double down on your high quality bedtime routine and also make sure that you going to be extra careful about respect your child’s bedtime and sleep schedule.
### What can we avoid doing so we don’t make sleep regression worse or last longer than it needs to?
Make sure that you are not inadvertently causing the regression by giving too much attention. For example, if your baby starts crying at night and you then start giving him a bottle every night, you will likely cause the problem behavior to continue.
### Are kids going to go through a sleep regression? Are some more likely than others?
There’s very little research on sleep regressions— as noted above, the term is poorly defined. As a parent, I can tell you that children frequently regress in many domains, just when you think you have things figured out.
### What are medical causes we should be on the lookout for?
Often the common cold may present with a sleep problem first. I’ve asked myself on many occasions, “why is my kid doing this weird thing?” and then a day or two later he will get a cold.
Snoring and complaints about legs can represent medical causes of sleep disruption and should be discussed with your pediatrician.
### How do you tell the difference between “regression” and an issue like teething or a fever that might cause interruption in sleep patterns?
Often, it’s not obvious until a day or two later, as noted above.
### What are good sleep practices for kids that we should make sure to faithfully implement so we all get a good night’s sleep?
1. A consistent bedtime routine that happens at the same time every night
2. Allowing your child to fall asleep independently at bedtime.
3. A plan for what to do if your child wakes up during the night.
4. Understanding that your child, like everyone, is entitled to a bad night of sleep once in a while. You don't need to panic if your kid has a few bad nights.
### Further reading
[Here is a nice article in Romper about sleep regressions.](https://www.romper.com/parenting/sleep-regression?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Have you experienced a sleep regression? Tell us about it-- what happened and how did you fix it? Write it out in the comments below.
### Episode 15: Napping Spectacular!
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-15-napping-spectacular/
Last updated: 2026-04-30T14:27:53.000Z
Why do some toddlers nap like champs while others refuse entirely? In Part 1 of our Napping Spectacular, Craig and Arielle unpack what the science says about total sleep needs, how nap patterns change across infancy and early childhood, and the very real “art” of troubleshooting naps at home. We cover when to drop naps, how brain development (especially the hippocampus) affects nap transitions, what to do about short naps, and how to keep daytime sleep from stealing restorative overnight sleep. We also talk through safe approaches to contact naps and why it’s normal for newborns to have unpredictable naps and periods of crying.
### **Key takeaways**
- Think in 24 hours: aim to balance daytime sleep with restorative overnight sleep.
- AASM consensus ranges: infants 4–12 mo (12–16 h), toddlers 1–2 y (11–14 h), preschoolers 3–5 y (10–13 h), school-age 6–12 y (9–12 h), teens 13–18 y (8–10 h).
- Nap transitions are tied to brain maturity; as memory systems develop, many preschoolers naturally nap less.
- Typical goals for many infants: at least two naps of \~1 hour each and \~10 hours overnight (individual needs vary).
- Independent sleep skills are the linchpin for extending naps beyond a single 30–45 minute sleep cycle.
- Watch sleepy cues, but remember boredom can masquerade as tiredness in older infants.
- Contact napping can be soothing, but it’s risky if the caregiver is truly exhausted—prioritize safe sleep.
- Newborn naps are erratic; you can practice gentle routines, but you can’t “schedule” a newborn.
- Consistency across naps and nights helps babies learn faster than a mix-and-match approach.
### Links
- [Napping spectacular part 2](https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-16-napping-spectacular-pt-2/)
- [CIO episode of the Sleep Edit](https://drcraigcanapari.com/ep%5F3%5Fto%5Fcio%5Fand%5Fbeyond/)
- [Dr. Canapari’s article on Le Pause Sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/le-pause-avoiding-sleep-problems-and-why-you-wont-break-your-kids/)
- [Period of purple crying](https://dontshake.org/purple-crying?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Dr. Canapari's article on napping](https://drcraigcanapari.com/nap-problems/)
- [Dr. Canapari's article on sleep needs in children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/)
- [Dr. Canapari articles on the science of why children stop napping](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-kids-stop-napping/)
- [Arielle's website](https://www.expecttosleep.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### **Chapters**
- 00:00 Intro and disclaimer
- 01:10 Why naps feel harder than nights; personal stories
- 03:00 What parents often misunderstand about naps
- 04:00 How much sleep kids need (AASM consensus)
- 06:00 Why naps matter for mood and learning
- 06:40 Brain development and nap transitions (hippocampus)
- 07:00 Average nap duration by age; variability is normal
- 09:10 How many naps per day; typical progression through early childhood
- 12:00 Galland review; why transitions are tricky in real life
- 14:00 The “art” of troubleshooting naps
- 15:00 Naps vs. nights: balance the 24-hour total
- 18:00 Targets for infants; prioritizing overnight sleep
- 22:00 High vs. low sleep-need babies
- 23:00 Nap routines vs. bedtime routines; wind-down for toddlers
- 25:00 How to get longer naps: schedule fit and independent sleep
- 27:00 Evidence-based infant sleep tips (INSIGHT and SAAF principles)
- 29:00 Reading sleep cues without getting trapped by rigid schedules
- 30:30 Overtiredness vs. boredom; case example
- 34:00 Can you sleep-train for naps but not nights? Why consistency wins
- 36:00 Typical nap times by age; capping late naps
- 39:00 Newborn nap reality check
- 40:00 Contact napping and safety
- 42:00 Period of PURPLE Crying and parental stress
- 45:30 Wrap-up and preview of Part 2
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### **Contact**
Listener questions: sleepeditpod@gmail.com
TranscriptEp 15 audio only
\[00:00:00\]
**Craig Canapari MD:** Welcome to the Sleep Edit, a podcast devoted to helping tired kids and parents sleep better. We focus on actionable evidence-based sleep advice, so everyone in your home can sleep through the night. Now, a quick disclaimer, this podcast is for general informational purposes only and does not constitute the practice of medicine, nursing, or other professional healthcare services, including the giving of medical advice.
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Or that their children may have, they should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions. Nothing stated here \[00:01:00\] reflects the views of our employers or the employees of our guests. Enjoy the show.
Okay, so welcome back to the sleep edit. I am Dr. Craig Canapari
**Arielle Greenleaf:** And I'm Arielle Greenleaf.
**Craig Canapari MD:** And we are here to talk about what I feel is one of the thornier issues in pediatric sleep and that is napping.
How to do it, when to do it, when to drop naps. As a parent, I'd say this is a topic close to my heart because we struggled with naps in our kids and in different ways with the two of them.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Mm-hmm.
**Craig Canapari MD:** and some of that is just 'cause napping is much more variable than nighttime sleep.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** My
**Craig Canapari MD:** they sleep at night, right?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** right?
**Craig Canapari MD:** Like kids with terrible sleep. They're still sleeping at night most of the time, but napping is a whole other animal.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** it sure is.
**Craig Canapari MD:** yeah. I can tell you with Charlie, my older son, we had kind of crappy naps till he walked.
Really?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** man.
**Craig Canapari MD:** just like \[00:02:00\] little 20 minute cat naps here and there. with my younger son, it was easier except that he had to be around our older kid schedule. so that's another layer
**Arielle Greenleaf:** That is so, so common. I feel like my child was a textbook case, high sleep needs child, and as soon as I was able to. do any sort of sleep training with her. The first day I wrote to my sleep consultant and I was like, it's been like an hour and a half.
Should I wake her up? Do what? What do I do? And she was like, oh my goodness. And Ashley really was like, you know, four hours, a daytime sleep, 12 plus hours of overnight sleep as an infant. It was kind of crazy.
**Craig Canapari MD:** What did you do differently that got you such a good result?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** I didn't know what I was doing before I hired a sleep consultant, so I was just kind of like napping her when she got fussy or just kind of winging it. I don't even know. I mean, maybe \[00:03:00\] I was, look it, it's such a fog, honestly. Her birthday is this weekend, she's turning 11, and I can tell you she was not napping in a crib because.
I was too afraid, I thought. And anytime she squeaked, I was like, uhoh. she's never gonna be able to sleep in a crib. And the first time I put her in the crib for a nap at the appropriate time, I think she cried for five minutes and then fell asleep for, I woke her up after two hours.
It was like wizardry.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Just putting your kid in the crib. Well, that, that's it. People just put your kid in the crib. That's, uh, I guess the episode's over.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yep. There we go. All
done.
**Craig Canapari MD:** but you know, this does highlight, an important point. That is you can't, when, if you're working as a provider, you don't make assumptions about what people know because it's not like kids come with a manual.
And even if you read parenting books, it's not always clear what to do in the moment.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** No. And I think \[00:04:00\] that's the number one thing that I deal with is people just don't know what they don't know. and I don't blame them, there's supposed information at our fingertips, right? We have our phones and we look on Instagram and we look on Google and we look at, well, what is this influencer saying about naps and how, you know, what time should I be napping my child, and what are their weak windows?
And there's just so much stuff that they, you know, so many myths that are pumped out about sleep through social media in particular. And they come to me and they're like, well, isn't XY, z? True? And I laugh and I'm like, I'm really sorry that you were fed that garbage because it is garbage.
there's no sleep education for parents. They don't go home understanding anything when it comes to sleep.
**Craig Canapari MD:** So let's talk a little bit about what's in the medical literature around napping. And, um, it is, uh, it, it's, it's limited and we'll get into the reasons \[00:05:00\] why. I think when we're talking about napping, we have to start by talking about how much sleep kids need overall. So in 2016, the American Academy of Sleep Medicine published a consensus document, which is usually what is recognized as gold standard guideline for sleep duration. So I'm just gonna go through the kids numbers. so according to that document, infants four months to 12 months of age sleep, 12 to 16 hours per 24 hours. Children one to two years of age should sleep 11 to 14 hours. per 24 hours, children ages three to five should sleep 10 to 13 hours.
Six to 12, they say nine to 12 hours, and teenagers 13 to 18 years of age. Eight to 10 hours. And I'm just looking at this and I'm like, what do they say about kids less than four months of age?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** they didn't make any recommendations about children under four months of age.
**Craig Canapari MD:** oh, thanks for keeping me honest here. Because I'm like, why \[00:06:00\] didn't I put that here?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah.
No, they, they, they didn't do any newborn, um,
**Craig Canapari MD:** and, and,
and I think part of the reason is that it's a wide range, but to put a number that, I'd say newborns are, it could be anywhere based on some other data I've seen from like 14 to 20 hours.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** I get nervous about, you know, so many people say newborns sleep so much, they need so much sleep, they're gonna sleep 20 hours. And then I have these clients who come to me after the newborn stage where they're like, my child's sleeping 10 hours in a 24 hour period, and I'm losing my mind.
when ultimately there really is nothing wrong. they either have lower sleep needs or their sleep hasn't quite yet matured and things are happening and they improve as they get older.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Yeah, it's important to note that where you are on your sleep requirements tends to be kind of fixed. So if you have a baby that needs a lot of sleep, they're probably gonna be on the higher end of those ranges at age three, ages six, ages 18, what have you, and vice versa. That seems to \[00:07:00\] be relatively fixed in people.
according to the authors, napping was considered biologically appropriate under age seven, and quote, " naps may be important. Missing one nap by preschoolers produces more negative emotional responses.
And nap provision improved toddler's performance on a generalization task in grammatical language 24 hours later compared with non-AP groups." So it's important to note that even in this document where they don't deal with naps, they talk about naps being important for learning and mood.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** some adults are that way.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Yeah. and there was a study that came out of UMass that was looking at the predictor of when kids sort of give up naps, shorten naps. And it actually had more to do with hippocampal maturity.
So the hippocampus is a region in their brain that's associated with memory. So for kids where this matures more quickly, they seem to give up naps more quickly. Which kind of makes sense.
Then there's an article by Staton et all from 2020, which is a review article on napping. Here's what they said. infants less than 12 months of \[00:08:00\] age on average, napped 3.1 hours kids, one to two years of age, 2.3 hours, two to three years, 1.9 hours, and three to four years, 1.7 hours. And I feel like those are good ballpark numbers.
there is a huge amount of variability here. Right? But, I don't think they're crazy numbers, right?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** No, I wouldn't say that they're astronomical, but I would say I get very nervous about anything written in stone when it comes to sleep totals, because parents really glom onto those things and then they think there's something wrong with their child if they're below that number. rarely do they think something's wrong if their child is above that number, but if they're, below, a certain number or they're lower on a scale, they tend to get, there's a lot of anxiety there.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Sure. I just think it's good to kinda like level set for where we'll be. in this article they say, across these articles they referenced \[00:09:00\] 94% of kids stopped laughing by age five. I actually think that's a little bit high. we know for example, in children whose family identify as African American have prevalence at age 5.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Hmm.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Most kids in kindergarten, it actually may be a metric of kindergarten readiness. If you have a five-year-old who's needing a long nap in the afternoon and you have the luxury of not sending them to kindergarten that year, they might have an easier time the next year.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Then, here's a graphic from, Iglowstein et all.
And this is just a percentage of kids who nap during the first seven years after birth. And in these bars, they just have the black bars represent two or more naps, the light bars are just kids who are napping, one nap. and then after age four, a dark bar means napping every day. And a light bar means napping occasionally.
So what we see on this graphic, for those of you who are listening, is that \[00:10:00\] age one month, everybody's taking more than one nap. Interestingly, at age three months, that look like there were about. I don't know, just eyeballing that's maybe 5% of kids who are just taking one nap,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Is it one nap or two naps?
**Craig Canapari MD:** Dark bars represent two or more naps and light bars represent one nap per day. So I'd say these kids are outliers. for me,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Oh yeah.
**Craig Canapari MD:** This is just what parents were describing. So we don't know the circumstances here. what we do see is a clear progression in this graphic, from more than one nap to one nap. it looked like most of the kids by one and a half years of age were napping once a day by age
four, only about 10% of kids were napping every day. And by age seven, nobody was ever napping.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** about 40?
**Craig Canapari MD:** and I know little babies take multiple naps and then they give up those naps and they're gonna go from say, three naps to two \[00:11:00\] nap, to one nap. The hard part is predicting when that's gonna happen and we'll get into that. would you agree that it's fair to say that that's a typical progression?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yes. I was just looking at this next.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Oh, so the Galland review article, so again, this is another, I believe this is,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** this one definitely looks more realistic than that other one.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Yeah, no, hold on. I'm just pulling this up. So this was a study of about 900 families
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Oh, that's
**Craig Canapari MD:** just gimme one second because I,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** This ILO thing is blowing my mind though.
**Craig Canapari MD:** I think that there's
**Arielle Greenleaf:** a six month old or a nine month old on one nap
**Craig Canapari MD:** normal sleep pattern in infants. So this is, uh, uh, the Galland study. This is From 2012\. This is, um, a systematic review. So that meant they, they aggregated a bunch of different studies. They had 34 different studies that they included in this. And this is, this is actually a fairly interesting study. So here's what these authors found.
for nap duration, fewer studies reported For zero to five months of age, they found that \[00:12:00\] the average amount of napping in that age group was 3.1 hours
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah, it is a little, but that makes sense. Daytime naps, zero to five months, 3.1, six to 11 months, 2.21 to two years, 1.2\. All infants. Those all seem very correct as far as like number of daytime naps by age.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Okay. So in this review article, they were looking at nap duration, the mean nap duration for children, 0.5 months of age with 3.1 hours per day. The lower limit was 1.2 hours. The upper limit was five hours for six to 11 months. It was 2.2 hours with 0.9 is the lower limit.
3.5 is the upper limit. One to two years of age was 1.2 hours a day with a lower limit of 0.4, upper limit of 2.1\. they actually \[00:13:00\] did scatter plots of the reported sleep duration and the number of daytime naps by month actually has a very nice, I guess the technical term we would have would be a line of fit.
So you can look at this data over time and it looks like what they found is around two months of age, 3.5 per day was typical and over time, that drops this graphic ends at 24 months of age. When. one nap is typical. So it looks like this is a fairly linear progression, meaning that it's somewhat predictable.
I think the challenge we have here is it's not like your child goes from having 3.5 naps a day to three naps to 2.5 in a very clean incremental pattern. They go from like four naps to three naps, to two naps, to one nap. And those transitions are really tricky. So again, we know that it's predictable giving up naps, \[00:14:00\] but this data doesn't tell us much for an individual parent sitting the exam room or consulting with a Arielle. When can we predict the nap's gonna go away? So like this is kind of like the frustration here for parents and honestly for providers as well, is we know that the sleep is gonna go down over time. If somebody comes in and is like, my kids' naps are crappy. Like, what do we do about it? I am gonna be more of the sort of, the interlocutor here because this is more the art of napping versus the science of it, which is a domain in which, Arielle who unfortunately didn't have access to when my kids were horrible nappers.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Neither did I.
**Craig Canapari MD:** I thought we would, kind of go through this and start with some just general questions about napping and then maybe get into some cases as well, I think if a parent is struggling, they should seek help from, you know, check in with your pediatrician, make sure that there's no medical problem going on.
working \[00:15:00\] with somebody who's experienced in troubleshooting child and infant sleep problems can be very helpful if you're struggling. understanding a little bit how expert may solve these problems can be very helpful I think.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** absolutely.
**Craig Canapari MD:** So let's start by, what's the relationship between napping and nighttime sleep?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** I mean, I think you've already talked about it. We have to look at 24 hour sleep, like you've said, in young children and infants. Naps serve a purpose. They are,
**Craig Canapari MD:** can I just stop you there?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Okay.
**Craig Canapari MD:** I know that we're to,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** What did I say?
**Craig Canapari MD:** Oh yeah, we've talked about sleep before
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Oh, okay.
**Craig Canapari MD:** I know we,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** No, yeah, that's fine.
**Craig Canapari MD:** we've talked about this in earlier episodes, but just quickly
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah,
**Craig Canapari MD:** I think it's so important,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** It's essential.
**Craig Canapari MD:** in the cannon of the sleep edit.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** no, It's true.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Lemme ask the question
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yep.
**Craig Canapari MD:** So let's start, what is the relationship between napping and nighttime sleep?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** So I think you just went over, a little bit of the sleep science and the point of napping and the fact that napping serves a purpose for younger children. And, there is that body of evidence right now that shows that once the, hippocampus or whatever, is that what it's called?
**Craig Canapari MD:** Hippocampus,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Hippocampus is matured and memory sort of, matures, that napping. So the sooner that happens, napping starts to go away. So there are, there's real reason for naps. As children grow, I don't want anybody to get caught up on the fact that their child is a bad napper and think that because they're a bad napper, their child isn't gonna be smart or won't have good memory or things like that.
when I go to solve a nap \[00:16:00\] problem and I'm looking at naps versus nighttime sleep, I have to look at 24 hours sleep. And what is 24 hours sleep? We go back to look at those American Academy of Sleep Science recommendations.
Right? So you said for infants four months to 11 months, that's 12 to 16 hours in a 24 hour period. Now a child that needs 12 hours of sleep is gonna have, much less daytime sleep than a child that needs 16 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period.
But I have to look at each child individually and start to determine, okay, What are their 24 hour sleep needs? A lot of times when they come to me, we don't have a great handle on that because things are so all over the place. But sometimes if they do have data, we can see. Okay, your six month old is napping for six hours during the day and then only sleeping five hours overnight, six hours overnight.
we would hope that a child that \[00:17:00\] age is sleeping somewhere between 10 to 12 hours overnight. Overnight sleep is the most restorative sleep a child can get or a human can get, really. So we wanna maximize that sleep.
So what I would do is say, okay, how are we gonna shift some of these hours into the overnight hours? but then it becomes a delicate dance because, you know, do we have a child that's super sensitive to wake times? Because as much as I hate wake windows, every child does have a specific amount of time that.
First of all, they have a specific amount of sleep that they need, but in turn, they also have an amount of awake time that they need, to, in order to achieve whatever that 12 to 16 hours is. So I have to look at nighttime and daytime and balance that appropriately. so that's where I start basically.
But I will talk about, I think I put in here, some children are just very sensitive to timing \[00:18:00\] and when they're being put down. And so I actually have a quote from a mom. I got permission to use this This was when we first worked together. So this was probably back in, I don't know, he was five or six months old.
So she says to me, she's actually a doctor. and she says to me, 'cause she's looking at the data that we have and I have all my clients log all their sleep naps nights. How long is it taking for them to fall asleep? How many wakings are they having? how long is everything?
You know, how long is the nap? All of that jazz. The other pattern I'll add that we've noticed is if we push him a bit too far, he tends to take an hour and five to an hour and 10 minute nap, then he will wake up. He did that this morning for his first nap, but was able to settle back pretty quickly.
Not sure if I'm over analyzing. Sometimes when we push him way too far, then he does have like a 27 minute nap and cannot get himself back down to sleep. And that's when I think he's overtired 'cause we've pushed him too far. So I think the biggest nuance for figuring out daytime sleep is how do you balance awake time with sleep time and then, making sure that you're \[00:19:00\] prioritizing overnight sleep, but also, making sure that the child is well rested throughout the day as well.
**Craig Canapari MD:** So let's talk concretely here.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Do you have a set amount or proportion in your mind for like, say a infant, what's the minimum amount of sleep you think they should be getting at night
**Arielle Greenleaf:** at night, minimum 10 hours. And I will tell you anecdotally that it's extremely rare for me not to achieve that. it is extremely rare for me not to get to at least 10 hours of overnight sleep for a baby.
**Craig Canapari MD:** So in the example where you've got, a six month old is taking five hours a nap during the day, I assume, is that in two naps, three naps.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** it really depends. Sometimes it's, well, at six months he's taking 5, 5, 1 hour naps and
He's going to bed at 11 and he is waking up at five in the morning and then taking five one hour naps
**Craig Canapari MD:** I think one of the really important points here is that babies \[00:20:00\] don't deprive themselves, right? they're gonna get their whatever hours of sleep they need. there are probably some neurological benefits to having longer sleep periods at night for kids. There are definitely neurological benefits to parents.
Um, and that part of the reason we do this is like, again, even kids that whose parents are struggling, they still usually sleep the normal amount every 24 hours. One of our goals is to get them to consolidate sleep
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yes.
**Craig Canapari MD:** I think we're helping the kids, but we're also helping the parents. 'cause if we help the parents, it also helps the kids.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Absolutely. It's a family affair.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Yeah. and I'll say that right now we're mostly talking about situations where people have the luxury of moving things around, which is not always that case. I think we'll talk later about things like childcare or kids who aren't the first kid, where there are other kids in the house and it gets even harder.
But I think it's still more \[00:21:00\] important for people. Right now we're talking about if under optimal conditions, what do you do?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah, and I would say under optimal conditions, when I go, what is my goal for, let's say an infant, four to 12 months-ish. My goals are at least two naps each nap, one hour each minimum, and then a minimum of 10 hours of overnight sleep.
**Craig Canapari MD:** sorry, what age is that?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** so that's a very wide range there. So that's for an infant.
some even young infants don't like to take a third nap. But let's say, you know, that's at the very minimum, I would say at that 12 hour mark, you know, 12 to 16 hours, two one hour naps and a 10 hour night. it's usually not, it's very rare for me to see an infant that only needs twelve hours, especially a young infant, although it's not unheard of.
it's, there's so many nuances to all of it, and I think that's why it's frustrating to see so \[00:22:00\] much nap advice out there because. so many parents are like, I've done that. I've tried that. I've tried that schedule. I've, you know, there's no way my child can sleep more than 30 minutes, or, you know, whatever it may be.
And it's because it is so nuanced and it would just be nearly impossible to help every single parent with their nap struggles,
**Craig Canapari MD:** Like in speaking in generalizations.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yes.
**Craig Canapari MD:** No, I agree. I'm curious when you're saying high need versus low need sleep babies, do you have numbers in your head?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** I would say a high need sleep baby is somewhere from like 14 and a half to 16 hours in a 24 hour period, and then lower is closer to like 12 to below 14.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Yeah. And, I, in my world, my clinic is full of little kids who don't need a lot of sleep and big kids who need a lot of sleep. Like if you're thinking about the healthy kids that come in, right? Like the kids that don't have neurodevelopmental \[00:23:00\] disorders, whatever. often I'll see like toddlers or preschools.
The parents are like, well, they nap. They're up till like 10 o'clock at night. I'm like, well, stop napping. You know, they don't need the nap anymore even though they're two.
They can't always do it if it's a second kid or in the, they're in childcare. And those kids might fall apart a little bit if parents aren't actually giving them enough nap time. But it tends not to be that hard to actually get them to go down for a long nap. 'cause they need a lot of sleep. So sometimes I feel like those are the parents who are the envy of, their peers if it's a first kid.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Because they're like, oh yeah, people be like, oh, my neighbor's kid is like taking three, two hour naps a day and sleeping 12 hours a night. And I'm like, well, my 18 hours of sleep a day.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** And that's highly unusual. I also find that I feel like everybody is always doing so much better than everybody else. You know? And also, I don't trust what other people are saying based on the stuff that my clients say.
**Craig Canapari MD:** You always fixate on. It's like, look, the cliche is the grass is always greener. like in our world, the cliche is someone's kid is always sleeping better than your kid. Right? Like, their child might be struggling with something else. so let's talk about nap routines versus bedtime routines.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** I don't see them as all that much different. really it just needs to be a \[00:24:00\] regular flow of steps that you go through to prepare your child for bed, whether that be naps or bedtime. Obviously I find that bedtime is usually longer in that there's often, a bath involved or, more cuddling with mom or dad beforehand.
Whereas a nap is, not necessary to go through that big longer process. but I think just having some sort of consistency with, okay, we're gonna go change you, change your diaper, change into a sleep sack, read a book, cuddle for a little bit, and then it's time for bed sort of situation.
It doesn't have to be overly complicated, just a predictable routine that a child gets used to and gets to understand that what's coming at the end is sleep.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Sure. Yeah. And I think it's like, it can be shorter, right? You know, you could do a story in a song,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yes, Absolutely.
**Craig Canapari MD:** especially if you're doing this three times a day.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** \[00:25:00\] I will say though, that when I think about like toddlers in particular, sometimes they need wind down time transitions can be difficult. Some children really struggle with, okay, we're eating lunch and now we're going for a nap. It's like they need some time to, settle and get into bed.
So sometimes in those situations, if we have the luxury of controlling that, we may extend that a little bit just so that there's some wind down time.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Absolutely. Yeah. I think children benefit from routines and if things are predictable. Just like bedtime, you wouldn't have your kid going from bouncing on the trampoline expecting to be sleeping in 16 minutes
**Arielle Greenleaf:** exactly
**Craig Canapari MD:** that's true during the day as well.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yes,
**Craig Canapari MD:** okay, now this is such a great question. how to get longer naps.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Okay. So I mean, if you're, we talk about daytime sleep and nighttime sleep. \[00:26:00\] I think it's important to understand that the same basic, The same things are true for daytime sleep, as they are for nighttime sleep. If a child is struggling, you need to look at it all. Are they falling asleep independently?
Are they on the right schedule? I think those are the two most essential pieces to figuring out how to get longer naps.
**Craig Canapari MD:** so just to be clear, part one, knowing how much sleep they actually need.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** yeah, but they might not know that right away,
**Craig Canapari MD:** no. but I still think it's fair. Like, what are the things that you need? First of all, you need to know how much sleep, your kid needs in 24 hours. And that's like probably a minimum of three days of sleep diaries,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** I would say three to five days is probably good.
**Craig Canapari MD:** and the second,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** The second thing is that your child needs to know how to fall asleep independently. I get a lot of people who. their babies are, or their children are taking 30 minute naps. A lot of times that's infants, like, they just cannot consolidate their daytime sleep. And I ask them to \[00:27:00\] walk me through, okay, well how are you putting your baby to sleep?
And it's like, I'm nursing him, he's falling asleep, and then, I'm putting him in the crib and then he pops up 30 minutes later and he won't go back to sleep. But if I pick him up and he starts nursing again, he falls asleep again.
You know, things like that. So, helping a child understand or learn the skill of falling asleep independently is really the linchpin to nighttime and daytime. So if your child is dependent on anything to fall asleep, then it's, it's gonna limit your ability to extend naps. some children know how to sleep independently.
They're on a great schedule and they just don't like to nap. they just aren't big nappers. I think you have to set the bar low, and if you exceed that, then congratulations.
But I do think it is achievable to get more than a sleep cycle. And a sleep cycle is \[00:28:00\] typically anywhere from 30 to 45 minutes. So I think anything beyond 45 minutes is great. for some kids, for that one nap, it's enough. so that, that's really the baseline that I'm at.
**Craig Canapari MD:** There were two studies of interventions for improving sleep in kids. We usually, when we talk about formal sleep training, we've talked about Cry it Out on an earlier podcast. these real studies we're looking at infants from like three to four weeks of age. And there were parent interventions, to extend sleep, and one is called the SAAF trial.
Another was, called the INSIGHT trial, and this was all sort of common sense stuff, but I think it's worth enumerating the things that these two protocols had in common. So the first was avoiding feeding kids to sleep after a month of age, which I think is very good advice.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** It's great advice,
**Craig Canapari MD:** No, no,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** different listeners.
**Craig Canapari MD:** but yeah, at least as a stated goal,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Absolutely. It's a good goal.
**Craig Canapari MD:** the second was putting infant down for sleep, drowsy, \[00:29:00\] but awake. To me, that's four to six weeks is maybe when it's worth the earliest you'd consider doing it, and it's more like, try it and see what happens.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah, I mean, I think you can try that right away. it doesn't hurt, but as soon as your newborn needs you, you need to pick them up right away. There's no like, put 'em down. If they're crying, leave them. It's like, try putting 'em down, see what happens. They might be fine. I've had clients that have babies like that, and they're astonished, so
**Craig Canapari MD:** And another was, only feeding at night if the infant actually seemed hungry. not just fussy and sort of trying to soothe them a little bit first, actually pausing before you go in the room for a moment.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** for sure.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Taking a beat and then trying calming techniques. Shushing, white noise, gentle touch before picking them up, changing their diaper.
Like your baby doesn't necessarily need to have their diaper changed. And this is the way you're taught when you're in the hospital. But you know, once you're like six or eight weeks of age, I don't think they necessarily need a diaper change and feeding in the middle of the night every time they wake up.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** No.
**Craig Canapari MD:** So I think this \[00:30:00\] is good stuff. predictable bedtime routines, earlier bedtimes and, and I think this is so important for napping, actually. And I think Arielle, you taught me this, recognizing sleep cues, yawning eye rubbing, or a fixed stare.
They said, put your baby down when they seem tired.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Mm.
**Craig Canapari MD:** and I think that you need a routine 'cause you need to know what to look for. But the flip side is, I feel like one of the ways that we struggle with my kids is we were trying too much to be on a schedule and sometimes missing our windows for when our opportunity to put our kids down.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** You're talking about the art of napping, and that's part of it right there. what is your child showing you.
**Craig Canapari MD:** So I think it's useful to have like an idea of when your kid's gonna nap, but my colleague Monica Ordway had this great thing, and this is more like for older kids, like middle preschoolers, elementary school kids, the parents were having these long, battles at bedtime and she's like, whenever your kid starts to freak out, their \[00:31:00\] bedtime is probably 20 minutes before that.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah,
**Craig Canapari MD:** I think there is something to be said for that when your baby is, I don't like the term overtired 'cause I actually don't know what that means medically. But like, if your child is,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Dysregulated,
**Craig Canapari MD:** where they can self-soothe and then they get too dysregulated and then they can't soothe themselves anymore.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** mm-hmm. Yeah, it's kind of like what that parent said where we push him a little too far and we only get 27 minute naps, you know? But I would say one thing that I caution parents about, when we talk about sleepy cues after the newborn stage, it gets tricky because infants can seem, or they can act tired if they're bored.
So if there's no stimulation going on, if they're just sitting there and there's not like nothing going on, they can start to rub their eyes or seem tired and. You know, it's only, they've only been a week for an hour. You put them down, they sleep for 20 minutes 'cause they haven't built enough sleep pressure.\[00:32:00\]
So again, it's, it's such, this is why it's so hard. Like, I think this is why people struggle so much because it's like, just put 'em down when they seem tired. No, just put 'em down at this time. And with anybody that comes to me, it is such a balance. It is such a nuanced balance for each child based on, so today, for instance, I'm working with a, four and a half month old and he was actually, he's the one I texted you about this weekend, where I was just so confused, which is rare, but I just was, something just felt off and it turned out well.
He was about to roll, so it was a big gross motor development situation that was disrupting him. But he hadn't slept independently, ever. And, has been held for all naps and co-sleeping. last night was night four. It was an incredible night. he woke once to feed, he did wake a little bit early this morning, but I mean, he slept independently last night, which is just incredible.
So he did so well that I decided, let's try him for nap time today. We did try nap time the day \[00:33:00\] before, and it was a complete fail. He cried and was unhappy for an hour. But today he, I said, let's do it. So we put him down, based on like when he woke up and what my witchy magic was feeling in my head.
And he slept an hour and 45 minutes for his first nap. But like for his second nap, they said, okay, so what time should we put him down for the next nap? And I was kind of had an idea in my head, but about 30 minutes before that time, I wrote to them and I said, how's he doing? Is he tired?
Is he okay? And they said, well, I just fed him. And he was starting to fall asleep while I was feeding him. And then he was kind of rubbing his eyes and I was like, forget it. Put him down in 10 minutes. And they put him down in 10 minutes and there we go. So he fell asleep in a few minutes. so point being is like, it's such a balance between all of those things.
And it can be very, I think it's very challenging for a tired parent to decipher \[00:34:00\] all of the, like, to really put all those things together to determine. The right timing and all of that. And that's where I come in and then help you get to that place where you feel confident and you understand
**Craig Canapari MD:** it's also gonna change.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Oh yeah.
It'll change soon.
**Craig Canapari MD:** I feel like the tempo of like in the first month, things are changing every couple of days, right? And then four to six weeks in maybe. They're changing weekly and that rate of change slows down through childhood. But it's just, you know, if you're really struggling parents, just wait a little bit and it actually might get easier.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Absolutely.
**Craig Canapari MD:** so let's talk about sleep training can you sleep train for naps or not nights or vice versa?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** So yeah, that's a tricky one.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Yeah, I'd say, first of all, it's you shoot for the whole thing.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah. I think the thing that we need to come back to is the idea of consistency and your baby knows when it's late and it's dark and their bodies get used to a \[00:35:00\] circadian rhythm, but they don't understand why sometimes you're holding them and sometimes you're not.
Sometimes you're feeding them to sleep and sometimes you're just putting them down in the crib. I would say for some younger infants, even this baby I'm working with, right? four and a half months, I said, let's just start with nighttime and let's see how he does.
And then, like I said, the first day he did not do well with naps, so we continued to support them, but he did so well last night that I felt like I really don't wanna confuse the situation and set us back at night. So let's try at least that first.
But like, the goal is let's get them sleeping independently for all sleep so that they get it and they're not confused. Like sometimes you pick me up, sometimes you don't. and they're able to, be consistent for you because you're being consistent for them.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Well, if you think about this in behavioral terms, it's like intermittent positive reinforcement, right? you cry and fuss and every time you do it, you get \[00:36:00\] a reward. It's actually not as powerful as sometimes getting a reward. So I think, again, it's not that it's always all about crying or screaming, but parental consistency is so powerful in helping children form new patterns, even really little kids.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** yeah. I had someone who really wanted to support naps and sleep train overnight Our relationship didn't work out because it was just so clear that the, I mean, this was an older baby, it was like a 10 month old, and it just, it was very confusing to the child and therefore it made things a lot less consistent.
And, you know, it's a parent's choice. Whatever they feel comfortable with, it's fine. But, you know, if you want consistency, I always say if you want consistency from your child, you need to give them consistency too.
**Craig Canapari MD:** well I also feel like every time you put your kid down, you have an opportunity to put in place the pattern you want.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Absolutely.
**Craig Canapari MD:** So it's \[00:37:00\] much more powerful to do your intervention saying a kid that's napping three times a day, you could get in four reps a day instead of one.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah.
**Craig Canapari MD:** When should my baby, and I guess we could say, kid, take a nap. 'cause I think this is, it is important, like recognizing this is a balance between recognizing sleep cues, right? Your kid really looks tired, you probably should put them down. But also having some idea of like, well, around when would you expect them to go to sleep?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** A period during which your child should sleep.
**Craig Canapari MD:** I do think there's something to be said for knowing approximately when your kid will be due for an nap.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah. So I'm gonna put this in such general terms. I would say babies under six months, starting a nap anywhere between eight and nine in the morning. Eight is like very, very early. I wouldn't stay there long unless your baby's like really young and maybe on four naps. 'cause you can get into a problem where your naps are starting so early that you're \[00:38:00\] finishing your third nap by, you know, two 30 in the afternoon and then your baby's not gonna stay awake for another five hours before it's bedtime.
So if your baby may be on four naps at that point, I would say a baby on three naps, you really wanna be closer to 9:00 AM nine ish. So that could be eight 30 and then that could be, depending on, they can get older, like 10\. As they get older, they need more time to be awake.
So anywhere from 10 probably would be that morning nap for like an infant over six months. And then the afternoon is usually somewhere, for a younger infant around 12, 12 30\. And then those can actually start. To push out later as they get older. So it can be anywhere from one to two and then as they're about to transition to one nap, it can often be like two to three at the very latest, but that's like at the very latest and capping it at an hour or \[00:39:00\] so.
I would say there needs to be like a mid-morning nap between nine and 10 and a mid-afternoon nap between one and two. If you have a third nap somewhere happening between, I don't know, three to 4:30, but finishing naps by a certain time is kind of important, otherwise you kind of get into this zone of pushing into bedtime.
so like ending naps for younger infants by five and then sometimes as they're getting older, ending them by four in order to get them down by eight-ish is important because otherwise you're pushing bedtime way out. Depending on how old they are.
**Craig Canapari MD:** I really like this part about nap training and which we're gonna cover in more detail later on. here, let me, it starts with rarely,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Okay.
**Craig Canapari MD:** or just state that,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** So rarely do I see an eight or nine month old on three naps. I rarely see the two to one transition before 12 months or later than 16 months.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Yeah. And because, you know, in the medical literature, these are huge ranges, like six to 15 months going down to, two naps. But again, that's true, \[00:40:00\] but most kids are gonna fall in the middle.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Okay.
**Craig Canapari MD:** how do I get my newborn on a good nap schedule or lengthen their naps?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** I mean, if someone hires me for the newborn stage, I give them no false information, and therefore I tell them that. extending a newborn nap, your baby's either gonna do it or they're not. it's totally normal to have a 20 minute nap or a two hour nap, but extending a newborn's nap is kind of like trying to sleep, train a newborn, and you can't sleep, train a newborn.
Their sleep is erratic. Now you can, as we were talking about, you can practice, a couple of things. You can practice trying to put them down, awake, at an early age and see how they do if they're just kind of fussing, give them a little space and see if they're not like screaming at the top of their lungs and they're just kind of like kicking around or whatever.
You can sort of observe and see what they're doing. If they get a little more fussy, you can try crib \[00:41:00\] side soothing. So, you know, going over and rubbing their belly or even picking them up. Soothing and putting back down. For some babies, that's gonna work. And for others it's just not gonna work. I don't try to give any sort of, false notion that you can extend a newborn's nap or train them to be on a specific schedule because it goes against biology really.
**Craig Canapari MD:** I wanna take a quick sidebar on contact napping here too. 'cause this is. Not something that's, you know, so there's, there's kangaroo care that's skin to skin. That's like when your baby is born, they put the baby on your chest to try to, you know, help with bonding and also help with, milk supply. And then there's contact napping, which as I understand it, is a less well-defined term, but it's like holding your baby to sleep.
Right.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah.
**Craig Canapari MD:** And I think that contact napping is one of those things where I, because I've seen on Reddit and stuff, parents saying, oh, my kid can only contact nap. And I'm like, well, \[00:42:00\] it's 'cause it's the only way you've offered to have them nap, right? Like, and there's a safety concern for small infants here too.
And the risk is if you yourself are tired. Falling asleep while holding your baby is one of the riskiest things from a suffocation or entrapment standpoint. So if it's like eight or nine in the morning and you've had a cup of coffee, that's one thing. But if you are like really sleep deprived and you're regularly holding your baby for an entire nap, I really worry about these babies getting injured.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** I mean,
**Craig Canapari MD:** you know,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** I think that we need to be real about that, especially in that newborn stage. but yes, I think it's really important to educate around it as well. if you're too tired, I mean it would almost be better for you to put the baby in the bassinet and just have your hand in the bassinet.
You know what I'm saying? Like just to soothe that way versus holding upright and positional asphyxiation is just so real.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Well, you know, there's also this period of purple crying,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** \[00:43:00\] Yep,
**Craig Canapari MD:** And it's this idea that there's this whole like dogma in pediatrics that crying increases over time in the first four to six weeks and then falls off.
And this isn't really well understood. It's attributed to the maturation of neurological and GI systems. and it does seem like this particular flavor of crying, this fussing of like a four week old,
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Hmm.
**Craig Canapari MD:** what parents do does not influence how much kids cry.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Correct.
**Craig Canapari MD:** So I think that there's this desperation sometimes if your baby is crying and some babies cry quite a a lot . I, I, you know, I'm just looking at, this graphic I have here, which I'll throw in. And it was like, kids are on four weeks of age, crying age, 150 minutes a day.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Oh, yes.
**Craig Canapari MD:** it's important for parents to recognize you could be holding your baby or not holding your baby. Sometimes they're just going to cry.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah.
**Craig Canapari MD:** And it's not that we shouldn't be at. And I'm not talking about sleep training here. \[00:44:00\] I am just talking about the reality of having a neurologically immature little baby.
and you are so desperate to stop them crying if you are holding them to try to soothe them. And you're so exhausted, you're gonna fall asleep holding them. Or you are like losing it. It is okay to put your dae down and go walk, go in the other
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yes.
**Craig Canapari MD:** put them in a safe place, put them flat in their back in case they do fall asleep.
You are not doing harm to your other child. They're gonna cry that much regardless of what you do.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah.
**Craig Canapari MD:** And I have seen so much stuff online directed at me and other people who talk about things like sleep training, about how it is child abuse to let your kid cry. I think it's actually this whole narrative about you can't let your kid cry is actually dangerous.
And you know, it's okay for babies to cry sometimes.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Well, it's part of development,
**Craig Canapari MD:** they do.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** it's not, something that can be controlled.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Okay, so do you think we just
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It really helps as we're trying to get the show off the ground. \[00:46:00\] Thanks.
package this up as one and publish it and then do the
**Arielle Greenleaf:** I think the case studies will be helpful for people.
**Craig Canapari MD:** I think so too.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** stay tuned for part two.
**Craig Canapari MD:** and then we'll have something to work on Okay.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Yeah.
**Craig Canapari MD:** So this is part one of our napping spectacular. in part two we have cases, which Arielle has brought, which look great.
We are gonna talk about transitioning from three to two naps, two to one nap, and one the dreaded one to zero nap. and we're also gonna talk about some of the milestones, like how do you know when these transitions occur? how do you know when your kid's ready to give up the nap? And also finally, strategies for napping around childcare and around older kids' schedules, which are really complicated.
So we're gonna put a pin in it here, and we will be back hopefully in a shorter interval than usual for part two.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Part two of the Napping Extravaganza.
**Craig Canapari MD:** Spectacular. So, where can we find us?
**Arielle Greenleaf:** You can find us at the Sleep Edit podcast@gmail.com.
**Craig Canapari MD:** \[00:47:00\] Yeah, send us an email. thanks for listening.
**Arielle Greenleaf:** Take care.
### Episode 14: Summer and Back to School Sleep Challenges
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-14-summer-and-back-to-school-sleep-challenges/
Last updated: 2025-07-28T11:36:00.000Z
Tips for Infants, Toddlers, and Teens In this episode of the Sleep Edit podcast, hosts Dr. Craig Canapari and Arielle Greenleaf provide evidence-based tips and strategies to help parents manage their children's sleep during the summer and back-to-school transitions. They discuss common issues such as later bedtimes, disrupted routines, increased screen time, and the impact of travel on sleep patterns.
- 00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer
- 01:09 Meet the Hosts
- 01:24 Summer Sleep Challenges
- 03:55 Pandemic Sleep Patterns
- 05:08 Structured Days Hypothesis
- 07:57 Managing Heat and Sleep
- 09:58 Travel and Sleep Tips for Infants and Toddlers
- 16:06 Vacation Sleep Realities
- 19:47 School-Age Sleep Strategies
- 20:50 Replicating Schedules for Special Needs Children
- 21:47 Bedtime Recommendations for Different Age Groups
- 23:07 Managing Screen Time During Summer
- 24:01 The Benefits of Summer Camps and Jobs
- 24:49 Camping as a Sleep Reset Tool
- 26:41 Traveling to Adjust Sleep Schedules
- 27:25 General Summer Sleep Tips for Parents
- 32:23 Adjusting Teen Sleep Schedules Before School Starts
- 37:38 Final Thoughts and Contact Information
## Links
[The Structured Days hypothesis](https://ijbnpa.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12966-017-0555-2?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[Study of 9-15 year olds showed that later shift was associated with poorer dietary cohoices](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28709514/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[Resources (slides and references) from Dr. Canapari’s talk on Covid-19 and sleep](https://drcraigcanapari.com/resources-from-covid-talk/)
[The Forbidden Zone and what it means for putting your kid down](https://drcraigcanapari.com/adventures-fly-zone-perils-moving-childs-bedtime/)
[Vacation “sleep”: How to get shuteye when on the move](https://drcraigcanapari.com/vacation-sleep/)
[Dr. Canapari’s article on summer sleep and back to school](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-back-to-school-sleep-tune-up/)
[Camping as a way to reset sleep schedules](https://www.sleep.com/travel/good-sleep-camping?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### Episode 13: Toddler Night Wakings, Early Rising, and Nap Refusal: Your Pediatric Sleep Questions Answered
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-13-toddler-night-wakings-early-rising-and-nap-refusal-your-pediatric-sleep-questions-answered/
Last updated: 2025-04-30T23:56:59.000Z
This episode of *The Sleep Edit* is all about *you*—our listeners. We’re tackling the most common (and frustrating) pediatric sleep challenges straight from your inbox:
- What to do when your toddler suddenly won’t nap
- How to handle a preschooler who wakes five times a night
- When to push bedtime later—and when not to
- Strategies for night weaning, managing anxiety, and fixing early morning wake-ups
- Plus: Why our parents swear we were “better sleepers” back in the ’80s and ’90s
Whether you’re a parent in the trenches or a sleep consultant supporting families, this episode is packed with actionable insights and real-world context.
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### **⏱️**
### **Chapters & Timestamps**
**00:00 — Welcome & Disclaimer**
**01:55 — How Long Should a One-Nap Schedule Last?**
*A parent asks how long to let a toddler nap after transitioning to one nap—without disrupting night sleep.*
**04:24 — Does Your Toddler Need a Later Bedtime?**
*Signs that bedtime might be too early and what research says about optimal timing.*
**07:15 — Arielle’s Take on 24-Hour Sleep**
*A fellow consultant asks Arielle how she explains this foundational concept.*
**10:32 — What Is 24-Hour Sleep Anyway?**
*A parent wants to understand how to think about total daily sleep needs.*
**12:59 — Easiest Way to Night Wean a Toddler**
*Strategies for toddlers waking twice a night for milk.*
**16:05 — Why Were 80s Babies “Better Sleepers”?**
*Craig answers a fun cultural question: Have parenting expectations changed—or is it selective memory?*
**21:18 — 4-Year-Old Suddenly Waking All Night (Tried Everything)**
*Becky shares a sleep regression story after months of solid sleep and multiple failed interventions.*
**26:45 — 2-Year-Old Needs Touch to Fall Asleep, Progressive Breaks Failing**
*Charlotte asks whether this method is right for her daughter after meltdowns.*
**32:17 — 7-Year-Old with Bedtime Anxiety & Nightmares**
*A parent shares a common dilemma: supporting an anxious child without becoming a permanent bedtime fixture.*
**39:12 — 5-Year-Old Calls Out But Stays in Bed**
*Carys from the UK wonders how to manage frequent call-outs from a child who does fall asleep independently.*
**44:06 — Toddler Wakes at 5 a.m.—Can We Shift Later?**
*Anjo asks how to extend a solid 7–5 schedule without creating new problems.*
**46:50 — Sibling Sleep Chaos: Two Kids, Two Problems**
*Pat shares a double trouble scenario: one kid waking for milk, another up too early and waking the house.*
**51:03 — Nap Refusal at Home, But Not Daycare**
*Morgan asks how to handle nap refusal at home after major life changes (new baby, new daycare).*
**55:10 — Final Thoughts & Wrap-Up**
## Links
Arielle’s new website :[ Expect to Sleep Again](https://www.expecttosleep.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Arielle on Instagram: [@expecttosleepagain](https://www.instagram.com/expecttosleepagain/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Research links:
[Metanalysis showing that earlier bedtimes led to more sleep](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/2795862?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[Small study of infants showing sleep extension with earlier bedtimes](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11983790/?utm%5Fsource=chatgpt.com)
**Dr. Canapari’s articles:**
[Do Wake Windows Help Babies and Kids Nap Better?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/do-wake-windows-help-kids-nap-better/)
[How to Stop Night Feedings](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/)
[Huggy puppy intervention for night time fears](https://drcraigcanapari.com/my-favorite-treatment-for-night-time-fears-meet-huggy-puppy/)
[Early morning awakenings: What to do about them](https://drcraigcanapari.com/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/)
[Bedtime pass for middle of the night awakening](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-bedtime-pass-a-great-sleep-training-technique-for-older-kids/)
[Accommodations and anxiety](https://drcraigcanapari.com/help-kids-with-anxiety-sleep-better/)
[Progressive breaks sleep training method](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-excuse-me-drill-a-gentle-sleep-training-technique/)
[Camping out method sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/camping-out-sleep-training/)
### Why Magnesium Sprays and Lotions Don’t Work for Children’s Sleep (According to Science)
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/magnesium-sprays-and-lotions/
Last updated: 2025-04-24T22:26:58.000Z
[Magnesium supplements for sleep](https://drcraigcanapari.com/magnesium-for-kids-sleep/) in general are having a moment. One thing that has been puzzling to me is how much topical magnsium-- magnesium sprays and lotions- have become so incredibly popular now for sleep deprived parents.. But do they work?
## 1\. The Rise of Topical Magnesium for Kids
If you spend any time on social media—especially TikTok or Instagram—you’ve likely come across viral bedtime routines featuring magnesium sprays or lotions. These videos often show parents rubbing magnesium cream on their child’s feet or back while claiming it helps their kids fall asleep faster or stay asleep longer.
For example, a TikTok video from user Rachel Partridge (@rachelmpart) that garnered over 1.5 million views walks through her “kid’s bedtime routine,” including applying magnesium lotion as a key step ([watch here](https://www.tiktok.com/@rachelmpart/video/7445532987673955630?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)). Comments on the video are filled with parents asking where to buy it or reporting their own positive experiences.
This online enthusiasm is translating into real-world sales. According to a 2024 trend report by *Happi* magazine, magnesium creams showed a **220% year-over-year growth** in online interest, with **77.8% of that growth driven by Google Search** alone. The report specifically noted that consumers associate these products with bedtime, citing the hashtag **#bedtimeroutine**, which averages **44,900 weekly views** ([source](https://www.happi.com/breaking-news/body-oil-magnesium-creams-lead-spates-popularity-index-for-moisturizing-body-products?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)).
Meanwhile, product reviews on natural health retailer sites and Amazon are overwhelmingly positive, although these are anecdotal and not based on clinical outcomes.
Even pediatricians are being asked about it. In an ABC News Australia piece on the trend, Dr. Harriet Hiscock, (who authored [one of the best studies on the safety and efficacy of sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/news-flash-sleep-training-doesnt-hurt-your-child/)) a consultant pediatrician and sleep expert, stated:
> “There’s no strong evidence to say that magnesium lotion helps kids sleep… There would be little to no absorption from the spray."
> ([Full article](https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-09-10/does-magnesium-spray-really-help-kids-sleep/104160108?ref=drcraigcanapari.com))
So while the trend is real—and growing—it’s being driven by influencer anecdotes and marketing, not medical science.
## 2\. What Are Magnesium Sprays and Lotions?
These products typically contain **magnesium chloride** or **magnesium sulfate** (Epsom salt). Sprays are often marketed as “magnesium oil” (despite not being an oil), and lotions are creams fortified with magnesium salts.
Common claims:
- Helps with sleep
- Reduces anxiety or hyperactivity
- Relaxes muscles or eases growing pains
I’m not going to link to any of these products because I do not believe that they help.
But NONE of these claims are backed by high-quality research, or ANY RESEARCH AT ALL in children.
## 3\. Can Magnesium Be Absorbed Through the Skin?
Short answer: probably not—at least not in any meaningful amount.
One of the **best studies** on this topic is a 2017 randomized, placebo-controlled trial published in *PLOS One*. In it,
12 weeks of transdermal magnesium **did not significantly increase serum magnesium levels** compared to placebo.
[Kass et al., 2017 – PMID: 28319173](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28319173/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). Non athletes did see a significant increase.
A **2019 review** in *Nutrients* concluded that there's *insufficient evidence* to support the use of transdermal magnesium for systemic effects.
[PMID: 31842401](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31842401/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
There were two more recent trials that I identified
- A study of 20 adults (average age of 78.9 years old!) with chronic kidney disease were treated with transdermal magnesium for neuropathy (pain issues) related to their kidney disease. This study showed improvement in the nerve pain but no change in serum magnesium. ([Athavale et al 20 *Journal of Palliative Medicine* 2023](https://www.liebertpub.com/doi/abs/10.1089/jpm.2023.0229?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)).
- A study of six adult patients with ileostomy (connection of the small bowel allowing drainage outside the body) showed that a topical magnesium spray increased magnesium levels in half the participants. ([Nightingale J et al *Intestinal Failure* 2024](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2950456224000186?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)). It’s important to note that these patients were likely unable due to absorb magnesium through the diet due to their very specific condition.
NONE of these studies were examining sleep. The only studies showing an improvement in blood magnesium levels were in very sick or elderly individuals. There are NO studies looking at children.
Bottom line: While it may feel nice as part of a bedtime routine, it’s not actually supplementing your child’s magnesium in a measurable way.
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## 4\. Does It Help Kids Sleep?
There are **no studies** looking at magnesium sprays or lotions for sleep in children.
In adults, oral magnesium may improve sleep in those with magnesium deficiency or in older populations. For example, one small RCT found oral magnesium helped older adults with insomnia fall asleep faster and sleep more deeply ([Abbasi et al., 2012 – PMID: 23618407](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23618407/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)).
But again, that’s *oral* magnesium. Not topical. And not in children.
If you are interested, here is [my COMPREHENSIVE guide to magnesium and sleep in children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/magnesium-for-kids-sleep/)
If a magnesium lotion seems to “work,” it’s likely due to:
- The relaxing bedtime routine
- The placebo effect
- Natural developmental changes in sleep
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## 5\. Are These Products Safe?
Mostly, yes—but not risk-free.
Topical magnesium can cause:
- **Skin irritation** (especially in children with eczema)
- **Stinging or itching** if applied to broken skin
- **Unknown ingredients** due to lack of FDA regulation for supplements
Some kids may also end up licking their fingers or skin afterward, which could lead to small unintended oral doses. I don’t know about you, but I’m not recommending that babies or toddlers eat skin care products.
---
## 6\. Real Sleep Solutions for Children
Magnesium sprays are not harmful, but they’re also not helpful.
Here’s what *is* helpful:
- **Consistent sleep and wake times**
- **Dim light in the evening**
- **Predictable bedtime routines**
- **Behavioral strategies**aka using [one of the best sleep training techniques.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
You can learn more in my post on [evidence-based sleep interventions for children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-sleep-train-your-child-and-why-you-might-not-need-to/), or check out my [melatonin guide](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-for-kids/) for details on when (and when not) to use supplements.
We also covered [magnesium and melatonin on the Sleep Edit podcast.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-12-melatonin-and-magnesium-oh-my/)
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## But if you are still curious. . .
Honestly, save your money. This is snake oil.
If you’re still tempted to try a magnesium lotion:
- Choose a product with minimal ingredients and no added fragrance
- Test a small area first
- Don’t expect miracles
- Use it as part of a calming routine—not a cure-all
---
## 8\. TL;DR
🛑 There is **no evidence** that magnesium sprays or lotions improve sleep in children.
🧪 They’re **poorly absorbed** through the skin.
🚫 They may cause **skin irritation**.
✅ Focus on **behavioral sleep strategies** instead—they actually work.
---
## 9\. FAQs
### Can magnesium lotion help kids sleep?
There is no high-quality evidence that magnesium lotion helps children fall asleep faster or sleep better.
### Is magnesium lotion safe for toddlers?
Generally yes, but always test a small patch and avoid if your child has sensitive skin or eczema.
### Where should I apply magnesium lotion?
Most products suggest feet or back. There’s no scientific reason to prefer one site over another.
### What’s the best natural sleep aid for kids?
A consistent bedtime routine, dim lighting in the evening, and screen-free time before bed.
---
**Still have questions?** Leave a comment below.
### Episode 12: Melatonin and Magnesium Oh My
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-12-melatonin-and-magnesium-oh-my/
Last updated: 2025-02-24T16:34:10.000Z
In this episode of 'The Sleep Edit', we dig into the topic of sleep supplements for children, specifically focusing on melatonin and magnesium. Melatonin and magnesium (and "calm" and "sleep" gummies in general) have become very popular among tired parents, but what is the actual evidence for these supplements? Are they safe? What do parents need to know?
## Timestamps
- 00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer
- 01:09 Welcome Back to the Sleep Edit
- 01:21 Melatonin and Magnesium: The Two Big Ms
- 04:24 Understanding Melatonin
- 06:14 Melatonin's Effects and Usage
- 09:45 Melatonin for Children: Considerations and Concerns
- 21:16 Dosing and Safety of Melatonin
- 28:15 Melatonin Concerns and Parental Thoughts
- 29:37 Safety and Alternatives to Melatonin
- 31:28 Introduction to Magnesium for Sleep
- 34:49 Magnesium's Role and Benefits 36:39 Challenges in Diagnosing Magnesium Deficiency
- 38:49 Magnesium Supplementation Studies
- 39:54 Magnesium for Children: Evidence and Recommendations
- 47:25 Magnesium Lotions and Creams: Fact or Fiction?
- 53:33 Final Thoughts and Practical Advice 55:44 Conclusion and Additional Resources
## Links
- 📺 **Related Videos:**
- 🔹 [10 Things Parents Should Know About Melatonin](https://youtu.be/Mp91Y%5FFJyhY?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- 🔹 [Melatonin: The Effect of Timing](https://youtu.be/AmBSjPQ3pCM?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- 🔹[Youtube link if you want to see the graphics](https://youtu.be/%5F4bFCMpogfg?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- 📝 **Related Articles by Dr. Canapari:**
- 🔹 [Melatonin for Children: A Guide for Parents](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/)
- A [simple melatonin dosing calculator f](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-dosing-calculator-for-children/)or selecting the correct dose for your child.
- 🔹 [Melatonin Overdoses Are on the Rise: What Parents Should Know](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-overdoses-are-on-the-rise-why-parents-should-worry/)
- 🔹 [Magnesium for Kids’ Sleep: Does It Really Work?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/magnesium-for-kids-sleep/)
- 🔹[The evidence against magnesium sprays and lotions](https://drcraigcanapari.com/magnesium-sprays-and-lotions/)
- 📖 **Scientific Studies & Resources:**
- 🔹 Pickering et al. (2020) – *Magnesium Status and Stress: The Vicious Circle Concept Revisited* → [https://doi.org/10.3390/nu12123672](https://doi.org/10.3390/nu12123672?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- 🔹 Workinger et al. (2018) – *Challenges in the Diagnosis of Magnesium Status* → [https://doi.org/10.3390/nu10091202](https://doi.org/10.3390/nu10091202?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- 🔹 [NIH Magnesium Fact Sheet for Health Professionals](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/Magnesium-HealthProfessional/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
TranscriptAudio only Ep 12 Melatonin and magnesium, oh my
\[00:00:00\] Welcome to the Sleep Edit, a podcast devoted to helping tired kids and parents sleep better. We focus on actionable evidence-based sleep advice, so everyone in your home can sleep through the night. Now, a quick disclaimer, this podcast is for general informational purposes only and does not constitute the practice of medicine, nursing, or other professional healthcare services, including the giving of medical advice.
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\[00:00:52\] Or that their children may have, they should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions. Nothing stated here \[00:01:00\] reflects the views of our employers or the employees of our guests. Enjoy the show.
\[00:01:09\] **Craig Canapari MD:** We're recording. Well, welcome back to the sleep edit. I am Craig Canapari
\[00:01:18\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** and I'm Arielle Greenleaf.
\[00:01:21\] **Craig Canapari MD:** So today we're gonna cover, the, two big Ms in sleep.
\[00:01:27\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** M and Ms .
\[00:01:28\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Yeah. So that would be Melatonin and Magnesium. Two of the supplements that are, a lot of parents are interested. For their kids' sleep issues or themselves. A lot of people seem to be using, I can tell you it's unusual for a parent to come to sleep clinic without having tried melatonin.
\[00:01:48\] A lot of pediatricians recommend it, but a lot of parents just try it as well. But in the last couple of years, I've seen more and more parents having tried magnesium or magnesium supplementation or are asking me about it as \[00:02:00\] well. so I guess we thought it'd be interesting to group these two things together.
\[00:02:03\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Absolutely.
\[00:02:05\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Arielle. what are you hearing about this stuff?
\[00:02:08\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** I feel like the majority of my clients don't share that they've tried these things. I.
\[00:02:18\] have to imagine, given being a member of many moms groups on Facebook and seeing what I see, I have to imagine that a lot of my clients or potential clients have tried whatever they can to help their, their child's, their baby or child's sleep. Hopefully we're not looking giving
\[00:02:39\] melatonin to babies or magnesium to babies. Although I did see recently how do I get my, you know, under 1-year-old or something to sleep? Can I use something like melatonin or magnesium? And was, I was just blown away to see that. and I will say also that when parents are \[00:03:00\] asking for help in these groups, almost always the first response is melatonin. And lately it's been magnesium and mostly I'm seeing magnesium in a lotion or cream that people are claiming works wonders.
\[00:03:19\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Oh yeah, we're gonna get into that. as a provider, this is one of those things I just always ask now because people might feel weird about it, especially if their pediatrician didn't ask them to do it. And yeah, you get some weird stuff, be like, hi, how do I get my four month old to chew this gummy, you know?
\[00:03:35\] it's always best to ask in a nonjudgmental way, which I know that you do, but I know the providers listen to this and I think it's valuable information. Like, I'll say, what have you tried? What medications have you tried? What supplements have you tried?
\[00:03:46\] I'd say if you're putting something in your kid's body, think about it, like medication. I wouldn't differentiate between a natural supplement, which is what a lot of people consider these things to be, and a prescription medication.
\[00:03:58\] there may actually be some more \[00:04:00\] issues with these types of things than with prescription medications.
\[00:04:03\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):**
\[00:04:04\] Just because it's natural and organic doesn't mean that it's necessarily A helpful or B, safe.
\[00:04:11\] **Craig Canapari MD:** I mean, I don't know about you. My kids got an ear infection. That better be some free range penicillin they're getting,
\[00:04:15\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yeah,
\[00:04:16\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Organic or a locally sourced, amoxicillin.
\[00:04:20\] Homemade.
\[00:04:21\] yeah, homemade. So let's, let's start with melatonin. 'cause I feel, I still feel like melatonin is like the 800 pound gorilla here.
\[00:04:30\] Yeah. So why don't you tell us like, what exactly is melatonin? So melatonin is a hormone that is secreted in the pineal gland of your brain, which is the little tiny structure at the center of your brain. And some people call it the hormone of darkness. And the reason being is that. Your body starts to secrete melatonin about an hour before your usual sleep time.
\[00:04:58\] before then it's undetectable in the \[00:05:00\] bloodstream. when you can detect that rise in melatonin, that's called the dim light melatonin onset, that is the signal to your brain and the tissues in your body that it is time to wind down for the day. those melatonin secretions will stay relatively high in the bloodstream until about an hour after you wake up if you go to bed and wake up at the same time every day.
\[00:05:21\] one thing a lot of parents don't know is melatonin is a hormone, right? So it's kind of funny that you can just go down to the store and buy your kid a hormone for their insomnia. So, imagine if your kid was like having a hard time in little league and you're like, I'm getting my kid these testosterone gummies and I'm gonna see how he does, right?
\[00:05:40\] That's not the thing that we do.
\[00:05:42\] We're not like, oh, you know, my 13-year-old hasn't had our period. Why don't I get some estrogen gummies and start giving them? But for reasons, we're gonna talk about, melatonin is considered in the US at least to be a food supplement, and not a medication. it used to be sourced \[00:06:00\] actually from pig brains.
\[00:06:01\] now it is, synthesized in laboratories, which is better. So yeah, that's maybe less organic, but, Probably better. so melatonin, if you take it, the, the technical term is exogenously. If you take it like a medication, first of all, the amount of melatonin in your bloodstream. Is much higher than your body naturally secretes.
\[00:06:23\] and there are really two notable effects when you take melatonin. The first is the hypnotic or sleep inducing effect. So this is what people are generally trying to do when they take melatonin 'cause they have insomnia or they're giving it to their child for insomnia. They're giving them a dose of melatonin.
\[00:06:42\] We'll get into dosing later on, with the goal of helping to induce sleep. The important thing to note is that not everybody gets this hypnotic effect and the way this'll manifest as I have parents coming in and they're giving their kids these horrendous doses of melatonin, think like \[00:07:00\] 10, 20 milligrams and they're like, it's not working.
\[00:07:03\] And he is waking up more at night with nightmares and is sleepy during the day, which are all side effects if dose is too high. it just doesn't work in everybody. The other effect which does occur in everybody, and this is gonna get a little bit more into the weeds of sleep physiology, is what's called a chronobiotic effect.
\[00:07:20\] So if you have someone who's circadian clock is out of sync with the schedule they want to have, in my world, that's usually a teenager where their natural sleep schedule is much later than they would like giving a tiny dose of melatonin think 0.25 to 0.5 milligrams about five or six hours before they're falling asleep, can start moving their sleep schedule earlier.
\[00:07:47\] This is not what most parents are trying to do, but honestly, this is one of the more common reasons we are using melatonin in sleep clinic, so the dosing for that is different and the timing is different as well.
\[00:07:57\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yeah. What does that, can you explain that timing?
\[00:07:59\] **Craig Canapari MD:** \[00:08:00\] So
\[00:08:01\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** about teenagers much in this podcast, but,
\[00:08:04\] it is interesting to understand the timing.
\[00:08:07\] **Craig Canapari MD:** So when we think about, and actually I'll, I can link to a video that sort of demonstrates this graphically, but, um, in, when you wanna think about moving someone's schedule, if you want to move their schedule, their sleep schedule earlier or later, melatonin will pull the sleep schedule towards it. So if you give melatonin in the evening, it'll make someone over three or four weeks fall asleep earlier and light will push it away.
\[00:08:33\] So light will make them stay up later.
\[00:08:35\] and the opposite is true in the morning. So if you are trying to get someone to sleep later, which is generally not something I'm worried about a lot in sleep clinic, but in say, elderly who may have advancement of the circadian phase, meaning they're falling asleep earlier than they would like falling asleep at six o'clock and getting up at three in the morning, a tiny dose of melatonin after they wake up can help move \[00:09:00\] it,
\[00:09:00\] We'll pull it towards it so it'll move the sleep schedule, and light in the morning. We'll move the sleep schedule earlier. It's pushing it away. and the magnitude of that effect, and again, we're really getting in the weeds here, it's what's called a phase response. 'cause curb, if you give melatonin a bedtime, you're not gonna get much of an effect on the body clock scheduling, which is actually not what we want in little kids.
\[00:09:23\] we're not trying to move their schedule earlier or later too much. but in somebody else, you, if you wanna get the maximal effect of moving you body clock earlier, you want to do it five or six hours before they're falling asleep.
\[00:09:35\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Very interesting.
\[00:09:39\] **Craig Canapari MD:** circadian medicine is very cool, and kind of confusing for trainees. So we
\[00:09:45\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Can you share a little bit about how, so a lot of times I see my child falls asleep easily, or I'm giving them melatonin because they don't fall asleep easily and they \[00:10:00\] wake multiple times a night.
\[00:10:01\] Can you talk to me about the efficacy of night wakings and melatonin?
\[00:10:08\] **Craig Canapari MD:** sure. Well, most of the studies of melatonin are showing the primary effect is shortening what we call sleep onset latency. And that's the time from when you turn off the lights. To when you actually fall asleep. Now in children with autism, there is some evidence that it might reduce night wakings. The problem is, and this is again, don't think of melatonin as a a natural supplement, think of it as a medication.
\[00:10:33\] The problem with any medication for sleep is it's pretty easy to help someone fall asleep. It's harder to get them to stay asleep , to miss night awakenings. And the hardest thing of all is to get them sleep later in the morning, especially children. and the reason is, is just how your body processes medicine.
\[00:10:51\] If you take any medicine, typically you're gonna get the highest amount of it in your bloodstream within an hour of taking it, and that's gonna fall \[00:11:00\] off over time. We use a term called the half-life. a half life of a medication is the time when half of it is essentially gone from your body.
\[00:11:09\] If it's gonna a longer half life, it's gonna last longer in the body. If it's got a short half life. It's not gonna last as long, and melatonin has a relatively short half-life. So again, like any medication, it's tricky to dose things, to try to get kids to stay asleep. And actually the dose is too high. You can make night Wakings worse.
\[00:11:29\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** I mean, I
\[00:11:29\] feel like it's counterintuitive. you would think, oh, okay, we want this to have a longer effect. Let's give more of it. But what I've heard is that in many cases, a smaller dosage is better, lower dosage. I've actually seen this reported in mom groups.
\[00:11:47\] It's like, you know, it's helped my child fall asleep. It is not helping them not wake in the middle of the night. They're still waking in the middle of the night. What do I do? And then they're like, do I give melatonin \[00:12:00\] again in the middle of the night? that's a little scary too.
\[00:12:04\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Yeah, I mean, I think what we are seeing, and I know you know this, but for the audience is that like any of these, be it a prescription medication, a supplement, if you are having sleep problems, you really want to pair this with a behavioral intervention because these, these medicines, they're not magic, they're not anesthesia.
\[00:12:25\] It's not like flipping a switch and you're guaranteeing 10 hours of sleep for the majority of children, not all of them, but a lot of them who are having sleep problems. There's at least a behavioral component to that. If you don't change your behavior, if you don't, if teach your your child to fall asleep independently, if you are letting them have screens in their room, if their schedule is different from what their body needs, no amount of medication is really gonna help.
\[00:12:53\] And you know, I think a lot of the times people are using these things \[00:13:00\] because they don't want to, you know, it's easy to give your child a gummy. It's harder to make behavior change.
\[00:13:04\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Absolutely.
\[00:13:05\] **Craig Canapari MD:** and really our goal for any of these tools, like supplements, medications, whatever, is to use them as long as you need them and to not use them anymore.
\[00:13:15\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** there are some of my patients who have me take melatonin for long term, and there are some that we are able to get them off it in the short to medium term because they, they've learned how to fall asleep independently.
\[00:13:28\] So the question then is,
\[00:13:30\] **Craig Canapari MD:** I.
\[00:13:31\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** you know, I see it so frequently used, or parents saying, oh, you have to try it. I feel like it's like almost the first response these days. So when is it appropriate to use melatonin with a child? Are there age considerations, dosages, specific medical, conditions that it would be helpful for?
\[00:13:55\] **Craig Canapari MD:** So I wanna get into some of the conditions that are best studied for melatonin. But first of all, I'd say \[00:14:00\] recognizing that melatonin is a hormone that you're giving your child to help them fall asleep, you should tell your child's pediatrician to it. They don't necessarily know a lot about melatonin, but they do know a lot about sleep and behavior in children. That's where pediatricians are expert. So first of all, I'd say if you're thinking about trying it, talk to your, your child's pediatrician. I will say in most of the world, melatonin is prescription only.
\[00:14:24\] That's true for much of the EU. In Taiwan, it's classified as a, controlled substance actually. so it's not marketed, appear or filling up the whole. I feel like there's the purple aisle now in the pharmacy
\[00:14:39\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** a hundred percent
\[00:14:40\] **Craig Canapari MD:** It's melatonin and sleep gummies and what have you. There's clear evidence for, I'd say that most evidence is for kids with autism that it's pretty effective for helping with falling asleep and staying asleep.
\[00:14:52\] And a recent study actually showed that it helps with daytime behaviors as well. there is some evidence for chronic insomnia in children, though most of that is in \[00:15:00\] older children. Not little kids, not like the, not like zero to three, it's think more six to 15.
\[00:15:06\] ADHD, there's evidence, the body clock disorder, we talked about.
\[00:15:10\] Delayed sleep face syndrome a circadian disorder. There's evidence and actually there's some studies and conditions like blindness, like eczema where it does seem to help as well. I would say that there's less evidence for normally developing children. Who just need a little bit of help moving towards independent sleep.
\[00:15:28\] it doesn't mean that, again, lack of evidence doesn't mean it might not be helpful in an individual child, but that's why it's so important when you're using something like this is to also be like, Hey, you know, say to your p say to your pediatrician, Hey, I'm struggling with my child's sleep. I'm thinking of trying melatonin.
\[00:15:47\] Anything else I should try with this? Or could anything else be causing this? You know, like, I mentioned eczema because eczema causes terrible sleep disruption and the solution to it is not melatonin. The solution is treating the eczema.\[00:16:00\]
\[00:16:00\] So there are many childhood conditions which can cause disrupted sleep.
\[00:16:04\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Seek out the root cause before you just go to the purple aisle. And they are, it is, it's all purple. It's, it is shocking to me because there is a whole section aimed at children, and I just think it's, it's wild that it's just so accessible and
\[00:16:31\] it's, a hormone, you know, like, like you said, it's a hormone, it's a synthetic hormone.
\[00:16:35\] And I, I mean, natural, like you said, is it really natural? Is it, I mean, it's made in a lab. Is that what makes it organic?
\[00:16:46\] Like you said, free range, free range hormones.
\[00:16:50\] **Craig Canapari MD:** problem. Yeah. the, well, we can talk about, we talk about overdose and stuff like that.
\[00:16:56\] I would, I would say that, you know, when I would avoid melatonin is \[00:17:00\] I use it maybe sparingly in kids under three. I'm an expert. I wouldn't recommend. Parents, do that, without guidance from a specialist.
\[00:17:10\] Jodi Mindell has this great quote that is, melatonin is like hormone replacement therapy for sleep. Right? Like, so, you know, if you're, if you're in menopause, you probably don't just get a menopause gummy, right? You probably get hormonal therapy, replacement therapy. I, you know, I just wanna hammer this away because
\[00:17:29\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yeah.
\[00:17:29\] **Craig Canapari MD:** It's just, you know, gone to the drug store.
\[00:17:32\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Right.
\[00:17:33\] **Craig Canapari MD:** I got to the gas station.
\[00:17:34\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** next time I'm at the gas station.
\[00:17:37\] **Craig Canapari MD:** I'd say the other thing is if you're not willing to make changes to behavior, again, any sleep medication, it's not anesthesia, it's not magic. At best, these things nudge things in the right direction.
\[00:17:49\] they're not gonna cure the problem.
\[00:17:52\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Would you recommend it for jet lag or like an overnight flight or something like that? For
\[00:17:57\] a child?
\[00:17:58\] **Craig Canapari MD:** there is some \[00:18:00\] evidence that melatonin, can help with jet lag, with sleep onset. It's tricky though because it depends on when you dose, it depends on the time zone. the direction of travel, how far you're traveling,
\[00:18:13\] There are even apps that'll help you figure this out. I'm a little bit less worried about people who are using melatonin once in a while.
\[00:18:20\] Like I'm, I'm gonna be honest and full disclosure here. Uh, my older son, he's 17\. If he feels really revved up at night, he may have a melatonin.
\[00:18:30\] He has it maybe once a week. that doesn't concern me, right? Like, you know, he's a young adult who's like, I know I'm gonna struggle to sleep tonight. 'cause I'm worried about school.
\[00:18:41\] He's generally an excellent sleeper. I'm not that worried about that. And I'm not that worried about parents who after talking to their pediatrician, they use it once in a while, if they're traveling or if there's something stressful going on.
\[00:18:54\] so I think one of the themes will kind of close with is that using something once in a while is less worrisome than using it \[00:19:00\] all the time.
\[00:19:00\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Right. When do you think it would be a problem like. Long-term use. I'm just thinking of parents that I see that are like, oh yeah, we've used it since Johnny was four and he's 10\. You know?
\[00:19:12\] Thoughts on, yeah.
\[00:19:15\] Thoughts on long-term use,
\[00:19:17\] in a neurotypical child?
\[00:19:19\] **Craig Canapari MD:** well there aren't really a lot of long-term studies of neurotypical children. The longest studies we have at melatonin are mostly in kids with autism, and they're the longest we're looking at is two years. The biggest concern with, melatonin because. It's a hormone is, could it have an effect on puberty
\[00:19:40\] could puberty happened early or late based on these two year studies? That does not seem to be the case.
\[00:19:46\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** yeah, I mean,
\[00:19:47\] can you become dependent on a gummy?
\[00:19:50\] **Craig Canapari MD:** so you don't seem to get biologic dependence like you do with, like, say, I know people aren't using opiates for this, but like you develop a \[00:20:00\] biological,
\[00:20:00\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** We hope not.
\[00:20:01\] **Craig Canapari MD:** It doesn't seem to, if you take melatonin for a long time, it doesn't seem to stop your body from making your own melatonin.
\[00:20:06\] But there is psychological dependence, right? Like I, I've had patients who are like, they're just worried if, if they, if they miss their gummy, but they really don't need it. And often we'll kind of cut it in half. we've even had parents substitute in some regular gummies just like candy. and the, the kids seem to be fine.
\[00:20:24\] Not that I generally advocate deceiving kids, but like, I think in a, I was in like a special situation. there is a, there's an obstetrician and a gynecologist named David Kennaway in Australia who's very against this practicing kids. And he talks about, he has this, this quote, "parents shouldn't be always be informed that one melatonin is not registered for use in children.
\[00:20:45\] \[This is in Australia\]. Two, no rigorous long-term safety studies have been conducted by children. And three, by the way, melatonin is also a registered veterinary drug used to alter the reproduction of sheep and goats", which is true. you know, humans don't, \[00:21:00\] they're, we're not, I'm, I'm blanking on the term, but we don't go into heat once a season, which she goats do.
\[00:21:08\] So like, it's a little bit of a, it's not entirely fair comparison, but. You know, it makes you think right a little
\[00:21:15\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yeah, absolutely.
\[00:21:16\] **Craig Canapari MD:** so I do want to talk a little bit about the dosing of melatonin. 'cause there is, there are some guidelines about this. generally the max dose anyone should be using. and these are, this is from a European consensus statement, which is the best thing we have for kids under 40 kilos.
\[00:21:33\] That's 88 pounds. The max dose should be three milligrams. So that's a pretty big kid, right? That's a 90 pound kid. above 90 pounds, five milligrams. In our clinic, we start at half a milligram and we go up by half a milligram to a milligram once a week. And we stop at either when the, the issue is better or when they hit the max dose.
\[00:21:58\] And there's two reasons for that. First of \[00:22:00\] all, as you said, a lot of people actually do better with less melatonin than more. . the other thing is it gives a chance for the behavioral effects to take effect, right? Like if you start to make some behavioral changes, maybe, for our kids, a lot of the patients we're seeing, they're too young to have an ADHD or an autism diagnosis, but they may be headed that way.
\[00:22:21\] So a little bit of melatonin often can help the behavioral changes take root.
\[00:22:27\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** what age range are we looking at there?
\[00:22:29\] **Craig Canapari MD:** I'd say it's, I still try for three and up sometimes younger though. But again, I'm an expert. I work with a sleep behaviorist in my clinic. we are screening kids for medical issues.
\[00:22:40\] I'd say for parents and pediatricians, generally less than three I'd, I'd really think twice.
\[00:22:46\] Again, no, me, you know, there's not a lot written on this, but I just sort of feel like You have to be cautious, right? Little kids have a longer time to develop. We don't know what the effect of adding hormones is to a developing brain.
\[00:22:58\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** \[00:23:00\] Right.
\[00:23:00\] **Craig Canapari MD:** the other thing is timing is that a lot of people give melatonin. A lot of kids actually do better, and the studies of chronic insomnia, melatonin, we're looking at giving melatonin about an hour and a half or two hours before bedtime.
\[00:23:12\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Interesting.
\[00:23:13\] **Craig Canapari MD:** So parents have to fiddle with this a little bit. Some will say it has to be 30 minutes before bedtime, or it doesn't help, but others will say, oh, it works better. Got a seven 30 bedtime. It works better if I give it at like dinner,
\[00:23:26\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yeah.
\[00:23:27\] **Craig Canapari MD:** and then later on it, it kicks in. side effects, important to know about, with anything, nightmares are common or vivid dreams, especially if the dose is too high.
\[00:23:37\] Also, nighttime awakenings, that's why we'll see people coming in. They're giving their three-year-old like 10 milligrams of melatonin. These kids are waking up in the middle of the night. They're having horrible dreams. because the, the amount you're getting in the bloodstream is so high, you can also get what we call
\[00:23:52\] you know, technical term is, is, uh, residual daytime sleepiness, or sleep inertia. Think of it like a hangover from the medication.\[00:24:00\]
\[00:24:00\] bedwetting can happen. and, there is a real overdose risk.
\[00:24:04\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Natural.
\[00:24:05\] **Craig Canapari MD:** A couple of things. It is now the most common accidental ingestion in children, five and under. because it is regulated by the FDA as a food supplement, it is not required that, there be a childproof lid on your melatonin bottle. So, there's this problem I think in medicine. I think of it, the "gummification" of medicine.
\[00:24:27\] Like no kid is dying to drink a bunch of amoxicillin
\[00:24:31\] something that is packaged as candy, looks like candy comes in a fun purple bottle. There's a risk there of your child getting into it. a a, a study that came about from the CDC, in.
\[00:24:44\] I believe it was a 2022 show that there had been a 530% increase in calls to poison control centers over melatonin with a marked uptick during the pandemic when kids were sleeping poorly. and actually there were some ICU stays and even a few deaths reported on this. \[00:25:00\] Now because this is, we don't, you know, we don't really think of melatonin as something you can easily overdose on.
\[00:25:06\] So I don't know anything about those other kids, those few kids that died. I know that they were young from this data. We don't know if they had other medical conditions. We know what, don't know what the magnitude of the overdose was, but it's not zero, right? Like your kid
\[00:25:19\] could up in the emergency room or the hospital.
\[00:25:21\] the other group of kids that are overdosing, this are on teenagers who are making, suicidal attempts or gestures. they may take it with other medications. So again, like all medication, whether or not it's a supplement, parents: have control of it. Keep it someplace safe. Do not let your kid have access to it.
\[00:25:39\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Mm, mm-hmm. I did see that CDC study,
\[00:25:43\] a few years ago, and I was just blown away.
\[00:25:47\] **Craig Canapari MD:** couple other issues I wanna highlight with melatonin specifically in the United States, because this is regulated as a food supplement, it is not subject to the same level of scrutiny that, like, say a generic form \[00:26:00\] of ibuprofen would be. There was one study looking at over the counter melatonin prescriptions and found that compared with a dose on the label, the actual dose that was in the medication was between negative 83 to 478% of the label dose.
\[00:26:17\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** oh my Lord,
\[00:26:18\] So like if you were giving your kid a one milligram gummy, they might be getting a 0.25 milligram gummy. They might be getting a five milligram gummy this is another reason to start low. Go slowly and increasing your dose. 'cause we really, you know, it's poor quality. in the UK they have some wonderful preparations that we know work.
\[00:26:36\] **Craig Canapari MD:** There's some that come on quickly that are very, you know, it's a pharmaceutical there. We have long-acting metaform that seem to work well in autism. The long-acting forms in the US really don't seem to be that helpful because they're not, we don't know anything about the delivery system. It's not tested like a pharmaceutical.
\[00:26:55\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** As a physician, our, are \[00:27:00\] there specific brands that you would recommend?
\[00:27:04\] **Craig Canapari MD:** I'm a little reluctant to get into that,
\[00:27:06\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yeah, I agree.
\[00:27:07\] **Craig Canapari MD:** anything. I mean, you can look for like NSP certification, that's a third party certifying program. If there's third party certification, it's a little bit better. Your drugstore brands are actually usually pretty good.
\[00:27:18\] Another issue for parents to be aware of, and this is true, we'll get into magnesium as well. Parents will come in the office, they have no idea how much melatonin they're giving their kids.
\[00:27:28\] Because I'll always ask if parents say, I tried melatonin. I don't know why it didn't work. My first question is, what was the dose and what time did you give it?
\[00:27:37\] And parents will say, oh, I gave them three milliliters. Or I gave them a gummy. Well, you could get a half a milligram gummy, you could get a 10 milligram gummy. three milliliters of what? So I'd say to parents, look on the label. Look at the number of milligrams. That's the number that you need to know.
\[00:27:54\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yeah.
\[00:27:55\] **Craig Canapari MD:** companies that are responsible tend to have the melatonin gummies we get for my kid. Again, I'm not \[00:28:00\] gonna endorse anybody. Two gummies is like two milligrams, right? It's one milligram per gummy. Honestly, I take a little melatonin at night. It helps me fall asleep. I take a half a milligram.
\[00:28:09\] It's great. there are like 20 milligram gummies out there. it's nuts.
\[00:28:12\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** 20
\[00:28:13\] **Craig Canapari MD:**
\[00:28:13\] Yeah, it's great. It's crazy. so those are the things I wanted to share about melatonin, but, what other questions do you have or other thoughts you have based on what you've seen?
\[00:28:24\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** I feel like anytime I see melatonin as the first course of action, it makes me cringe, it is so much easier. I. To say, give a gummy then to change habits and enforce habits, because children don't like to do that. They like to take a piece of candy. but they don't necessarily like the way you're doing the bedtime routine or what time it's going to happen or how you're addressing any middle of the night wakings if you change that, if perhaps they are used to you coming into their room \[00:29:00\] and sleeping in their room or bringing them into bed,
\[00:29:02\] The family's struggling here, take a whatever dose of melatonin. So that's, those are my only thoughts. I don't feel like people are, I think people are sometimes ashamed and so they aren't forthright about saying, yeah, I've been using melatonin with my 4-year-old. sometimes they are, but in many cases I feel like they probably did try it, and it didn't work well. so the more you can educate, the more we can talk about it, the better. Because I just want parents to be informed about what they're putting in their child's body, rather than just, you know, grabbing something off the shelf.
\[00:29:37\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Well, and I wouldn't say to anyone listening to this, if you're giving your kid melatonin, you don't have to freak out, right? generally we have found that for people that are taking it as far as we can tell, seems to be reasonably safe. That being said, ask yourself, does your child really still need it?
\[00:29:55\] are there other changes you can make to make them less dependent on it? are there \[00:30:00\] issues that you might not be addressing that are, you're addressing with this, like anxiety or something like that? so again, if you're listening to this, don't freak out, but maybe ask your pediatrician about, make sure that they know.
\[00:30:15\] and you know, even for our kids that we have taking melatonin long term, we often will do, you know, what's called a drug holiday. So usually over like summer break or something like that. If they're in school with the stakes are kind of low, let's say stop it for a couple of days, see what happens.
\[00:30:32\] You know, like, and a lot of parents are pleasantly surprised that it doesn't really matter once they, once they stop it, or if their kid was falling asleep at seven 30 on their melatonin and they take away their melatonin, they're, they're going to bed at one in the morning. And I have patients like this.
\[00:30:50\] You can feel pretty good about the fact that your child actually needs it. They're deriving a real benefit from it, right? If you stop it and they're like a little bit more \[00:31:00\] annoying and whining at bedtime, but then in a couple of days it's back to what it was then, you know what? Save the money.
\[00:31:06\] This stuff isn't cheap.
\[00:31:07\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Right. I think maybe the answer is more, have a conversation with your pediatrician. It's not necessarily, don't freak out, don't panic, but, you know, have a discussion with your pediatrician so that everyone's on board dosage is being looked at, and things like that.
\[00:31:24\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Yeah, absolutely. Well, shall we move on to the new kid on the block? the new hotness magnesium?
\[00:31:35\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** magnesium.
\[00:31:36\] **Craig Canapari MD:** I always like to look in Google Trends and sort of see when things are. Popular,
\[00:31:42\] and this really started to uptick in early 2022,
\[00:31:47\] in terms of searches for magnesium, for sleep.
\[00:31:50\] I could not figure out what kicked this off it's sort of like gradually increasing, compared to melatonin and theanine, which we're not gonna get into today. \[00:32:00\] But another supplement is commonly marketed for sleep. magnesium in the last couple of years, there's quite a bit of interest in it.
\[00:32:07\] I see that reflected in what people ask me about. I take a little magnesium glycinate for me. I sleep better. I'm gonna do an article in the supplements that I take for sleep and Oura ring data with and without it to show you the diligence that I've done.
\[00:32:20\] But, you know, I'm not sure what's driving this other than the fact that people are stressed in it and not sleeping well.
\[00:32:26\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** I mean, I think you had a good point about, oh, the overdoses of, of, melatonin and that study coming out in 2022, which we were still sort of in the Covid era there. I think children did struggle a lot with sleep. Parents struggled with, everybody struggled with sleep over covid. and I think what I see sometimes too now is what can I, what supplements can I give my kids that aren't melatonin to \[00:33:00\] help them sleep?
\[00:33:01\] I also feel as though marketers marketing. People who are creating new products picked up on the fact that parents were starting to feel a little uneasy about melatonin. As much as I still see it, I still am. I'm starting to see more of a trend of what else can I give my kid? and I would say in the past couple of years is when I've seen this uptick in magnesium. Now, like you said, for yourself, I actually discovered magnesium glycinate when Ashley was like 10 months old and my acupuncturist recommended it for, milk supply actually. 'cause she was getting older and I was working and I remember I took it and I had the best night of sleep I'd had since I'd had her. And I, I texted her in the morning, I said, is this supposed to help sleep too? And she said, yes. Did you sleep well? And I said yes. So I have taken it sporadically \[00:34:00\] over the last 10 years. It has worked. I feel like it's worked well. Perhaps it's, you know, in my head. But, I'm so interested in, you know, talking about what you've found out in your research.
\[00:34:14\] **Craig Canapari MD:** This is one of those things I meant to look at for a while. And then I started looking and it kept becoming more and more complicated. 'cause I don't, you know, honestly, you know, it's, it's, most of the time the people think about magnesium or either endocrinologists or renal specialists, kidney specialists, in my world.
\[00:34:34\] So it's, it's, you know, magnesium, it, it is number 12 on the periodic table for the chemistry nerds and the audience. usually when you are taking it, you're taking, essentially you're getting the cation of it, sort of the positive ion for it. and magnesium is actually involved in 80% of the enzymatic functioning in the body.
\[00:34:54\] So this is. It's a hugely important mineral for the way that we \[00:35:00\] function. Clearly, if someone waved their magic wand and hoovered all of the, magnesium out of your body, you would be dead. if someone took away all your, all your melatonin, you, you wouldn't sleep that night. So like
\[00:35:12\] in the hierarchy of stuff Yeah, it's, it's kind of important, right?
\[00:35:16\] And it has a lot to do with the effects of muscle relaxation. there's an interesting table that I put in my article on this that is sort of looking at the, the, re the overlap in symptoms between magnesium deficiency and the symptoms of stress. So top symptoms of magnesium deficiency, tiredness, irritability, anxiety, muscle weakness, top reported symptoms of stress, fatigue, irritability, feeling nervous, lack of energy.
\[00:35:48\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Sounds like being a 43-year-old woman.
\[00:35:50\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Yeah, it sounds like being a citizen of America. specifically in the realm of sleep. it does a couple of things that are interesting. It stimulates \[00:36:00\] GABA receptors. GABA is a neurotransmitter that's associated with relaxation and sleep.
\[00:36:04\] it is actually important in the production and release of melatonin from the pineal glands. So it may actually be a little bit upstream of melatonin release and it mediates the stress response. So if you have less magnesium than you need, you're gonna feel more stressed. interesting stuff, right?
\[00:36:19\] Like in a lot of people with, anxiety or stress, struggle to sleep. So I thought that was actually a compelling relationship to look at, especially. We found that magnesium deficiency is actually thought to be incredibly common in the population at large. And, I was really surprised by this.
\[00:36:39\] let me jump ahead and say it's actually very difficult to diagnose magnesium deficiency per se. And the reason is, is because it is so important in your body, your, the level of magnesium you have in your blood. If we do a blood test to measure your magnesium, it is almost always gonna be normal for two \[00:37:00\] reasons.
\[00:37:00\] First of all, the vast majority of your magnesium is in your bones, in your muscles, in your brain tissue. So that does, it's not moving in and outta the bloodstream. And second of all, because it's so important, the, it's really closely regulated in the body.
\[00:37:16\] The way that they've looked at magnesium deficiency in the population is they look at intake of dietary studies of what, what are people are logging, what they're eating. And a lot of people, like something like 70, 80% people are not getting enough magnesium in the diet. and there's, there's some two interesting reasons for this.
\[00:37:33\] I mean, first of all is that people don't have particularly healthy diets. So processed food, has a lot less magnesium than, say eating a, you know, a bunch of spinach, right? Versus a Reese's peanut butter cup. If you're drinking soda, it reduces magnesium absorption.
\[00:37:51\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Soda
\[00:37:52\] **Craig Canapari MD:** soda. I think soda specifically, what I saw. Maybe it's all the seltzer you're drinking, I don't know. In the last hundred \[00:38:00\] years, the amount of magnesium, calcium, and phosphorus in produce has gone on down substantially because of the way that we farm. there's a lot less magnesium in the food supply than there used to be,
\[00:38:13\] which is fascinating.
\[00:38:15\] and a little bit concerning too, right? Like,
\[00:38:17\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yeah.
\[00:38:18\] **Craig Canapari MD:** the, so, but I think we're, so, we're in a world where we have a lot of stress people, a lot of people in my world, they can't sleep, their children can't sleep, and a lot of reasons why people might not have as much magnesium in their bodies as they would for to function as well as they wanted, right?
\[00:38:40\] So, like, it seems like a setup for a good idea that taking magnesium might be a great idea. So. Here's the problem. There are probably around 20 studies looking at magnesium supplementation for sleep. In adults, about seven or eight of these \[00:39:00\] studies were fairly compelling. They were in elderly people and they showed that magnesium helped with sleep onset latency, which is time to fall asleep, nighttime awakenings, and total time sleeping.
\[00:39:12\] There was one study from 2002 where they actually gave elderly adults magnesium and they had more slow wave sleep.
\[00:39:19\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Hmm.
\[00:39:20\] **Craig Canapari MD:** ask me how many studies of magnesium kids have been performed.
\[00:39:24\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** How many studies of magnesium and kids have been performed?
\[00:39:28\] **Craig Canapari MD:** One that was in infants in the nicu and this was really giving them as part of their
\[00:39:35\] food, and it showed that they had more quiet sleep, which is the analogous thing to slow wave sleep, which is active sleep. It was like 15 infants. there have been studies that looked at this indirectly, specifically kids with ADHD or autism where magnesium has helped with daytime functioning, but those authors didn't look at sleep.
\[00:39:54\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Hmm.
\[00:39:54\] **Craig Canapari MD:** it's hard to recommend magnesium in children where we don't have any evidence that really \[00:40:00\] helps with sleep. So we have a situation which I would say has biological plausibility, right? A lot of people don't have enough magnesium. That likely includes children as well. that low magnesium can be associated with sleep problems and having enough magnesium helps with sleep.
\[00:40:19\] But we haven't made that final step to say giving magnesium seems to help with sleep. Whereas in melatonin, we actually have a lot of studies that it actually helps with sleep, right? So like, it's not that it couldn't help and it does potentially help in some kids. And we'll talk about who might be more likely to benefit.
\[00:40:38\] It's hard to recommend it when we don't have any evidence.
\[00:40:41\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** it's interesting that the studies that you found to be viable were all in elderly. because I feel like people my age and your age, you know, young people, talk about using magnesium glycinate and other things like that, to help them with \[00:41:00\] sleep. So. I'm wondering where the, you know, if it's popular right now or becoming popular in the pediatric world and, and parents, of a certain age, why, why is, you know, is it just that they, you know, it's not worth studying or, you know, where, what was the lack of, of
\[00:41:24\] scientific,
\[00:41:25\] **Craig Canapari MD:** here, here we get into the problem of. Pharmaceutical trials, first of all, in the world of pediatrics is very common for drugs to be tested in adults versus kids. The adult market's a lot bigger. Most children don't need any medications, right? Like they're, most children are healthy or they take one medication.
\[00:41:43\] A lot of elderly adults are taking a ton of drugs, right? Like, so they have a lot more health problems. the other problem is how do you make money on it, right? Like, so a, a well powered pharmaceutical trial costs hundreds of millions of dollars \[00:42:00\] for something that is already available at low cost.
\[00:42:05\] Who's gonna pay for that study?
\[00:42:07\] maybe I'd say before you know, January, January 20th. NIH don't know. but like, you know, there's not a lot of wood behind the arrow with this. Uh, but it's very common for us to use. Because I'm a specialist, I deal with kids with complicated medical problems who don't have easy solutions.
\[00:42:28\] We're often using drugs where we call them being off-label. They don't have pediatric evidence, but we need to do something.
\[00:42:35\] I think the main problem is the financial one.
\[00:42:37\] going back to melatonin, these wonderful preparations, and they have in the UK for, to help with autism, for that to get approved by the FDA as a pharmaceutical would literally require an act of Congress to say that melatonin is a pharmaceutical, it is no longer a supplement.
\[00:42:56\] And that it seems pretty unlikely right now.
\[00:42:59\] so it's not gonna \[00:43:00\] be for sale here 'cause there's no money in it.
\[00:43:01\] Yeah. That being said, there are some conditions in kids which are clearly associated with low magnesium. And if I saw a patient with these issues, I might actually be more likely to consider magnesium because I know that these kids are more likely to have low magnesium. Again, highlighting the fact that it's actually difficult to measure magnesium without using like radiotracer studies where you're measuring it in the muscle, in the bone.
\[00:43:29\] Blood tests aren't particularly useful. those conditions are type one diabetes and celiac, Or kids on a gluten-free diet, first of all, parents, if your kid doesn't have celiac, don't put them on a gluten-free diet 'cause it has downstream effects. which is a thing that I see that happens actually obesity common, maybe associated with low magnesium and picky eaters.
\[00:43:49\] And I, when I think of picky eaters, I often think of my patients with autism who have very, restricted diets.
\[00:43:57\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Sensory issue type diets, like they don't \[00:44:00\] wanna eat specific things.
\[00:44:02\] **Craig Canapari MD:** I had, one young man I cared for who literally ate flurries and french fries for McDonald's.
\[00:44:08\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Sounds good.
\[00:44:09\] **Craig Canapari MD:** so yes, delicious, but like, you know, you don't want to have the whole basis of your diet. and, you know, that was a real hardship for his family.
\[00:44:17\] I, and I think that I would definitely, if if someone with type one diabetes or a picky eater was having difficulty, I might consider a magnesium supplement in those patients.
\[00:44:29\] and I mean, here's the thing about magnesium is if you take too much of it, you're just gonna pee it out. You eliminate it through your kidneys. So as long as you, you don't have kidney disease, it's a little bit hard to overdose on. It could not find any poison control data about magnesium overdose like we have with melatonin.
\[00:44:47\] Doesn't mean it's not there, but. It doesn't seem to be as big a problem. the other thing is that there's, only one case report of a child that died from excess magnesium. \[00:45:00\] And this was a child with cerebral palsy. The parents were doing all these mega doses of vitamin,
\[00:45:04\] typical magnesium glycinate, like you might take, might have like 90 milligrams of magnesium. So like, you'd have to go out of your way to do that. that being said, for most parents, and most parents are like, oh, I would like my kid to have more magnesium. See if it helps with their issues. I would say make some dietary changes.
\[00:45:22\] I'll actually post in the, show notes. The NIH has a wonderful, worksheet that, and also in a article I wrote on this, with high magnesium foods, I'd say beans, green leafy vegetables, and guess what the number one magnesium containing food is.
\[00:45:37\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** No idea.
\[00:45:39\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Pumpkin seeds,
\[00:45:40\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** of course.
\[00:45:41\] **Craig Canapari MD:** pumpkin seeds. So seed the nuts actually have a lot of these trace minerals. So if you could, again, in little kids, you don't want to give them nuts 'cause there's a choking
\[00:45:53\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yeah.
\[00:45:53\] **Craig Canapari MD:** You could try nut butters like almond butters, something like that. In older kids who are old enough to safely chew this stuff, \[00:46:00\] you know, pumpkin seeds are nuts, may be helpful.
\[00:46:02\] So I'd say for most parents, making dietary changes is gonna have some other downstream benefits. In terms of magnesium supplements, actually when I was writing this, the, again, the NIH came through because they have this wonderful sheet by age on what the dose max dose bias supplementation should be.
\[00:46:21\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Awesome.
\[00:46:22\] **Craig Canapari MD:**
\[00:46:23\] so for parents, I would say that. First of all, I would try dietary changes first. Second of all, I'd say that this is not magic, right? We don't know if this helps or not. Dietary changes, likely they have more benefits, but if you're really struggling with this, you could try this. But I would ask that with any change that you make, again, also make behavioral changes and track your child's sleep and see if it actually helps.
\[00:46:51\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Because the fact is, these things cost money and a lot of these supplements are quite expensive. And I sort of \[00:47:00\] feel like there's a lot of chicanery out there. when I was looking at the number of magnesium and sleep gummies on Amazon, I was a little bit shocked, honestly, at how many products are market there.
\[00:47:08\] And they usually don't just have, it's not just magnesium. It's like a, like a little chamomile, a little this, a little that, you know, like it's all I.
\[00:47:18\] How do you know you have any of that stuff is even in there unless you have like a mass spectrometer in your house, you have no idea what's actually in that stuff.
\[00:47:25\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** yeah.
\[00:47:25\] **Craig Canapari MD:**
\[00:47:25\] So, Arielle, let's talk about your favorite topic, the thing you recommend to all your clients.
\[00:47:31\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** I sent it to them, didn't, you know,
\[00:47:34\] as soon as they, as soon
\[00:47:35\] **Craig Canapari MD:** company, magnesium lotions and sprays.com.
\[00:47:39\]
\[00:47:39\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** well, I
\[00:47:40\] **Craig Canapari MD:** I don't see this, so I wanna hear from you what you're seeing out there
\[00:47:43\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** yeah.
\[00:47:44\] **Craig Canapari MD:** in the streets.
\[00:47:45\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** and out in the streets, you know, like I said, I feel like a lot of parents are saying, what can I do aside from melatonin? And so, what I'm seeing, and some people are, you know, they don't wanna give a gummy or something like \[00:48:00\] that. So I see lots of people talking about lotions and creams, and I even saw someone who said she makes her own. magnesium lotion,
\[00:48:17\] I am trying to figure out how that is even a thing. And how do you make it, do you crush up the magnesium and put it in lotion? here's someone we try to lo a roller recently.
\[00:48:31\]
\[00:48:31\] **Craig Canapari MD:** a roller, like a lint roller. Like
\[00:48:34\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** probably like a, you know, almost like a perfume roller or a, a,
\[00:48:38\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Oh yeah.
\[00:48:38\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yeah. Yeah. I used mag, so I'm looking at what I've, what I've seen. I used magnesium lotion and spray. I bought the magnesium spray from X and use it on my son's feet every night.
\[00:48:53\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Stuff is wild.
\[00:48:54\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** yeah, there's, there's a whole, yeah. Someone swears by the lotion on the feet. \[00:49:00\] I find magnesium cream on my toddler's feet really helps. So I'm really curious about, you know, how does it really help?
\[00:49:11\] **Craig Canapari MD:** I looked into this, there's no studies, to support this practice. and again, like, I don't want, I feel like I'm punching down a little bit here, but like, yeah, this is like obviously BS, right? so I think there's three issues here. First of all, there's little to no evidence that magnesium helps.
\[00:49:31\] Anyway. Again, we talked about the fact that it might help some people. This is not an evidence-based practice at this time. Second of all, the way you absorb magnesium is through the gut, not the skin. So like, imagine like if you're like, oh, I need more sodium and chloride in my body, I'm gonna go for a swim.
\[00:49:50\] Does your body get filled up with salt when you go in the ocean? No, because your skin is impermeable to ions. Magnesium, \[00:50:00\] sodium chloride, it cannot pass through your skin. Your skin is a barrier, right? So there's no way it's actually getting into the body. Interestingly, when I, in my research, I did come across a trial looking at Epsom salt baths for which do increase magnesium.
\[00:50:17\] The way that they do that is probably being through, absorbed through the anus and rectum. So
\[00:50:25\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Oh wow.
\[00:50:26\] **Craig Canapari MD:** a practice I would, I, I would recommend in a child for the simple reason. Is that like, how much dose are they getting? I don't know. You know, or if you put like a cream or a lotion on your kid, how do you know that they're not eating it right?
\[00:50:38\] Like, and then what's the dose? Right? like my friend's dog just had to have her leg cut off and they're like, yeah, she has to wear the cone 'cause she's got a fentanyl patch on. 'cause they don't want her to eat it, right?
\[00:50:48\] if your child has a medication on that has a me what's purportedly a medicine in it?
\[00:50:53\] They might eat it, right? I don't know, I guess you put footy pajamas on, but guys save your money. Like this is just \[00:51:00\] like,
\[00:51:00\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** I,
\[00:51:01\] **Craig Canapari MD:** again, like the placebo effects does work, right? Sometimes doing something is better than doing nothing and it gives you a sense of power. But like, this stuff is not cheap.
\[00:51:11\] And this is the sort of thing that makes me angry.
\[00:51:14\] you know, when I look on Google and the top eight search results for magnesium, sleep of kids are like lotions. It's bananas.
\[00:51:21\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):**
\[00:51:22\] Marketing preying on tired parents, and they know that they're going towards parents who want natural remedies and perhaps trying to stay away from melatonin or the market of children who are too young for melatonin. So let's try this. it's just, you know, there's such a huge market out there for things that are going to help a normally developing child's sleep when in actuality, they really don't.
\[00:51:55\] **Craig Canapari MD:** I mean, let's be real. The reason these things exist is 'cause this is a hard problem. \[00:52:00\] If your child won't sleep, you're stressed. life is difficult, right? Parents don't have supports like they did a couple of generations ago. That being said. Parents, you've got a certain amount of money and a certain amount of time, spend it on things that actually have evidence for them.
\[00:52:18\] What pediatricians do know a lot about is kids and how to help kids. And I think that's, you know, again, don't think about these natural supplements or tools as having no side effects.
\[00:52:31\] Because the fact is there's nothing that works, that has no side effects, right? Like, if you wanna think about it as being as powerful as a medicine, you have to think about it having side effects as well. You know, we see what, I don't know, readers my age will remember Fen-fen, right? The, weight loss supplement that was very popular in the nineties.
\[00:52:53\] Everybody was taking it. They were losing their like weight. Like crazy was great, but then a lot of people were getting cardiomyopathy and dying, so that came off the market. not \[00:53:00\] that military and magnesium is gonna kill your kid, but like, you know, honestly, you gotta think about everything you're doing just because it's natural or a supplement subjected to the same amount of scrutiny that you would anything else.
\[00:53:17\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yeah, and just because it's on the store shelves doesn't mean it's necessarily safe or effective.
\[00:53:23\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Or they have a beautiful website, or there's a great Instagram account. again, we're all, I bought stuff on Instagram. I'm not perfect. Marketing works right.
\[00:53:32\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yeah.
\[00:53:33\] **Craig Canapari MD:** So listen, I think we're kind of at the end here, but there's a couple of things I wanted to highlight, which is if you're considering magnesium or melatonin, talk to your pediatrician.
\[00:53:41\] If you're trying these things. start low and slowly increase the dose over time. Generally, and I'm talking kids three and up, for gummy medications specifically, keep them someplace safe. And gummies are a choking hazard, really for a gummy, I'd say like a five or 6-year-old at the youngest, right?
\[00:53:59\] they should take it under \[00:54:00\] supervision. Some nights are a little bit better than every night, right? Like in terms of reducing your perception that you need it. any supplements you use make some behavior changes to go with it.
\[00:54:12\] This is your opportunity. And with melatonin, remember the dose timing matters. you gotta fiddle around with it. Sometimes a little bit earlier even will be more helpful. We've got a lot of great stuff. We're gonna put in the show notes on this. I think on YouTube for this too, I have a lot of graphics I can put up which might be helpful for people.
\[00:54:29\] And I'll link to that video on how the timing of melatonin matters. so that's what I've got. Arielle, what you got?
\[00:54:37\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** I am just really glad we dug into this, or I should say you dug into this. because, you know, again, there's so much misinformation out there. So as long as we're, sharing the truth and evidence and, educating people, I'm feeling really good about that. And hopefully we can at least reach a few people, so
\[00:54:59\] that they \[00:55:00\] don't waste their money.
\[00:55:01\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Honestly, like, again, if you tried these things, parents, you haven't harmed your kids, but like, you know, just be careful out there. there are a lot of evidence-based. treatments for sleep problems. it's probably worth more, you know, worth thinking about. what's our email again? 'cause I can never remember it.
\[00:55:18\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** The Sleep edit show@gmail.com.
\[00:55:23\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Are you sure?
\[00:55:25\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Yes.
\[00:55:26\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Okay.
\[00:55:27\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Now you're making me second guess,
\[00:55:29\]
\[00:55:30\] **Craig Canapari MD:** that's our email address forever. Okay guys, well, thanks for listening and, if you find this useful, share it with your friends.
\[00:55:36\] **Arielle Greenleaf (2):** Thanks so much.
\[00:55:37\] **Craig Canapari MD:** Bye-bye.
\[00:55:39\]
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### Magnesium for Kids’ Sleep: Does It Really Work?
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/magnesium-for-kids-sleep/
Last updated: 2025-02-18T20:15:00.000Z
A few years ago, every parent bringing their child to see me in Sleep Clinic had already tried melatonin for their sleep issues. Although this is still the case, now many parents have already tried magnesium supplements as well. Magnesium-containing “sleep gummies” are popping up online and in the drugstore. So I wanted to set out and see what was going on.
In a nutshell, I was surprised by what I found. In summary:
✔️ Magnesium plays a big role in sleep and relaxation
✔️ Magnesium deficiency is surprisingly common
✔️ Some studies show it helps adults sleep better
❌ But the evidence in kids? Pretty weak.
## Why are people becoming more interested in magnesium for sleep?
A [review of Google Trends data](https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all\&geo=US\&q=magnesium%20for%20sleep,melatonin%20for%20sleep,theanine%20for%20sleep\&hl=en&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) shows an increase in searches for “magnesium for sleep” (in blue) compared with “melatonin for sleep” in red and “theanine for sleep” (another common supplement) in yellow.

Overall, people are becoming more and more interested in the use of “natural” supplements to treat common issues such as insomnia, as evidenced by the booming market in [melatonin supplementation for children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/) (and the marked rise in [melatonin overdoses in children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-overdoses-are-on-the-rise-why-parents-should-worry/)).
On the face of it, magnesium is pretty appealing— it’s a mineral, not a hormone like melatonin. You can easily get it from food or from a variety of over-the-counter preparations. But does it help sleep? Does it help sleep in children? Read on to find out.
## What is Magnesium and Why is it Important?
Magnesium is an element that is critical to the functioning of 80% of the enzymatic (chemical) reactions in the body and is crucial for the functioning of multiple body systems.
For the chemistry nerds out there, [it is #12 on the periodic table and is named after Magnesia, part of Eastern Thessaly in Greece](https://www.rsc.org/periodic-table/element/12/magnesium?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
For the purposes of sleep, magnesium seems to be involved in mediating the stress response. Look at this table comparing the effects of chronic stress and magnesium deficiency:

From [Pickering 2020](https://www.mdpi.com/2072-6643/12/12/3672?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
What is striking to me about this table is that low magnesium seems to correlate quite closely with stress symptoms.
## Why is Magnesium Deficiency Becoming More Common?
Recent studies estimate that a large proportion of the population is magnesium deficient. These studies compare dietary intake of magnesium with the recommended daily allowance (RDA). However, these are population-based studies and do not determine whether a specific individual (be it you, your child, or your mailman) is magnesium deficient. Unfortunately, diagnosing magnesium deficiency is challenging.
There are a few reasons why magnesium deficiency is increasing over time.
The first is that, due to changes in farming and depletion of magnesium in the soil, the amount of magnesium in produce is decreasing over time:

From Workinger, J.L., Doyle, Robert.P., Bortz, J., 2018\. Challenges in the Diagnosis of Magnesium Status. Nutrients 10, 1202\. [https://doi.org/10.3390/nu10091202](https://doi.org/10.3390/nu10091202?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
The second is the rise in processed food intake. Processed food is less likely to have magnesium in it. Also, sodas in particularly contain compounds which make it harder for the body to absorb magnesium from food. Multiple studies have demonstrated that daily magnesium intake is less than required for optimal health.
## How to tell if your child is low in magnesium
Magnesium deficiency is rarer in children than adults but it still can occur in some specific conditions:
- Medical conditions
- Type 1 Diabetes
- [Celiac disease (or in children being fed a gluten free diet)](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6683263/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- **Obesity**
- Diarrhea
- **Picky eaters (specifically with low vegetable or high processed food intake**
In the list above, I’m highlighting both children who are picky eaters, and children who are obese. Both of these issues are fairly common.
SEVERE magnesium deficiency (with a low blood level of magnesium) as well is a medical emergency. ([Here is a good review on magnesium deficiency](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11557730/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)). It can present with
- Muscle spasms
- Seizures
- Abnormal heart rhythms
- Low calcium and potassium levels
- Hormonal changes
Interesting, chronic sleep deprivation itself can reduce the amount of magnesium in the blood [(Tanabe 2009)](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6655760/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
**The problem is that magnesium deficiency is difficult to diagnose. Your body usually keeps the blood levels of magnesium in the normal range even if there is deficiency in tissues such as muscles or bones. Thus, many adults and children may have low TOTAL body stores of magnesium but have a normal blood test.**
For a great review on magnesium deficiency and the difficult diagnosing it, I highly recommend this article by [Workinger et all on “Challenges in the Diagnosis Magnesium Status”,](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6163803/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) which is also in the citation list below.
## Does Magnesium Help With Sleep?
Magnesium seems to have a key role in the stimulation and regulation of sleep. See [Abbassi](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3703169/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) and [Durlach](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12030424/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) for details.
- Magnesium stimulates GABA receptors, which leads to increased sleep.
- Magnesium appears to be important in the production and release of melatonin from the pineal gland.
- Magnesium also mediates the stress response, as noted above.
### Evidence That Magnesium Helps with Sleep in Adults
- [A placebo-controlled, double-blind study of 46 elderly adults](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3703169/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) found that supplementation with 250 mg of elemental magnesium (414 mg of magnesium oxide) improved total sleep time, sleep efficiency, and reduced time to fall asleep and serum cortisol levels.
- [A randomized trial of 320 patients with diabetes and insomnia](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/endocrinology/articles/10.3389/fendo.2024.1370733/full?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) found that both magnesium (250 mg elemental Mg as gluconate) and potassium supplementation improved insomnia symptoms, including:
- Reduced sleep latency (time to fall asleep)
- Fewer early morning awakenings
- Decreased insomnia severity
- Increased serum melatonin
- Decreased serum cortisol
- A [small study of 20 elderly adults](https://www.thieme-connect.com/products/ejournals/abstract/10.1055/s-2002-33195?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) found that administering magnesium increased slow-wave sleep (deep sleep) on EEG.
### The evidence that magnesium helps children sleep is VERY limited
The evidence is certainly less robust in children. I could only find one study looking at this.
- A study of 14 health infants in 1980 showed that lower levels of magnesium were associated with less quiet sleep (analogous to slow wave sleep) and more active sleep (analogous to REM sleep. Infusing magnesium resulted in more quiet sleep. [Dralle, Bodeker](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF00441479?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- A small study of 40 children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder ([ADHD— which is commonly associated with sleep problems in children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/adhd-and-sleep-unraveling-the-connections/)), showed that [magnesium supplementation improved daytime attention and behavioral symptoms](https://drcraigcanapari.com/content/files/uploads%5Fcjmb%5F480.pdf). The authors did not look at sleep disorders in these patients but perhaps the effect of magnesium was due to an improvement in sleep.
**So, to summarize, there is no evidence that magnesium supplementation helps with children’s sleep.**
As with most children, if you are concerned with your child’s sleep, the solution is not to try a supplement. The solution is to work on a [high quality bedtime routine](https://drcraigcanapari.com/starting-a-bedtime-routine/) and perhaps [consider behavioral treatment aka sleep training.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
Since there is some limited data to suggest that magnesium can help with sleep, increasing magnesium in your child’s diet is a reasonable goal. **Some children may benefit from magnesium supplementation, but I would only consider this in selected situations. Read on for more.**
## Dietary Changes to Increase Magnesium Intake
Most magnesium intake should come from food. However, cooking and food processing can reduce magnesium levels. Boiling vegetables, for example, can leach magnesium into the cooking water, while refining grains removes magnesium-rich bran and germ. Choosing minimally processed, whole foods can help maintain optimal magnesium intake. Here are some of the best dietary sources of magnesium [(NIH Fact Sheet)](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/Magnesium-HealthProfessional/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com):
- Leafy green vegetables (e.g., spinach, kale)
- Nuts and seeds (e.g., almonds, pumpkin seeds)
- Whole grains (e.g., brown rice, quinoa)
- Dairy products

Complete table of high Magnesium Foods from [https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/Magnesium-HealthProfessional/](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/Magnesium-HealthProfessional/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
My take home is that pumpkin seeds, chia seeds, and almonds are the easiest way to increase magnesium intake.
## When Do Kids Need Magnesium Supplements for Sleep?
**Most kids shouldn’t need magnesium supplementation for sleep.** However, based on what I have reviewed above, I would consider a trial of magnesium supplements in children with:
- Conditions such as obesity, celiac disease, or type 1 diabetes
- Picky eating habits (especially children with autism who frequently have restricted diets)
- ADHD
I would generally not try magnesium in children less than age 3 without input and supervision from your pediatrician.
Any trial of a supplement would also need to be accompanied with a sleep plan, including a bedtime routine and set schedule with age appropriate bedtimes, wake times, and nap times.
## How to Dose Magnesium Supplements for Sleep
- **Avoid topical magnesium lotions, sprays, or creams**—there is no evidence that they are absorbed into the body. Here is my [complete review of the lack of evidence for magnesium lotions and sprays](https://drcraigcanapari.com/magnesium-sprays-and-lotions/).
- **Choose well-absorbed forms** such as magnesium citrate, glycinate, or threonate. Avoid poorly absorbed forms like magnesium carbonate, chloride, gluconate, and oxide. This is because these forms are poorly absorbed. Sometimes this is desirable— this is how some constipation medications such as Milk of Magnesia (which contains magnesium hydroxide) work.
- **Magnesium citrate, glycinate, and threonate are best.** Here is the maximum recommended intake FROM supplements by age, again from the NIH\\:Maximum Recommended Intake from Supplements (NIH)
| Age | Male | Female | Pregnant | Lactating |
| ----------- | ------ | ------ | -------- | --------- |
| 1–3 years | 65 mg | 65 mg | | |
| 4–8 years | 110 mg | 110 mg | | |
| 9–18 years | 350 mg | 350 mg | 350 mg | 350 mg |
| 19–30 years | 400 mg | 310 mg | 350 mg | 310 mg |
| 31–50 years | 420 mg | 320 mg | 360 mg | 320 mg |
| 51+ years | 420 mg | 320 mg | | |
Note that you have to look on the bottle to figure out how much magnesium you are getting. Here’s an example, where there is 85 mg of magnesium per gummy, as magnesium side effects:

## Magnesium Side Effects
Magnesium supplementation is generally safe, as excess magnesium is excreted by the kidneys. (Obviously, people with kidney disease should be careful and talk to a doctor or pharmacist).
However, side effects can include:
- **Diarrhea, nausea, and cramping** (more common with poorly absorbed forms such as magnesium carbonate, chloride, gluconate, and oxide)
- **Toxicity risk** (rare but possible with extremely high doses)
True magnesium toxicity is rare and associated with very high volume intake of excessive magnesium. A [case report from 2000](https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article-abstract/105/2/e18/62564/Fatal-Hypermagnesemia-in-a-Child-Treated-With?redirectedFrom=fulltext&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) described a child with cerebral palsy who experienced cardiac arrest and death after several days on 2400 mg of magnesium oxide.
I could not find any publications related to an uptick in ED visits or poison control calls similar to what we have seen in melatonin the last few years,[ unlike the robust data we have in the rise in melatonin overdoses.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-overdoses-are-on-the-rise-why-parents-should-worry/)
## Closing Thoughts
When I set out to write this article, I thought that this would be more straightforward. I already knew that there was little to no evidence for magnesium supplementation as a sleep aid in children. However, the data about magnesium deficiency surprised me, suggesting that there may be a benefit in some children.
I should add that I’ve found it very helpful in rare patients, and that I personally have found magnesium glycinate to be helpful for my own sleep.
## Summary:
- Magnesium supplements should be considered for children only in specific cases, such as those with dietary restrictions or medical conditions. Any supplementation should be accompanied with a consistent bedtime routine and behavioral a behavioral plan to improve sleep.
- Magnesium deficiency is surprisingly common due to modern dietary habits and soil depletion.
- While magnesium plays a role in sleep regulation, evidence supporting supplementation for sleep improvement is limited, especially in children.
- Some studies suggest magnesium supplementation can help with sleep in adults, but the data in children is sparse.
- Most people, including children, should aim to get magnesium from whole foods rather than supplements.
## Leave any questions you have about magnesium supplementation and sleep in the comments!
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### #11: Navigating Holiday Sleep Challenges: Tips for Parents
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/11-navigating-holiday-sleep-challenges-tips-for-parents/
Last updated: 2024-12-04T19:55:51.000Z
Holidays can be a time of joy, family, and fun—but they can also throw a wrench into your child’s sleep routine. Whether it’s late-night celebrations, travel to visit relatives, or adjusting to time zone changes, holiday sleep disruptions are a challenge for many parents. But don’t worry—we’ve got you covered.
In this episode of *The Sleep Edit*, Arielle Greenleaf and Dr. Craig Canapari discuss practical strategies for navigating holiday sleep challenges for children of all ages. From tips for maintaining flexibility while traveling, to handling sugar-fueled energy spikes and keeping routines intact, this conversation is packed with actionable advice to help your family enjoy the season while staying (relatively) well-rested. They’ll even share some pro tips, like the ultimate New Year’s Eve bedtime trick you won’t want to miss.
Remember: holiday sleep doesn’t have to be perfect—it just has to work for you and your family. So, give yourself some grace, enjoy the cookies, and focus on the quality of your time together.
## Links
- [Dr. Canapari's guide to Vacation "Sleep"](https://drcraigcanapari.com/vacation-sleep/)
- [Dr. Canapari's guide to sleep and holiday travel](https://drcraigcanapari.com/holiday-travel-sleep-guide/)
- Studies on sugar consumption and sleep
- [Study of 287 children ages 8-12 showing no association between sugar and sleep or behavioral change](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/09637486.2017.1386628?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Study of 2600 children aged 6-12 showing that [more sugar consumption was associated with decreased sleep duration](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/nutrition/articles/10.3389/fnut.2022.847704/full?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Metanalysis of studies of young children 0-5 showing[ worse diet and higher sugar intake were associated with lower sleep quality](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1087079219301996?via%3Dihub&ref=drcraigcanapari.com#appsec1)
## Timestamps
- 00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer
- 01:13 Navigating Holiday Sleep Challenges
- 03:18 Travel Tips for Parents
- 06:04 Managing Sleep in Different Environments
- 13:30 Handling Naps and Bedtime During Holidays
- 22:19 Dealing with Food and Sugar
- 28:50 Final Tips and Holiday Wishes
- 30:53 Conclusion and Resources
**Connect with Us**! [Send us an email](mailto:thesleepedit@gmail.com) about questions, feedback, or ideas for future topics.
### Episode 10: Mailbag Episode
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-10-mailbag-episode/
Last updated: 2024-10-27T18:52:29.000Z
In this mailbag episode, Dr. Canapari and Arielle respond to listener questions covering infant sleep, early waking, transitioning from co-sleeping, travel disruptions, nighttime fears, sleep disorders, and more. From “first daylight savings” tips to strategies for toddlers with anxiety, each answer offers practical insights for a wide range of pediatric sleep challenges.
### Links
- [Daylight savings time: Avoiding problems when Falling Back](https://drcraigcanapari.com/daylight-savings-time-and-your-child-falling-back/)
- [Early morning awakenings: What to do about them](https://drcraigcanapari.com/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/)
- [How to stop night feedings](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/)
- [How to stop cosleeping](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/)
### **Chapters:**
**\[00:01:09\]** *Intro*
**\[00:01:14\]** *Infant Sleep Patterns and Challenges*
• *\[00:01:33\] Lauren:* When do babies start dreaming?
• *\[00:03:00\] Susan:* Tips for differentiating between waking to feed and needing sleep in a 5-month-old?
• *\[00:06:26\] Andrea:* How to sleep train at night when daycare sleep is limited?
• *\[00:08:07\] Chelsea:* Avoiding early wakings for a sleep-trained 6.5-month-old.
• *\[00:10:25\] Kaitlin:* Daylight savings time tips for a 7-month-old.
• *\[00:14:37\] Kayleigh:* Breaking the cycle of middle-of-the-night babbling and crying in a 9-month-old.
• *\[00:18:07\] Francia:* How to sleep train an 8-month-old.
**\[00:19:30\]** *Early Morning Waking and Sleep Regressions*
• *\[00:19:30\] Brittany:* How to handle nighttime wakings to maintain sleep progress.
• *\[00:21:34\] Chelsea:* Troubleshooting early morning wakings for a sleep-trained 6.5-month-old.
• *\[00:22:02\] Hunter:* Strategies for a 6- and 4-year-old who wake very early.
• *\[00:23:00\] Pauline:* Addressing early waking for kids with ASD who take melatonin.
**\[00:28:00\]** *Co-Sleeping and Sleep Transitions*
• *\[00:28:00\] Holly:* Transitioning a 2-year-old from co-sleeping to independent sleeping.
• *\[00:31:57\] Ashley:* Transitioning from co-sleeping with a 3-year-old for better parent comfort.
• *\[00:34:34\] Katy:* Encouraging a 3-year-old to stay in her own bed at night.
• *\[00:35:00\] Kimberly:* Addressing frequent night wakings and crying in a 3-year-old.
• *\[00:40:00\] Holly:* How to get a 3-year-old to stop using a parent as part of their sleep routine.
**\[00:42:20\]** *Travel and Disruptions in Routine*
• *\[00:42:20\] Abby:* Helping a 10-month-old sleep better while traveling.
**\[00:44:10\]** *Nighttime Anxiety and Sleep Fears*
• *\[00:44:10\] Andrea:* Supporting a 4-year-old who is afraid to sleep alone.
• *\[00:45:39\] Stephanie:* Determining when it’s necessary to help a 2-year-old fall back asleep.
• *\[00:46:59\] Lesley:* Strategies for helping a 7-year-old grandchild stay asleep until morning.
• *\[00:48:39\] Dr. Ula:* Assisting a 19-month-old who needs comfort to sleep through the night.
**\[00:51:00\]** *Sleep Disorders and Medical Concerns*
• *\[00:51:00\] Sarah:* Can REM Sleep Behavior Disorder lead to complex sleep actions like opening doors?
• *\[00:52:53\] Wenjing:* Tips for transitioning a 7-month-old with reflux to crib sleep.
**\[00:55:00\]** *Sleep Training Questions*
• *\[00:55:00\] Amelia, Juan, and Baby Tonio:* Ending bedtime crying after sleep training.
### Episode 9: Insomnia in Grown-Ups, with Dr. Shelby Harris
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-9-insomnia-in-grown-ups-with-dr-shelby-harris/
Last updated: 2024-08-28T17:01:38.000Z
In this episode of the Sleep Edit podcast, we welcome Dr. Shelby Harris, a leading expert in behavioral sleep medicine. Often, parents are struggling even after their kid's sleep problems are addressed. We talk about the common sleep challenges faced by parents focusing on the impact of stress, hormonal changes, and modern technology on sleep quality. Dr. Harris provides insights into the diagnosis and treatment of insomnia, emphasizing cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBTI) and its effectiveness over medication for long-term improvement. The conversation also explores the practicalities of sleep hygiene, sleep restriction, and the influence of consumer sleep tracking technologies.
## Links:
- [Dr. Harris’ website](https://www.drshelbyharris.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Dr. Harris' on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/sleepdocshelby/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [The Women's Guide to Overcoming Insomnia: Get a Good Night's Sleep Without Relying on Medication](https://amzn.to/4fAhsWS?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affilate link)
- [Room sharing recommendation in 2024](https://drcraigcanapari.com/is-room-sharing-infancy-necessary-for-safe-sleep/)
- [Directory of providers at the Society of Behavioral Sleep Medicine](https://www.behavioralsleep.org/index.php/united-states-sbsm-members?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [University of Pennsylvania CBT-i Provider Directory](https://www.med.upenn.edu/cbti/provder%5Fdirectory.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Orthosomnia](https://jcsm.aasm.org/doi/10.5664/jcsm.6472?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## Video
### The 10 Commandments of Good Sleep For New Parents
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-10-commandments-of-good-sleep-for-new-parents/
Last updated: 2026-03-01T22:14:52.000Z
Many parents are worried about their baby's sleep even before their child is born, and with good reason. It's tiring having a new baby, but having the best routine for your newborn is VERY HELPFUL. I don't recommend sleep training until your baby is between 4-6 months of age (although ["Le pause" sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/le-pause-avoiding-sleep-problems-and-why-you-wont-break-your-kids/) can be helpful after about two months of age). However, I do have ten rules that will help you set up the best sleep practices for your newborn. Think of these as a roadmap to successful sleep and avoiding common sleep pitfalls.
1. **The Best Time to Start a Bedtime Routine Is When You Bring Your Child Home from the Hospital** The second-best time is today. Children thrive on routine, as do parents. Newborns benefit as well, although the advantages are more for you in the first few weeks. Things feel chaotic when you bring your child home from the hospital, and a predictable bedtime routine helps anchor your day. But right now, I would suggest keeping it simple, as I’ll explain shortly.
2. **If You Breast-feed, Teach Your Child to Take a Bottle Once Nursing Is Established** Like most pediatricians, I’m a huge fan of breast-feeding. There are too many benefits for mother and child to list here. However, I’ve seen many families fall into the trap of Mom nursing exclusively for the first few months, with the result that the child refuses anything but the breast. This makes it difficult for the whole family, as other adults are sidelined and Mom is stuck putting the baby down every night and dealing with every nighttime feeding. It can also greatly complicate Mom’s return to work outside the home, if that is her plan. Once your milk supply is established, introduce a bottle, ideally given by your child’s other parent, or by another adult caregiver. The best time for this is likely around four to six weeks of age, when your milk supply is fully established. Likewise, don’t be shy about using a pacifier, even on day one. Despite claims to the contrary, they do not cause “nipple confusion” and keep babies from nursing. But they do help babies self-soothe and may reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome.
3. **Make Sure That Bedtime Is Simple Enough That One Grown-up Can Do It** When my first son came home from the hospital, my wife and I did bedtime every night together—which was lovely, but it was pretty elaborate in terms of the bath, lotion application, song, story, rocking, and nursing. My second son did not have such an elaborate process, because we had son #1 to deal with as well, and it still worked fine. Babies don’t need complex bedtimes. If bathtime feels overwhelming, do it at another time. Keep it simple: story, song, rocking, and put your baby down.
4. **Make Sure That All the Adults in the Household Participate in Bedtime** I’ve heard the same story from tired parents (often the nursing mother), over and over: “My husband \[or wife\] can’t put him down at night! Only I can do it.” Like when only the mother can feed the baby, this is a recipe for maternal burnout. Every parent or other caregiver should feel comfortable doing the bedtime routine and putting the child down at an early age. If you as the primary caregiver already feel stuck in this situation, you need to go out with friends for the evening. I promise you that Dad will figure it out. And don’t be afraid to get a babysitter. Obviously, you will be nervous. If you can, start with a grandparent the first few times you go out.
5. **Put Your Child to Bed Drowsy but Awake, Starting Around Three to Four Months** Try it out, both at bedtime and for naps. If it is a disaster the first time, pick your child up and try again in a week or two. Don’t be afraid to let your child fuss a bit; this is natural. Hysterical screaming is another story at this age, however—this means that your child probably still needs you to help her fall asleep. You can try again in a week or so.
6. **Don’t Sprint into Your Child’s Room at Night at the First Sound of Wakefulness** I remember hustling into my son’s room at the slightest sound so that I could stuff the binky in his mouth and perhaps get back to sleep quickly. This led to him waking up more and more for the contact with me. [Channel the French parent](https://drcraigcanapari.com/le-pause-avoiding-sleep-problems-and-why-you-wont-break-your-kids/) and remember that the random cry, burp, fart, or snort does not demand immediate attention. After the first few months, it’s a great idea to let your child fuss a bit before you go in. Often these brief awakenings will self-resolve.
7. **Don’t Obsess over the Monitor** I can’t believe the amount of technology being hawked to anxious parents these days. Babies’ bedrooms are monitored to a degree that would astound a Cold War spymaster—temperature, movement, sound, ambient light levels, heart rate, and so on. I think that the majority of this technology is cumbersome, expensive, and unnecessary. Human infants have thrived for thousands of years without video monitors. Sure, you should be able to hear your child if she is distressed, but you don’t need multi-sensor surveillance for this. Save the money and get an audio monitor.
8. **Talk with Your Pediatrician About the Need for Room Sharing in the first six months** It's pretty clear that r[oom sharing reduces the risk of SIDS in newborns and young infants,](https://drcraigcanapari.com/is-room-sharing-infancy-necessary-for-safe-sleep/) but there is some evidence that if parents are particularly sleep deprived, they may end up in unsafe situations with their baby (like falling asleep on a couch or chair holding their infant). So if you are really struggling, talk about strategies with your pediatrician and perhaps consider transitioning your baby out of your room before six months of age.
9. **Sleep in Motion in the First Few Months Is OK, but After That, Be at Home** We loved our son’s swing when he was a newborn because it would help him settle. Nowadays a lot of families are using the SNOO to put their baby to sleep at night. A friend of mine used to drive to Starbucks to get her son to nap, and would drive around for hours to get him to stay asleep. In the first 3-4 months, I think this is fine for nap time. Any longer, however, and your child will start to develop a habit that will be hard to break. Of course, anyplace you have your child sleeping needs to be safe.
10. **Naps Are Hard—but a Few Techniques Can Help** There’s not as much research about addressing nap issues as there is about improving nighttime sleep.[ Naps are challenging especially in the first few months.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/nap-problems/) If you fix nighttime sleep, however, the naps tend to get better. Here are a few principles for dealing with naps:
- Keep the nap prep short and sweet. Your nap time ritual should be a scaled-down version of your bedtime routine. So if bedtime takes thirty minutes, fifteen to twenty minutes is as long as the nap time ritual should be.
- Play with the timing. After six months of age, try two to three hours after waking for nap #1, around midday for nap #2, and possibly a short nap around 3:00–4:00 p.m. If your child does not fall asleep after thirty minutes, get her up and wait until the next nap period to try again.
- Avoid too much napping in the late afternoon. For older children, don’t let your child nap past 4:00 p.m. unless he can still fall asleep at his regular bedtime and sleep through the night.
- Respect the nap. Before I had children, I always wondered why my friends were so strict about the timing and duration of their children’s naps. But then I had kids—and the cost of skipping naps became clear. My son would be miserable, and so would the rest of us. It won’t surprise you that we quickly learned to maintain our nap times and bedtimes with an almost religious zeal.
Find this useful? It's from Chapter 1 of my book *[It's Never Too Late to Sleep Train: The Low Stress Way to High Quality Sleep for Babies, Kid, and Parents.](https://amzn.to/2PfthnX?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)*
### The "Excuse Me" Drill and "Taking a Break": Gentle Sleep Training Techniques for Preschoolers and Up
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-excuse-me-drill-a-gentle-sleep-training-technique/
Last updated: 2024-08-05T17:29:56.000Z
**When parents think sleep training, the often think about [extinction or CIO sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/cry-it-out-sleep-training-explained-how-to-use-cio-to-sleep-train-a-baby/). Although CIO sleep training works well for infants and younger toddlers, I prefer gentler methods for older toddlers and preschoolers, especially if they are anxious. The "Excuse Me Drill" and "Taking a break" are two simple techniques which work well for children two and up who need their parents to fall asleep. These are two of my favorite techniques, and in my book [It's Never Too Late To Sleep Train](https://amzn.to/2PfthnX?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affiliate link), I called them "progressive break" techniques.*
## Who these techniques are for
Generally these work well for kids who are sleeping in beds and not cribs. Think ages three and up, although the excuse me drill has been tested in children as young as age two. Here are the prerequisites:
- Your child who needs Mom or Dad to fall asleep at night
- Your child can tolerate you leaving the room for a short period of time. (If they cannot, [camping out sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/camping-out-sleep-training/) may work better.
- Ages 3 and up, but perhaps down to age two.
- You need to know what time your child ACTUALLY FALLS ASLEEP-- not the time you want them to fall asleep-- and it should be consistent.
- Your child is not motivated by rewards. (Children who are motivated by rewards may do better with[ the bedtime pass.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-bedtime-pass-a-great-sleep-training-technique-for-older-kids/)
## How these sleep training techniques work
In both of these techniques, you will stay with your children until they fall asleep.
You will do your bedtime routine and turn the lights out 30 minutes before you expect them to fall asleep.
In both of these techniques, you will be taking short breaks between lights out when your child falls asleep. The DIFFERENCES are in HOW OFTEN you leave the room and HOW LONG you leave the room for.
Note that you will be coming back into the room BEFORE your child gets stressed, and praising them extravagantly but calmly. Why? Because positive attention from a parent is the best positive reinforcement in the world.
**At some point, you will leave the room and come back and your child will be asleep. That is the magic of these techniques! No crying and no fuss.**
Now, here are the differences:

A comparison of the excuse me drill and taking a break sleep training. Lights out: when you turn out the lights. Falls asleep: When your child falls asleep The red blocks indicate when you are out of the room.
**In the "Excuse Me Drill", you will be leaving the room for very short breaks multiple times** during the interval between when you turn off the lights and when your child falls asleep. **You progress by increasing the length of the time you spend out of the room on each break.**
**In "Taking a Break" you leave once** at the midpoint of the interval between when you turn off the lights and when your child falls asleep. **You progress by increasing the length of the time you spend out of the room.**
### How to perform the breaks
During each break you will make an excuse on why you need to leave the room. You will say, “excuse me, I need to step out and \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ for a second. I’ll be right back!”. The excuse doesn’t really matter. Here are some suggestions:
I need to…
- check the soufflé
- buy a lottery ticket
- practice my breakdancing
- bang out ten pull ups
- **(In all seriousness, boring excuses (“I need to check on your brother, take out the trash, etc”) work best**
When you come back, you praise your child for staying in his bed, looking cozy, acting brave, etc. It is OK to touch him. Be calm (you don't want to hype your kid up) but make sure you know you are proud of him.
### Which of these techniques is right for me and my child
Generally, I prefer "taking a break" as it is simpler and requires less energy for tired parents. Typically I would like your child to be able to tolerate you stepping out of the room for at least a minute to start.
However, the Excuse Me Drill has been [studied in children with Angelman Syndrome](http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0891422212002569?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), which is a developmental disorder associated with severe sleep difficulties, so it may work better if your child has any developmental issues or delays. The frequent checks offer multiple repetitions of positive reinforcement. This CAN work if your child can only tolerate your absence for less than a minute.
## How to perform the Excuse Me Drill gentle sleep training technique

The “excuse me drill” a gentle sleep training method which is a great fit for anxious kids who are old enough to be sleeping in a bed. It’s comprised of very frequent checks (as in "Ferberizing" or [gradual extinction)](https://drcraigcanapari.com/cry-it-out-sleep-training-explained-how-to-use-cio-to-sleep-train-a-baby/) on a child who is trying to learn to fall asleep by himself. This was developed by Dr. [Brett Kuhn, a sleep behaviorist at the University of Nebraska](http://www.unmc.edu/mmi/departments/mmifaculty/brettkuhnphd.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). I was first introduced to it by Dr. Sarah Honaker (who also [wrote a great post for this blog](https://drcraigcanapari.com/manage-your-mornings-sarah-honaker-on-maximizing-sleep/)).
Just as I did in the last example, we will use our planned timing of 8:00 p.m. lights-out with 8:30 p.m. sleep onset.
1. As before, rehearse this once or twice so your child knows what to expect.
2. Go through your bedtime routine and turn off the lights at 8pm.
3. A little bit after lights-out, tell your child that you need to step out for a moment to do something. This is called the Excuse Me Drill because you say something along the lines of, “Excuse me for a minute—I need to check the soufflé/basketball scores/price of Bitcoin.” (During the evening keep these excuses mundane, but during rehearsal it is fun to make them silly.) Note that you will feel ridiculous.
4. Stay out for a very short period of time-- between 15 seconds up to a minute. If your child is anxious or following you out of the room it is too long.
5. Return and praise the child extravagantly. As before, lay it on thick. A little bit later, step out again for a very brief interval. Do this multiple times during the 30 minute period.
6. After about thirty minutes of this, it’s OK to stay with your child until he falls asleep
On night one, you will do this multiple times (think five to fifteen repetitions of stepping out, pausing for less than a minute, then returning). Every time you come back in, provide the affection and attention that reinforces the bravery of your child in being apart from you. Doing this frequently is called a “thick” reinforcement schedule. . On night two, you will gradually increase the amount of time you spend out of the room. Each night the breaks will be longer and longer until your child starts falling asleep without you.
Coupling this with [bedtime fading](https://drcraigcanapari.com/bedtime-fading-the-secret-sauce-in-sleep-training/) is a great combination for an older, anxious child, and this has been studied in children with developmental issues ([specifically Angelman syndrome](http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0891422212002569?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)) as well. Like all sleep training methods, it should be part of a detailed plan.
## How to perform the "Taking a Break" gentle sleep training technique

Below, I’m going to use our example of 8:00 p.m. lights-out with 8:30 p.m. sleep onset. Here’s how to do it:
1. Rehearse this once or twice during the day so your child knows what to expect.
2. Go through your bedtime routine
3. At 8:15 p.m., tell your child that you are taking a break. Leave the room and promise to come back quickly. You don’t have to tell your child how long the break will be, as you don’t want to encourage clock watching. Return in one minute and praise the child extravagantly, knowing that your Oscar nomination will be in the mail. “Look what a big boy you are! You stayed in bed and are so cozy! Great job!” Hugs and kisses are OK.
4. Stay until your child falls asleep.
5. The next night, do the same thing, except leave for two minutes.
6. Every night extend your time out of the room until your child is consistently falling asleep without you for a few nights in a row.
7. Celebrate your child's achievement!
## FAQs and troubleshooting
### What if my child follows me out of the room or gets upset?
The most likely reason is that the length of your interval is too long. Your ideal interval is one where your child stays calmly in their bed and relaxes. Thus, you may need to progress more slowly in increasing the intervals. Practicing this technique a few times during the day may also help make it less scary.
### My child is now falling asleep independently but is still waking up at night.
Many children who need their parents to fall asleep need them when they have natural awakenings at night (a phenomenon called [sleep onset association disorder](https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/)). Usually, once your child is falling asleep at bedtime the night wakings resolve in a month or so. If they are persistent (or you want this to go more quickly), you can use the same technique at in the middle of the night that you used at bedtime. For example, if you are using Taking a Break, put your child back to bed, stay for a bit, step for for whatever duration you are doing at bedtime, then return afterwards.
### Resources and further reading
Kuhn, Brett, ed. “Part III: BSM Protocols for Pediatric Sleep Disorders.” In Behavioral Treatments for Sleep Disorders, ed. Michael Perlis, Mark Aloia, and Brett Kuhn. Burlington, MA: Academic Press, 2011
Does this sound like it might work for your child? Let me know if you have any questions about the mechanics of this.
### The Bedtime Pass: A Great Sleep Training Technique for Older Kids
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-bedtime-pass-a-great-sleep-training-technique-for-older-kids/
Last updated: 2026-07-04T18:55:54.000Z
The bedtime pass is a favorite sleep training technique of mine. It's perfect if you are struggling with frequent curtains calls at bedtime, or even if you have a child who gets up occasionally at night. Each night your child gets a pass (sometimes also known as a bedtime ticket) that allows her to come out of her room and make one request—such as for an extra hug, a drink of water, or a story. If she doesn’t use the pass that night, you give her a small reward the next day.
I love this technique for kids in the preschool through elementary school age. It's fun, non-threatening, and effective. It also seems to avoid the extinction burst (which is a worsening of behaviors temporarily) which can occur in other sleep training methods such as[ cry-it-out or extinction.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/cry-it-out-sleep-training-explained-how-to-use-cio-to-sleep-train-a-baby/)

Note that I didn't invent this but couldn't resist seeming like Willy Wonka
## Who is the Bedtime Pass best for?
Children who come out of their room a lot at bedtime or during the night. [These events are called curtain calls](https://drcraigcanapari.com/curtain-calls-limit-setting-and-bedtime-battles-behavioral-sleep-problems-in-kids-part-2/) \-- just like when the cast of a play will come out again after they leave the stage of people are still applauding. It would not be my first choice for a very anxious child (something like c[amping out sleep training ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/camping-out-sleep-training/)or [the Excuse-Me Drill](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-excuse-me-drill-a-gentle-sleep-training-technique/) may work better.)
## What is the evidence for the Bedtime Pass
[The first study on this was in 1999](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/347942?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) on boys between ages 3-10\. After the intervention, "crying and coming out from the bedroom reduced to zero" in all children in the study.
Several more studies followed, most notable a study looking at [treating cosleeping in children with separation anxiety](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0005789420300381?ref=cra%5Fjs%5Fchallenge&fr=RR-1). This proved quite effective as well.
The studies here are fairly small-- but the results are universally positive and the method is quite safe.
## What to do before starting the Bedtime Pass
As always, make sure you have a set high quality bedtime routine and a consistent bedtime.
I also like rehearsals for interventions like this. Make the bedtime pass with your child, then immediately say, "Let's play a game and pretend it's bedtime. You get into bed and come out of the room and ask for something." Show your child how the system works. Then do it again, pretend it's the morning, then give them a reward RIGHT THEN while you are playing the game.
### Which sleep training method fits your child?
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## How to use the Bedtime Pass for Better Sleep
Just as with all reward systems, you want to set this system up for your child to succeed. If your child usually comes out of her room four times at night, she will fail if you only use one pass, so you can start with two or three, then gradually reduce the number of passes she can use each night.
Here’s how you use the Bedtime Pass.
1. Make a nice card with your child that says “Bedtime Pass” and decorate it. Glitter is good; lamination, even better. If you think you need more, make two or three.
2. Your child keeps the pass in her room and can redeem it once for a simple request from Mom or Dad (one more story, a glass of water, a back rub, etc.). The request should be brief and easy for you to do (it should not be lying down with your child for thirty minutes). After redeeming it, she turns in the pass.
3. If she comes out again after using up her passes, you return her silently to her room with minimal interaction. Minimize conversation.
4. If she does not use the pass, she can redeem it the next day for a small reward. In addition to the reward, make sure you give your child a lot of praise as well.
5. If you are using more than one pass, remove one every week (or even sooner if things are going well). Exchange it by letting your child “buy” one of her rewards, or even a slightly larger reward.
6. Make giving up the last pass a special occasion. For example, giving up the last pass can earn your child a larger cumulative reward.
You can adapt a similar system if your child gets up too early in the morning, by saying that your child can use her pass during the times you expect her to stay in her room. So if she wakes up at 5:30 a.m., she has to use a pass if she wants to get you before 6:00 a.m. Note also that your child is still allowed to leave her room to go to the bathroom or get a drink of water—by herself. We want to encourage independent behavior at night.
### What are the best rewards or incentives to use with the bedtime pass?
Generally, small rewards that will excite your child work best when your child turns in the bedtime pass in the morning. . For younger children, little toys like you might get in a dollar store or from a vending machine or stickers are best. (obviously avoid anything that poses a choking hazard).
**Id**eally, your child gets the reward immediately when they turn in the pass.
For older kids, if they are motivated by trinkets they are still fine. They may also like playing a game, watching a show, or having some extra special family time.
The key is that rewards do not make your life worse as a parent. So don't offer rewards that, say, are messy, or that giving in the morning will disrupt your routine. Generally, I don't like food rewards for the daily incentives because they are generally unhealthy.
For giving up the bedtime pass, I'm a big fan of a small celebration. Think a trip to the playground, an ice cream cone, or a desired toy or game are great.
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### Further reading
- NPR "[The Bedtime Pass Helps Parents And Kids Skip The Sleep Struggles](https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/09/18/441492810/the-bedtime-pass-helps-parents-and-kids-skip-the-sleep-struggles?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)"
- Brief Report: Evaluating the Bedtime Pass Program for Child Resistance to Bedtime—A Randomized, Controlled Trial | Journal of Pediatric Psychology | Oxford Academic \[WWW Document\], n.d. URL [https://academic.oup.com/jpepsy/article/32/3/283/2951943](https://academic.oup.com/jpepsy/article/32/3/283/2951943?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (accessed 7.22.24).
- Freeman, K.A., 2006\. Treating Bedtime Resistance with the Bedtime Pass: A Systematic Replication and Component Analysis with 3-Year-Olds. Journal of Applied Behavior Analysis 39, 423–428\. [https://doi.org/10.1901/jaba.2006.34-05](https://doi.org/10.1901/jaba.2006.34-05?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Friman, P.C., Hoff, K.E., Schnoes, C., Freeman, K.A., Woods, D.W., Blum, N., 1999\. The Bedtime Pass: An Approach to Bedtime Crying and Leaving the Room. Archives of Pediatrics & Adolescent Medicine 153, 1027–1029\. [https://doi.org/10.1001/archpedi.153.10.1027](https://doi.org/10.1001/archpedi.153.10.1027?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Ravid, A., Lagbas, E., Johnson, M., Osborne, T.L., 2021\. Targeting Co-Sleeping in Children With Anxiety Disorders Using a Modified Bedtime Pass Intervention: A Case Series Using a Changing Criterion Design. Behav Ther 52, 298–312\. [https://doi.org/10.1016/j.beth.2020.03.004](https://doi.org/10.1016/j.beth.2020.03.004?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### Bedtime Fading: The "Secret Sauce" in Sleep Training
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/bedtime-fading-the-secret-sauce-in-sleep-training/
Last updated: 2026-03-30T20:55:01.000Z
*Discover how bedtime fading (also known as "bed time fading" or the "fading sleep training technique") can ease your child’s sleep struggles by aligning bedtime with their natural sleep cycle—learn more about this simple yet effective sleep training technique. Although on a first pass, this simply means moving your child's bedtime later, there is some nuance on how and when to do this depending on the age of your child and their needs.*
I often find that parents who see me in clinic have [tried and failed to sleep train their children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/04/27/sleep-training-mistakes-and-pitfalls/). (Obviously, the ones who had an easy time don't need an appointment). As I work with families to come up with plan to help their children fall asleep and stay asleep on their own, bedtime fading is one of the most useful tools that I use.
## Why does bedtime fading work?
Bedtime fading is simply more closely aligning your child's bedtime with when they are actually falling sleep. Often, children who are fighting sleep at bedtime are simply being put to bed too early. There are two reasons why a later bedtime can be helpful.
**The first reason is that the longer you stay awake, the sleepier you are**. [This represents accumulation of sleep drive. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/) This is especially important for children who are napping. Napping reduces sleep drive so I would not recommend a bedtime less than three hours from the end of your child's nap. (And if your child is older than age two and seems to fall asleep very late, you may need to shorten or even get rid of their nap.)
**The second reason is that some people have a body clock that is set later than others.** One interesting study of toddlers showed that children with difficulty setting had a later dim light melatonin onset (DLMO). DLMO is when your body naturally starts producing [melatonin, the hormone of sleep. (This is the same stuff that is sold in a million different preparations to help with falling asleep in kids and adults). ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/) **DLMO essentially is the biological marker of when your body clock is ready for you to fall asleep.**
DLMO is very difficult to measure either in the laboratory or in the home, because to do so you have to take blood or saliva samples every 30 minutes in the evening for several hours. That's why a study done by Dr. Monique LeBourgeois is so valuable. [She assessed toddlers with and without sleep difficulty and found that the children with sleep difficulty had later DLMOs](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3925339/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) **meaning that their parents were putting them to bed when they were not ready to fall asleep.**
## What children will benefit from bedtime fading?
I find that children who have bedtimes that are on the early side (think 6:30-7:30) tend to benefit the most. It is definitely worth trying if your child comes out of their room multiple times at bedtime, or takes more than 30 minutes to fall asleep.
Generally, if kids are falling asleep later than expected (say, a toddler falling asleep after 9:30pm, bedtime fading will not work and an earlier bedtime may actually work better.. Here's more on [how to tell which way to move your child's bedtime to help with sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/adventures-fly-zone-perils-moving-childs-bedtime/).
## **How to use bedtime fading to help with sleep training**
So, a later (or *faded*) bedtime can help your child fall asleep more easily, both by making them sleepier and aligning their bedtime with their natural body clock.
**The first step (and this is often all you need) is to try moving your child's bedtime 30 minutes later**, and assess
- Is there less conflict at bedtime?
- Does your child fall asleep within 30 minutes of lights out?
If things go more easily for you and you are happy, I think you can stop there.
If things are better, but not perfect and you want to try a sleep training technique, you can also try a faded bedtime along with your sleep training technique of choice. [(I have a compendium of sleep training techniques here).](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
But what if your child is falling asleep a lot later than you would like? Let's say that your 5 yo is not falling asleep until 9:30pm, even though his bedtime is 7:30pm. There is a lot of conflict in the house at night and he keeps coming out of the room 5 minutes after you leave. Here's how you can use bedtime fading to get things on track:
1. Set his new temporary bedtime to the time he is consistently falling asleep (in this case it is 9:30pm). This is not carte blanche for him to run around, play video games, shoot off fireworks, or chase the cat. The evenings still need to remain calm. I won't say NO screens as this may be difficult, but I would say nothing exciting to watch and no video games.
2. Have a quick bedtime routine and put him down.
3. Keep his wake time constant if you are happy with it. If he's getting up at 7am, I would wake him up at 7am. If he previously was waking up at 5:30am and is now getting up at 6am, I think that is OK.
4. Do not let him extend his nap later (or start napping again).
5. Every few days, move his bedtime 15 minutes earlier until things become difficult again.
[Bedtime fading has also been shown to be effective in children with autism,](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5861169/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) both in terms of increasing sleep duration and reducing the time to fall asleep.
### What is a response cost?
Some studies have examined the addition of a "response cost"-- essentially a penalty to your child for coming out of the room. Usually this means temporarily moving bedtime later in association with cry it out sleep training: see this entry for [CIO bedtime fading](https://drcraigcanapari.com/cry-it-out-sleep-training-explained-how-to-use-cio-to-sleep-train-a-baby/). Other authors use the term to refer to something the child loses if they leave their room. [A good example of this is the bedtime pass technique.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-bedtime-pass-a-great-sleep-training-technique-for-older-kids/)
### What if bedtime gets worse with a later bedtime?
Sometimes, a later bedtime runs into your child's circadian "second wind"-- an extra burst of wakefulness at the end of the day. As one mom once said to me, "My child needs to be in bed by 7:30 or 9pm-- there is nothing in-between". This no man's land has been called "The Forbidden Zone" by a sleep researcher called Peretz Lavie. For more on this phenomenon, read about[ the toddler no-fly zone.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/adventures-fly-zone-perils-moving-childs-bedtime/)
In this video, I talk about how families can use bedtime fading to [successfully sleep train](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/06/20/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/) their child.
As stated in the video, the keys to successful bedtime fading include:
- Avoiding "sneaky sleep" in the later afternoon.
- Not allowing your child to sleep much later in the mornings, unless [they are getting up at an uncomfortably early hour.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/03/20/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/)
### Further reading
- [How to use bedtime fading in babies and toddlers](https://raisingchildren.net.au/babies/sleep/settling-routines/bedtime-fading-earlier-bedtimes-babies-toddlers?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Have you tried moving your child's bedtime with the goal of leading to a better night of sleep? How did that work for you?
### Episode 8: Things That Go Bump in the Night with Dr. Sujay Kansagra
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-8-things-that-go-bump-in-the-night-with-dr-sujay-kansagra/
Last updated: 2024-07-08T19:47:53.000Z
In this episode of the Sleep Edit, Craig and Arielle are thrilled to welcome Dr. Sujay Kansagra of Duke University to discuss the weird and wonderful world of parasomnias, restless leg syndrome, and restless sleep disorder in children. Parasomnias include NREM parasomnias (sleep walking, hypnic jerks, night terrors) and REM parasomnias (sleep paralysis and nightmares).
- 00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer
- 01:09 Parenting Anecdotes and Guest Introduction
- 02:22 Journey into Medical Social Media
- 05:21 The Importance of Engaging Content
- 10:50 Understanding Parasomnias
- 15:25 Non-REM vs REM Parasomnias
- 24:26 Night Terrors and Sleepwalking
- 28:17 Fever Dreams and Sleep Disruptions
- 28:58 Genetic Predispositions and Sleep Studies
- 29:21 Scheduled Awakenings and Melatonin
- 30:23 Nightmares vs. Night Terrors
- 31:39 Sleepwalking Safety Tips
- 37:43 Understanding Restless Leg Syndrome
- 48:58 Restless Sleep Disorder
- 53:38 Final Thoughts and Parenting Advice
## Links
- [Dr. Sujay Kansagra at Duke Health](https://www.dukehealth.org/find-doctors-physicians/sujay-kansagra-md?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Sujay’s Instagram profile](https://www.instagram.com/thatsleepdoc/?hl=en&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Sujay's time zone video](https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cz1YRfQuJXp/?igsh=enlhOG5lbDhjMXBl&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [“I am the research”](https://www.instagram.com/reel/CyR-oFRu7no/?igsh=MWtwbTdxdDZ1bHltNA%3D%3D&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [His excellent sleep book](https://amzn.to/3KVjy5J?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [The rest of his links](https://linktr.ee/thatsleepdoc?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Night terrors, sleep walking, and sleep talking in children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/night-terrors-sleep-talking-and-sleepwalking-in-children/) by Dr. Canapari
- [Restless leg syndrome in children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/growing-pains-restless-legs-an-under-diagnosed-cause-of-insomnia-in-children/) by Dr. Canapari
### Cry It Out Sleep Training Explained: How to Use CIO To Sleep Train A Baby or Toddler
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/cry-it-out-sleep-training-explained-how-to-use-cio-to-sleep-train-a-baby/
Last updated: 2026-07-04T18:55:01.000Z
“Cry it out” (CIO) sleep training is one of the most commonly used and recommended sleep training methods. It’s the best studied in the medical literature.It’s also the sleep training method that most pediatricians have used for their own children— precisely because it is so effective and quick.
CIO sleep training has many names and variants:
- Extinction sleep training
- Graduated extinction (also known as the Ferber method, after Dr. Richard Ferber)-- this is sometimes known as "controlled crying"
- Bedtime fading sleep training
- [Extinction with parental presence (also known as “camping out” sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/camping-out-sleep-training/)
For simplicity’s sake, I’m going to call it by “popular” name, CIO sleep training, although “extinction sleep training” is the most correct term in terms of the behavioral science.
Here’s the thing about CIO: it’s also the most controversial. When I started writing about sleep issues in children, I received hate mail about how I was going to cause “brain damage” in babies because I was talking about sleep training. To be frank, [sleep training is perfectly safe when done correctly.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-fixing-your-kids-sleep-problems-is-not-selfish/) So, in this article, I’m going to explain to you about WHEN to consider CIO sleep training and HOW to perform it.
## What are the benefits of CIO sleep training?
As with [all sleep training techniques](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/), the goal is for your child to fall asleep independently at bedtime, so when she has natural awakenings during the night, she can put herself back to sleep.
If she needs you to put her to sleep, she will need you to put her BACK to sleep when she wakes up at night. To understand why, [here is an article on sleep onset associations.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/)
### What is the downside to CIO sleep training?
Honestly, it's hard to listen to your child cry. Not every parent can tolerate this. You can read about it all you want, but it's pretty hard to do.

This was me when my son was five months old
### Which sleep training method fits your child?
My comparison guide puts nine methods side by side — what each involves, who it's for, and my clinical notes on when to use it. Free for members.
[Compare the methods →](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-technique-comparison/)
## When to perform Cry it Out Sleep Training
### What is the best age for CIO sleep training?
From my standpoint there is a relatively narrow window where CIO sleep training is effective. The earliest I would recommend it is in a four month old, as that is when babies start to evolve the capacity to self soothe. Other’s have [recommended CIO sleep training in early infancy;](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-at-8-weeks-do-you-have-the-guts/) I [don’t think it is a good idea.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-2-month-olds-still-great-idea/)
Before four months of age, I think it’s fine to try to put your child down drowsy but awake, but I would not let him fuss for two long and he is unlikely to be able to self soothe. Fortunately, there are [steps you can take when your baby is younger to potentially avoid sleep training.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/make-baby-sleep-better/) I’m especially a fan of the “Le pause” method.
Most babies will respond well to CIO sleep training starting between four to six months of age.
The OLDEST I usually recommend CIO sleep training is 18 months of age, and I think it is better prior to a year of age. The reason is that toddlers can cry A LOT longer than infants, and some older kids can climb out of their cribs.
For older kids, [camping out sleep training may work better.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/camping-out-sleep-training/)
Other techniques include taking a break or [the excuse me drill.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-excuse-me-drill-a-gentle-sleep-training-technique/)
### What to do before sleep training
I would recommend that you move your child’s crib to the lowest setting so there is no chance they can climb out of their crib in a fit of rage.
I would take steps to stop bedsharing if you are doing so before starting this process. [Here’s how to stop cosleeping.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/)
Make sure that you have a good bedtime routine and have selected a time for bed where your child typically falls asleep within 15-20 minutes of lights out.
I would also try to move feeding earlier in your child’s bedtime sequence for a few days prior to starting. I think nursing or feeding to sleep is a potentially potent sleep crutch, so I would like to take it out of the equation.
So if your bedtime sequence is
1. Read story
2. Rock
3. Nurse/give bottle to sleep
I would change it to
1. Read story
2. Nurse/Give bottle
3. Rock to sleep
Finally, make sure you and your partner are on the same page. This can be difficulty and it helps that you are in agreement beforehand. I love this clip from Modern Family, which Mitch and Cam are definitely NOT on the same page:
## How to perform CIO sleep training
The first steps for ALL extinction/CIO sleep training methods is the same:
1. Put your child to bed drowsy but awake.
2. Leave the room.
What you do next will depend on whether you want to perform unmodified or graduated extinction, or use bedtime fading with a response cost.
If you are doing unmodified extinction, that’s it. If you want to use the Ferber method/graduated extinction, you will be checking on your child intermittently until she falls asleep.
If you are not sure which is right for you, read on.
### What is difference between unmodified extinction, graduated extinction (the Ferber method), and bedtime fading with response cost?
The differences is HOW YOU RESPOND when your child is fussing. In unmodified extinction, you just ignore them until they go to sleep. **I find this works the most quickly.**
In graduated extinction, you go in at set intervals to check on your child. The goal of these checks is to reassure your child and yourself that everything is OK. Some children are soothed by checks. With my older son, checks made things worse. When we went in the room, he would calm down for a bit but then start crying more and more when we left. **You probably won’t know if this is the case for your child until you try checking** I think it is reasonable to try using checks if you think they might be helpful.
If you are using bedtime fading, you only let your child cry for 15 minutes then get them up and keep them up for a set period of time.
### How to perform the Ferber Method / graduated extinction
First, you need to understand what a check is. **A check is a short and simple visit to the room without physical contact.** You shouldn’t pick your daughter up or soothe her to sleep. You go in and repeat your final bedtime cue, such as, “I love you. It’s time to go to sleep. Good night,” and leave the room. It’s generally not a good idea to pick up your child, as she may immediately fall asleep—and then you have set the precedent that prolonged crying means you will “rescue” her.
Dr. Ferber has a fairly complex checking schedule:
1. Night one 3 min, then 5 min, then every 10 min
2. Night two 5 min, 10 min, then every 12 minutes
And the list goes on.
Here’s the table from my well worn copy of [*Solve Your Child’s Sleep Problems.*](https://amzn.to/4bpAvA2?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)

From my well worn copy of Dr. Ferber's book **Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems* 2006 edition
Honestly, I find it unnecessarily complicated.
Let me be clear: I’m not saying don’t use checks. If using checks helps you stick with sleep training, I’m all for it. However, I am saying that they aren’t necessary, and you need to decide if they help your child sleep more quickly or not.
*If you do decide to check on your child*, here’s how to do it. On the first night of CIO, try checking on your child at five minutes in. Gauge her response when you leave the room. Does checking on her seem to have calmed her down, or does it seem to have revved her up? Do you need the checks for your peace of mind? If it seems helpful, continue checking at set intervals. I like to keep the schedule simple because—let’s be real—you’re pretty tired.
- Night 1: every 5 minutes
- Night 2: every 10 minutes
- Night 3: every 15 minutes
Go in if your child is screaming. On the other hand, if she seems to be calming down, stay out of the room. If in doubt, wait a little longer.
### **Bedtime Fading With Response Cost Sleep Training**
This is another extinction/ CIO based training method that can work and potentially reduce the amount of crying. I think this is especially helpful when you are actually unsure about what is your child's "ideal" bedtime.
The name is pretty clunky: bedtime fading with response cost. Bedtime fading just means moving bedtime later. Response cost means the delay in in bedtime if your child does not fall asleep.
Note that [bedtime fading can work well in older children as well](https://drcraigcanapari.com/bedtime-fading-the-secret-sauce-in-sleep-training/) but is performed differently.
This involves progressively delaying bedtime to harness [your child’s natural sleep drive](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/). This works well for parents who can’t imagine allowing their child to cry for more than fifteen minutes but are interested in using the magic of CIO to rapidly improve sleep.
This can work in a few days but does require a fair amount of parental energy and investment. Note that your child may be up pretty late for the first few nights.
**Here’s how to do it:**
1. Place your child in his crib drowsy but awake and leave the room at their USUAL bedtime.. For the sake of this example, let’s assume this is at 8:00 p.m.
2. After fifteen minutes of his crying, pick him up and calm him down. Keep him awake until 9:00 p.m. This can be pretty tricky. **Quiet, calm activities are key. That can mean stories, puzzles BUT NOT SCREENS-- they are too exciting.** Note that the "response cost" here is 45 minutes.
3. Put him down again and tell him goodnight at 9:00 p.m. If he continues to cry and does not fall asleep within fifteen minutes, get him out of bed and soothe him. Keep him awake until 10:00 p.m. and try again.
4. Eventually, he will fall asleep within fifteen minutes of putting him down.
5. **Maintain his current wake time in the morning, and don’t let him get extra sleep during his naps.** This is key-- if your child sleeps in or extends their nap, **this will not work.** Note that your child will likely be cranky during the few days you are doing this.
6. Repeat the process on night two and subsequent nights until he is falling asleep within fifteen minutes at his bedtime.
There are a few reasons I am not fond of this method. The first reason is that it is difficult to keep your child awake while soothing him, especially as the night progresses.
The other is that this is a bit complicated. Complexity is the enemy of success for tired parents. However, if the prospect of hearing your child cry for more than fifteen minutes is unbearable and if you can manage to keep your child awake, this is a helpful option.
I remember one mom who was adamantly against allowing her child crying for prolonged periods, but also thought that “camping out” (described later) would not work. After some discussion, we settled on this method. She called me a few days later and told me that it had been hard for a few days—her child was tired and cranky—but eventually it had worked like a charm.
## What to do if your baby wakes up during the night during sleep training?
After you check and make sure that your child is OK, you have two options.
The first is to do exactly what you did at bedtime, either unmodified extinction (let your child fuss until they fall back to sleep) or modified extinction (doing brief checks on your child). The benefit of this method is that it will make the training go more quickly, as each time you allow your child to fall back to sleep independently, they have the opportunity to learn the skill of independent sleep. The downside is that you are likely in for a few rough nights.
The second is to soothe your child quickly back to sleep. This will help you (and perhaps others in your household) get more sleep. The night time awakenings will get better over time— just not as quickly. If your child needs you to fall asleep at bedtime and wakes up multiple times during the night, I estimate that the night time awakenings will go away in 4-6 weeks after they start falling asleep independently.
## FAQ about CIO sleep training
### Is letting my baby cry it out harmful?
No. In a nutshell, extinction sleep training has been shown to have no longer ill effects on children. One study in 2004 [showed that attachment between parent and child actually improved after sleep training.](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1651-2227.2004.tb00686.x?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) A long term study showed [no ill effects on children five years after sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-fixing-your-kids-sleep-problems-is-not-selfish/). Finally, [a randomized controlled trial of sleep training methods](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27221288/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) showed a marked improvement in time to fall asleep, reduction in night wakings, and decreased maternal stress without any evidence of long term effects on parent-child attachment or child emotions and behavior
### The sleep training isn’t working. It’s been four nights and my baby is still crying a lot.
If you feel like you are not making progress, it’s ok to take a break, If your child is on the young side (four or five months of age) they may not be ready. I wait a few weeks, check in with your pediatrician, and try when they are a bit more mature.
### What mistakes can cause sleep training to fail?
I have an article on [the most common sleep training mistakes here.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-mistakes-and-pitfalls/) I suggest you read it before you start.
### When should I go into the room?
I would definitely go in if you are worried if your child is hurt or sick.
### The crying is so loud on the monitor! I can’t take it
Pro tip: Unless you live in a giant mansion, you will be able to hear him crying. I give you permission to turn off or mute your monitor until he quiets down.
### One of us can’t stand it when our child cries, but we still want to try CIO. What do we do?
This is a common situation. In my household, I had the higher crying tolerance (having been through a pediatric residency and fellowship, I was pretty used to having kids scream in my presence). Since CIO sleep training is relatively quick, I think it is fine for one parent to be in charge of it for a few nights while the less tolerant parent sips a glass of wine while wearing noise cancelling headphones, or goes out to a movie with friends.
### Can you perform CIO sleep training if you are sharing a room with your infant?
Yes, absolutely. It helps to have a visual barrier. You can use a curtain, screen or [perhaps even something fancier like a Slumberpod](https://amzn.to/45Caufu?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affiliate link). A white noise machine can also help to mask any sounds that you make. ([We’ve been using this model since my 16 yo was born](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000KUHFGM/ref=as%5Fli%5Ftf%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B000KUHFGM&linkCode=as2&tag=drcraigcanapa-20&th=1&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affiliate link)). Remember, however, that you should make sure that the sound machine is not too close to your babies head as many commericially available sound machines are too loud. Alternatively, you may end up doing something like camping out sleep training.
### How much will my baby cry during sleep training?
It depends on your child, but it is usually less than you think I wrote a whole article on the topic of [how long most kids cry during sleep training.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-long-will-my-child-cry-during-sleep-training/) Note that your baby may cry more on night two or three, a phenomenon called the extinction burst. This is when the behavior you are trying to get rid of (needing you to fall asleep in this case) worsens a bit before it improves.
### My child throws their pacifier out of the crib and calls for me to put it back in. What do I do?
I think it’s ok to replace it once. But if your child just keeps doing it, then I would stop replacing it.
### My child is now falling asleep independently at bedtime but it has two months and she is still waking up at night. What do I do?
If your child is truly falling asleep at bedtime without any involvement from you, but still either crying or coming to your room, I would first recommend you have your child evaluated by her pediatrician to make sure there is no medical cause.
Once any medical issues have been ruled out, you can then try the same method you tried at bedtime. If you are following this guide, that probably means ignoring them at night. Soon I’m going to publish an article on what to do if your sleep trained child is still waking up at night.
**If you prefer listening to reading,**[ **I did a whole podcast episode on CIO sleep training which you can find here.**](https://drcraigcanapari.com/ep%5F3%5Fto%5Fcio%5Fand%5Fbeyond/)
### Not sure which sleep training method fits your child?
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### How to use the“Le Pause” method to help your baby sleep better
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/le-pause-avoiding-sleep-problems-and-why-you-wont-break-your-kids/
Last updated: 2024-06-05T19:20:19.000Z

My attempt to cram as many french stereotypes into an image as possible
This weekend I met my friend Samuel at the park. A native of Brittany, he’s describing my children as “the mysterious French man”, but like me, he is a suburban dad here in Connecticut. This reminded me of an article I read several years ago about the book [Bringing Up Bebe](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00MNNAODK/ref=as%5Fli%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B00MNNAODK&linkCode=as2&tag=drcraig%2A%2Acanapa-20%2A%2A&linkId=CBWMHVXGG2WUWKGF&ref=drcraigcanapari.com), about parenting insights gleaned by an American mother living in France. The author, Pamela Druckerman, is amazed by the fact that the babies of some of her French friends sleep through the night, even as early as two months of age. The philosophy behind this she describes as, half jokingly, *Le Pause*:
> Waiting is the key: the French do not do instant gratification. It starts more or less at birth. When a French baby cries in the night the parents go in, pause, and observe for a few minutes. They know that babies’ sleep patterns include movements, noises and two-hour sleep cycles, in between which the baby might cry. Left alone it might “self-soothe” and go back to sleep. If you dash in like an Anglophone and immediately pick your baby up, you are training it to wake up properly. But if a French baby does wake up and cry properly on its own, it will be picked up. Result? French babies often sleep through the night from two months. Six months is considered very late indeed. [From The Guardian](http://www.theguardian.com/books/2012/jan/20/french-children-food-pamela-druckerman?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
While I am a bit skeptical that your average French infant is sleeping through the night without interruption at two months of age, I do see the value in this parenting philosophy. Here's why.
## Why parents frequently run to their babies at night
Infants do frequently cry out in their sleep, due to the the immaturity of their nervous systems. Compared with a few years ago, parents are even more aware of every grunt, stretch, cry, fart or burp that their babies make at night. There are two reasons for this:
1. More and more parents are [room sharing in the first year of life](https://drcraigcanapari.com/is-room-sharing-infancy-necessary-for-safe-sleep/) because that is recommended as the safest way for a baby to sleep. It is a lot easier to notice if your baby is sleeping 18 inches from your head vs down the hall.
2. Video monitors and smart monitors seem to capture parental attention more than the "old school" audio monitors which did not have particuarly high fidelity. Many of these monitors also use parental phones as the output device-- and many parents are on their phones anyway.
Add to this [the difficult of newborn sleep](https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-7-newborn-sleep-insights/) in general, and parents are laser focused on trying to get their baby back to sleep as soon as possible. So it is very tempting to run right in and pat your baby, change his diaper, or re-insert the pacifier into his mouth.
For better or worse, the default mode of parenting in America seems to have become quite intensive and hands-on. The excessive form of this is “helicopter parenting” where every need the child is met immediately, and every possible risk eliminated. In the arena of sleep training, parents worry that they will harm the child but [I can reassure you that this is not the case.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/09/13/news-flash-sleep-training-doesnt-hurt-your-child/)Parenting fads come and go, and it’s hard to know what we are doing now that will seem ludicrous 50 years from now. Libby Copeland has [a great article in Slate](http://www.slate.com/articles/double%5Fx/doublex/2012/11/bad%5Fbaby%5Fadvice%5Fa%5Fhistory.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) on bad parenting advice which includes such gems as, "an 1878 book called Advice to Mother informed said mother that she should not give her baby gin to relieve flatulence."
## What happens if you race into your baby's room every night
If parents run in every time their child grunts, they are reinforcing the night wakings and creating problems for themselves down the line. Why is this? Essentially, you are teaching your child that any noise will result in parental attention, which every child wants. Even babies will learn this quickly. For more on the mechanism on how this works, here's an article on how [bad sleep is often the result of bad habits.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/breaking-bad-sleep-habits-kids/)
## How to use the Le Pause "Method" of sleep training to help your baby sleep more
When you hear your baby make a noise when sleeping at night or during a nap.
1. Wait a minute or two to see what happens
I put "method" in quotes is that this is literally the simplest thing to do in the world. Notice I didn't say easy, as it is very tempting to rush in if you think it will get your baby back to sleep more quickly.
A writer Romper wrote about how she successfully took a momentary pause every time she heard her baby stirred.
> My daughter is now 2-and-a-half, and while she didn’t sleep through the night for quite some time and still even now makes random appearances by the side of my bed, I learned that for my family, it wasn’t about getting her to sleep through the night by a certain age. It was more about giving her that independence, even at two weeks old, that she can learn to settle and if she needs me, I will be there. I learned how to pause to my own anxiety in a sense — learning that much of the time, there was nothing wrong.
>
> ["I Tried "Le Pause" With My Newborn, & It Was A Game-Changer"](https://www.romper.com/p/i-tried-le-pause-with-my-newborn-it-was-a-game-changer-9961290?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) by Risa Kerslake
>
## More on the French perspective on parenting
When I asked Samuel about the difference between American and French parenting he demurred, as has only been a parent here. I asked him about the concept of *cadre*, which is mentioned in Druckerman’s book. After I spelled it for him as he could not understand my abysmal French pronunciation, he said:
> Cadre means frame, like the frame of a painting. So children are definitely part of the painting (in the frame), but they are more in the background, not the main subject of the painting.
I think this gets at the heart of it– the idea that children are supposed to fit within the family, and that their needs don’t always necessarily need to be foregrounded. For me, this is reflected in the idea that kids should be able to sleep through the night on their own– not just because it is an important life skill, but because it is good for their parents as well.
Different parents make different choices about sleep, about feeding, about discipline and a thousand other challenges which they face day-to-day. The fact is, if you love your kids (and you do) and you try your best (and you will), your kids will be fine. And so will you.
### FAQ and Tips on Sleep Regressions
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/faq-and-tips-on-sleep-regressions/
Last updated: 2024-05-28T00:42:10.000Z
Sleep regressions are a major pain point for parents. I've covered there elsewhere
- [Are sleep regressions real?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/are-sleep-regressions-real/)
- [How to deal with a sleep regressions](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-deal-with-a-sleep-regression/)
- [What to do about a nap strike](https://drcraigcanapari.com/what-to-do-about-nap-strikes/)
### What is the first thing parents should do if their child is now having sleep issues?
Check and see if your sleep habits have slipped a bit. Is bedtime later or more variable? Are you being lax with your bedtime routine?
### How long can we expect sleep regression to last?
Usually they are pretty brief— say, less than a week.
### If your child’s sleep regression is so disruptive and doing nothing is just not working, what can we do to make it come to an end?
It’s time to go back to basics and make sure that you have a high quality bedtime routine and that you do the minimum you need to to soothe your child. I would also check in with your child's pediatrician.
### Can they be prevented? For example, when you’re about to potty train your child, can you prepare for a possible sleep regression and stop it from happening?
I would double down on your high quality bedtime routine and also make sure that you going to be extra careful about respect your child’s bedtime and sleep schedule.
### What can we avoid doing so we don’t make sleep regression worse or last longer than it needs to?
Make sure that you are not inadvertently causing the regression by giving too much attention. For example, if your baby starts crying at night and you then start giving him a bottle every night, you will likely cause the problem behavior to continue.
### Are kids going to go through a sleep regression? Are some more likely than others?
There’s very little research on sleep regressions— as noted above, the term is poorly defined. As a parent, I can tell you that children frequently regress in many domains, just when you think you have things figured out.
### What are medical causes we should be on the lookout for?
Often the common cold may present with a sleep problem first. I’ve asked myself on many occasions, “why is my kid doing this weird thing?” and then a day or two later he will get a cold.
Snoring and complaints about legs can represent medical causes of sleep disruption and should be discussed with your pediatrician.
### How do you tell the difference between “regression” and an issue like teething or a fever that might cause interruption in sleep patterns?
Often, it’s not obvious until a day or two later, as noted above.
### What are good sleep practices for kids that we should make sure to faithfully implement so we all get a good night’s sleep?
Bedtime, bedtime, bedtime. I almost called my book *The Bedtime Habit* as your child’s bedtime is the foundation of their high quality sleep, and thus, your own.
### Further reading
[Here is a nice article in Romper about sleep regressions.](https://www.romper.com/parenting/sleep-regression?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### What to do about a nap strike
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/what-to-do-about-nap-strikes/
Last updated: 2024-05-28T00:36:28.000Z
Nap strikes are a special kind of sleep regression, where your child who used to nap like a champ just starts to refuse to go down for a nap. These occur common around the times that children are transition between various nap periods
(For more on sleep regressions, you can read my articles here: [Are sleep regressions real?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/are-sleep-regressions-real/) and [How to deal with a sleep regression)](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-deal-with-a-sleep-regression/).
## The pain of missing a nap
When you child starts refusing naps, it can be quite painful, whether you are a stay at home parent, or work outside of the home. What can compound the frustration is when your child continues to nap in school or for their babysitter but cannot be bothered to go down when you are at home.
Children are more likely to skip naps for their parents than for child care providers. Why is this? Think of attention as the currency that your child is always seeking. Attention from parents is infinitely more valuable than attention from teachers or babysitters. (This also explains the often observed fact that kids don't want to get out of bed on school days but get up early on weekends. When my kids were younger, this was less for attention for me than for time on the almighty iPad, a privilege which they only get on the weekend).
## Why naps are often a pain point
Naps are also problematic for a few other reasons. First, it is light during the day, which is not conducive to good sleep. Second, [your child's natural sleep drive](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/) is less during the day than at night. Here's [my guide to troubleshooting nap issues.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/nap-problems/)
## When do nap strikes occur?

There are are some times when you expect your child to reduce the number of naps:
- Between six and fifteen months, babies who are taking a third nap will give it up, and bedtime will get earlier.
- Around 18-24 months, children will typically move from a morning and afternoon nap.
- Between ages 2-4 years, most children will give up their nap entirely.
## What to do about a nap strike?
First, if a nap gets skipped for a day or two, don't panic. This is a common occurs.
Next, check and see if your child is in one of the developmental windows above, your child may be in the process of giving up a nap.
In the first two scenarios (three naps to two, two naps to one), you can lean into the less frequent, shorter naps. You can actually get more done when your kid takes longer naps.
With children between ages two and four may be in the natural process of giving up their naps, and you have a perfect storm of nap refusal and parental despair. This is often a painful process as your child doesn't just naturally wake up one day and not need the nap anymore. Typically, they are whiny and difficult during the prior nap period, and this can persist for a month or two.
If you think that your child is now habitually skipping a nap that you are confident that they still need, I have a few suggestions:
1. Make sure the room is pitch black, if at all possible.
2. Try a later or earlier nap time-- by 15 minute intervals. See if a new time works better.
3. Make sure your nap time routine is a mini version of bedtime, but keep it short-- 10-15 minutes.
4. If all else fails, expect that your child will stay in their room for 30 minutes, even if he cries. It is totally reasonable to expect some down time for yourself, even if your child is unable to sleep.
[For more on napping, here's a guide to dealing with nap difficulties.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/Nap+problems)
### Are sleep regressions real?
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/are-sleep-regressions-real/
Last updated: 2024-05-27T21:18:40.000Z
I'm going to be honest here-- I don't love the term "sleep regression" because I feel like the term is imprecise. Eagle eyed readers may note that I put the term "regression" in quotes. Am I throwing a bit of shade on the concept? Maybe. . . **but tired parents still need help, even if the term is slippery.** There's a lot of talk about sleep regressions happening at certain ages (The "8 month sleep regression!" The "Two Year Old Sleep Regression!"). If you search on Google, you'll find a ton of search results on this.

If you search the medical literature, however, you won't find anything.

Why is this? Because it's terrible when your kid wakes up at night, but it isn't usually predictable.
## Are sleep regressions real? Yes, but. . .
**Almost every parent has experienced the frustration of a child sleeping poorly after a period of good sleep.** These episodes seem to fit my definition of a phase: an annoying and inexplicable thing your child is doing that will probably get better soon, and that I as a pediatrician don't have a great explanation for. So let's call them regressions and be done with it.
Sleep regressions can have a few different forms:
- Babies or toddlers waking up crying
- Bedtime battles or refusals
- Nap strikes
- Early morning awakenings
That being said, I don't believe in the million different flavors of sleep regressions (the 4.75 Month Sleep Regression! The Left Handed Child who is 9 Months Old Sleep Regression! The Christmas Eve Sleep Regression!) Ok wait, that Christmas Eve one is real.
Here's a video on more of this weird sleep regressions.
### When do sleep regressions occur?
The problem is that there are only certain time periods when sleep regressions seem to predictably occur. Perhaps we could call these the Big Sleep Regressions.
- **Potty training and sleep regressions**. Potty training usually occurs between ages 3-5 (later for boys then girls). For whatever reason, this seem to be associated with night time awakenings. It makes sense. Children are usually getting a ton of positive reinforcement during the day. Then they wake up at night and are worried about whether or not they can hold it until morning. So they are crying out, either to use the potty, or because they are wet. (Part of potty training readiness is learning to dislike the sensation of a wet or soiled diaper. [Early morning awakenings](https://drcraigcanapari.com/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/) are also common. Here are some nice articles on [potty training and sleep from The Baby Sleep Site](https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddlers/potty-training-affects-sleep/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) and [Heaven Sent Sleep.](https://www.heavensentsleep.com/blog/potty-training-and-sleep?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- **Major motor milestones and sleep regressions.** Like potty training, this seems to be associated with night time awakenings. The most commonly associated milestones include crawling (ages 6-12 months), walking (ages 12-15 months) and pulling to stand (in between these milestones). Imagine how excited you are by being able to move around. Then you have a normal night time awakening out of REM sleep and just wanting to walk but you are TRAPPED IN A CRIB. Terrible, right? That's when you call for your mom. Fortunately, these seem to get better once your child has mastered the new skill.
- **When children are getting ready to get rid of a nap.** This is when things get a little tricky. Infants may drop their third nap anytime between 6-15 months of age. Toddlers usually drop a morning nap between 18-24 months of age. And preschoolers give up their nap between 3-5 years of age. Whenever a child STARTS to get ready to drop a nap, they are less tired at bedtime. So, most commonly, children will "fight sleep" by having problems falling asleep when they are taking a nap they don't really need [because they have less sleep drive at bedtime. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/) Less commonly, they may wake up during the night because, again, they got too much of their sleep during the day. If this is the case, they may play quietly in their room.
If you are struggling with naps, I have a[ guide to nap issues here.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/nap-problems/)
## What about all the other sleep regressions that you've heard about?
Jodi Mindell, one of the best pediatric sleep researchers around, examined the issue of predictability of sleep regressions.
"In 2018, she decided to do her own informal analysis using survey data she’d collected from a prior study she’d published in the journal Sleep in 2012\. Dr. Mindell examined the sleep patterns of children aged 6 years and under, looking for spikes in night wakings at specific ages. Her analysis, which was based on data from thousands of mothers but which hasn’t been peer-reviewed or published, turned up nothing. Just 28 percent of the 300 or so parents of 3-month-olds she surveyed had complained about sleep problems (leap 3, according to “The Wonder Weeks”). Just 30 percent of the 300 or so parents of 5-month-olds reported more frequent night wakings (leap 4). Those percentages don’t suggest that all infants follow the same schedule of regression and growth, said Dr. Mindell: “The data clearly indicate that there’s no specific age at which all of a sudden you see a shift in sleep.” [(From "Are Sleep Regressions Real?" in the New York Times.)](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/15/parenting/baby/sleep-regression.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Remember those Google suggestions from the image above? I think they are often related to transitions away from naps. Which happen at different times in different kids. It's really variable.
Sleep regressions as a concept feel similar to ["wake windows"](https://drcraigcanapari.com/do-wake-windows-help-kids-nap-better/)\-- an idea that has a lot more traction among sleep consultants and on parent message boards than in the scientific literature. It doesn't mean that
### Still struggling?
Most sleep regressions will pass quickly if you just stay consistent. However, here's [my handy dandy guide to dealing with sleep regressions. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-deal-with-a-sleep-regression/) I also covered sleep regressions on our [podcast episode on busting sleep myths. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep%5Fmyths/) I also have [a guide to nap strikes.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/what-to-do-about-nap-strikes/)
### Episode 7: Newborn Sleep Insights
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-7-newborn-sleep-insights/
Last updated: 2024-05-06T22:06:00.000Z
Today, Craig and Arielle unpack the often mystifying world of newborn sleep—those crucial first three months. The inspiration for this episode was Craig's new niece, who was 2 weeks old at the time of recording. Whether you're navigating the unpredictable waters of infant sleep or just curious about what's normal, this episode promises to arm you with the insights you need to feel a bit more in control—or at least to understand that sometimes, chaos is just part of the parenting package.
- \[00:00:00\] Introduction and disclaimer
- \[00:01:09\] Welcoming listeners back and introducing the episode's focus on newborn sleep
- \[00:02:12\] Discussion on the erratic nature of newborn sleep
- \[00:03:22\] Personal story about sleep expectations with a newborn
- \[00:08:21\] Explanation of active sleep in newborns and advice for parents
- \[00:10:41\] Impact of external factors like maternity and paternity leave on sleep
- \[00:14:26\] Transition to detailed discussion on sleep cues and signs of tiredness in newborns
- \[00:21:08\] Exploring the science of sleep cycles and the development of circadian rhythms
- \[00:26:35\] Discussion on the "witching hour" and strategies to cope with it
- \[00:32:23\] Month-by-month sleep development and expectations
- \[00:37:38\] Review of sleep tools and technologies affecting newborn sleep
- \[00:42:35\] Closing remarks and where to find more resources
**Notable Quotes:**
- **Craig Canapari MD:** "Things will get better with time, even if you're really struggling. It's funny, my older son was one of those babies that we took him home from the hospital. My wife had a c-section the first night. And he slept six hours overnight."
- **Arielle Greenleaf:** "I think one of the biggest things I wish I had known back in the day was I didn't know really about active sleep. And so I think when she was coming, she's going through that, what did you call it?"
- **Arielle Greenleaf:** "I always tell newborn parents, don't rush. They will tell you if they need you. They will, they have lungs and they can scream."
- **Craig Canapari MD:** "A newborn, that could be anywhere from 13 to 14 hours per or 20 hours within a 24 hour period. So if you have a baby who's natural sleep needs at that point is 20 hours a day, you are gonna feel like a parenting genius."
**Links and Resources:**
- [Sleep and Wakefulness by Nathaniel Kleitman](https://press.uchicago.edu/ucp/books/book/chicago/S/bo27408234.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Why room sharing is important for safe sleep](https://drcraigcanapari.com/is-room-sharing-infancy-necessary-for-safe-sleep/)
- [AAP Safe Sleep Guidelines](https://www.aap.org/en/patient-care/safe-sleep/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Period of purple crying](https://dontshake.org/purple-crying?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [How many wet diapers per day](https://www.healthline.com/health/wet-diaper?ref=drcraigcanapari.com#how-many-diapers)
- [Happiest Baby on the Block](https://amzn.to/4cQLwfl?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Bringing up Bebe- and Le Pause](https://drcraigcanapari.com/le-pause-avoiding-sleep-problems-and-why-you-wont-break-your-kids/)
- [Wirecutter article on the SNOO](https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/snoo-smart-sleeper-what-to-know/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
**Connect with Us**! [Send us an email](mailto:thesleepedit@gmail.com) about questions, feedback, or ideas for future topics.
### Ask us anything #1 (Ep 6)
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/ask-us-anything-1-ep-6/
Last updated: 2024-04-02T00:42:43.000Z
In our first mailbag episode, Arielle and I take a deep dive into your most pressing sleep-related questions, from the perfect setup for your toddler's room to managing sleep challenges in children with autism. We took YOUR questions from email and Instagram.
**Timestamps:**
- \[00:02:00\] "What should the light setup be in a toddler's room?"
- \[00:03:23\] "Can you immediately stop using a pacifier when sleep training?"
- \[00:05:39\] "How to introduce room sharing?"
- \[00:08:31\] "Tips for jet lag when flying overseas with kids?"
- \[00:11:30\] "How much movement during sleep is typical in an elementary schooler?"
- \[00:15:05\] "Is it okay to use melatonin for sleep issues in kids?"
- \[00:22:44\] "How to manage bedtime for children with autism?"
- \[00:28:47\] "Dealing with night nursing and weaning issues."
- \[00:36:00\] "How do we break the cycle of bottle feeding and rocking to sleep for a 2-year-old?"
- \[00:39:00\] "Will removing a nighttime sleep crutch result in split nights?"
- \[00:51:27\] "Should weekend naps match daycare schedule for a 6-month-old?"
- \[00:53:10\] "Recommendations for a 3-year-old inconsistent in taking naps."
- \[00:55:00\] "How to handle a baby's strong preference for one parent at bedtime."
- \[00:57:16\] "Helping a 6-year-old with congenital heart disease to sleep better."
### **Notable Quotes from the Episode:**
- "It should be dark enough in your kid's room that you can't read a book by the light." - Dr. Craig Canapari
- "The sooner you can eliminate the pacifier, the better." - Arielle Greenleaf
- "Kids adjust more quickly to new time zones than adults do." - Dr. Craig Canapari
- "Melatonin is not a magic bullet. It's part of a broader strategy." - Dr. Craig Canapari
- "Natural light is very helpful for adjusting to new time zones." - Arielle Greenleaf
- "Being a little bit careful with screens before bedtime can help with jet lag." - Dr. Craig Canapari
- "Restless leg syndrome in kids is typically associated with both sensory and sleep issues." - Dr. Craig Canapari
- "Swap your child's fear of not having the pacifier with germophobia and you're all set." - Dr. Craig Canapari, humorously suggesting a strategy for weaning off pacifiers.
### Links
- [Sleep edit episode with Dr. Garay](https://drcraigcanapari.com/anxiety%5Fand%5Fsleep%5Fwith%5Fdr%5Fgaray/)
- Room sharing links: [Dr Canapari article in the NYT](https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/25/parenting/siblings-sharing-a-room.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) ; [Dr Canapari article on his website](https://drcraigcanapari.com/agony-ecstasy-room-sharing-siblings/)
- [Melatonin for Children: A Guide for Parents](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/)
- [Melatonin overdoses are on the rise: why parents should worry](https://drcraigcanapari.com/melatonin-overdoses-are-on-the-rise-why-parents-should-worry/)
- [Solving Sleep Problems in Children With Autism Spectrum Disorders: A Guide for Frazzled Families](https://amzn.to/3IZKOyG?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [How to stop night feeds](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/)
- [AAP Safe Sleep Guideline 2022](https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article/150/1/e2022057990/188304/Sleep-Related-Infant-Deaths-Updated-2022?autologincheck=redirected&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Want to stop cosleeping? Here’s how](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/)
- [List of sleep training methods](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
- [Early morning awakenings: what to do about them](https://drcraigcanapari.com/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/)
### Got sleep questions? [Drop us a line for a future episode](mailto:thesleepeditshow@gmail.com)
### Tackling Anxiety and Sleep Issues in Children: A Psychologist's Perspective
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/anxiety_and_sleep_with_dr_garay/
Last updated: 2024-03-18T23:30:00.000Z
In this episode, Dr. Canapari and Arielle welcome their first guest, pediatric psychologist Dr. Danielle Garay from the Yale Pediatric Sleep Program to discuss the role of psychology in treating children's sleep difficulties, focusing on anxiety, nighttime fears, tantrums, and separation anxiety.
## Important Sections:
- \[00:03:09\] The role of a psychologist in the care of children with sleep difficulties
- \[00:07:47\] Discussion on temperament and its relevance to sleep difficulties
- \[00:10:12\] Advice for dealing with nighttime fears in children
- \[00:17:56\] Managing nighttime tantrums in toddlers and preschoolers
- \[00:39:49\] Explanation of separation anxiety and its manifestation at night
- \[00:44:58\] Understanding accommodations and their role in managing anxiety
- \[00:52:55\] Using reward structures and incentives for behavior change in children
## Highlighted Quotes:
"It is such a powerful intervention to be able to help people with their sleep." - Dr. Danielle Garay
"Tantrum has such a negative connotation, and it's not like a child is choosing to have a tantrum, and I feel like sometimes parents see it as the child choosing to have that tantrum and cause chaos at bedtime. And it's really just not the case." - Arielle Greenleaf
"True boundaries should require the other person to do nothing. It's you setting the boundary for yourself." - Dr. Danielle Garay
"Small changes in parental behavior can lead to significant improvements in a child's sleep." – Dr. Craig Canapari
## Links
- [How to stop cosleeping including an evidence based plan for children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/) with separation anxiety
- [Huggy puppy treatment for night time fears](https://drcraigcanapari.com/my-favorite-treatment-for-night-time-fears-meet-huggy-puppy/)
- [How to help an anxious child sleep better](https://drcraigcanapari.com/help-kids-with-anxiety-sleep-better/)
- [Breaking Free of Child Anxiety and OCD: A Scientifically Proven Program for Parents](https://amzn.to/3vgWzOa?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) By Eli Lebowitz PhD
- [Treating Childhood and Adolescent Anxiety: A Guide for Caregivers ](https://amzn.to/3Pn0GPm?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)by Eli Lebowitz PhD and Haim Omer PhD
- [Psychology Today - find a therapist, screening for your insurance type and specialty of provider](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [https://www.spacetreatment.net/space-providers](https://www.spacetreatment.net/space-providers?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) \- Find SPACE treatment providers (excellent parent training for treating anxiety in children
- [The Sleep Edit CIO episode](https://drcraigcanapari.com/ep%5F3%5Fto%5Fcio%5Fand%5Fbeyond/)
- [Video of this episode on Youtube](https://youtu.be/dfZTENr8Hbs?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Books on dealing with fears of the dark:
- [Uncle Lightfoot Flip That Switch: Overcoming Fear of the Dark](https://amzn.to/49Z7dZ8?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Orion and the Dark](https://amzn.to/3viyHtt?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [The Rabbit, the Dark and the Cookie Tin.](https://amzn.to/3ILdco4?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
(Note that we use Amazon Affiliate links to support the podcast).
### Dealing with Sleep As the Clocks Go Forward: DST and Your Child
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/daylight-savings-time-and-your-child-springing-ahead/
Last updated: 2026-05-10T21:06:27.000Z
Pretty soon, the clocks go forward as we "spring ahead" on Sunday, March 95h th at 2 AM. We set our clocks ahead an hour as we re-enter[ Daylight Saving Time](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daylight%5Fsaving%5Ftime?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). If you do not have children (and are not working overnight), this is a bit of a bummer and you lose an hour of sleep. If you do have kids, it may help you a bit, but it can be complicated.
(If you hate this, I may have some good news for you. There is a bipartisan push in Congress to make Daylight Saving Time permanent. However, [I think this would be a terrible idea for children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-permanent-daylight-saving-time-is-a-terrible-idea-for-kids/)). Interestingly, [Mexico just voted to return to permanent Standard Time, due to the evidence that Standard Time (the time we are on between November and March) is better for health.](https://wapo.st/491sMqJ?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
(By the way, I wrote an article a few years ago in the New York Times on [the effect of starting and ending daylight saving time on kids' sleep.](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/17/parenting/spring-ahead.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com))
Interestingly, in my sleep medicine practice, sleep disruption beyond a simple time shift seems to occur, most commonly in the form of night-time awakenings and irritability. I have found that this has seemed particularly exaggerated in children with autism and other developmental delays. It's really important to adhere to your child's schedule to minimize these effects.
Here's a video I made to explain the effects of Daylight Savings Time:
[For a more elegant graphic representation of the shift to DST affects your sleep, check ](https://wapo.st/4375XjW?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)[o](https://wapo.st/4375XjW?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)[u](https://wapo.st/4375XjW?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)[t](https://wapo.st/4375XjW?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)[ this very cool article from the *Washington Post*.](https://wapo.st/4375XjW?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## What are the effects of “springing ahead” on younger children?
If you have younger kids, this can be a net positive if your kids are early risers in that their apparent wake time will be an hour later. So if you child typically gets up at 5:30 AM and you are not happy about it, just wait until Sunday and they will be getting up at at 6:30 AM. Did anything really change? No. But the world has moved into closer alignment with your child’s schedule.
Teenagers are a different story– as is anyone who relies on an alarm clock to wake up in the morning.
## Why teens (and others) struggle with “springing ahead”
For many teenagers, it may be more problematic as [most teenagers go to bed too late and get up too late as is](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/10/11/too-much-homework-too-little-sleep-structural-sleep-deprivation-in-teens/). Grown-ups also struggle with this. **(If you struggle to get up with your alarm in the morning, you may also have a hard time– this advice may be useful for you as well).** It may be difficult for them to adjust to going to bed an hour earlier on this Sunday night.
### What the research tells us
Although we have all experienced dragging a bit after losing an hour of sleep, the data on the effects on this is surprisingly limited. [A 2025 metanalysis (study pooling multiple studies) suggested that people who prefer staying up later and getting up later ](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/41110263/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)(“night owls”) struggle with the start of DST .
What about teenagers? We know that teens naturally have a preference for later sleep and wake times. [A well designed small study examined the effects of “springing ahead” on 35 adolescents (Medina et al *JCSM* 2015. ](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25979095/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)The researchers examined sleep quantity (both subjectively and objectively using a device called an actigraph). The researchers also assessed vigilance (a measure of the ability to respond quickly to stimuli presented on a computer screen. The study showed that the teenagers in the study lost about 30 minutes per night of sleep, had increased sleepiness through the Friday after the change, and most, worrisome, had decreased vigilance which worsened during the week. To extrapolate, the effects of starting DST persisted during the week and may impair the ability to do tasks requiring vigiliance– such as, say, driving a car. We already know that [drowsy driving is highly risky for teens. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-sleepy-teenager/)
[Another larger study looked at sleepiness over time in 400 German teens (Schneider and Randle, *Sleep Med,* 2009)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1389945708003183?via%3Dihub&ref=drcraigcanapari.com). The findings demonstrated that teenagers with a more pronounced “night owl” predisposition were more at risk for sleepiness. Moreover, in this study, sleepiness persisted until the third week after springing ahead.
Clearly, springing ahead poses some risk for teenagers. So what can you do?
## What to do if you are worried your child won’t be able to get up on time after DST begins
Depending on how much difficulty your teenager has with falling asleep at night and getting up in the morning, there are a couple of different interventions you can try.
**Everybody: *On Sunday morning, get up at your usual clock time — even though you’ll have lost an hour of sleep doing so.*** You will be more tired on Sunday night and have an easier time going to sleep by [leveraging natural sleep drive.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/) So, for someone who sleeps from 11 PM-10 AM on weekends, do the following:
1\. Saturday: Go to bed 11 PM (OLD TIME)
2\. Sunday: Get up 10 AM (NEW TIME)
Practically speaking, the sleep opportunity (time in bed) will be reduced from 11 hours to 10\.
**For teens and others with significant difficulty getting up in the morning already.** This is for your if mornings are a major struggle. Try moving bedtime earlier by 20 minutes a night for two nights if you can. (Remember, it is always harder to go to be harder earlier than later, especially for teens). **Adjusting wake time is more important that falling asleep time.** For someone with a 10 PM-6AM schedule on weekdays and 11 PM-10 AM on weekends:
1. Thursday Night: Bedtime 9:40 PM Friday wake time 5:40 AM
2. Friday Night: Bedtime 10:20 PM Saturday wake time 9:20 AM
3\. Saturday Night: Bedtime 10 PM Sunday wake time: 10 AM (new time)
**For teens and others with severe insomnia and/or difficulty getting up in the morning already.** This should be a small minority of people. By difficulty getting up, I mean children who are routinely either tardy to school or where the mornings are a major struggle. This may also include teens with **autism** who often struggle more than others with these transitions.Moving bedtime earlier by 10 minutes a night for five nights if you can talk them into it. (Remember, it is always harder to go to bed earlier than later, especially for teens). **Adjusting wake time is more important that falling asleep time.** For someone with a 10 PM-6 AM schedule on weekdays and 11 PM-10 AM on weekends:
1. Monday Night: Bedtime 9:50 PM Tuesday wake time 5:50 AM
2. Tuesday Night: Bedtime 9:40 PM Wednesday wake time 5:40 AM
3. Wednesday Night: Bedtime 9:30 PM Thursday wake time 5:30 AM
4. Thursday Night: Bedtime 9:20 PM Friday wake time 5:20 AM
5. Friday Night: Bedtime 10:10 PM Saturday wake time 9 AM
6. Saturday Night: Bedtime 10 PM Sunday Wake time: 10 AM (new time)
### Why Permanent Daylight Saving Time is a Terrible Idea for Kids
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-permanent-daylight-saving-time-is-a-terrible-idea-for-kids/
Last updated: 2024-03-08T15:53:16.000Z
*As a sleep doctor and parent, I think that permanent daylight saving is a terrible idea for kids.* *Here's some information on why this is event being considered.*
In March of 2022, in a rare bipartisan move, the Senate passed a bill, with little warning or debate, called [the Sunshine Protection Act.](https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bills/117/hr69?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) It's notable that this was put forward by Vern Buchanan, a Florida representative. It’s worth noting that Florida is a state where people can actually spend outside during the evenings in the winter if the sun is out.
## What is the argument for changing to permanent DST?
It’s pretty clear that people dislike the ritual of “falling back” in the fall and “springing ahead” in the spring, especially the elderly. As per a recent Monmouth University poll, only 35% of Americans wanted to keep resetting their clocks every fall and spring. And there’s no doubt that [there is some sleep difficulty for a week or so after the time shift.](https://theconversation.com/spring-forward-fall-back-how-daylight-saving-affects-our-sleep-25025?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Some of the argument is emotional— who doesn’t like staying out later in the evening when the weather is nice? You can exercise, walk your dog, play with your kids, or sit out on the deck and relax.
Although many articles say that the time shifts with “springing ahead” and “falling back” are associated with car accidents [a recent study did not show this to be the case.](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2905900/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
There Is also an argument that it reduces energy use, but [this does not seem to be the case.](https://www.nationalreview.com/planet-gore/ed-markey-and-settled-science-daylight-savings-time-greg-pollowitz/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Some industries definitely stand to benefit from permanent DST. Specifically the golf, retail, and candy industries. (Remember when it used to be dark on Halloween? In 2005 DST was extended from last Sunday in October to the first Sunday of November-- at least part to allow more trick or treating, and thus more candy sales).
## What are the problems with permanent Daylight Saving Time?
Obviously, it's really nice in the summer to stay outside with natural light longer! (In the winter, however, in the Northeast there is little benefit to this.)
Unfortunately, there is only a finite amount of daytime. So if you make the days “longer”, you are just shifting sunlight from the morning to the evening,
Those of us who study sleep or work with patients with sleep problems are against permanent Daylight Saving Time. Honestly, I think it would be a disaster for kids. There are a few reasons for this.
The first are the safety risks of having children wait for the bus in the dark, where there is a higher likely for getting struck by a car. Let’s look at the concrete effects of this.
Where I live in Connecticut, teenagers would have to wake for school in the dark for almost then entire school year (251 days) and would be arriving to school for 114 days in the dark. This is 110 days more than with the current shift twice a year. (Source:

(To calculate these values: Assumption: High school start time of 7:30 Wake time of 6am Tables from https://savestandardtime.com/chart/?wake=6&work=7.5&city=4164138)
If you want to see how this would affect kids in your town, [use the handy calculator here.](https://savestandardtime.com/chart/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Even outside the safety risk, the lack of morning light exposure in the morning will exacerbate chronic sleep deprivation in teens and many adults. [(Here’s an article in the Washington Post where I was quoted on this topic).](https://www.washingtonpost.com/parenting/2022/03/22/daylight-saving-time-school-teens/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) Morning light exposure is an important circadian signal to your body about when to wake up and when to go to sleep. [As children move into adolescence their natural sleep schedule shifts later.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/) Many small children fall asleep between 7:30-8:30pm and wake up between 6 and 7am. In adolescents, the natural sleep schedule shifts two to three hours later. Often this does not mesh well with high school start times. In many districts, high schools are the earliest start times. For some children, this natural shift is exaggerated due to light exposures from electronics resulting in chronic sleep deprivation. The treatment for this is morning light exposure. The lack of natural light until after school starts is likely to result in worsening sleep deprivation in teens.
Going to permanent DST can result in persistent misalignment between human's body clocks and the natural light cycle. [There is evidence (in shift workers) that this can have significant health risks such as stroke and breast cancer.](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7117719/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Interestingly, [Mexico just voted to return to permanent Standard Time, due to the evidence that Standard Time (the time we are on between November and March) is better for health.](https://wapo.st/491sMqJ?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## What happened when permanent Daylight Saving Time was tried in 1973?
Interestingly, this was tried in 1973, but proved so unpopular that the US cancelled the policy after one year. The reason why? People hated getting up in the mornings.
> The experiment, however, ran afoul of public opinion—parents became concerned about traffic accidents involving their children, who were going to school in the predawn darkness on winter mornings.
>
> *(* *NYTimes Oct 1 1974*)
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## What's so great about Standard Time?
[The American Academy of Sleep Medicine is in favor of permanent Standard Time, as are many scientists who study sleep medicine.](https://savestandardtime.com/endorsements/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) The reason is that the clock time is more closely synchronized to the natural world. Specifically, clock noon is close to solar noon. Why does this matter? This makes it more likely that your body’s natural rhythms will be in sink with the natural world.
Morning light exposure is very helpful to help people keep their body clock from shifting later. In a very real sense, increasing morning light exposure and reducing night time light exposure is very helpful in the prevention and treatment of insomnia.
[For an elegant graphic representation of the shift to DST affects your sleep (and why Standard Time is superior, check out this very cool article from *The* *Washington Post*](https://wapo.st/4375XjW?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
## What's the problem with what we are doing now?
Currently, these time switches essentially give everyone an hour of virtual jet lag once per year. They cause sleep disruption in kids large and small, and may [even make your pet irritable.](https://mashable.com/article/pets-dogs-cats-daylight-savings-time?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## So what should we do?
Honestly, I personally don't mind the status quo that much as I do enjoy longer days in the summer. But if I had to pick permanent Daylight Saving or permanent Standard Time, I would pick permanent Standard Time.
### More reading
I've written a few articles about what you can do with[ falling back ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/daylight-savings-time-and-your-child-falling-back/)and [springing forward.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/daylight-savings-time-and-your-child-springing-ahead/)
Here's a great article Dr. Beth Malow wrote about the issues with Daylight Saving Time.
## So what’s your take?
Leave a comment below.
### Busting Sleep Myths: From Wake Windows to Sleepy Teens (Ep. 4)
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep_myths/
Last updated: 2024-03-04T22:47:38.000Z
Today, we're cutting through the noise to bring clarity to some common pediatric sleep myths that frequently confuse tired parents. Dr. Canapari and Arielle are tackling:
- Wake windows
- Sleep regressions
- Nap strikes
- Whether you should or should not wake a sleeping baby
- Teenage sleep myths
**Notable Quotes:**
- "Children are as unique in their sleep needs as they are in their personalities. It's our job to guide, not dictate, their path to better sleep." - Dr. Craig Canapari
- "The concept of wake windows has become a maze for parents. Let's simplify and tailor sleep strategies to fit the child, not the other way around." - Ariel Greenleaf
- "Initiating a bedtime routine early is key, but adjusting strategies as your child grows is equally important." - Dr. Craig Canapari on establishing and evolving sleep routines.
- "Addressing sleep is not just about tonight's rest; it's about setting a foundation for healthy sleep habits that last a lifetime." - Arielle Greenleaf
**Time Stamps:**
- 00:00 Introduction and Discussion on Naps
- 00:15 Debunking Sleep Myths and Discussing Wake Windows
- 08:44 Understanding Sleep Regressions
- 17:17 The Controversy of Nap Strikes
- 23:05 The Impact of Napping on Nighttime Sleep
- 23:39 The Role of Daycare in Children's Sleep Patterns
- 25:35 Debunking Sleep Myths: Late Bedtimes and Desired Wake Times
- 38:22 The Controversy of Sleep Training
- 42:38 The Struggle of Teenagers with Early School Start Times
- 45:33 Closing Thoughts and Future Advocacy
## Show notes
- [Do wake windows really help babies and kids nap better?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/do-wake-windows-help-kids-nap-better/)
- [How to deal with a sleep regression](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-deal-with-a-sleep-regression/)
- [Are sleep regressions real?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/are-sleep-regressions-real/)
- [Dealing with a nap strike](https://drcraigcanapari.com/what-to-do-about-nap-strikes/)
- [FAQ and Tips for Sleep Regressions](https://drcraigcanapari.com/faq-and-tips-on-sleep-regressions/)
- [Sleep regressions in the NYT:](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/15/parenting/baby/sleep-regression.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Iglowstein article– on sleep needs and nap timing](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12563055/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Study on driving in sleep deprived mothers:](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jsr.14083?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Understanding [sleep drive](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/) and [the circadian clock](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/) in children
- [Facebook groups raise cortisol in moms](https://www.wsj.com/articles/the-research-is-in-facebook-mom-groups-really-do-stress-women-out-11670634950?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [More help on napping](https://drcraigcanapari.com/nap-problems/)
### How to help children with anxiety sleep better
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/help-kids-with-anxiety-sleep-better/
Last updated: 2024-02-14T01:45:21.000Z
*This is a recent article from my newsletter on the role parental behavior plays in helping kids with anxiety sleep better (or keeps them struggling). If you find this useful, please feel free to subscribe below.*
I recently recorded a new episode of [*The Sleep Edit*](https://drcraigcanapari.com/podcast/) where Arielle and I interviewed Dr. Danielle Garay (which will come out in a month or so. In preparation, I reread [*Breaking Free of Child Anxiety and OCD* by Eli Lebowitz](https://amzn.to/4bER4Ji?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). It’s a terrific book if you have a child who struggles with these issues. It’s also a wonderful parenting book in general, because it gets into the concept of parental accommodations. Understanding this idea is key to addressing sleep issues in older children, which are often associated with anxiety.
Many children who struggle with sleep are anxious about separating from their parents, or are rigid about behaviors around sleep. Before the pandemic, [up to 10% of children suffered from anxiety](https://www.cdc.gov/childrensmentalhealth/features/anxiety-depression-children.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com); now the prevalence may [be as high as in 20% of children.](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/anxiety-in-children?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
True story, both my children have suffered from anxiety at various times in their childhood, my older boy especially when he was little. This would manifest as prolonged tantrums when things did not go according to plan. When he got older, it would manifest as excessive questioning about our plans. Where are we going? Who were we going to see? What would we eat there?
## Parental Accommodations, or how I accidentally powered up The Cheese Touch in my older son
Parental accommodations are simply behaviors you make to help you child cope. Sometimes they can be very helpful and useful. Let’s say that your child is struggling with reading. You work with the reading specialist at their school who teaches you a special way to read with her to help her learn. That’s a positive accommodation which is helping your child with her reading.
In the context of anxiety, however, parents often are bending over backwards to keep their child from suffering. This is going to sound funny, but my older boy practically had a phobia around cheese. I wonder if “the cheese touch” in Diary of a Wimpy Kid had anything to do with this. At the beginning of that book,
> it is revealed that the Cheese Touch originated from a piece of moldy Swiss cheese that lay on the basketball court for months. The first person to have the cheese touch was Darren Walsh, who touched it with his finger. Greg Heffley says that Cheese Touch works like the cooties: you have it until you pass it on to someone else. Greg says that the only way to protect yourself from the Cheese Touch is by crossing your fingers, and Greg ended up taping his fingers together (he got a D in handwriting as a result, but felt that it was worth it) ([Source](https://diary-of-a-wimpy-kid.fandom.com/wiki/Cheese%5FTouch?ref=drcraigcanapari.com))
Now, both my wife and I are Italian. We consume a fair amount of pizza and pasta. And it’s not a proud moment to go pick up a pizza with no cheese at your local pizzeria. You lose face. We would often have to make him special plates of food with no cheese. He was worried about eating food even adjacent to cheese so we would have to segregate his food.
These changes we were making were also *accommodations*, but they were disruptive. Fortunately, they weren’t that disruptive for us, but often parents ARE making more and more elaborate accommodations to avoid conflict. that they are making are disruptive. Often, parents resent them. And (most importantly) they are making their child *less likely to cope*.
## Accommodations around sleep are really common
**I see a lot of parenting behaviors around sleep that perpetuate sleep difficulties in children.**
- Performing rituals around bedtime. Items need to be arranged a certain way. Certain songs and books need to be read. Any deviations result in tantrums or anger.
- Allowing their child into their bed every night when the child wake up
- Avoiding nights out as their child will not fall asleep for a baby sitter. (A key violation of The Canapari Rule: If your child is awake when you come home, you shouldn’t have to pay the babysitter).
- Avoiding trips or vacations where the sleep routine may not be obeyed
- Staying in the room until the child is absolutely asleep.
- Answering obsessive questions about bedtime, sleeping, or night time fears.
Almost always, these accommodations seem innocuous at first. However, with time, they become more baroque and burdensome. I had one patient who was very fearful about thunderstorms at night. Her parents started showing her the weather forcast, so she started them asking them multiple times per day to show her the weather application.
Here’s an an example. Ted has a ten year old son named Ethan. Every night, Ethan insists that Ted lie his bed until he falls asleep. If Ted gets up too soon, Ethan will wake up and Ted has to lay there even longer. Ted’s partner Mike cannot put Ethan down to bed unless Ted is out of town. In this scenario, bedtime goes relatively smoothly. Laying down at bedtime wasn’t too annoying to Ted when Ethan was little, as he fell sleep quickly, but now that Ethan is older and bigger, it is uncomfortable for Ted to lie on the edge of the bed, and he is often there for an hour or more, which results in stress as he has to fold the laundry and do the dishes when he gets out of bed. Also Ethan has been asked to go to a sleep over but has turned down the request because he is worried that he will not be able to fall asleep.
In this example, a ritual that was pleasant and sweet at first became burdensome over time.
### How to know if you need to make a change?
The first (and most important question is): is your behavior helping your child to become more confident and independent? Ordering a pizza without cheese not that big a deal— some people like pepperoni, other people (horribly misguided people) like Hawaiian pizza. Everyone is entitled to a preference. However, being interrogating by our son about the cheese content of food or needing to make a show of segregating cheese was wearing thin and not helping him to be go out to a friend’s house for dinner. In the example above, Charlie is not making progress towards sleeping away from home, which he would like to do.
The second question is, is it unduly burdensome to you or other family members. Do you resent it? Would you prefer to be doing something else with your time? Does indulging your child’s paranoia about cheese interfer with family gatherings with your elderly Italian relatives? Is your back in agony because you spend 90 minutes lying half off of a twin mattress you bought at Ikea for $30?
## How do you change your child’s behaviors?
Behavior change is hard, especially if you are addressing long-standing patterns— say, a seven year old who needs his dad to fall asleep every night. The good news is, these ARE fixable, and the solution lies with you, not your child.
In our situation, we stopped answering questions about cheese. We honored our son’s preferences (e.g. we did not serve him food with cheese in it) but we refused to be interrogated about the contents of everything prepared for him.
In the scenario above, Ethan is unlikely to make a change anytime soon, He is perfectly comfortable with the current state of affairs. Ted has more power than he thinks however. **If Ted changes his own behavior, Ethan’s behavior will change.**
### How to change your own behavior
The first step is recognizing the accommodations that you make. I would start by making a list things that YOU do to avoid conflict around bedtime or the middle of the night. Then you pick ONE accommodation to change. Here’s the criteria that will help you pick.
1\. **Pick something that you can control.** In the example above, Ted can choose not to get into bed. He cannot choose, say, to have Ethan not argue about this.
2\. **Pick something that happens frequently.** If your child has a tantrum every time they have to fall asleep in a new place unless you lay down with them when you go on vacation once a year, this will be hard to address and is probably easier just to go along with your child’s requests.
3\. **Pick something that annoys you.** Many nursing mothers may elect to continue to nurse their child once per night even when their return to work and they enjoy this closeness. There’s no NEED to change if you don’t want to.
### Ted’s plan
There are several different ways to address a problem like this. Mike could become the point person for bedtime. Ted could elect to stay in the room in a chair and gradually move out at bedtime \[(the “camping out method”)\].
Ted decided it would go more smoothly if he was not in the room at bedtime, as he thought that it would be harder for him to set limits. So he and Mike presented the following plan to Ethan:
1\. Ted would do the bedtime routine (helping Ethan get ready for bed, reading a story, say goodnight, and leave the room).
2\. Mike would sit in a chair in the room for one week.
Ted explained it by saying, “Ethan, you are such a big boy now! It’s uncomfortable for me to lie in bed with you until you fall asleep, and I have some chores I have to do at night, so I can’t stay in your room anymore even though I love you very much. Dad (Mike) is going to stay with you for a week to help you get used to this.”
**Success is purely defined by Ted’s actions.** If he said goodnight and left the room successfully, that was success, whether Ethan cried, had a tantrum, or just went along with it. Note that it may be fairly common in situations like this for there to be some crying or even aggression for a short period of time.
In this case, Ethan got angry when the plan was presented.
Dr. Lebowitz has a great analogy about how to respond if your child is trying to argue about a planned change:
> Here's a little trick you can use to help you stay out of an argument with your child. (This works for other arguments too-not just those about anxiety and accommodation.) Imagine that your child is trying to play ping-pong with you, but you don't want to play. Your child picks up the ball and hits it toward you. You don't want to play so you throw the ball back and say, "I'm not playing."
>
> Your child hits it to you again, and you pick it up, maybe a little angrily now, and throw it right back to her. Your child hits it to you once more and again you throw it back. Do you see what is happening? You don't want to play, so you keep throwing the ball back.
>
> But as long as you keep throwing it back, your child is just going to hit to you again. You're saying you don't want to play ping-pong, but that's exactly what you're doing. It's as if by trying not to play you actually are playing. If you really don't want to play, what can you do? The best thing is to ignore the ball completely. Let it bounce off and roll to the floor. Your child might pick it up and hit it to you again, but if you keep letting it bounce and roll, she is not going of you to keep it up forever. The ball is like your child's arguments, when you don't want to argue. If you keep throwing the argument back to her, she probably won't stop. Tell yourself, "I'm not playing. I'm just going to let it bounce and roll," and you'll see how much faster the arguments stop.
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### Other techniques to ensure success
Some children benefit from rehearsal. What this would look like in this situation would be explaining the situation to Ethan, but allowing him to “practice” for a week by doing a pretend bedtime during the day a few times during the day prior to starting.
Rewards can also help. In this scenario, you could offer a small reward for both a successful reward, and being in bed at night with a calm body at bedtime.
I would also recommend that you don’t spend a lot of time explaining and re-explaining your plan. If your child keeps asking you about it, it’s not because she didn’t understand. Continuing to explain it is like a yellow light at an intersection— it’s suppose to make people slow down, but it actually makes them speed up. As Dr. Lebowitz explains,
> Consider something as commonplace as a traffic light, which has a very simple job. Traffic lights tell drivers when to go, when to stop, and when to slow down because the signal is about to change. We know that red means "stop," and green means "go," but what about yellow? If you are approaching an intersection and the light is yellow, the message is supposed to be, "Slow down, because you won't make it through." But have you ever noticed that this is not what drivers do when they see a yellow light? It's typical to see drivers speed up when the light is yellow, and this is exactly the opposite of what the light is signaling (and frequently results in running a red light)! Sometimes, you may think you are giving your child one message while, in fact, she hears the opposite. Your continued responses can be like that yellow light. If your child is having a tough time accepting that you are not providing an accommodation, then repeatedly telling her you are not going to accommodate or doing other things that are intended to help her feel better, can actually make the process longer and harder because your child interprets your responses as a signal to continue, and she speeds up rather than slowing down.
## So what happened?
On the first night, Ethan was very angry and yelled at his fathers. When Ted tried to say goodnight, he refused to talk to his father. Mike sat quietly in his room and Ted went elsewhere in the house folding laundry. Ethan kept trying to discuss the plan and why it was unfair and Mike said, “I’m not going to discuss this with you right now”. Ethan stayed up late reading his book. The next night he still refused to say goodnight to Ted, but the nights after that he said good night without comment. At the end of the week Mike said he would no longer stay in the room but would be available down the hall. In a few months, Ethan was confident enough to go on his first sleepover.
And, importantly for me, my older son now eats cheese on his pizza.
## What accommodations are you making?
If you are struggling with your child’s sleep, ask yourself— what accommodations are you making which are allowing your child to continue to struggle? Are you making any accommodations? If so what do you want to change? What barriers do you have to doing so? If you are struggling with getting your child out of your room at night, [I have detailed plans here, event for older children with separation anxiety](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/). Leave a comment or reply to this email.
### To CIO and Beyond! Making good decisions about extinction sleep training
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/ep_3_to_cio_and_beyond/
Last updated: 2024-02-07T01:05:00.000Z
In this episode, we talk about the controversial method of 'Cry It Out' (CIO) or Extinction Sleep Training. This approach, often misunderstood and feared, can be a quick and efficient method to improve a child's sleep. We go deep on the criteria for its successful implementation, discussing age-appropriateness, parental consistency, and prioritizing safety and health. We also cover that the method is not suitable for all children or families, and alternative methods like bedtime fading and pick up/put down are also considered. Finally, we cover importance of sleep training for both children and parents to improve the overall family dynamic.
## Here are the three key take-aways from the episode:
Be open to trying different sleep training methods - What works well for one child's temperament may not work for another. Give a new method 3-5 nights before deciding if it's effective.
"Gentle" is not always better - Sitting in the room while ignoring crying (camping out) can actually prolong upset in some young babies. More separation may help them learn to self-soothe faster.
Cry it out is generally safe when done responsively - Research shows no long term emotional harm. But if excessive crying persists beyond expectations, reevaluate and adjust. Be responsive to your baby's needs.
- 00:00 Introduction to the Sleep Edit
- 00:03 Discussing Cry It Out (CIO) Method
- 00:09 Introducing Arielle Greenleaf
- 01:08 The Controversy Around Sleep Training
- 02:56 Understanding Different Sleep Training Techniques
- 03:43 The Importance of Sleep for Children and Parents
- 04:02 Defining Sleep Training Terms
- 09:21 The Impact of Parenting Styles on Sleep Training
- 09:27 The Role of Attachment Theory in Sleep Training
- 17:03 The Effectiveness of Extinction Sleep Training
- 24:46 Sleep Training in the Era of Room Sharing
- 28:14 The Power of Parental Presence
- 29:12 Understanding the Importance of Age-Appropriate Schedules
- 29:56 The Role of Routine in Sleep Training
- 30:58 The Challenges of Nap Time
- 31:40 Who is Extinction Sleep Training For?
- 33:35 The Importance of Consistency in Sleep Training
- 36:54 The First Year of Life: Sleep Expectations and Realities
- 39:22 The Pitfalls of Sleep Training Methods
- 42:59 The Role of Feeding in Sleep Training
- 45:56 Alternatives to Extinction Sleep Training
## Links:
- [How long will your baby cry during sleep training?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-long-will-my-child-cry-during-sleep-training/)
- [How to CIO Sleep Train Your Baby](https://drcraigcanapari.com/cry-it-out-sleep-training-explained-how-to-use-cio-to-sleep-train-a-baby/)
- [Article in Time on why Dr. Sears’ contention about the dangers of crying are false](https://ideas.time.com/2012/05/10/the-science-behind-dr-sears-does-it-stand-up/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Two articles on [why sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/news-flash-sleep-training-doesnt-hurt-your-child/) [doesn’t hurt your child](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-fixing-your-kids-sleep-problems-is-not-selfish/)
- [Why you should room share but not bed share in infancy](https://drcraigcanapari.com/is-room-sharing-infancy-necessary-for-safe-sleep/)
- [Modern family sleep training scene](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HTsz0lsHu60&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Youtube video link to episode 3](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=geB7xeTiwVg&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### Questions or feedback? [Email us here.](mailto:thesleepeditshow@gmail.com) We are collecting questions for future Q&A shows!
Assistant producer: Theodore Canapari
### Ep 2: Sleeping through the night (part 2)
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/ep-2-sleeping-through-the-night-part-2/
Last updated: 2024-02-06T00:31:33.000Z
In part two of our discussion on helping kids sleep through the night, pediatric sleep expert Dr. Craig Canapari and sleep consultant Arielle Greenleaf tackle night wakings and feedings. [(You can find part 1 here, including a video of both episodes).](https://drcraigcanapari.com/ep-1-sleeping-through-the-night-part-1/) They provide guidance on when night feeds may or may not be necessary, how to handle night nursing for comfort vs nutrition, and tips for transitioning toddlers away from nighttime calories.
## Key Takeaways:
\- Only a small percentage of sleep issues are caused by medical problems. Most kids need some type of sleep training or behavioral intervention.
\- Check with your pediatrician before dropping night feeds - make sure your child is getting enough calories during the day first.
\- Night nursing is about more than nutrition - it also provides comfort. Wean slowly if desired.
\- Toddlers generally don't need extra calories at night. But there is little guidance given on transitioning from milk feeds to solids at this age.
## Notable Quotes:
"I always like to say I am not, if a sleep consultant starts working with someone and says, without any digging, we're going to eliminate all feedings overnight really fast, we're just gonna take 'em all away, run for your life." - Arielle Greenleaf
"Honestly, a normally growing child over a year of age doesn't really need those calories at night. And if you find that you are meaning to give milk or anything else during the night you, I give you permission to cut it out and you may want to wean it slowly." - Dr. Craig Canapari
Subscribe & Follow:
Don't forget to subscribe to "The Sleep Edit" podcast and follow Dr. Canapari and [Arielle Greenleaf](https://www.instagram.com/arielle%5F%5Fgreenleaf?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) on social media for more great sleep advice!
- 00:02 Introduction and Disclaimer
- 01:18 Understanding Sleep Disorders in Children
- 02:03 Medical Problems and Behavioral Interventions
- 05:14 The Role of Bedtime and Nighttime Awakening
- 05:18 Feeding and Sleep Patterns
- 13:44 Adjustment Issues and Sleep Disruptions
- 18:02 Addressing Nighttime Fears
- 20:24 Imagining Bedtime Stories
- 20:41 Addressing Children's Fears
- 21:13 The Huggy Puppy Intervention
- 21:55 Dealing with Trauma and Sleep Difficulties
- 23:18 Environmental Causes of Nighttime Awakening
- 24:44 The Impact of Light and Shadows
- 25:14 The Creepy Doll Story
- 25:53 Technology and Sleep
- 26:40 Sensory Disorders and Sleep
- 27:54 Too Much Time in Bed Syndrome
- 36:14 The Importance of Independent Sleep
- 38:28 Closing Thoughts and Contact Information
### Questions or feedback? [Email us here.](mailto:thesleepeditshow@gmail.com) We are collecting questions for future Q&A shows!
## Links:
- [Huggy puppy intervention for night time fears](https://drcraigcanapari.com/my-favorite-treatment-for-night-time-fears-meet-huggy-puppy/)
- [Brett Kuhn Ph.D](https://www.babysleep.com/sleep-experts/brett-kuhn-ph-d-c-bsm/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Why is your toddler waking up at night](https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/)
- [How much sleep does your child need at night?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/)
- [How to address night feedings](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/)
### Finally! A Podcast All About Kids' Sleep Issues
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/finally-a-podcast-all-about-kids-sleep-issues/
Last updated: 2026-04-30T14:14:53.000Z
I’m excited to announce [the launch of my new podcast, The Sleep Edit](https://drcraigcanapari.com/ep-1-sleeping-through-the-night-part-1/), co-hosted with my friend Arielle Greenleaf, a noted sleep consultant. In this podcast, we'll explore common sleep issues affecting children of all ages, helping both kids and parents achieve better sleep.
[Our first episode, now available, tackles the perpetually tricky topic of getting children to sleep through the night](https://drcraigcanapari.com/ep-1-sleeping-through-the-night-part-1/). Since it's such an expansive issue, we've split the episode into two parts.
**This episode covers**
• The impact of night awakenings
• Causes of early evening awakenings in infants
• How independent sleep at bedtime can address night wakings
• How developmental milestones can cause “sleep regressions”
• Effects of travel and illness on sleep
• Medical causes of nighttime awakenings
[You can listen to Episode 1 here (complete with show notes, transcript, and video option)](https://drcraigcanapari.com/ep-1-sleeping-through-the-night-part-1/). Please subscribe on your preferred podcast platform - it really supports us as a new show!
Upcoming episodes will tackle cry-it-out sleep training, common sleep myths, stranger anxiety, and the efficacy of supplements like melatonin and magnesium.
As a new podcaster, I welcome any feedback and ideas for future shows. Please reach out with your thoughts!
Thanks,
Craig

### Ep 1: Sleeping Through The Night (part 1)
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/ep-1-sleeping-through-the-night-part-1/
Last updated: 2024-01-24T21:06:01.000Z
Night time awakenings are THE most common reason that parents bring their child to a sleep physician or consultant. Dr. Craig Canapari and expert sleep consultant [Arielle Greenleaf ](https://www.instagram.com/arielle%5Fgreenleaf?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)join forces to give advice on the most common reasons that kids wake up at night. The first step to getting your child to sleep through the night is understanding why they are waking up. They address the concept of sleep regressions, the impact of medical conditions such as asthma, acid reflux, and ear infections on sleep, and the importance of consulting a professional when these issues arise. Greenleaf discusses her own journey from a sleep-deprived mother to a pediatric sleep consultant, highlighting the valuable role of sleep consultants in helping families achieve better sleep. Canapari reminds listeners that the goal isn’t about achieving “perfect” sleep but about achieving sleep that enables everyone in the family to feel good and function well in the morning. [(Note that this is such a big topic we split it in two-- here is part 2)](https://drcraigcanapari.com/ep-2-sleeping-through-the-night-part-2/).
- 00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer
- 01:06 Meet the Host and Guest
- 01:41 Arielle's Journey into Sleep Consultancy
- 03:15 The Impact of Nighttime Awakenings
- 05:37 Defining 'Sleeping Through the Night'
- 09:34 Understanding Nighttime Awakenings
- 09:49 Addressing Early Evening Awakenings
- 16:06 Understanding Sleep Cycles and Stages
- 18:35 The Importance of Independent Sleep
- 24:07 Understanding Your Child's Sleep Patterns
- 24:27 The Role of Sleep Consultants and Pediatricians
- 25:04 The Importance of Independent Sleep
- 26:21 The Misconceptions Around Sleep Training
- 28:06 The Impact of Developmental Milestones on Sleep
- 30:19 The Effects of Travel and Illness on Sleep
- 31:35 Addressing Nighttime Awakenings
- 37:11 The Role of Medical Issues in Sleep Disruptions
- 40:34 The Importance of Addressing Health Before Behavior
- 42:35 Preview of the Next Episode
- 43:18 Closing Remarks and Contact Information
### Links:
- [Sleep training won't hurt your child](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-fixing-your-kids-sleep-problems-is-not-selfish/)
- [How much sleep do kids need?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/)
- [What to do about sleep regressions](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-deal-with-a-sleep-regression/)
- [How to stop night feedings](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/)
- [Things that go bump in the night](https://drcraigcanapari.com/night-terrors-sleep-talking-and-sleepwalking-in-children/): Night terrors, sleep walking, etc.
- Craig's Book: [It's Never Too Late To Sleep Train: The Low Stress Way to High Quality Sleep for Babies Kids and Parents](https://amzn.to/2PfthnX?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Why you should ignore annoying things your kids do](https://drcraigcanapari.com/three-reasons-to-ignore-your-childs-annoying-behaviors/)
- [Toddler night wakenings:](https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/) what causes them, what you can do about them
- [Youtube video link to episodes 1 and 2.](https://youtu.be/oAfYCXWcVGg?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### "The Sleep Edit" Trailer
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-sleep-edit-trailer/
Last updated: 2024-01-24T16:21:41.000Z
Parenting is hard-- especially when your child isn't sleeping well. Because that means you aren't sleeping well. I'm excited to launch a new podcast tackling the most common sleep issues that parents are facing these days. Why does my child wake up every night? How do I get him out of my bed? Is melatonin safe. Join us twice a month as Dr Craig Canapari (author, sleep expert, and director of the Yale Pediatric Sleep Center) and Arielle Greenleaf (noted sleep consultant) give you the best, evidence based information you need so EVERYONE in your home can sleep better.
### Camping Out Sleep Training: A Gentle Technique That Works
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/camping-out-sleep-training/
Last updated: 2026-07-04T18:52:26.000Z
If your child is struggling with sleep (either problems fall asleep, or staying asleep) they may benefit from sleep training. Cry-it-out (also known as CIO or extinction sleep training) is the most famous flavor of sleep training. It definitely works ([and entails less crying than parents think](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-long-will-my-child-cry-during-sleep-training/)) it’s not for everyone. “Camping out” sleep training, also known as the “chair method”, “sleep lady shuffle” or extinction with parental presence, is a technique work well for families who want to stay with their child during the training process.
If you have a young infant and you want to go more quickly, [here's my comprehensive guide to extinction / cry it out sleep training.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/cry-it-out-sleep-training-explained-how-to-use-cio-to-sleep-train-a-baby/)
## What Is Camping Out Sleep Training?
Like all sleep training methods, “camping out” sleep training (which I will refer to simply as camping out for simplicity) is a technique for teaching your child to fall asleep independently. It is actually a form of extinction sleep training— extinction meaning that you are.
Note that I did not come up with the term “camping out”. [I believe it was Dr. Harriet Hiscock in Australia who introduced the term.](https://www.bmj.com/content/324/7345/1062?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### Strengths
- Gentler than regular extinction/CIO
- Works well with anxious kids and parents
- Generally less crying (but not necessarily NO crying)
- Works well with older kids, not just babies
### Weaknesses
- Takes longer to implement than CIO
- Time consuming and thus difficult to implement in the middle of the night
- There are some clear sticking points (see below)
### Which sleep training method fits your child?
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## Which Children Benefit from Camping Out?
I actually like camping out for a pretty broad range of kids. You can use it with infants (starting from 4-6 months of age which is the sleep training window). It can work well for toddlers and preschoolers (or even nervous elementary schoolers as well, although other techniques like the Yale Plan to Get Your Child to Sleep in His Own bed will work better for school age kids and up ([about three quarters down the page in this article on stopping cosleeping](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/)).
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## What to do before sleep training
Like all sleep training techniques, you want to make sure you have a set bedtime every night, with a set bedtime routine.
Pick a night to start and have a good plan. Fridays nights work well. Don’t start if you have travel plans in the next month.
## Guiding Principles
Like all extinction methods, you are working to get rid of a behavior (in this case, your child needing you present to fall asleep and stay asleep) by reducing the amount of attention you provide to your child at bedtime. (To understand why this works, read this post on [breaking bad sleep habits in kids](https://drcraigcanapari.com/breaking-bad-sleep-habits-kids/)). CIO is a brute force method— you are essentially placing your child in the crib. In camping out, you are staying with your child but providing the minimum amount of interaction.
## How to performing camping out.
No matter the age of your child, here is the most critical part: although you are present, the goal of this method is still removal of your involvement for sleep onset. **This means that you will need to provide minimal attention to your child.** You should not get in a discussion with your child, but simply sit with her and repeat your final bedtime cue: “I love you. It’s time to go to sleep. Good night.” The interaction you provide should be basic and boring. It’s even ok to read your kindle or your phone (or pretending to be asleep.
### Infant protocol (ages 4-12 months)
For infants, the procedure is pretty simple. You will simply just move a mattress into your baby’s room. You will be in there for about a week.
1. Perform your bedtime routine and place your child in the crib drowsy but awake.
2. Lie down on the mattress near your child’s crib and pretend to be asleep. They may cry but usually less than with CIO.
3. When your child goes to sleep, you can leave the room.
4. Go to bed in your child’s room.
5. If your child is crying excessively you can calm them down a bit and put them down.
6. Usually sleep will improve within four days. By night eight you should be able to return to your own room.
7. If there is an uptick in crying when you move out you can move back into her room for a few nights.
If this feels too difficult, you can adapt the chair method as noted below.
### Toddler/Preschooler Method— the Chair Method (1 year- 5 years)
As with infants, you will stay in your child’s room until he falls asleep.
For toddlers (and especially kids in beds who can get up and leave), the general principle is the same, but the execution is slightly different.
Just as previously described, you will stay in your child’s room until he falls asleep. Over the course of a week or two, you will gradually increase your distance from your child’s bed.
Older kids may need more of an explanation for why you are sitting there ignoring them. Otherwise, the five-year-old is going to give you a look that says, “What the hell are you doing?” ***The time to have the conversation about what you are doing and why should occur well before bedtime.*** My older son was like a tiny lawyer who would interrogate me whenever we we implemented any sort of change in the rules. Be open about the fact that you know he is a big kid but needs a little help falling asleep. It’s fine to say that you have to do a bit of work while you are waiting for him to fall asleep. This is one of the few situations where it would be OK for you to sit with your phone while ignoring your child. Make sure you have the brightness turned down, and recognize that this initially may be distracting to your child.
You should not engage in conversation after lights out; simply repeat your bedtime mantra: “I love you. It’s time to go to sleep. Good night.”
Every few days, when your child has begun to fall asleep fairly easily, you can move a step further out. Each step should take about two to five days. After one night of sleep onset within fifteen minutes of lights-out, you can move to the next step. Here’s a sample schedule based on making changes every three days.
1. Days 1–3: You stand by his crib and rub his back.
2. Days 4–6: You sit by your child’s bedside but do not touch him.
3. Days 7–9: You move your chair to midway between your child’s bedside and the door.
4. Days 10–12: You sit in your chair by the door to the room.
5. Days 13–15: You sit outside the door but where your child can still see you.
6. Days 16–18: You sit out of sight but provide verbal reassurance, either by sitting just outside the room or by using a two-way monitor.
## When To Start Training
Before you start, make sure you have a[ set bedtime routine at a consistent time. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/starting-a-bedtime-routine/)Usually I recommend starting when you have a month of time without planned interruptions (vacations, visits from relatives, moving house, etc.) Here's an article on [when not to sleep train.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/when-not-to-sleep-train/)
## When To Stop Training
When your child is falling asleep independently OR you have been doing this for a week with no progress.
## What do you do if your child wakes up in the middle of the night?
If you like, you can repeat whatever you are doing at bedtime. So if you are sitting two feet from your child’s bed, you can go back in and stay until he falls back asleep.
HOWEVER, given the fact that this is a gentler, slower method, you might be up in the middle of the night frequently if you do so. I also think it is OK to do whatever you need to do to soothe your child back to sleep quickly so you can go back to bed.
**As with all sleep training techniques, the goal is to have your child fall asleep without you present. Once you do so, the night time awakenings tend to improve over several weeks.**
## Sticking points
Usually the most difficult step is when you are no longer in the view of your child. If your child is crying at this point, you have two options. You can move back to an earlier step (such as moving your chair back into the room) for longer— up to seven days).
Alternatively, for older children (three and up) if your child is in a bed and following you out of the room, you can do what my mentor Dr. Judy Owens recommends. Tell your child you need to do some work while he is falling asleep, but that you can't get interrupted. If your child will not stay in his bed, leave the room and close the door for one minute. When you open the door, the expectation is that he is back in his bed. If he is not, close the door for two minutes. Repeat as necessary, adding a minute each time, until your child is in bed when you reopen the door. As you can imagine, this can get ugly on the first few nights you try it. [There can be some crying, or even an extinction burst, as this is an extinction-based method (you are ignoring behaviors you don’t like)](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-mistakes-and-pitfalls/).
I don’t really recommend this for children who are very anxious or who struggle with attachment, as it can be very traumatic.
For older children who are very anxious, I would recommend [“The Yale Plan for Getting Your Kid To Sleep In His Own Bed” in this post.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/)
## What to expect
Generally this method will take 2-4 weeks to get your child to fall asleep independently. Once she is doing so, night time awakenings will typically drop out in 2-4 weeks.
## Further reading
If you are looking for a comprehensive guide on how to implement camping out, as well as understanding all of the other steps required for a successful sleep plan, I highly recommend checking out my book[*It's Never Too Late to Sleep Train: The Low Stress Way to High-Quality Sleep for Babies, Kids, and Parents*](https://amzn.to/2PfthnX?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)(affiliate link). It is chock full of high quality info so you and your child can start sleeping better ASAP.
### More reading:
[Sleep Training Truths: What Science Can (And Can't) Tell Us About Crying It Out](https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2019/07/15/730339536/sleep-training-truths-what-science-can-and-cant-tell-us-about-crying-it-out?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[The Australian government's article on camping out](https://www.pregnancybirthbaby.org.au/camping-out?ref=drcraigcanapari.com#::text=Camping%20out%20is%20a%20technique,usually%20takes%20about%203%20weeks.)
[Nested Bean on camping out](https://www.nestedbean.com/blogs/zen-blog/the-camping-out-method?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[What is camping out in sleep training?](https://www.babysleep.com/sleep-advice/what-is-camping-out-in-sleep-training/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### Not sure which sleep training method fits your child?
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### Night Terrors, Sleep Talking, and Sleepwalking in Children
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/night-terrors-sleep-talking-and-sleepwalking-in-children/
Last updated: 2023-08-02T15:20:18.000Z
As parents, we all look forward to the peace and quiet which occurs when our children are finally tucked quietly into their beds. However, sometimes kids get up at night and do weird stuff. In a new series, I want to explore some of these weird and wonderful behaviors which [we call *parasomnias*](http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/guide/parasomnias?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). Quite simply, parasomnias are events which occur out of sleep and contain both characteristics of sleep and wake. For example, children who sleepwalk are *walking*(duh) but not acting in a logical manner. Today, I’m going to be talking about some of the most common parasomnias which come out of non-REM sleep, usually very deep sleep. Specifically, **sleepwalking, night terrors, confusional arousals, and sleep talking in children**. These events all have several characteristics in common:
- **They usually (but not always) occur in the first half of the night,** most commonly a few hours after bedtime. This is because they emerge from the deepest kind of sleep, slow-wave or Stage 3 sleep.
- During these events, **children may be agitated and seem confused;** they are usually difficult to console, and if you try to talk with them, the conversation are usually non-sensical.
- **Children usually do not have difficult going back to sleep after these events** (although you may).
- Generally, **your child will not remember these events the next day.** I have seen children in clinic who have nightly events who never recall any of them.
- There is often a **family history of similar events** in up to 60% of in first degree relatives (parents and siblings) of affected children.
- Usually (but not always) **these events resolve by early adolescence** for most kids
- Events occurring in teenagers and adults tend to be **longer and more severe.**
# Night Terrors
**Night terrors** are one of those things that really freak you out as a parent. All of a sudden, you hear your child screaming at the top of his lungs. You rush to your room to see what’s wrong, and your child doesn’t seem to see you. He may scream your name, but any effort to comfort him is in vain, and actually seems to agitate him further. Eventually (usually in about ten minutes), the screams become sobs, and your child eventually falls back to sleep. He doesn’t remember it the next morning but you sure do. The events are relatively uncommon, occurring in about six percent of children. Evidence of the fight or flight response, (sweating, heart pounding, dilated pupils) are common.
Here’s a good example of one:
My older son used to have these about once a month between the ages of three and four. Even though I knew what it was, it was still pretty unpleasant. His events would last for about 3–4 minutes, but it felt A LOT longer. These events are typically brief (\~5 minutes) but can feel a lot longer. If we tried to wake him up, it seemed to prolong the events. Once he was in a bed, I would just sit in the room as he thrashed about to make sure he didn’t hurt himself. Although I knew exactly what was going on, I still found it stressful.
Younger kids with night terrors tend to stay put, but older kids may pop out of bed and run around in an agitated manner. Night terrors are thus a close cousin of sleepwalking.
# Sleepwalking
**Sleepwalking, or *somnambulism*** is the act of walking around out of slow wave sleep. Children usually seem calm, to the point where a casual observer may think that the child is awake. Rarely, children may get up and urinate in places other than the toilet. (I know, it certainly sounds funny until you are cleaning up a puddle of urine in the middle of the night). One of the most common manifestation is your child wordlessly materializing at your bedside in the middle of the night, but not really seeming “all there.” Less commonly, children may be agitated, running around and yelling in a way analogous to a night terror. It’s important to remember that sleepwalkers can perform complex tasks such as unlocking doors and turning on the stove. Sleepwalkers can get injured if they get out of the house. This can be especially perilous if you are on vacation or, say, camping by a cliff.
Sleepwalking occurs in 15% of kids; a much smaller proportion (1–6%) will have events at least once per week.
Here’s a video of a child sleepwalking:
# Confusional Arousals
**Confusional arousals** are the less interesting, milder mannered version of night terrors and sleepwalking. The timing is similar to the events above, and these events will usually present as some moaning, talking, and maybe a little light thrashing in bed. They typically last longer than night terrors but are milder– a 5–15 minute duration is common.
# Sleep Talking
**Sleep talking (or somniloquy)** is really common– so common, in fact, that I’m not convinced that it is a disorder *per se.* However, like all of these parasomnias, it can occur more commonly in children with disorders of sleep fragmentation such as obstructive sleep apnea.
Here’s a video of a baby waking herself up sleeptalking.
# Assessment
Like pretty much all sleep disorders, the most important way to assess these problems is by reviewing a detailed history of the events. How frequently do they occur? How severe are the events? When in the night do they occur? Does anything seem to trigger them? Especially in these scenarios, a video captured on a smartphone can be invaluable. (Here’s my article on [how to get the most out of your doctor’s visit](https://drcraigcanapari.com/a-parents-toolkit-for-the-specialist-visit/)).
Rarely, further testing is necessary:
- A history of snoring or very frequent events may prompt an **overnight sleep test (polysomnogram)** to look for disorders which could trigger these events. Any disorder which fragments sleep (including medical disorders such as asthma) can trigger these events. The most common disorder we are looking for is [obstructive sleep apnea (OSA)](https://drcraigcanapari.com/obstructive-sleep-apnea-a-common-and-serious-problem-in-kids/). OSA does not cause night terrors or sleep walking, but it can trigger it. In our standard sleep study, we record video. If we are lucky, we’ll capture one of the events you had at home. If we don’t, however, it is OK because the primary purpose is to look for a sleep problem.
- Rarely, I may order an **electroencephalogram (EEG)** to rule out seizure activity. Seizures are usually stereotyped, meaning that each event (seizure) is the same in terms of movement, etc. Rhythmic or repetitive movements are common.
# How To Treat
As you can infer from above, these problems are pretty common in childhood. If events are rare, or infrequent, they are little cause for concern. However, events that are frequent or severe may require first assessment or treatment.
- Careful attention to **adequate sleep** is critical. Sleep deprivation is a clear trigger. This is why these events often occur when families are on vacation or after special occasions. Here’s an article on [how much sleep kids need](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/).
- It’s critical to ensure a **safe sleeping environment**. At home having double locked doors (where you need a key to get out) or deadbolts out of children’s reach are important. Travel can be a challenging time as the disruption to routine and schedule can make events more likely, and also more perilous. [A portable door alarm such as this one](http://amzn.to/1JnKod1?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)(affiliate link) may be a usual addition to your travel toolkit.
- **Sedating medications** are reserved for severe (children are getting hurt, hurting others, or getting into risky situations such as getting out of the house) or very frequent cases. Most commonly, benzodiazepines are prescribed and are quite effective. In intermediate cases, I will prescribe them for vacations, sleep overs, or other situations where sleepwalking would be dangerous (e.g. sleeping in a tent by a cliff).
- **Scheduled awakenings** are a technique where parents wake children up nightly, usually about 30 minutes prior to the typical time where the night terror or sleep walking episodes occur. Doing this nightly for a month seems to reduce the frequency and severity of these events. You need to wake your child up to the point where he or she is able to have a conversation with you. The downside is that a) doing these events may rarely trigger an event b) the awakenings can contribute to sleep deprivation.
Have your children had any unusual, alarming, or amusing behaviors in their sleep? Let me know in the comments.
### Vacation "Sleep": How to Maximize Shut-Eye While On The Move
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/vacation-sleep/
Last updated: 2023-07-31T15:45:19.000Z
*Sadly, I'm not on vacation right now. I hope you are. Dealing with *jet lag,* figuring out *sleeping arrangements,* and working around everyone's schedule can be challenging. I thought that I would share my best *sleep travel tips for kids* and parents to get more sleep while* *traveling.*
Right now I'm about 50 yards from the beach on Long Island, and enjoying some time quiet time (e.g. watching the Yankees and listening to the kids play).
Vacation used to be a really challenging time with our boys. Witness the usual view from the foot of my bed at approximately sunrise all week-long when my younger son-- [an inveterate early riser](https://drcraigcanapari.com/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/)\-- was in our room. I also remember when my older son was a baby, and the first night when we travelled ANYWHERE would result in about an hour and a half of crying before he fell asleep.

"Time to get up Mom and Dad"
It has gotten better over time, more likely due to the fact that they have gotten older. Perhaps I've gotten a bit wiser as well. Here are a few I've picked up a few things
- **Respect the routine:** When we go on vacation we try really hard to maintain our kids' sleep times. This was harder when they used to nap. Of course, we bend the rules for special occasions like fireworks. Also, some "sneaky sleep" may be unavoidable as the kids will be pretty tuckered out.
- **Recognize that other families have different rules; be flexible:** My kids always point out to me when other families we are with have different rules (usually if the kids have more screen time than mine). This can be pretty challenging when some kids go to bed later or get up earlier than your kids. Make sure your kids know that their friends or cousins might have different rules, and that is OK.
- **Teenagers may need to make some adjustments too:** Is your teen used to showering at 2am? Do they slam doors as they stop around the house getting a microwave pizza at 11pm? They may need to be reminded that this is (more) inconsiderate, if, say, they are sharing a hotel room with their parents.
- **Go to bed early:** We were vacationing with cousins, and all the kids got up earlier than normal. If you want to catch up on your sleep, your best chance is by going to bed earlier than normal.
- **Make the room dark:** Don't hesitate to hang towels over the windows if you need to-- that can make a huge difference in when your child gets up.
- **Get creative with the sleeping arrangements:** We were staying with several cousins at a vacation home. Our older son shared a "room" (which was a walk in closet) with his 6 year cousin. That way they did not have to get up with their younger siblings (and tired parents) the next day. Of course, this is not perfect; my niece got up at 5:15 AM on the first day and awoken our son as well. Sharing rooms can be a bit tricky for children used to having their own room; older children should be instructed to let others sleep if they wake up early. They may also be a bit chatty at bedtime, but that is part of the fun.
- **Jet lag can be tricky**: Jet lag occurs when traveling across time zones east or west, when [your body clock](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/) is out of phase from the clock time. You can prepare a bit by putting your kids to bed later for a few days before traveling west or getting them up a bit earlier before traveling east. The main consequence can be a really early bedtime and wake time (when traveling west) or vice versa when traveling east. Children tend to adapt quickly if they have natural light exposure. Avoid "sneaky sleep" if possible and try to get to the "correct" (as per the clock) bedtime as soon as possible. For short trips, an alternative may be keeping your home clock schedule. For more on this topic there are some good articles [here](https://www.parentmap.com/article/top-tips-for-taming-jet-lag-with-kids?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) and [here](https://www.allianzcare.com/en/about-us/blog/2020/10/jet-lag-in-children.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) and [here](https://www.localpassportfamily.com/2018/10/toddler-jet-lag.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).

Courtesy of Topher Cox, who just brought his daughter home from France.
- **Be realistic:** Remember long relaxing reading sessions by the pool and sleeping on the beach? I NOW have those again now that my kids are teens. This DID NOT occur when my kids were little.
- **Have fun:** Although vacation with little ones may not exactly be restful, we had a ton of fun digging holes in the sand, looking at snails, riding bikes, and having lots of family meals.
- **Be in the moment:** Put your phone down and don't worry about taking pictures or keeping up with Twitter. [Kids can benefit from "doing nothing"](http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/06/07/whats-your-teenager-doing-this-summer-in-defense-of-nothing/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) and so can you. Above all, don't [ruin your own vacation](http://travel.nytimes.com/2012/07/01/travel/vacation-sabotage-dont-let-it-happen-to-you.html?partner=rss&emc=rss&pagewanted=all&ref=drcraigcanapari.com).

If you want more information, [I also like this post from Modern Moms.](http://www.modernmom.com/ef466536-3b45-11e3-8407-bc764e04a41e.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Any crazy vacation sleeping stories out there? Please share.
### Toddler Early Morning Awakenings: What To Do About Them
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/
Last updated: 2026-07-04T18:50:43.000Z
Toddler **early morning awakenings** are one of the most challenging sleep problems for parents to deal with. They can also be a big problem in preschoolers. Fortunately, you can get your child to sleep later. Here’s how.
When I meet other parents socially, there is one question I get asked more than any other. “Why does my child get up so early in the morning?**“** and, more pressingly, “What can I do about it?” I’m going to talk about toddlers and preschoolers here (1-5 years of age).
## When should toddlers and preschoolers wake up in the morning?
When assessing this concern, I always see if the parents have realistic expectations. Most little children are morning people, which is a real challenge if you are a night owl like me. Expecting your toddler to sleep past 6:30 AM is usually unrealistic. An age appropriate wake time in this age group is probably between 5:30-7:30 AM. If your version of acceptable wake times on the weekend is 8 AM, you will probably be disappointed. Some children naturally wake up between 5:30-6:30 AM. If your child sleeps a little later, it is generally not cause for concern. Some kids's circadian rhythm is naturally phase advanced-- colloquially, we call them early birds.
Another thing to consider is how much your child is sleeping at night. In generally, toddlers aged 1-2 need between 11 and 14 hours in a 24 hour period. Preschoolers need 10-13 hours. Note that this also includes naps. Some children may fall outside of this range. ([Here's an article on normal sleep duration in children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/)).
Practically speaking, it is very useful to track your child's sleep schedule for a few days to see how much they are sleeping in a typical 24 hour period. I would recommend doing this on a two typical weekdays and one weekend and figuring out the average. Most children are pretty consistent about their sleep needs. For example, if your toddler usually sleeps 12 hours when you measure it, this will likely remain consistent until they get a little older. Measuring your child's sleep needs will help with your next steps.
## How to address early morning awakenings
### Step One: Make sure your child's bedroom is set up to avoid early awakenings.
Make your child's room as dark as possible. Those black out blinds are expensive but they may be worth it. Most kids are really light sensitive, especially if they are morning early risers, and limiting light exposure can make a huge difference. One spring, my kids were getting up earlier and earlier with the longer days. This was getting a bit painful until [daylight savings time](https://drcraigcanapari.com/daylight-savings-time-and-your-child-springing-ahead/) bailed us out and magically made 5:30 into 6:30 AM.
**Some children really like the feeling of being enclosed. If you can, avoid switching your child from a crib to a bed until they are three or four, unless they are jumping out of the crib.** Changing from a crib to a bed is often a “Hail Mary” move for desperate parents, but in my experience it often backfires. If your child is in a bed, [sometimes a bed tent](https://amzn.to/3muEd7R?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) can be very helpful to make your child less conscious of changes in their surrounds.
A white noise machine may be useful if a parent needs to get ready for work before the appointed hour, if the garbage truck comes by at 5 AM, or if one child tends to wake another. We use [this one](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000KUHFGM/ref=as%5Fli%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B000KUHFGM&linkCode=as2&tag=drcraigcanapa-20&linkId=Z27Z4BW2U3Q7ZPRY&ref=drcraigcanapari.com), which appears to be indestructible. Some concerns have been raised about the possibility of these machines affecting children’s hearing. Based on my own [very unscientific research, I suspect that this is pretty safe](https://drcraigcanapari.com/is-your-sound-machine-harming-your-childs-hearing/) for most children.
### Step Two: Schedule adjustments
Schedule adjustments tend to work best if your child is getting enough sleep in a twenty-four hour period. Here's how you know your child is getting enough sleep:
1\. When you track their sleep over three days, it is falling in the normal range.
2\. When they wake up in the morning, they are happy and in a good mood.
Broadly speaking, there are two schedule changes you can make. [Both increase sleep drive](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/) (also known as sleep pressure) to help your child sleep in later in the morning.
**Shift bedtime later:** A later bedtime can definitely help, but it may not work right away, You also need to move slowly-- by say 10 minutes a day with the goal of moving bedtime later by 30-60 minutes. Generally, the "sweet spot" for bedtime for most kids this age will be between 7:30-8:30pm. I would make your move then wait a week or two to see if it helps.
**Giving up or limiting napping:** Sometimes, your child's daytime nap is shortchanging your sleep at night. Most toddlers give up their morning nap between 18 and 24 months of age. A child older than three may be ready to give up their nap altogether. If you feel like your child is ready to give up their nap (they are fighting you at nap time) you can try dropping them. Alternatively, if the naps are excessively long (more than 3 hours) I would try limiting the last nap of the day to two hours and making sure your child is awake by 4pm. Reducing daytime sleep will lead to sleep extension, usually in the morning. As with a later bedtime, note that you may need a week or two to see the full benefit. [Here's more information on dealing with napping problems.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/nap-problems/)
### Is your child up before 6 AM?
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### Step three: changing how you respond when your child wakes up early.
Your child may be awakening because of behavioral reasons, especially if they are not getting enough sleep at night or are irritable in the morning. Often child who wake up irritable are waking up out of the NREM part of their sleep cycle, where it is normal to awaken out of REM sleep. If you take your child into your bed every time they wake up early, they are not going to start sleeping in on their own.
In other posts, I’ve talked about [sleep onset associations](https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/). These are essentially bad habits which can be changed. (For more on [how the psychology of habits affects sleep in children, read this article](https://drcraigcanapari.com/breaking-bad-sleep-habits-kids/)). This means that if your child requires a certain set of conditions to fall asleep, they will need them again whenever they wake in the night. If your child needs you to fall asleep at bedtime, I would actually consider sleep training at bedtime first. Teaching your child to fall asleep independently at bedtime WILL improve early morning wakings.
Even if your child is falling asleep independently, you can still inadvertently create a need for comfort from you in the early mornings. When a child is brought into the parents’ bed when she wakes very early ( before 5 AM), they will soon start to wake up anticipating this comfort. We went though a month with my son at ten months of age where I was lying on the floor with him with a pillow and blanket every day at 4:30 AM (pathetic, I know). I was essentially trying to have my cake and eat it too– get to sleep some more but avoid a sleep association. It didn’t work. The next step was ignoring him until a later and later time until he got to 6 AM. So we got up with him at 4:40 AM, then 4:50 AM, then 5 AM and so on, until he slept until a more reasonable time. He fussed a bit but it was not a terrible amount of crying. If your child is in a crib, you can just start moving the time you get your child out of their crib later. Again, go slowly.
For older children (three and up) **a wake up alarm clock** may work with older toddlers or preschoolers. Set up a timer with a light or just try out one of these [OK to Wake Clocks ](https://www.amazon.com/s/?%5Fencoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&field-keywords=ok%20to%20wake&linkCode=ur2&sprefix=ok%20to%20wake%2Caps%2C181&tag=drcraigcanapa-20&url=search-alias%3Daps&linkId=CIDOSEYFPRTT626O&ref=drcraigcanapari.com). Our older son tends to rush out of bed if he hears his brother stirring or me getting ready for work. He likes his new clock and will wait for it to turn green. The key in being successful with this is **going slowly** and **being realistic.** That is to say, buying one of these clocks will not make your two year old sleep until 9 AM on the weekends. I would recommend picking a time about ten minutes later than your child’s current wake time, then moving it later by ten minutes every day or two until you reach your target wake time. This maximizes your chance of success and your child’s sense of mastery. A [sticker chart](http://seattlemamadoc.seattlechildrens.org/potty-training-reward-chart-glory/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) can be helpful in this context, or even (!) an M&M or jelly bean every time your child gets up when you wish them to.
Don't neglect negotiating with young elementary schoolers. When I first wrote this post my boys seven and four. This has made mornings much better. My older son understands time very well and will actually take his brother downstairs or read him stories if we ask him to. This is simply lovely. On the weekends we ask them not to get us before 7:30 AM and, unbelievably, they have complied. Once your children are old enough that they do not require direct supervision, I don’t have a problem with parents turning on a show for their kids for 30 extra minutes of sleep on the weekend.
### Other questions and answers
#### What if my child wakes up hungry?
A light bedtime snack (something not too calorically dense but with some fat and protein) can be helpful. Think a glass of whole milk or peanut butter on a cracker.
#### What if my child started waking up early all of a sudden?
Although I don't like the term, this may represent a sleep regression. [Here's an article on how to deal with this.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-deal-with-a-sleep-regression/)
#### What if my child's diaper is soaking wet?
Night diapers can be very helpful.
The keys to success are having realistic expectations, keeping your child’s room dark, and responding consistently to how your child wakes up in the morning. If you have persistent early AM awakenings (e.g. 4-5 AM or earlier) it is worth discussing with your pediatrician, especially if your child seems really cranky and tired during the day.
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### My favorite treatment for night time fears: meet “Huggy Puppy”
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/my-favorite-treatment-for-night-time-fears-meet-huggy-puppy/
Last updated: 2023-02-14T01:03:05.000Z
This intervention was originally created to help young children (ages four to six) cope with trauma experienced during wartime. Dr. Avi Sadeh, an Israeli sleep physician, created it to help young children children affected by shelling in the 2006 Israel-Lebanon war.
In a second study, he and his collaborators assessed how well this intervention would work for children struggling with night time fears. They found a marked reduction in night time fears, as well as a reduction in sleep latency (the time it takes to fall asleep) and the number of night time awakenings.
This intervention was based on research that children with transitional objects tend to sleep better. This is my older boy’s teddy bear. When he was younger, it was perhaps the most valuable thing we owned. I was so paranoid about losing it on trips I considered buying another version and putting it in the laundry a hundred times to have a back up.
The initial intervention was based around the idea that children love to help, and this taps into their best instincts to care for others. The follow up study also tested a slightly different intervention where the stuffed animal was presented as a protector. For simplicity’s safe, I’m just going to review the initial version.
## How to perform the Huggy Puppy intervention
Give your child a small stuffed puppy (or other animal of your choice) and tell him the following story (written by Dr. Sadeh):
> This is my friend Huggy. Huggy is usually a very happy puppy. Right now, he looks a little sad and scared. Can you guess why he might be sad? \[After your child replies, the story continues.\] He is sad because he is very far away from his home and he does not have any good friends. He likes to be hugged a lot but he has no one to take care of him. Do you think you can be his good buddy, take care of him, hug him a lot, and take him to bed with you when you go to sleep?
After this, encourage your child to take the puppy to bed with him at night and to make him feel safe. Playing with the stuffed animal during the day can be helpful as well. It turns out that when children pretend to take care of Huggy Puppy, they become less focused on their own fears.
If you are struggling with your child’s sleep and he or she is fearful at night, try this out! This may also be a useful intervention for children with history of trauma, but in that case I would strongly encourage you to work with a mental health professional to meet your child’s needs.
Kushnir, J., Sadeh, A., 2012\. Assessment of brief interventions for nighttime fears in preschool children. European Journal of Pediatrics 171, 67–75\. https://doi.org/10.1007/s00431-011-1488-4
Sadeh, A., Hen-Gal, S., Tikotzky, L., 2008\. Young Children’s Reactions to War-Related Stress: A Survey and Assessment of an Innovative Intervention. PEDIATRICS 121, 46–53\. https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2007-1348
### Is Room Sharing in Infancy Necessary for Safe Sleep?
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/is-room-sharing-infancy-necessary-for-safe-sleep/
Last updated: 2023-01-21T20:08:24.000Z

*Room sharing but not bed sharing is recommend in the first six months of life for safe sleep and avoiding accidental death in infants. However, for some parents, this may result in unsafe sleep practices. Here's what you need to know.*
In June of 2022, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) updated [their safe sleep recommendations ](https://www.aap.org/en/news-room/news-releases/aap/2022/american-academy-of-pediatrics-updates-safe-sleep-recommendations-back-is-best/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). This statement reinforced much of what we already knew about how babies should sleep to reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome(SIDS) and addressed other causes of death in infancy— specifically accidental suffocation.
According to the AAP, The best way for your infant to sleep is:
- On a flat firm surface
- On his back
- Without any soft covers or blankets (including no crib bumpers or crib blankets
- In a room with mother or caregiver
Other ways to reduce the risk of SIDS include:
- Avoidance of exposure to tobacco smoke during pregnancy and afterwards
- Avoidance of exposure to alcohol or drugs
- Routine immunizations
- Use of a pacifier
- Continued breastfeeding.
All of these are excellent recommendations. There is one recommendation from the 2016 guidelines (continued in the current edition of the guidelines. the new recommendation that parents room share but not bed share for AT LEAST six months, and ideally up to one year of age, claiming that this could reduce the risk of babies dying in their sleep by “up to 50%”. This got my attention when it was initially published.
Here is the full text of the recommendation:
> It is recommended that infants sleep in the parents’ room, close to the parents’ bed, but on a separate surface designed for infants, ideally for at least the first 6 months. There is evidence that sleeping in the parents’ room but on a separate surface decreases the risk of SIDS by as much as 50%. In addition, this arrangement is most likely to prevent suffocation, strangulation, and entrapment that may occur when the infant is sleeping in the adult bed.
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> From Moon, R.Y., Carlin, R.F., Hand, I., THE TASK FORCE ON SUDDEN INFANT DEATH SYNDROME AND THE COMMITTEE ON FETUS AND NEWBORN, 2022\. Sleep-Related Infant Deaths: Updated 2022 Recommendations for Reducing Infant Deaths in the Sleep Environment. Pediatrics 150, e2022057990\. [https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2022-057990](https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2022-057990?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
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## What’s good about room sharing
Certainly, room sharing can facilitate closeness with your baby and works well for many families worldwide. In many parts of the world, where families sleep with multiple family members in a room, SIDS rates are very low.
Room sharing make it easier to breastfeed, and to continue breastfeeding, which we know is healthy for both mother and child. (And breastfeeding itself reduces the risk of SIDS). If it is working well for your family, there is no reason to stop it. Long term, room sharing in infancy does not seem to be associated with any sleep or behavioral issues in later childhood. [A study of 6, 7, and 8 year olds showed no evidence of problems](https://srcd.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/cdev.13146?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) after room sharing in infancy, and some improvement in pro-social behaviors, although the sample size and effect sizes were small.
However, if you and your baby are struggling to sleep, and you are wondering if it is truly necessary, read on. At first I was a bit skeptical of the science but I have since come around.
## The Evidence for the Room Sharing Recommendation
Dr. Moon and Dr. Hauck (Dr. Moon is an author of the current guidelines and 2016, Dr. Hauck on the 2016 guidelines only), describe the evidence in a commentary on the Paul study (which I discuss below on the potential risks of room sharing).
> "The AAP’s room-sharing without bed-sharing recommendation is based on case-control studies in England, New Zealand, and Scotland, which have demonstrated that room-sharing decreases the risk of SIDS compared with solitary sleeping. Blair et al31 found an adjusted odds ratio of death of 10.49 (95% confidence interval \[CI\] 4.26–25.81) for infants who slept in a separate room compared with those who slept in the parents’ room. The New Zealand Cot Death study reported an adjusted odds ratio of death for infants who room-shared during the last sleep of 0.35 (95% CI 0.26–0.49) compared with solitary-sleeping infants.32 Tappin et al33 reported an adjusted odds ratio of 3.26 (95% CI 1.03–10.35) for solitary-sleeping infants compared with room-sharing infants. Although these authors found this reduction in risk to be present only when the parent was a smoker, Blair found this reduction to be present for both smoking and nonsmoking parents (P. Blair, PhD, personal communication, 2016). More recent, unpublished data from the New Zealand Sudden and Unexplained Death in Infancy study show similar protection from room-sharing, with an adjusted odds ratio of 0.36 (95% CI, 0.19–0.71) for room-sharing infants compared with solitary-sleeping infants (E. Mitchell, MBBS, personal communication, 2016). Because none of these studies stratified the risk by infant age in months, it is difficult to determine the optimal end point for room-sharing."
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> Moon, R.Y., Hauck, F.R., 2017\. Are There Long-term Consequences of Room-Sharing During Infancy? Pediatrics 140, e20171323\. [https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2017-1323](https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2017-1323?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
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To put this in plain language. The odds ratio quantifies the strength of the association between two different events or conditions in case-control studies. So, for example, when the odds ration of death for sleeping in a separate room was 10.49, it means that infants sleeping in a room by themselves were 10.49 times more likely to die than infants that slept in the parents room IN THIS PARTICULAR SET OF PATIENTS. [(For more on odds ratios you can read this article)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK431098/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). In the Blair study, above, this was the largest effect size seen of the three studies.
Additionally, in my literature review, I found [another article from the Netherlands showing that the risk of death in infants sharing a room with parents had an adjusted odds ration of 0.3-- so babies were 70% less likely to die from SUID.](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34869115/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
If those numbers seem scary, it is important to recognize that, fortunately, these events still remain very rare-- it is difficult to say how rare. In the AAP statement, the authors estimate that room sharing results in a 50% risk reduction of infant death. I'm unclear how they arrived at that calculation.
### A new 2022 study provides more evidence on the safety benefits of room sharing
The most recent study (Parks, S.E., DeSisto, C.L., Kortsmit, K., Bombard, J.M., Shapiro-Mendoza, C.K., 2023\. Risk Factors for Suffocation and Unexplained Causes of Infant Deaths. Pediatrics 151, e2022057771\. [https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2022-057771](https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2022-057771?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)) on this topic showed the strongest evidence yet that room sharing prevents both unexplained deaths (a category that that includes SIDS) and deaths related to accidental suffocation.
The authors were comparing 112 infants who died via accidental suffocation and 300 infants who died due to unexplained reasons. They compared each infant with four separate healthy controls matched for age and region. This is a pretty rigorous study design. Their studies were striking. They demonstrated an odds ratio of 18.7 for suffocation and 7.6 for unexplained death. This means that infants exposed to the condition of NOT sharing a room with a mother or caregiver increased their chance of suffocation death over 18 times and unexpected death by 7.6 times. This study also confirm the risk of other identified risk factors (such as non-supine positioning, bed sharing, and soft materials in the baby's sleep environment), but the odds ratios were not as large.
There are some limitations to this study. To me the most prominent one is "social desirability" bias-- the idea that parents of healthy infants are more likely to answer affirmatively to questions about safe sleep when surveyed. On balance, however, this study is pretty convincing to me. It presents "modern" (post Back to Sleep) data. It also teased out suffocation related deaths which earlier studies do not do.
### Why does room sharing reduce the risk of SIDS?
It is not well understood. Babies and parents who room share seem to sleep less soundly. If babies wake up more easily, this may reduce the risk of SIDS. Additionally, room sharing infants are more likely to breast feed more frequently (which has also been shown to reduce this risk of SIDS).
In the 2022 study, the room sharing effect was most prominent in reducing the risk of accidental suffocation. I suspect that mothers are more likely to notice unsafe sleeping conditions if they share a room-- say, if a grandparent has put a blanket on a baby when babysitting.
## Room Sharing Pitfalls
Room sharing is also potentially dangerous as tired parents don’t always make good decisions about, say, falling asleep next to their child which increases the risk of suffocation (more on this below). Tired parents also may be prone to health issues, and are more likely to get into car accidents. Maternal sleep deprivation is associated with a higher risk of post-partum depression, which is not good for children either.
### The Problems with the Room Sharing Recommendation in 2016
[Dr. Aaron E. Carroll examined the evidence sited by the AAP, ](https://www.nytimes.com/2016/11/06/upshot/should-your-baby-really-sleep-in-the-same-room-as-you.html?%5Fr=0&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)which was comprised of three studies and an out of print book. He noted a few issues with these studies.
1. **These are “case-control” studies.** The issue with these types of studies (which match children with SIDS with similar children in terms of age and gender) is that they may prove a relationship, but cannot prove causation. (Note that SIDS is fortunately rare. Because of this, however, this type of study is really only the way to study this problem).
2. **These studies were performed in the 1990s.** Since the 1990s, there has been a marked decline in the rate of SIDS worldwide, due to education about “back to sleep” and other safe sleep practices. Since the risk of SIDS is much lower now, it is unclear if room sharing is still protective.
3. **These studies were performed in Europe** where room sharing is much more common than in the US. Again, this makes it harder to generalize.
He also brought attention to the following study (Paul, I.M., Hohman, E.E., Loken, E., Savage, J.S., Anzman-Frasca, S., Carper, P., Marini, M.E., Birch, L.L., 2017\. Mother-Infant Room-Sharing and Sleep Outcomes in the INSIGHT Study. Pediatrics 140, e20170122\. [https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2017-0122](https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2017-0122?ref=drcraigcanapari.com))
### Room sharing may be associated with decreased sleep and increased risk to babies
The study by Paul et al looked at [the relationships between mother-infant room sharing and sleep. ](http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2017/06/01/peds.2017-0122?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) It examined the sleep of infants in 259 families. The authors compared the sleep of children at four and nine months of age. They compared three groups of infants:
1. “Early independent sleepers” who were sleeping in different rooms from the parents at 4 months of age (62%).
2. “Late independent sleepers” who started sleeping independently between ages 4 and 9 months (27%).
3. Infants still room sharing at 9 months of age (11%).
The authors examined both sleep habits and safe sleep practices. They found:
1. Children who were sleeping independently by 9 months of age were **sleeping 45 minutes more than room sharers** at 30 months of age. Interestingly, there was no difference at 9 months of age. Room sharers were more likely to have night time awakenings and feedings, and to be fed back to sleep.
2. Early independent sleepers were almost more than twice as likely as room sharers to have a consistent bedtime routine and go to bed prior to 8 pm.
3. Room sharing infants were twice as likely to have an unapproved soft object on their sleep surface. Moreover, infants who room shared at 4 and 9 months of age were four times more likely to bring their infant into their bed at night. It's important to remember that [co-sleeping is not safe for young infants.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/co-sleeping-in-infancy-bed-sharing-is-not-safe/)
This study had some significant limitations— it was a secondary analysis, meaning that the original study was not designed to assess these particular findings. And, like the studies above, the study was designed in such a way that it shows correlation but not causation.
However, this does suggest that babies (and their parents) who room share sleep less— even close to three years of age. It also suggests that the parents who have infants in their room are more likely to perform risky sleep practices at night.
This is of course, one study. But the authors echo Dr. Carroll’s concerns about the new AAP recommendations. They state in their conclusion:
> While substantial progress has been made over the past several decades to improve the safety of infant sleep, the AAP recommendation that parents room-share with their infants until the age of 1 year is not supported by data, is inconsistent with the epidemiology of SIDS, is incongruent with our understanding of socioemotional development in the second half of the first year, and has the potential for unintended consequences for infants and families. Our findings showing poorer sleep-related outcomes and more unsafe sleep practices among dyads who room-share beyond early infancy suggest that the AAP should reconsider and revise the recommendation pending evidence to support room-sharing through the age of 1 year.
Two of the authors of the AAP Recommendation [wrote a commentary on the study referenced above. ](https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/140/1/e20171323?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) They note that
> . . .when the data are examined, the significant differences in the groups at 4 months of age are not the number of night awakenings but consistent bedtime routines, early bedtimes, the numbers of night feedings, and being fed back to sleep. Bedtime routines can be difficult for all families to establish, and there may be additional challenges for families who are room-sharing.
It’s definitely possible that working on bedtime routines may help reduce the burden of room sharing. Perhaps the effects on parental sleep can be reduced by better education about sleep.
## How long should you share a room with your infant?
Based on the AAP guidelines, I would suggest six months if you can do so safely (see below).
## Are there long term consequences for room sharing?
The literature does not suggest that there are long term benefits or downsides to room sharing with your infant. In the short term, babies who room share tend to sleep a bit less.
## What about room sharing with other children?
The new AAP guidelines recommend that infants do not share sleeping spaces with other children. So avoid having multiple infants sharing a sleep surface.
As for room sharing with an infant and toddler, this is likely safe provided (and this is CRITICAL that the infant have a separate safe and secure sleeping surface.
[For more on room sharing and sleep in general, here's an article I have on how to do this successfully.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/agony-ecstasy-room-sharing-siblings/)
## Can my baby sleep in a swing or car seat?
In short, there is a risk of suffocation if your child is routinely sleeping in a swing, or in a car seat when not in the car. [Here's more on this.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/can-babies-safely-sleep-car-seats/)
## So what the heck are you supposed to do?
My children were born prior to this very strong recommendation. Room sharing had a soft recommendation. We found that my wife and I slept better in with the children in separate rooms. The children slept better as well.
**My thinking on this topic has evolved. I was not initially convinced of the benefits in the past. With time, however, it has become clear that room sharing likely confers reduced risk for accidental suffocation as well as unexplained death or SIDS.**
**If you have an infant less than six months of age, I think it is appropriate to follow the room sharing (but not bed sharing) recommendation IF you are able to adhere to safe sleep practices.**
The caveat is for parents who find themselves in unsafe sleeping situations (e.g. ded sharing or falling asleep in a chair or couch because their baby is waking them up so frequently).
I believe that having your infant sleep on her back, avoiding soft materials in the crib, and continuing to breastfeed are also important for safe sleep.
The peak of SIDS risk is between 1-4 months, and the risk is low after six months of age. The 2022 guidelines were updated to suggest that the primary safety benefits of room sharing end after six months of age, in line with the recommendations in [Canada](http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/hp-ps/dca-dea/stages-etapes/childhood-enfance%5F0-2/sids/jsss-ecss-eng.php?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), the [UK](https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/safer-sleep-basics/room-sharing/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), [the Netherlands](http://www.health.govt.nz/your-health/pregnancy-and-kids/first-year/6-weeks-6-months/keeping-baby-safe-bed-6-weeks-6-months?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), and [New Zealand](http://www.health.govt.nz/your-health/pregnancy-and-kids/first-year/6-weeks-6-months/keeping-baby-safe-bed-6-weeks-6-months?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
I'm not the only to struggle with this. [Dr. Claire McCarthy wrote about the trade offs that the room sharing recommendation have caused on the Harvard Health blog.](https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/room-sharing-with-your-baby-may-help-prevent-sids-but-it-means-everyone-gets-less-sleep-201706062525?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Obviously, this is a really complicated decision which has to take into account your baby’s health, your mental health, and the sleeping places available in your home. **In 2023, the balance of evidence clearly suggests that room sharing with your infant is the safest practice.** If you are room sharing and it is going well, terrific! However, if you are sleeping poorly, depressed, or resorting to unsafe sleep practices to make it through the night, you may want to consider moving your child out of your room if the option is available, with the recognition that this may impose some risk. **Please talk with your pediatrician about how to keep your infant safe.**
### Want to Stop Co-sleeping? Here's How
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/
Last updated: 2026-07-04T18:48:43.000Z
Crawling into bed with your child after a long day can be comforting. But this habit might interfere with her ability to sleep alone. **Learn how to transition a child out of your bed and stop co-sleeping for good,** even if your child has always slept with you.
In an earlier post, I reviewed [reasons why you might want to avoid co-sleeping](https://drcraigcanapari.com/do-you-want-your-kid-to-be-a-good-sleeper-dont-cosleep/), because of SIDS risk in infancy, and the fact that it can be associated with poor sleep as children get older.
## What is Co-sleeping?
Co-sleeping is simply sharing a bed with your child. Some would argue that it is imprecise, and that "bedsharing" (as opposed to "roomsharing") would be more precise.
### Why do some families co-sleep?
In many parts of the world, cosleeping is the norm, either for cultural reasons or space reasons-- some families sleep in a one bedroom home. Other families due it for closeness. Many parents who are interesting in attachment parenting cosleep.
Several years ago, I was interviewed by Good Morning America about the actress Alicia Silverstone, who still cosleeps with her 11 year old son. [(The full interview is here)](https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/family/story/expert-weighs-alicia-silverstone-sleeping-11-year-son-87181338?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
[https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/video/embed/87413861](https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/video/embed/87413861?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## When is co-sleeping OK?
Co-sleeping never worked with our kids as they never slept well in our bed. People I know and respect have chosen to co-sleep with their children and have been happy to do so. One great example is Dr. Claire McCarthy, who wrote about [co-sleeping with her children](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/claire-mccarthy-md/co-sleeping-with-kids%5Fb%5F1238970.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) on the Huffington Post.
This made me reflect on what would make me OK with ongoing co-sleeping if a family asked my opinion. My goal for families is [good enough sleep](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2013/03/27/good-enough-sleep/), which in this case means:
- Your child is older than a year and thus the risk of SIDS is minimal.
- Everyone is sleeping well
- There is enough space in the family bed for everyone to be comfortable
- Parents are not being disturbed during the night.
- Parents and children feel well rested in the morning and are not sleepy during the day.
- Your child CAN separate sleep elsewhere without tears or anxiety-- say at Grandma's house or on a sleepover.
If all of these circumstances are not met, then I think you should stop cosleeping. (In the case of the last criteria, a child that cannot separate may struggle from separation anxiety. Cosleeping doesn't cause separation anxiety, but if your child cannot be without you at night without having a breakdown, I think you should work towards some independence at bedtime).
## When to stop co-sleeping?
If your child is less than a year of age, I would recommend immediately transitioning your child to a crib or bassinet (if your child is less than a year, preferably in your room.)
For older children (think toddlers and up), you may want to plan a bit for when and how to make the change. Read on for more and how to do this.
## How to stop co-sleeping with a baby
For very young infants (less than three months) you can simply soothe your child to sleep and put her down in the crib. At four months of age, I would recommend putting her down drowsy but awake. If this is a struggle, you may want to consider sleep training your child.
For more on this see "[Sleep training in infancy: Flipping the switch](https://drcraigcanapari.com/successful-sleep-in-infancy-flipping-the-switch/)"
## What if my child co-sleeps and nurses all night long?
Generally, I recommend addressing the co-sleeping first. This will stop your child from grazing all night long. Once you establish your child sleeping independently, you can work on weaning night feeds. For more on this, [here's how to stop feeding your child at night so you can sleep better.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/)
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## How to stop co-sleeping with a toddler or older child
There is no magic bullet for fixing sleep problems. How you address this issue depends on how and why you are cosleeping with your child. But no matter your circumstance, there are some important elements to a successful transition. For more on why people fail to fix sleep issues, please read my post on [Sleep Training Mistakes and Pitfalls](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/04/27/sleep-training-mistakes-and-pitfalls/).
### General Recommendations:
- **Be consistent:** The number one reason I see families fail at extricating their child from their bed is that they are inconsistent. Either your child is sleeping in your bed or he or she is not. If you relent even once in a while during the process of establishing a new sleeping pattern, you will reinforce the behavior you are trying to extinguish. Remember that [intermittent reinforcement is a powerful mechanism](http://outofthefog.net/CommonNonBehaviors/IntermittentReinforcement.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) for encouraging undesirable behavior. (Again— if your kid comes into your bed once a while, and you do not regard this as a problem, you don’t need to proceed with any of this).
- **Have a plan:** To be consistent, you have to know exactly what you are going to do. It is hard to come up with good plans on the fly in the middle of the night. Make sure that all caregivers are on board with the plan.
- [**Have a “quit date”:**](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2014/07/07/when-not-to-sleep-train/) I highly recommend that you mindfully chose a time for a change and do not, say, start a change the day before a vacation, or before your mother in law comes to visit
- **Make your child’s room special:** Some children may be apprehensive about spending time alone in their room. Spending fun and special one on one time. Take him to pick out some new pajamas and sheets. Pick out a new stuffed animal to use as a transitional object.
### If your child falls asleep in your bed every night
If child sleeps in your bed every night for the whole night, and this is a long-standing pattern. In this scenario, many families want to stop once they are expecting another child, or their child hits a milestone such as kindergarten. In this scenario, you need to go gradually. Why is this different? Often your child does not know another way to sleep.
- **Discuss with your child at an age appropriate level.** Often this transition may happen at an older age. Be honest. Tell her that she is a big girl now and is almost ready to spend the night in her own bed. Tell her that Mommy and Daddy (or Mommy, or Daddy, or Daddy and Daddy, or Mommy and Mommy) need some time by themselves.
- **Start moving bedtime into your child’s room:** If your child spends the whole night in your room, start doing all of bedtime in his room and then moving him into your bed for a few days, as a dress rehearsal for spending the night in his own bed.
- **Napping in her bed first:**If your child is still napping, this may be a good time for your child to practice sleeping on her own.
- [**Bedtime fading** ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2014/09/08/bedtime-fading-the-secret-sauce-in-sleep-training/ "Bedtime Fading: The “Secret Sauce” in Sleep Training")(moving bedtime later) can be a big help with this transition.
- **Consider camping out** If (you or) your child is very apprehensive about this, consider a [“camping out” approach ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2014/08/25/camping-out-sleep-training/)where you temporarily move to an air mattress on the floor of your child’s room. I would recommend NOT bed-sharing at this point to smooth the transition.
- For more on sleep training, [here's a guide to all of the different sleep training techniques. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
### Separation anxiety and co-sleeping
Separation anxiety is the most common type of anxiety in children. If your child is afraid of sleeping without you, he may be suffering from separation anxiety. Commonly children with separation anxiety insist that they sleep with a parent, or that a parent sleep near them. Often, they may be afraid of being awake when their parents are asleep, and may demand that parents stay awake until they are asleep.
Other signs of separation anxiety include dreams or nightmares about separation, and difficulty with separation in other contexts, like school drop offs.
If your child is suffering from separation anxiety, I highly recommend you discuss it with your pediatrician. I also highly recommend the book, [*Breaking Free of Child Anxiety and OCD* by Eli Lebowitz](https://amzn.to/3cUvKWj?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affiliate link), a colleague here at Yale.
Dr. Lebowitz also has a terrific plan for parents of anxious kids who want to break the cosleeping habit. We frequently use this approach in our clinic.
#### The Bedtime Game
Also known as the "The Yale Plan for Getting Your Kid To Sleep In His Own Bed".
This involves playing a game with your kids around spending time in the bed where they pretend to fall asleep in their own bed. They should play to an imaginary audience. This should be performed at your child's usual bedtime. Here are the steps:
1. Make sure the child actually has a bed and a place to go to sleep. For children with longstanding cosleeping, their bed may have been put away or repurposed. Set up the bed where you want your child to sleep with pillows and blankets.
2. Have your child prepare for bed as if he is actually going to bed. Brush teeth, put on pajamas, read a story-- whatever your bedtime routine consists of.
3. Your child will then get into bed and pretend to fall asleep for a set period of time-- usually a minute or less. They should be able to stay calm during this period. If they cannot, you have selected too long a period of time. For older children, let them decide how long this time can be.
4. After the set period of time, come back in, congratulate your child, and allow them into your own bed. **Don't encourage them to stay longer even if it has gone well**\-- **don't suggest that they "just stay there"**, although they are welcome to stay longer if they like. Praise your child and invite them back into your own room.
5. After two to three nights, increase the time duration by a few minutes every two to three nights
6. Often, once the duration gets to 15 minutes, children are falling asleep independently. If they do fall asleep, leave them in their own bed and celebrate their success in the morning.
7. If they wake up at night it's ok to welcome them into your own room,
8. Continue the plan (with increasing intervals at bedtime) until independent sleep in their room is a regular occurrence. I would continue for at least a week or two.
As per the authors:
> The secret lies in the fact that by predefining the amount of time a child will lay in bed, a situation is created in which the child is in bed but is not anxious. This is because they know it is only for a limited amount of time. The natural consequence of lying in bed when not particularly anxious is falling asleep. Children could lie awake for much more than 15 minutes if they think they need to be in bed alone all night and could even keep themselves (and their parents) up by calling to the parents or crying. But by assuring the child that this is only a “game” for a set and brief amount of time, the anxiety is eliminated and the child forms a new association between being in bed and feelings of calm and relaxation.
>
> Lebowitz, Eli R.; Omer, Haim. Treating Childhood and Adolescent Anxiety (pp. 96-97). Wiley. Kindle Edition.
>
If your child has trouble with going to sleep and waking up at night. Once children are successfully falling asleep in their own bed, you can then try having them stay in bed for set lengths of time with night wakings as well.
The source for this is [*Treating Childhood and Adolescent Anxiety: A Guide for Caregivers*, by Eli Lebowtiz and Haim Omer (affiliate link).](https://amzn.to/3cUvKWj?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### **If your child comes into your room every night and falls asleep**
If your child only cosleeps in the middle of the night, or has transitioned to falling asleep in her own bed but is still coming into your room at night, you can try the following interventions.
- For anxious children, I would follow the protocol above-- meaning bringing them back to their bed for a set period. Start with short periods of time in bed and gradually increasing over time.
- **Addressing [sleep onset associations](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/05/30/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part%E2%80%931-inappropriate-sleep-associations/):**: This is the most important thing to do: How your child falls asleep is the key to successful sleep. Sleep onset association are when your child falls asleep under circumstances absent during the night: usually this involves you being present when he falls asleep. These sleep onset associations may be subtle. Do you turn out the lights and then have to go back in to settle your child? Does he [come out of the room multiple times at bedtime](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/06/06/curtain-calls-limit-setting-and-bedtime-battles-behavioral-sleep-problems-in-kids-part-2/) until you lay down with him.
- One of the most challenging forms of reactive co-sleeping is due to [**early morning awakenings**](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/03/20/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/). Although it is really tempting to just relent at 4 or 5 in the AM, if you want your child to stop this behavior, they will not do it on their own. In this scenario, I recommend the [OK to wake clock](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00EAHSBV4/ref=as%5Fli%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B00EAHSBV4&linkCode=as2&tag=drcraigcanapa-20&linkId=MY7T6ZZKNAGHRMU3&ref=drcraigcanapari.com). The correct way to use this is to set the “OK to wake” alarm to 10 minutes after their usual wake time, and then move it 10 minutes later a day.
- **Sleeping bag on floor:** For children who come into your bedroom on his or her own, I highly recommend that you provide them an option for sleeping in your room without disturbing you. A sleeping bag and pillow on the floor is a great solution for a transition. Many children will stop using this of her own accord with time, especially once they realize that it is not as comfortable as her own bed.
- **Bringing you child back to her room every time:** If your child does not want to sleep on your floor and insists on disturbing you every night, you need to walk him back to their own room. Every time. Most kids will not pitch a huge fit in the middle of the night. If they do, you can employ the door closing strategy. This means bringing your child back to bed with the expectation that he will stay in bed. If he gets up and leaves the bed you close the door for one minute and hold it shut. If you open the door and he is not in bed you close it for two minutes, and increase as needed. This is a nuclear option, but sometimes it needs to be employed.
### **Other questions that may come up:**
- **How long will this take?** It is hard to predict. It may go really smoothly if your child is ready for this change and take a day or two. In other children, who may be more reluctant, you may need to go more slowly. I would expect this to take no more than two weeks. If you try to stop cosleeping and it is a disaster, I recommend discussing it with your pediatrician or a sleep specialist. However, remember the *extinction burst*: your child’s sleep will typically worsen before it improves, and such difficulties may occur 2–3 days in.
- **What if my child gets sick/has a nightmare, etc?**I would encourage you to try to follow your plan as strictly as you are comfortable. A quick cuddle in the middle of the night in their room is OK; bringing him into your bed for the rest of the night may undo weeks of hard work. I would say that if you are not ready to be firm on this topic for a month, I would hold off for a bit. *After* your child is successfully sleeping in his bed for a month or so, I think that it may be OK to bring them into your bed if you really have to (e.g. if he is running a high fever) with the understanding that you may need to be a bit firm afterwards.
- **What if I’m not sure if I am doing the right thing?** If you are ambivalent and telegraph that to your child, you are setting you both up for failure. Perhaps you should wait for a bit. However, if you have come up with a plan and started executing, I encourage you to follow through in spite of middle of the night misgivings. Give it a week. If you stop too soon, you and your child have suffered for nothing, and possibly made it more difficult for yourselves in the future. I think you can do it.
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### Want to succeed at sleep training? Know your WHY
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-succeed-at-sleep-training-know-your-why/
Last updated: 2022-01-03T23:19:29.000Z
Many people decide to sleep train their child when they are really struggling-- I know because I see the traffic on my website, especially in January. Parents who succeed at sleep training often know exactly why they are doing it. Here's how to figure out your reasons, so you can stay motivated when the going gets tough.
I've seen many families struggle with sleep training over the years. And if there's one thing I've learned is that often parents make a decision to sleep train a little bit half cocked. They have a really bad night and they say, you know what? We're just going to go for this. But they crash and burn within a few days. There's a couple of reasons for this, but one of them is they haven't really thought about why they're doing it. [(Here's a link to the most common sleep training mistakes)](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-mistakes-and-pitfalls/). What are the concrete benefits that they're striving for?
Sometimes behavioral change is easy, but often it can be challenging. I've found that parents who are successful can articulate the benefits they are seeking.
Imagine if:
\* Your child goes to bed easily and wakes up playful and in a great mood at the same time every day.
\* Bedtime is a lovely time that you share with your child, starting with calming activities, proceeding to cuddles, and ending when you kiss your child good night and leave the room.
\* You and your partner have some time together in the evening to do activities you enjoy, without your kids.
\* You can leave your child with a family member or babysitter without worrying about a huge freak-out, and with confidence that your child will be asleep when you get home.
\* You wake up in the morning feeling awesome.
If you are thinking about sleep training, take a post it and write down three concrete reasons that sleep training will benefit you and your family. Put it in a place were you will see it every day as you plan your next move. [Once you are ready to sleep train, here's a guide to my favorite sleep training methods.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
### Six Reasons My 13 Year Old Got The COVID 19 Vaccine
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/six-reasons-my-13-year-old-got-the-covid-19-vaccine/
Last updated: 2021-11-13T16:40:02.000Z
[As of May 12, 2021, the CDC recommended that children 12 and up should receive the COVID 19 vaccine after it was given emergency use authorization by the FDA](https://www.npr.org/sections/coronavirus-live-updates/2021/05/12/996185305/federal-panel-recommends-coronavirus-vaccines-for-adolescents-aged-12-15?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) . The American Academy of Pediatrics has also issued a statement in [support of vaccinating all children ages 12 and up](https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2021/04/13/peds.2020-047092?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). Prior to this, children 16 and up could get the vaccine. My wife and I were thrilled by this and just go our child vaccinated as soon as possible. I'm also recommending that all of my patients twelve and up get the vaccine.
Unfortunately, only 46-60% of parents plan to get their child vaccinated, slightly lower than their own intention. [(The slides here and below are from the CDC)](https://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/acip/meetings/downloads/slides-2021-05-12/04-COVID-Oliver-508.pdf?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).

If you are one of those parents who worry about this, here are my reasons why we wanted to get the vaccine as soon as possible.
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Update: As of November 2nd, the CDC is recommending the vaccine for 5-11 year olds, which is great news as well. Although I wrote most of the post in May, I think that the reasoning behind it is valid.
## 1\. My son could get sick from COVID-19
There’s a widespread belief that kids don’t get sick from COVID -19\. Unfortunately, that is not the case, although most children have very mild illness.
The fact is, the incidence of hospitalization for COVID-19 is rising. Look at this graph from the CDC showing that the rate of hospitalization is increasing compared to where we were during the 2009-10 H1N1 influenza pandemic.

Adolescents are at risk of severe illness from COVID-19— with over 1.5 million cases reported and >13k hospitalizations to day (more than during the 2009-10 H1N1 Pandemic).
During that pandemic, I saw children get sick and die. I also had patients who had serious complications. Most had risk factors (such as asthma or muscular dystrophy), but some did not.
## 2\. The vaccine is effective
The vaccine was shown to work amazingly well in adolescents. [Adolescents in the clinical trial produced very high levels of antibody. Moreover, the vaccine was shown to be 100% effective in preventing symptomatic COVID infections.](https://www.pfizer.com/news/press-release/press-release-detail/pfizer-biontech-announce-positive-topline-results-pivotal?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) Frankly, these are fantastic results.
## 3\. The Pfizer COVID-19 vaccine is remarkably safe
No serious side effects have been reported in the trial of over two thousand children in this age group.
[The primary reactions were local (sore arms) or mild general reactions (fatigue and headaches) and resolved in 1-2 days.](https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/vaccines/recommendations/adolescents.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
UPDATE: This original post was published on 5/17/21\. Shortly after this, [news articles broke](https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/22/health/cdc-heart-teens-vaccination.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) that the [CDC was evaluating cases of myocarditis (inflammation of the heart)](https://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/acip/work-groups-vast/technical-report-2021-05-17.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) predominantly in young males and usually after the second dose of the vaccination. As of now the CDC thinks that these events are consistent with the baseline incidence of myocarditis and not related to the vaccine In layman's terms, here's what that means. Myocarditis occurs after viral infections in a small group of children and adults every year. The number of cases reported seems consistent with the usual number of cases. That being said, as a parent, I'm following this story closely.
## 4\. My son wanted the vaccine
When I asked him why, he said, “I’m sick of COVID-19 and I want things to go back to normal. Getting the vaccine will help get us to herd immunity. It will also protect my brother” (who is less than 12). He also notes that a relative is very sick with cancer and that it will protect her as well.
Adolescents are more likely to have COVD infections than younger kids, and can definitely transmit it, even though they tend not to get particularly sick. Here are two examples of this.

## 5\. It helps everyone
Are you sick of wearing a mask? Me too. The fastest way back to normalcy is through vaccination. Getting vaccinated protects children, relatives, and more vulnerable individuals.
[Vaccinating everyone is really difficult.](https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/15/world/americas/covid-vaccine-patent-biden.html?referringSource=articleShare&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) Here in the US we are fortunate to have ready access to the vaccine. Getting the vaccine helps us, our neighbors, our country, and our planet.

NYT Front Page, 5/15/21
## 6\. There is no cost for the vaccine
Honestly, I would be happy to pay a lot of money for the vaccine. Amazingly, I didn’t have to. And neither do you, in the US. You CANNOT be charged for the vaccine in the USA. [The following is from the CDC website:](https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/vaccines/recommendations/adolescents.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- COVID-19 vaccination providers cannot:
- Charge you for the vaccine.
- Charge you any administration fees, copays, coinsurance, or the balance of the bill after appropriate reimbursement.
- Deny vaccination to anyone who does not have health insurance coverage, is underinsured, or is out of network.
- Charge an office visit or other fee to the recipient if the only service provided is a COVID-19 vaccination.
- Require additional services in order for a person to receive a COVID-19 vaccine; however, additional healthcare services can be provided at the same time and billed as appropriate.
If anyone is trying to charge you, it's a scam.
## How to get the Covid vaccine for your 12-15 year old child
This is really easy.[ Search vaccines.gov](https://www.vaccines.gov/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), text your ZIP code to 438829, or call 1-800-232-0233 to find locations near you.
## Here was our experience getting the vaccine.

We went on Sunday after signing up the previous Wednesday. It was easy. We went to a facility at the university where I work.

Joe, a firefighter, administered the shot. He said that it was packed on Friday and Saturday with teenagers, but it was very quiet.
We waited 15 minutes and were out of there. Mission accomplished.

If your child is struggling with sleep during these times, I have articles [here](https://drcraigcanapari.com/insomnia-in-covid-article-in-the-new-york-times/) and [here](https://drcraigcanapari.com/six-tips-for-better-sleep-in-lockdown-online-school-and-quarantine/) and [here](https://drcraigcanapari.com/stay-awake-in-zoom-class/) and [here on sleep difficulties in the COVID-19 era.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/resources-from-covid-talk/)
## Update: Now my younger son is vaccinated as well
My younger boy is eleven. In the springtime we had the opportunity to enter him in the Moderna vaccine trial. We elected to defer at this time, but leapt at the chance to join the trial in August. Why did we wait? I wanted to see how the myocarditis story shook out.
Although the trial was blinded, T had a 75% chance of getting the vaccine instead of placebo. Given that his arm was sore after both doses and that he felt a bit under the weather after the second vaccine. As part of the clinical trial, the "code" was broken when the Pfizer vaccine was allowed in 5-11 year olds, and we received confirmation that he had been vaccinated.
## More information on why to vaccinate your child:
- Dr. Ashish Jha wrote a terrific article for Time Magazine about [why you should vaccinate your child. ](https://time.com/6111965/vaccinate-kids-against-covid-19/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- CNN has an article answering [kids' and parents' questions about the vaccine.](https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2021/11/06/health/kids-covid-vaccine-questions-and-answers-wellness/index.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Here is a link to the [CDC's recommendation for vaccination in the 5-11 yo age range. ](https://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/covid-19/planning/children.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Even Sesame Street is out there putting out useful information for children.
I am tremendously relieved and grateful that all of our family members-- my wife and I, children, grandparents, brothers, sisters, nieces and nephews have all been vaccinated. We are looking forward to safely enjoying the holidays together.
Have you vaccinated your child? Do you have questions about the vaccine? I’m not an expert but I am happy to help.
### Why You Fall Asleep Part 2: Understanding Your Circadian Rhythm
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/
Last updated: 2021-10-13T00:13:17.000Z
On the surface of it, the timing of falling asleep seems fairly easy to understand. Once you have been awake for a certain period of time, you become tired and eventually go to sleep. The technical term for increasing sleepiness over time is the homeostatic sleep drive, [as I explained in a previous post](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2014/01/08/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/ "Harnessing Sleep Drive for a Better Bedtime"). However, there is another system in the body which helps to regulate sleep and wake timing. This is referred to as the body clock, which governs your circadian rhythm. The body clock regulated multiple systems in the body even down to the functioning of individual cells.
## The Two Process Model of Sleep
In the scientific literature, this system is described as the two process model of sleep. The role of the circadian drive is to keep you awake in the early evening. Under perfect conditions, the circadian drive slackens off in the late evening and then, during the night, plays a role in promoting sleep continuity as your sleep drive is reducing. Thus, the sleep drive and the body clock work together to promote both a sustained period of alertness and a sustained period of sleep (16 hours awake and 8 hours sleeping in adults). I would note that the circadian system is quite complex and sends signals which promote both sleep and wakefulness at various times of the day. [Melatonin is one of the chemicals secreted in the brain](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/) to induce sleepiness as part of the biological clock.
[](http://drcraigcanapari.files.wordpress.com/2014/02/circadian-1.png?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Ideally, The wakefulness drive keeps you awake until it is time for bed but no longer.
## What happens to the body clock as children get older?
As children enter puberty, the timing of the wakefulness signal shifts later, resulting in later times of sleep onset. Exposure to blue light frequencies (e.g. from computer, phone, television, or tablet screens) can shift this even later. Add in earlier school start times, and you have a recipe for [chronic sleep deprivation in teenagers ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/10/11/too-much-homework-too-little-sleep-structural-sleep-deprivation-in-teens/). Some authors have described the lack of synchronization of the body clock and school schedules as "[social jet lag](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/05/15/fascinating-reading-on-circadian-problems-and-social-jet-lag/)", where teens only are sleeping in their physiologic sleep period on weekends, and feeling out of it and ill at ease during the week.
Although we think of an "evening preference" (late to bed, late to rise) occurring in teenagers, [younger children can develop a preference for staying up late as well.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/late-bed-late-rise-5-year-old/)
[](http://drcraigcanapari.files.wordpress.com/2014/02/circadian-2-001.png?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
During adolescence, the wakefulness drive moves later, even as school start times get earlier. This leads to persistent sleep loss.
## The Forbidden Zone: When a Later Bedtime Doesn't Work
Has your child ever stayed up too late and started acting crazy? That's when the sleep drive and circadian systems collide. Your child is further from the last sleep period (it's later) but the wakefulness drive is giving her a second wind. [This is called the forbidden, or "no fly" zone.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/adventures-fly-zone-perils-moving-childs-bedtime/)
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## How can you adjust the body clock?
You can adjust the timing of the body clock, [by the application of light or melatonin.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/) It is tricky, however, as the timing of these interventions determines how strong the effect is, and even the direction of the effect. In general, light is the strongest stimulus for body clock adjustments. Light exposure in the evening will "wake you up" and shift your body clock later. Light exposure in the morning will move your body clock earlier. Exercise has similar effects, so teenagers and adults with insomnia may benefit from morning exercise outside, and avoidance of nocturnal exercise or screen time before bedtime. Melatonin in the early evenings at small doses may move the body clock earlier and help with sleep onset.
[](http://drcraigcanapari.files.wordpress.com/2014/02/circadian-3.png?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
You can use light, exercise, and melatonin to adjust body clock timing.
[For more information, here is a great article from NYT Parenting on how to adjust your child's natural sleep preferences.](https://www.nytimes.com/article/baby-sleep-waking-too-early.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Want to figure out your own natural circadian preferences? [You can take the Morningness-Eveningness questionnaire here.](https://sleepsurge.com/morningness-eveningness-questionnaire?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
On a side note, actual jet lag is the result of moving across time zones while your body clock stays the same. This can result in severe daytime sleepiness and nocturnal insomnia until your body clock habituates. Here's an article which provides some guidance on [how to combat jet lag.](http://www.nytimes.com/2012/08/19/travel/a-battle-plan-for-jet-lag.html?%5Fr=0&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Do you have any questions related to the functioning of the body clock? Have you tried to adjust your sleep wake schedule (or that of your child) via the application of light or melatonin?
### Why You Fall Asleep Part 1: Harnessing Sleep Drive in Children for a Better Bedtime
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/
Last updated: 2021-10-13T00:11:29.000Z
When I see children or teenagers with sleep difficulties, the first questions in my mind are, "What is bedtime like? What time is it? How long does it take to fall asleep?" Often, one of the best treatments for insomnia is[ adjusting the timing of bedtime at night](https://drcraigcanapari.com/bedtime-fading-the-secret-sauce-in-sleep-training/). It does not entail any prescriptions or side effects, just a recalibration in the schedule of the child and the family. The goal of adjusting bedtime is to use the natural need for sleep to address sleep problems.
## Why Do You Fall Asleep?
In sleep medicine, we talk about two systems in the body which help people to fall asleep on time. Today we are talking about the **homeostatic sleep drive**. Although it has a complicated name, it is easy to understand. The longer you stay awake, the sleepier you are. Sleep drive essentially is your likelihood of falling asleep at a given time. Interestingly, this phenomenon is caused by the[ gradual accumulation of a neurotransmitter called adenosine during the day ](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20970361?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)which is gradually reduce during sleep. The second system is called the [circadian system or body clock and I will cover it in a later post.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/)

During the day, sleep drive (need for sleep) increases gradually until sleep onset, then reduces overnight until wake time.
When you look at sleep drive in a graph, you see that it it increases until you go to sleep, then it slowly decreases until you wake up in the morning.
## Sleeping In and Napping Make You Less Tired At Bedtime
Prolonged sleeping in on the weekends is a major problem with teenagers. Although it feels good to catch up on sleep, it can make it nearly impossible to fall asleep on Sunday night, perpetuating [the vicious cycle of adolescent sleep](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-sleepy-teenager/). The reason is that sleep drive is reduced at bedtime, as noted in the diagram below.

Sleeping in reduces sleepiness at bedtime.
Younger children require a nap, usually up until age three or four years of age. After that age, a nap, especially a long one, can make it difficult to fall asleep at night. "Sneaky sleep" in a preschooler in the back of Dad's car on the way home from daycare may sabotage bedtime by reducing sleep drive at night. Likewise, many teenagers are [sleep deprived because of structural issues in their schedules](https://drcraigcanapari.com/too-much-homework-too-little-sleep-structural-sleep-deprivation-in-teens/) and take prolonged afternoon naps.

Napping can reduce your need for sleep at bedtime.
## Staying Up Later Means Falling Asleep Quicker
The reason adjusting bedtime later can help with insomnia is that it harnesses the body's natural sleep drive to make falling asleep easier. When we move bedtime later in a child, we call that [bedtime fading](https://drcraigcanapari.com/bedtime-fading-the-secret-sauce-in-sleep-training/) .
When we do that in a teenager or adult, we call it [sleep restriction](http://www.sleepfoundation.org/article/hot-topics/cognitive-behavioral-therapy-insomnia?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), and it is a component of cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I), the gold standard treatment for insomnia in individuals 18 and up. . Either way, the principle is the same. The key, either way, is ensuring that the wake time does not extend later as well, as the goal is maximizing sleepiness at bedtime.

Later bedtimes can help with falling asleep
In the next part of this serious I'm going to talk about [the circadian system and how it interacts with sleep drive.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/)
Parents-- have you adjusted your children's bedtime in the context of sleep training? Teenagers-- have you found that sleeping in or napping affects your ability to fall asleep at night? Is Sunday a particularly difficult night for you?

### Lack of Sleep is A Cause of Childhood Obesity
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/lack-of-sleep-may-make-kids-obese/
Last updated: 2021-10-03T17:45:03.000Z
Childhood obesity is common and has become even more of a problem during [the COVID-19 pandemic. So has short sleep and sleep difficulties.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/insomnia-in-covid-article-in-the-new-york-times/) Interestingly, **lack of sleep is a cause of childhood obesity**, from infancy through adolescence. So are problems with sleep timing and poor sleep quality.
It's pretty clear to any parent that getting enough sleep is critical for children in terms of behavior. Delaying bedtime by an hour can have some major league consequences: [tantrums](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WjA%5FEBHsfzI&ref=drcraigcanapari.com), acting out, etc. What is becoming more and more clear is that not getting enough sleep on a regular basis has been associated with obesity. More importantly, early childhood sleep reduction is associated with obesity years later.
**This is especially troubling as children are become more obese and sleeping less than they used to. When you think about it, it's not surprising that there might be a relationship.** What is especially remarkable is that of the 20 or so studies published, all *of them demonstrate an association between short sleep and obesity.* Let's look at an example.
## Short sleep in early childhood can have a drastic effect on obesity risk

Both short sleep and television viewing dramatically increase the risk of being overweight in young children.
[This study](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2650815/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), by [Elsie Taveras MD/MPH](https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/elsie-taveras/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) and colleagues, looked at the relationship between short sleep in infancy and weight at age three years. They asked mothers how long their children slept at ages 6 months, 12 months, and 2 years, then looked at a measure of weight called the [body mass index](http://www.cdc.gov/healthyweight/assessing/bmi/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) which is a measure of height and weight, and a good way to estimate whether weight is happy or not. They found that short sleep (<12 hours/day) in the first two years of life doubled the risk of obesity at age 3\. They performed some statistical manipulation to exclude other factors such as gender, race, and ethnicity. The also found that television viewing over 2 hours per day drastically increased this effect.
What I find so compelling about this study is the fact that **sleep in early childhood has a direct effect *later* on weight.** Parents can control the sleep patterns of children in that age group in a way which is more challenging in, say , teenagers.
Many other studies have found similar relationships between shortened sleep and obesity from infancy through adulthood. The amount of sleep which can be a problem depends on age.
- In school age kids (ages 5-10) less than 10 hours of sleep per night has been consistently associated with obesity.
- In teenagers sleep less than 8-9 hours correlates with increased weight.
- One study in teenagers showed a [five fold increase in obesity risk for each hour in sleep reduction](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12400037?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
**The take home message is that ensuring an appropriate night's sleep for your child has an added dimension of urgency: doing so may help them maintain a healthy weight. It is not clear if increasing sleep reduces weight; to my knowledge, there are no trials yet of showing that improving sleep reduces weight, but it can't hurt.**
## Why does short sleep cause obesity?
Why does short sleep cause increased weight? In a nutshell, there are two likely causes:
- **Increased calorie intake:** The longer you are awake, the more opportunities you have to eat. Interestingly, [short sleep also seems to lead to hormonal changes which increase hunger](http://annals.org/content/141/11/846.abstract?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) as well.
- **Decreased energy usage:** Obviously, people who are tired are less likely to be active. Short sleep also seems to be associated with lower body temperature and metabolism. Your body is like a furnace: if it runs cooler, it uses less fuel.
If you are so inclined, there is a good review article from 2008 summarizing much of this research by [Sanjay Patel and Frank Hu](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/pmc2723045/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). For extra credit points, I've made a video reviewing the mechanism between short sleep and obesity.
## What other studies show a link between sleep and obesity in children?
Although these studies are almost a decade old, multiple more recent studies show a relationship between sleep and obesity in children.
- A study in 2015 looking at 26,000 children found that [poor quality sleep (independent of short sleep duration) was associated with obesity. ](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27417913/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- A 2019 review article concluded that [the relationship between inadequate sleep and obesity in children and adolescents is clear.](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30266216/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Sleep timing may also be a risk factor for obesity. [Specifically, children with social jet lag (typically, children who naturally sleep much later on weekends and vacations compared with during the school week) have a higher risk of obesity.](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/labs/pmc/articles/PMC4437224/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### Do Wake Windows Help Babies and Kids Nap Better?
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/do-wake-windows-help-kids-nap-better/
Last updated: 2026-05-10T20:35:04.000Z

"Wake windows" are a popular concept in infant and toddler sleep. In a nutshell, "wake windows" are intervals between naps. They are also known as "awake windows" or "baby wake windows". Although they have some basis in sleep science, there is little evidence that systems based around wake windows improve baby and toddler naps. They also seem overly complicated to me. But some parents swear by them. So let's delve a little bit deeper.
## What are wake windows?
**"Wake windows" are defined as the length of time ("windows") during which babies and toddlers should be awake.** This term also seems to refer to systems which promise to simplify the process of getting babies and toddlers to nap.
This is not a concept that is taught, discussed, or researched in medical school or in the world of pediatric sleep medicine. A Pubmed search pulled up zero references on the term. When I reviewed Google Trends, this is a relatively recent topic of interest, popping up in searches only in the last few years

A Google trends search showing that "wake windows" searches started to increase in the last few years.
To me, this feels like [sleep regressions](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-deal-with-a-sleep-regression/), another topic which has seemed to gain traction in the world of sleep consulting and parent message boards, not academic research. I don't think that this empirically disqualifies them, because many effective medical treatments and technologies start getting used before we understand WHY they work.
## How do you use wake windows?
Personally, I don’t use wake windows in my practice. But here is a typical example of how you are supposed to use them to get to better naps.
In a nutshell, you look at the age of your child, then put her down for a nap after she has been awake for a set period of time (the wake window). (I took this from here).
- Age-by-Age Wake Windows
- **Newborn wake window:** 60 to 90 minutes
- **4 to 6 month old wake window:** 1.5 to 2.5 hours
- **7 to 9 month old wake window:** 2 to 3.5 hours
- **10 to 12 month old wake window:** 2.5 to 4 hours
- **13 to 15 month old wake window:** 2.5 to 4.5 hours
- **16 to 18 month old wake window:** 4.5 to 5.5 hours
- **18 month old+ wake window:** 5 to 6 hours
OK. This seems straightforward, although I have no idea where these numbers came from (see below). Different websites have different numbers. But there are ranges, so that’s OK. So what do you do with them?
Here's were it get's complicated. You are supposed to adjust these windows based on the time of day, how many naps have occurred, and the duration of naps. It's. . .complicated. (See below).
## What is the scientific basis behind wake windows?
To understand wake windows, you need to understand sleep drive. Simply stated, sleep drive is one of the main factor that determines when someone falls asleep. Sleep drive increases very quickly in early childhood. As children get older, it accumulates more slowly, meaning that children can go longer and longer without sleeping. That's why, for example, babies nap frequently, two and three year olds nap once a day, and kindergarteners generally don't nap. [(I have an article on sleep drive here if you want to learn more.)](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/)
During early childhood, the speed at which of sleep drive increases changes quickly. In the first four years of life, children go through stages where they sleep for
**Four naps a day -->Three naps a day-->Two naps a day-->One nap a day-->No naps a day**
The problem is, I can't tell you when those transitions will occur. Predicting when this happens is painful, though, ESPECIALLY in infancy as babies go go from napping four to five times per day at birth, to likely napping twice a day by one year of age. Due to the neurological immaturity of infants, their napping schedules can vary day to day, especially early in the first year of life. Your baby may, say, take three naps on one day, two naps the next, then three naps again.
This is the reason parents struggle with napping. It feels like you are reinventing the wheel every few days, resulting in missed naps and nap strikes. Each missed nap results in irritable kids and stressed parents. For parents who are often overwhelmed, this feels like torture.
That's why the idea of wake windows has gained traction. These systems promise a cookbook approach to napping timing which promises to streamline the process.
## What's the problem with wake windows?
First off, if you've used wake windows and your baby is sleeping well, that's great. Often, any plan beats no plan. But if you are considering trying this out, recognize that these are complex systems with little basis in science.
Here are my two primary issues with wake windows as a system for addressing nap problems.
### 1\. The numbers don’t seem to have any scientific basis.
Here's information on daytime sleep duration in infancy and early childhood, from a seminal paper on the topic (Iglowstein, I., Jenni, O.G., Molinari, L., Largo, R.H., 2003\. Sleep Duration From Infancy to Adolescence: Reference Values and Generational Trends. PEDIATRICS 111, 302–307\. [https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.111.2.302)](https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.111.2.302?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) Although there are some limitations in this paper (they studied 493 Swiss babies-- as you can imagine, not the most diverse population you can find), this is a good reference for looking at sleep duration.
First off, there is a huge amount of variability in how much individual children nap during the day. This graph shows the amount of time children in the the study sleep during the day over time. Each of the lines going from left to right represents the typical amount of time children were sleeping during the day at different ages. The spread (from the 2nd to the 98 percentile) is very wide in early infancy and gets narrower over time. This means that the amount of time that children sleep during the day is highly variable in the first year. For example, look at the arrows at six months of age showing the average daytime sleep duration at the 25th and 75th percentiles. (note that this means that 25% of children and 75% of children sleep less than these values during the day.) Six month olds at the 25th percentile sleep about 2.5 hours per day; those at the 75th percentile sleep about 4.5 hours during the day. Half of children fall between those two numbers. **Thus, the amount of time babies sleep during the day is really difficult to predict.**

Next, look at the data from six to eighteen months. Some kids are napping two or more times per day, but some aren't. All we know is the proportion reduces over time.

The take home: **Napping is highly variable from child to child.** We do know that sleep requirements tend to be stable in individual children. This means that children who need less sleep in infancy continue to need less sleep as they get older. (And the children who need less sleep are often the ones whose parents are struggling with daytime and night time sleep patterns). **But the numbers describing how long wake windows should be at various ages do not seem to be based on any scientific evidence.**
### 2\. The systems are hard to follow
I don’t mean to pick on the obviously kind and well intentioned author of the post above. Maybe I’m an idiot. (In fact, it’s quite likely I’m an idiot).
But I’m an expert. And I would struggle to explain and implement a system like this with tired parents.
As far as I can understand:
- Wake windows should increase during the day. So a four month old will go down at 1.5 hours for the first nap but 2-2.5 hours for the next nap.
- Nap duration is a factor-- if the nap are long or short you may need to adjust wake windows.
- A skipped nap should drastically shorten wake windows.
Here's a description from a website I read when I was researching this article (I'm not linking as it appears to have been taken down):
> There are times when you will need to adjust wake windows based on how long your child naps. My rule of thumb is that if baby naps 40 to 45 minutes or less, shorten the next wake window by about 45 minutes (or in some cases up to an hour) to prevent baby from becoming overtired. If your little one were to only sleep 20 minutes, for example, following a full wake window (based on their age) would most certainly result in a cranky, overtired baby, which causes a cycle of short naps. To avoid this, whenever naps are short, we shorten the next wake window."
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I feel bad singling out this post. Clearly the author is well intentioned and wants to help tired parents. But this made my head spin.
## My child isn’t napping! What should I do?
[Here's a table I put together for the New York Times on napping, based on the best available data](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/24/parenting/child-stop-napping.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).

As well as the Times article, I have more information here about how to proceed if you are struggling with naps:
[Is your child struggling with napping? Here's help](https://drcraigcanapari.com/nap-problems/)
We also have two whole episodes of The Sleep Edit where we cover napping problems:
- [Napping Spectacular Part 1](https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-15-napping-spectacular/)
- [Napping Spectacular Part 2](https://drcraigcanapari.com/episode-16-napping-spectacular-pt-2/)
[Do naps after age 2 ruin sleep?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/does-napping-after-age-2-spoil-sleep-not-so-fast/)
In my New York Times piece, I put in the following recommendations
- Make sure your expectations fit in the expected frequency and duration of naps for age.
- If night time sleep is bad, work on that first
- Replicate your child's bedtime routine in miniature before nap time
- Don't panic during nap strikes
- Recognize when your child is ready to give up a nap.
The best thing to do is to look for signs of sleepiness (yawning, rubbing eyes, dozing off). If you're not sure, maybe the list of wake window intervals is useful to you, feel free to try it out. But don't worry if it doesn't work for your child. And don’t feel like you need to try wake windows.
### The Top Ten Sleep Training Mistakes You Need to Avoid for Better Sleep
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-mistakes-and-pitfalls/
Last updated: 2026-07-04T18:42:42.000Z
[](https://drcraigcanapari.com/content/images/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/top-ten-sleep-training-mistakes.jpg)
What do the families who come into Sleep Clinic have in common? **Almost all of them have tried sleep training and failed. There are some common sleep training mistakes that parents make.** Knowing about them may make the difference between success and failure.
(There are definitely some [myths that some pediatricians share about sleep](https://drcraigcanapari.com/five-mistakes-doctors-make-when-counseling-parents-about-sleep/) that may also trip parents up when sleep training).
Parents often feel [guilty about sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/04/24/why-fixing-your-kids-sleep-problems-is-not-selfish/). One of the reasons is that they have tried for a bit and then encountered severe resistance, often in the form of tears and crying all around. Then parents quit.
This always makes me feel terrible-- both the parent and the child have suffered without even fixing the problem. Often, if they had persistent, their child would have started falling asleep more easily with just a day or two more of effort.
Many people think that sleep training exclusively implies a "cry it out" approach, which is technically referred to as extinction.
**When I say sleep training, I am thinking of a range of behavioral (non-medicine based) methods that parents and physicians may use to help children fall and stay asleep.**
If you want to know the best ways to sleep train, [I wrote a comprehensive post on the best sleep training techniques here.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
### Not sure which sleep training method fits your child?
My free quiz matches your child's age and temperament to the right approach — and free membership includes the full 8-lesson Sleep Training Starter Kit to walk you through it.
[Find your method →](https://drcraigcanapari.com/find-your-childs-perfect-sleep-training-method-take-the-quiz/)
## Here is my list of the top ten sleep training mistakes:
Avoid these problems and you will be much more successful at fixing your child's sleep problems.
### **1\. Starting sleep training at the wrong time.**
Infants develop the ability to self soothe between 4-6 months of age. To be safe, I usually recommend starting around six months of age, but efforts in the 4-6 month window may be helpful. Before four months, just follow your child's cues. Lately there have been some articles in the news about [training younger infants](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-at-8-weeks-do-you-have-the-guts/) but [I don't recommend this.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-2-month-olds-still-great-idea/)
Also, avoid starting around potty training, or learning to walk. These big milestones are associated with lots of sleep disruption.
### **2\. Not changing bedtime.**
A well structured bedtime is the key to success. Kids with [irregular bedtimes continue to have poor sleep](https://drcraigcanapari.com/be-a-bedtime-drill-sergeant/) through childhood. Bedtime should be enjoyable, predictable, and last no more than 30 minutes. Additionally, [moving bedtime later (called "bedtime fading") can really help reduce crying. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/bedtime-fading-the-secret-sauce-in-sleep-training/) Timing is also critical. If you are really struggling with getting your child to fall asleep at bedtime, you might be in the "forbidden" or "no-fly" zone. Everyone gets a second wind in the evening when they feel more awake. If you put your child down during this period, she will not fall asleep. [Here's how to know if your toddler's bedtime is in the forbidden zone.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/adventures-fly-zone-perils-moving-childs-bedtime/)
### **3\. Missing the medical causes of sleep difficulties**
Children with some medical problems ([obstructive sleep apnea](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/03/12/obstructive-sleep-apnea-a-common-and-serious-problem-in-kids/), [restless leg syndrome](https://drcraigcanapari.com/drcraigcanapari.com/growing-pains-restless-legs-an-under-diagnosed-cause-of-insomnia-in-children/), anxiety or severe nocturnal fears, [asthma](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/03/15/sleep-training-in-a-coughing-child/), pain, etc.) won't necessarily respond to behavioral changes.
It is very common for patients presenting to Sleep Clinic to have more than one sleep problem. If I find multiple sleep issues in a patient, I start with treating the medical problems first before suggesting a behavioral plan. **This is why you should discuss your child's sleep issues with your pediatrician before starting.**
### **4\. Being inconsistent**
This is probably the biggest problem that I see in clinic-- parents who respond differently to their child at night. There are a lots of reasons for this. Exhausted parents have trouble being consistent and may sometimes fall asleep in their child's bed. Sometimes, one parent handles bedtime or awakenings differently than the other. If the parents are separated, there may be different rules in different homes. Sometimes, a working parent may have the child sleeping at a grandparents' house until later.
The most powerful form of conditioning is *inconsistent positive reinforcement*\-- like pulling the lever in a slot machine. If your child fusses nightly, and is brought into your bed some of the time, that is a very powerful message which validates the fussing.
### **5\. Challenges in the bedroom**
Many families live in apartments where the neighbors complain if their child fusses. The child may share a room with a sibling, or live on a noisy street. Sleep training in an apartment may be challenging. **If the child shares a room with a sibling**, I may recommend that the other child be moved to the parents' room or another room for a few days to facilitate training.
Another common cause can be [nighttime fears. Here's a great intervention for dealing with this.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/my-favorite-treatment-for-night-time-fears-meet-huggy-puppy/)
Also sometimes kids like to sleep in a room with the light on. This is not conducive to great sleep. If it is bright enough to read in your child's room, it's too bright for good sleep. Trying putting the light on a dimmer or moving it out of your child's line of sight. [And please, no electronics in the bedroom.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/prevent-sleep-problems-in-kids-keep-technology-out-of-the-bedroom/)
### 6\. Not being ready
When people quit smoking, experts encourage them to have a "quit date" and not start until they are ready. If one parent is ambivalent, it is OK to wait. Also, defer starting until you can allow a few weeks for the new sleep pattern to be established. Don't do it right before a vacation, or when house guests are staying, or right before your big presentation at work.
For more on this, read [When Not To Sleep Train.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/drcraigcanapari.com/when-not-to-sleep-train/)
### **7\. Moving your child into his or her room at the same time**
If your child has never slept in his room successfully, he is going to have a real hard time if you move him into his room and start sleep training. You may need to move with your child into his room for a week until he is ready for you to start sleep training. Here is my article on [how to stop cosleeping.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/)
### 8\. Feeding your child all night long
After six to nine months, most children don't need calories at night. If you are feeding your child multiple times at night, you need to stop it so both you and she can sleep better. I have [a guide on stopping night time feeds right here for you.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/)
### **9\. The "Extinction Burst"**
This is a behavioral term describing that an undesirable behavior worsens before it improves when you are trying to get rid of it. This is especially common with "cry it out" sleep training.
Here's what it looks like. Nervously, you decide to let your 9 month old cry himself to sleep. The first night wasn't too bad. On the second or third night, he's really screaming. For an hour. Finally, you give him and decide that it wasn't work.
Sometimes this can get pretty real. Sometimes kids may cry to the point of throwing up. And sometimes little acrobats get creative.
Several years ago I received a frantic call from a friend. Their 18 month old had jumped out of the crib when fussing and had landed on her head. I happened to be nearby and went to check on her-- she was fine. However, her parents elected to move her to a big girl bed and it took her issues a while to resolve. If you are sleep training an older toddler, remove things from the crib like bumpers that they can climb.
Unfortunately, if you persist, your child may be done with crying in a few more days. *Sleep training usually works in 3-7 days in younger children,* and usually [the crying is practically done in one to two nights.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-long-will-my-child-cry-during-sleep-training/) People imagine that it will take weeks but it should not. If you are trying and you are stuck after this period of time, call your pediatrician.
### **10\. Switching to a bed prematurely**
I usually recommend switching kids to a bed around age 2.5-3 years of age, when they are sleeping well. Parents often try switching their kids out of a crib when they are sleeping poorly. Or they may buy an expensive mattress or sheets for their child.
I get it. If you've lain down next to your child in a toddler bed or crib, it's pretty uncomfortable.
Let me tell you though-- the problem isn't the bed or the crib. It's the behavior. And if your child is sleeping poorly in their crib, it usually gets worse when you make the switch.
The exception is the crib jumping. Then you have to make the switch.
## What are the most common sleep training mistakes?
If I had to narrow it down to the two most common reasons why parents struggle and fail with sleep training, I would say that **inconsistency** and **the extinction burst** are the most significant.
Parents: what are are the biggest sleep training mistakes you have made?
### "Snooze News" April 2021 edition
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/snooze-news-april-2021-edition/
Last updated: 2021-04-24T18:04:24.000Z
Spring is in the air— although some of my midwestern friends seem to have just had snow. (So glad we avoided that here in the Northeast.
Here’s my very irregular round up of things I’m reading, listening to, and watching.
## To Read
[My COVID-19 dreams aren't just weird, they're keeping me up all night - CNET](https://www-cnet-com.cdn.ampproject.org/c/s/www.cnet.com/google-amp/news/my-covid-19-dreams-arent-just-weird-theyre-keeping-me-up-all-night/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Weird and bad sleep during the pandemic? Well, it has a name now: “coronosomnia”. As Michael Herf points out, sleep symptoms are also common post covid:
> Sleep problems in self report (survey) but not in CDC’s list of long Covid symptoms.[https://t.co/dkioy8HVyn](https://t.co/dkioy8HVyn?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) [pic.twitter.com/yQU12i8UcC](https://t.co/yQU12i8UcC?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
>
> — Michael Herf (@herf) [April 11, 2021](https://twitter.com/herf/status/1381267669748342789?ref%5Fsrc=twsrc%5Etfw&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### Seven Ways to Stay Awake in Zoom Classes or Meetings
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/stay-awake-in-zoom-class/
Last updated: 2021-03-21T19:58:34.000Z

Look, whether you're working or you're a student these days, unfortunately, online classes, online meetings are just the fact of life. And many of my patients have been struggling with sleepiness staying awake during online school. Some of my colleagues. I know struggle with staying awake , with online meetings as well. So here are my top seven tips for how to stay awake during Zoom classes or meetings.
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## 1\. Make sure you get enough sleep at night
The most important thing is to make sure that you get enough sleep at night, which has been a big problem during the past year. (If you have been struggling to sleep, here’s some information on how to sleep better during Covid time).
I was at a meeting once and something a speaker said really struck with me: *tedium unmasks sleepiness.* If you aren’t sleep deprived, you won’t fall asleep in a boring class (even if you want to). However, if you are sleep deprived, you’re pretty likely to fall asleep in tedious situations. And, let’s be real here— online classes aren’t as engaging as in person classes.
Even if you don't fall asleep, it'll be difficult to participate. [So for teenagers, you need eight to nine hours of sleep a night. Younger kids say middle-schoolers nine to 10 hours of sleep.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/) If you are a, grown-up such as myself set up seven and a half to eight and a half hours of sleep at night, high-quality sleep is key.
## 2\. Drink cold water or chew gum.
These are both things that help my narcolepsy patients stay awake in class. If you aren’t familiar with narcolepsy, [it is a rare disorder which causes significant sleepiness during the day.](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/Disorders/Patient-Caregiver-Education/Fact-Sheets/Narcolepsy-Fact-Sheet?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
It just helps them wake up a little bit, especially if they need to push through the end of a class. So this may be useful for you as well.
Make sure that your are muted and not too closely mic’d— you don’t want to be the guy with the loud mouth noise
## 3\. Move!
The fact is if you are standing up, you are not going to fall asleep and you're actually going to feel more alert. If you are able to move around during a class, it can help. If you can, position your Chromebook or laptop, so you can stand up. Stretching can also help.
If you can pop in some headphones and walk around your room a little bit, that will also help wake you up.
Between classes, if you could get a little bit of exercise. Do some yoga, do some pushups, et cetera. That'll actually get your heart rate going and it will help you be more alert when you go into your next class.
Of course again, it might be a little bit weird if you're doing air squats while you're on your conference call, but I don't know maybe your teacher or your boss is going to be cool with that.
## 4\. Take a short nap.
To be clear: don't do this during your classes, but if you have 10 or 15 minutes beforehand, take what I call a short tactical nap.
I'm talking about a 10 or 15 minute nap where you put your head down. A really short nap will help your alertness for a few hours and can help you push through the end of the day.
Prolonged naps are a no-no cause they're going to make it more difficult for you to fall asleep at night and then result in more sleep deprivation and sleepiness the next day. These naps are not three or four hour naps where you're under your covers and your bed, because those are going to interfere with sleep onset.
## 5\. Caffeine\*
Let's talk about your friend and mine: caffeine. Caffeine certainly helps people stay awake. Cup of coffee or tea in the morning can be very helpful, but I'm going to put an asterix after [caffeine because we also know that it can interfere with sleep onset.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/caffeine-and-sleep-in-kids/)
(Link to caffeine article)
So I usually recommend that if you are really sensitive to caffeine, avoid it after 12 o'clock noon, because otherwise it can linger in your system long enough to interfere with falling asleep at bedtime. If you're pounding cups of coffee while you're trying to finish a term paper at 11 o'clock at night, you're probably not going to be able to fall asleep and again, you're going to have difficulty the next day (see #1).
## 6\. Natural light exposure
If you can set up your desks, you near a window, get some natural sunlight coming in. It helps you wake up. You can also just get a bright lamp. It’ll help with the lighting in your classes as well. And believe it or not, we'll help you wake up a little bit.
At night time, remember that bright light can actually interfere with sleep onset. If you are having problems falling asleep at night, [you might want to consider going on a “light diet” in the evenings](https://drcraigcanapari.com/light-is-like-caffeine-avoid-insomnia-by-managing-your-screens/).
## 7\. Think about your body position.
You don't want to be lying down your bed because what do you do in your bed? You sleep. If you're trying NOT to sleep, don't be in your bed. If you've got a desk again, if you can stand up if you're lucky, if you're slumped over in a beanbag chair, you might fall asleep. However, if you are sitting on a stool without a back, you may be more likely to stay awake. (If you fell asleep, you'd probably fall on the floor. I don't want that to happen to you, but again, you're probably not going to fall asleep).
## What else helps keep you awake?
These are the things that I found helpful for myself and for my patients in terms of staying awake during online or soon school or work. If you have any other ideas, please leave them in the comments below, because I'm really curious to hear them.
### Breaking Bad Sleep Habits in Kids
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/breaking-bad-sleep-habits-kids/
Last updated: 2021-01-05T22:55:19.000Z
I’ve been thinking a lot about habits related to sleep issues in children, after having finished [*The Power of Habit* by Charles Duhigg](http://amzn.to/1Tpufut?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affiliate link). The dictionary defines habits as “a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up: this can develop into a bad habit | we stayed together out of habit.” We tend to think of very specific behaviors when we think of habits, both good (exercising regularly, eating well, meditating) and bad (smoking, watching TV for four hours every night), but let’s think of them more broadly. For example, when I commute to work, I grab my keys and wallet, hop in the car, and drive the same route every day without thinking about it. Recently, I had to go to a satellite clinic, but I still got off of my usual exit for work before I realized my mistake. My *habit* in this case was my usual set of behaviors (habit) that most days reduces the friction in my morning, but in this case tripped me up.
To quote from Mr. Duhigg’s book:
> “There are these two young fish swimming along and they happen to meet an older fish swimming the other way, who nods at them and says ‘Morning, boys. How’s the water?’ ” the writer David Foster Wallace told a class of graduating college students in 2005[\[1\]](#fn:1). “And the two young fish swim on for a bit, and then eventually one of them looks over at the other and goes ‘What the hell is water?’ ”
>
> The water is habits, the unthinking choices and invisible decisions that surround us every day— and which, just by looking at them, become visible again.
>
## Bedtime Is A Habit
Every night, you put your child to bed. If you have a good routine (and you should, as [a good bedtime routine is the foundation of successful sleep in children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/be-a-bedtime-drill-sergeant/)), bedtime may look like this:

This is what Duhigg calls a “habit loop”:
- The **cue** is the trigger for the habit or routine. In this case, it is the usual time to begin bedtime.
- The **routine** is the sequence of behaviors that you do at bedtime to settle your child down. Bathing, reading together, cuddling, etc.
- The **reward** is a blissful segue into a refreshing night of sleep for the whole family.
## Wait. That doesn’t sound like my house!
If you are reading this blog, your house may look very different. Let’s say that your child won’t fall asleep without you lying there, and then wakes up multiple times during the night [due to sleep onset associations](https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/).
In this case:
- The **cue** is your child having difficulty falling asleep or waking up at night.
- The **routine** is lying down with them so they can fall asleep.
- The **reward** is a few hours of sleep until they wake up again.
Let’s take another example. Let’s say your child needs a bottle of milk multiple times during the night, a scenario [I describe as “learned hunger”](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/).
In this case:
- The **cue** is your child waking up at night.
- The **routine** is drinking a bottle of milk.
- The **reward** is a few hours of sleep until they wake up again.
## That’s great and all. How does this help me?
Again, I’m going to Duhigg’s book for this. He notes that it is really hard to just stop a habit. Ideally, you need to substitute a new routine, and it may take trial and error to figure out what will work best for you and your family. Let’s take the examples above.
**If your child needs you to fall asleep**
- You can change the routine slowly, by “camping out” or other sleep training methods. If you want to change it quickly, you can resort to cry it out (CIO). This is obviously more painful as it is equivalent to going “cold turkey” when you are quitting smoking.
- Changing the cue includes [changing the bedtime.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/bedtime-fading-the-secret-sauce-in-sleep-training/)
**If your child is feeding at night**
- You slowly change the routine via weaning off the feeds [as I detail in this post](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/).
Other examples of substituting a less desirable routine for a better one may include:
- When you get rid of your child’s pacifier giving them a new teddy bear to sleep with.
- When you [move the television](https://drcraigcanapari.com/get-that-television-out-of-your-kids-room-now/) or [other electronics](https://drcraigcanapari.com/prevent-sleep-problems-in-kids-keep-technology-out-of-the-bedroom/) out of your child’s room, setting up a nice reading lamp and buying some new books for them.
- Moving a cosleeping child [into their own room](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/).
One other insight is that habits are pretty ingrained. Changing them takes effort and consistency; it is easy for old, bad habits to resurface if, say, you take a vacation or your child gets sick. Fortunately, if you have been successful in the past, revisit whatever interventions you made to address your child’s sleep issues, and you will succeed again.
**One simple way to avoid forming bad sleep habits in your baby is by using the ["Le Pause" method of sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/le-pause-avoiding-sleep-problems-and-why-you-wont-break-your-kids/).**
**Can you think of other sleep habits (good or bad) that may be affecting your child’s sleep, and your own?**
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1. Here’s an animated video of this that is well worth ten minutes of your time:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pfw2Qf1VfJo[ ↩](#fnref:1)
### Year in Sleep: 2020
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/year-in-sleep2020/
Last updated: 2021-01-02T01:25:17.000Z
Well, another year in the books for you and me. Certainly, although there were intimations of cases of a mysterious pneumonia in China one year ago, there’s no way that any of us anticipated the way the year would turn out.
This year there are a few things that I did that I was especially proud of.
The first was creating more videos that I hope you found useful. Here are a few of my favorites from the past year:
- [How to stop night feeds so you and your child will sleep better ](https://youtu.be/6eU%5Fw1bXpik?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (my top video on YouTube this year).
- [How long will your baby cry during sleep training?](https://youtu.be/U5tVtwIQSXU?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- [Ten things parents should know about melatonin](https://youtu.be/Mp91Y%5FFJyhY?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (an update of one of my previous top videos, where one commenter said I look liked I had taken melatonin before I filmed it)
The second was discussing the challenges that kids and families are facing, sleep wise, during the pandemic.
- [Six tips for better sleep in online school and quarantine](https://youtu.be/VZZIBri%5FqV0?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). This is a short, fun video my kids helped me shoot.
- [“My child can’t sleep during quarantine!” What can you do?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/my-child-cant-sleep-during-quarantine-what-you-can-do/)
- [How to keep your glasses from fogging up when wearing a mask.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/my-child-cant-sleep-during-quarantine-what-you-can-do/)
Finally, here are the top three articles on my blog for the year. . .
1. [Should my child take melatonin? A guide for parents](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/) (updated for 2020!)
2. [How to stop night feeds in your child and sleep better](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/)
3. [At long last: sleep training tools for the exhausted parent.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
I remain so proud of my book, *[It’s Never Too Late to Sleep Train](https://amzn.to/2PfthnX?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)*, which has 255 reviews of Amazon and an average review of 4.5 stars.
I’m committed to continuing to helping kids, parents, pediatricians, and sleep consultants on their journey in 2021.
What are your pain points, sleep wise? Leave me a note in the comments below. And here’s to a great 2021.
### Six tips for better sleep in lockdown, online school, and quarantine
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/six-tips-for-better-sleep-in-lockdown-online-school-and-quarantine/
Last updated: 2020-12-07T16:07:31.000Z
(Check out the video! My kids had a heavy hand in this one. . .)
As we head into what promises to be a very long winter, many kids and parents are looking at online school and working from home. I gave a Grand Rounds recently at Yale looking at [the evidence about the changes that the early lockdown caused to the sleep of children and parents](https://drcraigcanapari.com/resources-from-covid-talk/), and came up with some suggestions on how you and your child can sleep better.
1. **Avoid screen time at night.** This one is a no brainer, but it is especially important these days. Limit screen time for an hour before bedtime at least.
2. **Physical activity** during the day makes a big difference.
3. **Kids and parents tend to shift later their sleep schedule later.** This is ok for up to an hour for younger kids and two hours for teens and adults (provided that it works with school and work commitments) but don't go fully nocturnal. This was incredibly common during the initial quarantine and it is difficult to unwind.
4. **Structure during the day is key.** Write a schedule down and review it every day.
5. **Protect parents, especially moms.** I don't want to be too heteronormative here, but moms slept worse during dads in the research I reviewed for the talk.
6. **Protect kids.** Exposure to stressful media and stressful talk takes a toll on even very young children. You don't need to have CNN on all day or talk in front of your kids about your worries.
[Earlier on in the pandemic, I wrote more on this topic here,](https://drcraigcanapari.com/my-child-cant-sleep-during-quarantine-what-you-can-do/) and here's an article I'm quoted on in[ the NY Times.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/insomnia-in-covid-article-in-the-new-york-times/)
So this is what I've got. What survival tips have you found that have helped you to sleep well during 2020? What are you struggling with?
### Insomnia in Covid-- article in the New York Times
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/insomnia-in-covid-article-in-the-new-york-times/
Last updated: 2020-11-15T19:04:20.000Z
I was pleased to be quoted by Catherine Zuckerman in this very nice article on insomnia in the Covid-19\. Between election stress, Covid stress, kid stress, it's clear that many people are struggling with insomnia.
I'm going to put together another post as we head towards another lockdown, but here's what I talked about in the article.
- [Screens in your kid's bedroom are an absolute no-no if you want your child to sleep well. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/light-is-like-caffeine-avoid-insomnia-by-managing-your-screens/)
- If your kid can get 60 minutes of exercise a day, they will sleep better.
- [Avoid the forbidden zone](https://drcraigcanapari.com/adventures-fly-zone-perils-moving-childs-bedtime/) when selecting your child's bedtime.
Lots of great advice for parents here as well, if you've been struggling with insomnia. [Read the article here.](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/11/14/at-home/insomnia-advice.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### Resources from Covid Talk
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/resources-from-covid-talk/
Last updated: 2020-11-09T19:26:04.000Z
[Please share the The School, Sleep, and COVID-19 Survey with your teenage patients.](https://redcap.njhealth.org/redcap/surveys/?s=HEM87Y7NWD&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[](https://redcap.njhealth.org/redcap/surveys/?s=HEM87Y7NWD&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[Here's a short video on a patient who received a Nature Prescription.](https://takecare.org/films/nature-no-app-required/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[I want to highlight the work by Brazendale et al on the Structured Days hypothesis.](https://ijbnpa.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12966-017-0555-2?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
[Here's a copy of the slides.](https://www.dropbox.com/s/dxjvvkrrxx41yup/covid%20and%20sleep%20canapari%20slides.pdf?dl=0&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
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### Teenage Sleep Info and School Start Time Resources
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Last updated: 2020-05-13T17:51:22.000Z
I often get requests from students and educators interested in learning more about the start time issue. Here is my continually updated teen sleep info including articles and resources for anyone interested in teenage sleep and school start times. Here's the talk I give to parents, kids, and school boards when asked to speak on this topic:
## Start here for school start time resources
- ["School Start Times for Adolescents", by the Adolescent Sleep Working Group and Committee on Adolescence, and Council School Health](http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/134/3/642?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) on school start times has a great summary of the evidence, as well as their call for later school start times.
- Here's another article from the same group: ["Insufficient Sleep in Adolescents and Young Adults: An Update on Causes and Consequences" by Judith Owens.](http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2014/08/19/peds.2014-1696?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Here's another very detailed work commissioned by the Fairfax School District: [Change School Start Time Report Fairfax](https://drcraigcanapari.com/content/files/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/change-school-start-time-report-fairfax.pdf).
- Here's [the policy statement from the CDC on school start times](http://www.cdc.gov/features/school-start-times/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
- Here's the [Start School Later "Myths and Misconceptions" page](http://www.startschoollater.net/myths-and-misconceptions.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), which I borrowed liberally from.
- Here's a great [terrific toolkit from the Race to Nowhere team](http://www.racetonowhere.com/sleep-page?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), it provides a playbook for students, parents, administrators and community leaders (like yourselves) on how to change start times.
## Information on Sleep in Teenagers
- The paper by Vorona et al [looking at the relationship between school start times and car accidents](http://www.aasmnet.org/jcsm/ViewAbstract.aspx?pid=29746&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) shows that early school start times are associated with a higher risk of car accidents.
- The [CDC paper showing that 90% of teens are sleep deprived](http://www.cdc.gov/pcd/issues/2014/14%5F0383.htm?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) by CE Basch from 2014.
- The 2012 Schools and Staffing Survey data showing that [Guilford starts earlier than 90% of schools in the US](https://nces.ed.gov/surveys/sass/tables/sass1112%5F201381%5Fs1n.asp?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- Here is an article linking to data showing that [later school start times do not result in teens staying up later. ](http://schoolstarttime.org/delaying-school-start-times/will-students-squander-opportunity-extra-sleep/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
- A nice summary of evidence that time [outside camping can rapidly reset the body clock of teenagers, provided that no devices are used.](https://www.popsci.com/how-to-fix-sleep-schedule-light-camping/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## Here are my most popular articles Teen Sleep and Start Times
- Start time changes happen slowly, so what can you do now? Here are [eight sleep tips you haven't heard before.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/eight-teen-sleep-tips/)
- The combination of multiple extracurriculars, excessive homework, and [early start times makes it almost impossible for teenagers to get enough sleep. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/too-much-homework-too-little-sleep-structural-sleep-deprivation-in-teens/)
- Here are some articles explaining the two factors that govern when you sleep and when you wake: [the homeostatic sleep drive](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/) (the need for sleep which increases as you stay up later) , and the [body clock / circadian wakefulness drive](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/). This latter factor is what shifts later in adolescence, even as school gets earlier.
- Why should kids need to choose between homework and sleep? It seems crazy, even when [it's not even clear that homework helps kids learn. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/homework-vs-sleep-a-cause-of-stress-in-teens/)
- Not to get on my high horse, but here are [28 rules for better sleep](https://drcraigcanapari.com/28-ways-to-sleep-better/), as well as my manifesto on the[ importance of good sleep.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/goodsleepmanifesto/)
### How Long Will My Child Cry During Sleep Training?
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-long-will-my-child-cry-during-sleep-training/
Last updated: 2020-05-09T15:52:26.000Z
I get asked this question all of the time. Parents are understandably worried about how long their baby will cry during sleep training. It's a terrible feeling when your child is crying even if you know it will help them sleep better long term.
No parent likes to hear his or her child cry. Some forms of sleep training ([extinction or "cry it out (CIO)" strategies](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)) may involve some crying. Parents often want to know how much crying to expect during this process. It is hard to answer this question with precision as it depends on the situation and the child. Some general rules of thumb:
- Older children may take longer to sleep train than younger children
- The second or third night may be the worst night (due to the ["extinction burst"](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-mistakes-and-pitfalls/))
- Generally, the crying should be getting better by the end of the first week and is usually done by two weeks; if you do not notice improvement in this time frame it may be worth taking a break and revisiting this with your pediatrician.
- **Most important:** **there is [no evidence that crying during sleep training hurts children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/news-flash-sleep-training-doesnt-hurt-your-child/)** no matter what you read in the shadowy corners of the internet.
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Fortunately, a 2018 study looked at real world sleep training and showed [that crying peaked on the first day and resolved within a week.](https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jpeds.2018.04.009?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) Unlike most other studies, there was no evidence of an extinction burst. Moreover, the parents were really happy with the resulting improvement in their child's sleep.
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Honaker, S.M., Schwichtenberg, A.J., Kreps, T.A., Mindell, J.A., 2018\. Real-World Implementation of Infant Behavioral Sleep Interventions: Results of a Parental Survey. The Journal of Pediatrics 199, 106-111.e2\. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jpeds.2018.04.009
I can tell you when I sleep trained my older boy at six months of age, he cried for TWO HOURS on the first night, then 20 minutes the next night, and we were done by night three. It sucked, but within a week he was sleeping through the night. What has your experience been?
### At Long Last: Sleep Training Tools For the Exhausted Parent
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/
Last updated: 2020-05-09T14:30:33.000Z
So, we've covered [why fixing your child's sleep problem is not selfish](https://drcraigcanapari.com/news-flash-sleep-training-doesnt-hurt-your-child/) because it is good for you and for them. I imagine that lots of parents fix their kid's sleep issues without a lot of difficulty. Then there are the parents who have made it to [see me in Sleep Clinic](http://www.ynhh.org/physician-finder/detail.aspx?recid=6237&ref=drcraigcanapari.com). Generally, these parents have tried and failed to address their child's sleep problem, [for various reasons. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-mistakes-and-pitfalls/)Since there is a lot of information to cover, I'm going to break this out into a question and answer format, as I review all of the different effective sleep training methods.
## What do you mean by sleep training?
When I refer to sleep training, I'm talking about behavioral (non-medication based treatment) of two common problems, [sleep onset association disorder](https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/) and [limit setting disorder](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/06/06/curtain-calls-limit-setting-and-bedtime-battles-behavioral-sleep-problems-in-kids-part-2/). Some kids have a mixture of both.
## When should I consider sleep training?
I would wait until a child is at least 6 months of age, although some people have [recommended trying it as early as two month of age](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-at-8-weeks-do-you-have-the-guts/) (note that I don't endorse this). I actually think that [it is a bad idea to start before four months of age](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-2-month-olds-still-great-idea/), preferably once he is no longer feeding during the night. However, if your child is still feeding multiple times during the night and is over six months of age, [that could be part of the problem](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/). If your child has issues such as autism or developmental delay, these techniques will still work but must be applied more slowly.
## When should I not start sleep training?
- If you are worried that your child may have a medical problem which is disrupting sleep, please talk to your pediatrician.
- If you want to pursue co-sleeping as a lifestyle, you may find it more difficult to adopt these recommendations, although they can be put into play if you are room or even bedsharing-- it is just harder. I believe that [cosleeping is associated with worse sleep long term for parent and child](https://drcraigcanapari.com/do-you-want-your-kid-to-be-a-good-sleeper-dont-cosleep/). If you are cosleeping and want to stop, here is [my guide on how to stop the cosleeping habit](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/).
- If you have a major life event coming up-- a move, a visit from the in-laws, a big project do at work.
- If you have major stresses in your that would make embarking on about a week of disruption.
- For more on this, here is a comprehensive guide on [when not to sleep train](https://drcraigcanapari.com/when-not-to-sleep-train/).
## My child feeds at night. Is that part of the problem?
It certainly can be. Most formula fed infants are capable of sleeping through the night without feeding by six months of age; this milestone happens later for breast fed infants, probably between 9-12 months of age. Here's my article on [how and when to wean night feeds.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/)
## Ok, we're ready. Whats the first step?
I think the most important thing is taking a hard look at your child's bedtime ritual. I saw the great [Jodi Mindell](http://www.babycenter.com/expert-jodi-mindell?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) speak at the [2012 Sleep Meeting](http://www.sleepmeeting.org/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) here in Boston. (Here's a question and answer she did on some of these issues at [Parents.com](http://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/sleep/issues/sleep-advice-from-dr-jodi-mindell/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)). She emphasized that bedtime need to be consistent, positive, and have a clear trajectory. High quality consistent bedtimes are associated with better sleep quality throughout childhood. [Here's a post explaining why this is](https://drcraigcanapari.com/be-a-bedtime-drill-sergeant/). Let's break this out a bit:
- **Consistency** means bedtime happens about the same time on typical days, and has the same events in the same sequence. A good bedtime for babies and preschoolers through early elementary school age is between 7:30-8:30 PM.
- Bedtime should included **enjoyable, positive activities** like stories and songs, **with the last part occurring where the child sleeps.**
- **Bedtime should be short and sweet (<45 minutes)**, with a forward momentum. Meaning that you go to the bathroom, then the bedroom, then lights out. **Keep things simple and moving.** Don't move your child towards bed, then away, then towards it again.
- **If your child has an aversion to being in their crib or room**, it's important to spend some pleasant, fun time playing there during the day to emphasize that it is a positive place.
In our house, we mark the start of bedtime by going upstairs with the boys between 7-7:15 PM. They brush teeth and bathe every other night. When one or the other attempts a digression (Wrestling! Running around naked! Peeing on the floor!) we firmly redirect them to the task at hand. They get in their pajamas, read stories, sing songs, and ***go to sleep on their own*.** If one parent is doing both bedtimes, the older one helps put the younger one to bed. **Lights out is by 8:30 PM for the older boy.**
When I read [The Power of Habit](http://amzn.to/1Nkx636?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affiliate link), I found some terrific insights into the importance of bedtime. Remember, **the most powerful reinforcer of behavior by your child is positive reinforcement (kind words, contact, affection).** This is WAY more effective than, say, sticker charts.

If you are reading this post, you and your child have likely fallen into some bad habits around bedtime (fighting, lying with them until falling asleep, eating a chicken dinner in bed, etc). By establishing a consistent time and pattern of bedtime, you are going to essentially revise these habits so that, with time, your child will actually crave their lovely and predictable bedtime.
If you are working on starting a good bedtime, here's a video on [how to start a good bedtime routine.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/starting-a-bedtime-routine/)
## Our child still can't go to sleep without us and wakes up at night!
Here's where it gets a little bit more complicated, and this is the place where many parents struggle-- the realm of traditional sleep training methods. Children who can't fall asleep on their own and who wake up frequently at night likely have [inappropriate sleep onset associations](https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/) and will require a little bit more intervention. **The goal of all of these interventions is the development of the ability to self soothe-- specifically, falling asleep solo at night.**
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### Sleep training techniques
There are a couple of evidence-based tecchniques you can use if you put your child in bed and he cries or fusses until you come back into his room. Let me break them down for you.
#### Bedtime fading
This strategy involves **temporarily** moving your child's bedtime later while teaching him to fall asleep on his own. This can help [use your child's natural sleep drive ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/)to make falling asleep easier. Usually I recommend moving the bedtime later by 30-60 minutes depending on prior experience. For example, if the family has previously tried to put their son down and he cried for 45 minutes before they gave up, I will move the bedtime 45 minutes later or more. There is evidence that removing the child from bed if they do not fall asleep after 15-20 minutes then putting them to bed again a few minutes later (a "response cost") is effective but I think that it is generally too complicated. Once your child can fall asleep within 15 minutes, you can move the bedtime earlier by 15 minutes every two days until you reach the desired bedtime (usually between 7:30-8:30 PM is best). It's important to avoid letting your child sleep in in the morning or falling asleep in the late afternoon in the stroller or the car, as they will be less tired at bedtime.**This is one "gentle" sleep training method.**
There are a few important points for success if you are using bedtime fading:
- Avoiding “sneaky sleep” in the later afternoon.
- Not allowing your child to sleep much later in the mornings, unless [they are getting up at an uncomfortably early hour.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/)
#### Cry it Out / Extinction/ Ferber method
**The "cry it out" approach:** The behavioral term for ignoring an undesirable behavior is "extinction"; obviously most parents don't love the term. There are two ways to do this. **Unmodified extinction** involves putting your child down at the appointed hour, closing the door, and letting things play out. Many people struggle with this quite a bit. **Graduated extinction** (also known as the Ferber method), is where you check on your child at set intervals (e.g. 1 minute, 2 minutes, 3 minutes, then every five minutes until they fall asleep). When you check, the interaction should be very brief and without physical contact. Dr. Mindell recommends the script, "It's night night time. I love you. I'll see you in the morning". **This method is very effective but can be challenging to carry out.** Some children may vomit. If this occurs, I recommend going in, cleaning up the child and bed, and leaving. It feels horrible, but you don't want to reinforce vomiting as a tool to get what you want. Trust me. With time and experience, **I've come to believe that this is pretty difficult to implement in children who have moved from a crib to a bed. That being said, I'm a bit fan of CIO for infants. Here's [a comprehensive guide on how to use "cry it out" to sleep train your baby.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/cry-it-out-sleep-training-explained-how-to-use-cio-to-sleep-train-a-baby/)**
#### Camping out sleep training
**"Camping out"** is another evidence based gentle sleep training method consisting of gradually withdrawing your presence from your child's room at sleep time. It may result in less crying and be a better fit for some families, but takes longer than "cry it out." This is another way that people use when they performing "gentle" sleep training. [Here is a detailed guide on how to perform camping out. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/camping-out-sleep-training/) A few brief notes on this.
- Remember, when camping out, when your child looks to your for guidance, you have to provide, brief, minimal interactions. It helps to have a script. Look at your child and say, "I love you. It's time to go to sleep. Good night." Do this EVERY time.
- Here's a step by step guide for how close to be to your child, along with a video on how to do this. Each step should be between 1-3 nights. This starts if you are currently rubbing your child's back to help her fall asleep. You move up the pyramid over time.

#### The "Excuse me drill"/ Taking a break
**The "excuse me" drill** is another gentle sleep training technique where you provide very frequent reassurance at first and withdraw it over time.
This gentle sleep training method is really for kids who are old enough to talk and have some abstract thinking– imagine age 3 and up. During the excuse me drill, the parent who usually stays with the child until he falls asleep (let’s say Mom in this case), will say, “excuse me, I need to step out and \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ for a second. I’ll be right back!”. The excuse doesn’t really matter. Here are some suggestions:I need to…
- check the soufflé
- buy a lottery ticket
- practice my breakdancing
- bang out ten pull ups
- (In all seriousness, boring excuses (“I need to check on your brother, take out the trash, etc”) work best
Here is [my complete guide on how to implement either the excuse me drill or its simpler cousin, taking a break.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-excuse-me-drill-a-gentle-sleep-training-technique/)
### Other sleep training tips
- **Nursing moms** should try to avoid having nursing be the final activity prior to sleep onset. Ideally, the other parent should put the child to bed.
- **The binky can be challenging.** The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends pacifier use up until 6 months as part of a [number of interventions](http://www.healthychildren.org/english/ages-stages/baby/sleep/pages/preventing-sids.aspx?nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR%3a+No+local+token&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) to reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). In older babies and toddlers you may find yourself replacing it frequently at night. If you are not ready to get rid of it, Dr. Mindell recommends keeping some pacifiers in the corner of the crib. When you put your child to bed, guide their hand to the binky and have her put it in her own mouth. That may help her find it on her own in the middle of the night.
- Often, sleep training may be more difficult for one parent than the other. When we did this, I sent my wife out for the first night so she wouldn't have to listen to our older son crying. It may be a good idea to turn off the monitor if you can hear your child anyway.
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## Sleep training FAQs
### How long will my baby cry during sleep training?
I get asked this question all of the time. Parents are understandably worried about causing their child distress. It's a terrible feeling when your child is crying even if you know it will help them sleep better long term. Fortunately, a 2018 study looked at real world sleep training and [showed that crying peaked on the first day and resolved within a week](https://www.jpeds.com/article/S0022-3476%2818%2930499-2/fulltext?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). Moreover, the parents were really happy with the resulting improvement in their child's sleep.
In toddlers and older children, you may be able to avoid crying altogether. Adjusting your child's bedtime and trying techniques detailed below such as camping out or taking a break can work very well. There's more below, or [you can just check out my book.](https://amzn.to/2PfthnX?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
### What do we do if she wakes up at night once we start this?
If you fix bedtime, the nocturnal awakenings will go away over time. I usually recommend that parents just do what they have been doing in the past for nocturnal awakenings. The middle of the night is all above survival.
### Why doesn't sleep training work for my child?
The most common reason why you have not been successful is being inconsistent. You need to be almost robotic in executing the same plan every night. Here's my inventory of the [top ten sleep training mistakes.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-mistakes-and-pitfalls/)
### My child is an older and primarily has issues with bedtime. Any specific tips on working on this?
- Bedtime fading as noted above can be really helpful in this context.
- A **bedtime chart** showing what is expected of your child every night can be really helpful. Here's a [nice one you can purchase here](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0077M92T4/ref=as%5Fli%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B0077M92T4&linkCode=as2&tag=drcraigcanapa-20&linkId=VNHEWAP5KYX4M2FD&ref=drcraigcanapari.com). Dr. Deborah Gilboa discusses the limitations of sticker charts [here](http://askdoctorg.com/2011/09/19/sticker-charts-effective-damaging/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
- One strategy which I love is[ **the bedtime pass**.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-bedtime-pass-a-great-sleep-training-technique-for-older-kids/) This works like a hall pass. Give it to your child and explain that she can use the pass to come out of the room **one time** for a [curtain call](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/06/06/curtain-calls-limit-setting-and-bedtime-battles-behavioral-sleep-problems-in-kids-part-2/ "“Curtain Calls,” Limit Setting and Bedtime Battles: Behavioral Sleep Problems in Kids Part 2") e.g. a glass of water or another trip to the bathroom. After that one instance, she is expected to stay in her room and will be brought immediately back if she comes out. The research on this technique showed that kids tended to hoard the pass and not use it at all. Dr. Greene has a[ great summary](http://www.drgreene.com/bedtime-pass-program/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) of how to implement this. From Dr. Greene's site:
> So how do you use bedtime passes? Simple.
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- You may need to carry out an **extinction strategy** which is more challenging to implement in a child in their bed who can easily get out of his bed, and out of his room. **I strongly advise against locking children in their room.** If your child comes out of his room, take him back to his room with the brief speech noted above ("It's night night time. I love you. I'll see you in the morning".) If he comes out, put him back in his bed and close the door for one minute. If he is not in his bed when you reopen the door, close it for two minutes. Keep increasing the interval until he gets the message that you expect him to be in his bed. Another alternative can be putting a gate or two in the doorway of the room. (The second, higher gate is for kids that can climb).
### What else do we need to know to succeed?
- **You can carry out these steps gradually.** Let's say your child falls asleep nursing in your lap in the rocking chair. You can stop nursing to sleep for a few nights (often useful to nurse earlier and have the non-nursing parent put the child to sleep), then stop rocking for a few nights, then put your child to sleep drowsy but awake.
- **Keep sleep diaries** so you can monitor your progress. Here's the log we use in clinic:[PEDIATRIC SLEEP LOG](https://drcraigcanapari.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/pediatric-sleep-log.doc)
- **Be consistent**. Intermittently giving in is a very strong way to reinforce undesirable behavior.
### Will my child hate me? Does sleep training hurt my child?
There is no evidence to suggest that sleep training causes any damage to children, and lots of evidence that it helps-- that children and adults are both happier and better adjusted after sleep training. This is touched on in the AASM article below. Dr. Mindell noted in her presentation that she is publishing a review of 35 studies which showed no significant evidence of harm. Over at Science Of Mom, there is [a great review of this science as well.](http://scienceofmom.com/2012/03/30/helping-babies-cope-with-stress-and-learn-to-sleep/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
There was a great summary published by the [American Academy of Sleep Medicine](http://www.aasmnet.org/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) in 2006 which reviews the evidence for all of these recommendations. You can download it here: [Practice Parameters for Behavioral Treatment of Bedtime Problems and Night Wakings in Infants and Young Children](http://drcraigcanapari.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/pp%5Fbedtime-probs%5F-nightwakingschildren.pdf?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
**If you are consistent, your child should be sleeping better within a week. Remember, things get a bit worse ([the "extinction burst"](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/04/27/sleep-training-mistakes-and-pitfalls/) of worsening behavior) often on the second or third night. Don't give up!**
Interested specifically in sleep training your baby? [I wrote an article in the New York Times breaking this down for you.](https://www.nytimes.com/article/how-to-sleep-train-baby.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
*Parents: please share your experiences in the comment section below. What worked? What didn't? Are you still struggling with these issues? If you are, let me know and I'll try to help.*
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### How to Stop Night Feeds in Your Child and Sleep Better
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/
Last updated: 2026-07-04T18:38:46.000Z
*Before you starting* [*thinking about sleep training*](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)*, you need to look at your child's eating habits at night. I would strongly recommend that you stop any caloric intake as one of your first steps in getting your child to sleep through the night. *Sometimes, stopping nocturnal feeds is all you need to do to get your child to sleep through the night.* Here's my guide on *how to stop night feeds and get better sleep at night.**
Years ago, I ordered a sleep test on an obese four year old who was waking up multiple times during the night. Since he snored, I thought it was possible that he might have obstructive sleep apnea. As it turns out, he had a different problem. The tech noted that the child was waking up every two to three hours as the mother had told me. What she had not told me was that she was giving him an 8 oz bottle of milk every time he woke up. Thus, we solved two mysteries– why he was waking up, and why he was obese.
The fact is, unless your child is an infant, he does not need to eat between bedtime and wake time. Addressing this issue can help him (and you) sleep better at night.
## Why does feeding at night result in sleep disruption?
Imagine I woke you up every night at 2 AM and gave you an ice cream sundae. One week later, I stop feeding at night. But you still would wake up hungry. This is what happens to some kids. It is unclear why this is the case. I suspect that some parents get in the habit of responding to any nocturnal awakenings with feeding. Just like you might feel sleepy after having that ice cream sundae, they go back to sleep. Over time, the pattern gets reinforced. I call this pattern **learned hunger.**
## When can I stop feeding at night?
There are a couple of questions to consider.
- **Is your child growing well?** If the answer is no, your child may need those calories at night. If you are not sure how your child is growing, please talk to your pediatrician.
- **How old is your child?** Bottle fed infants typically can wean off night feeding by 6 months of age. Breast fed infants tend to take longer, up to a year of age. [The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusive breastfeeding for six months](http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/129/3/e827?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), with the addition of complementary foods continuting up to a year, or longer “as desired by mother and infant”. It’s important to note that night weaning can lead to weaning altogether. More on this below.
- **Do you want to continue night nursing?** Some moms, especially those who work outside of the home, value the closeness and extra time that night nursing provides. If that is the case, you don’t need to stop, provided that you are getting enough rest. If not, you may need to make a choice between getting better sleep and dealing with a dwindling milk supply.
## How to stop feeding at night
There is one guiding principle here. **Generally, don't go cold turkey** It is equivalent to asking your child to skip a meal every day. They could do it, but they would be miserable (and so would you). Instead, the plan is to make slow incremental changes over time. These changes are relatively easy to make and your child will tolerate them well.
### Still feeding at night?
Night feeds are one of the most common reasons night wakings persist. My weaning guide has the exact bottle taper I use in clinic, plus approaches for breastfeeding families. Free for members.
[Get the weaning guide →](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-wean-night-feedings-bottles-and-breastfeeding/)
### How to stop bottle feeding at night
So, your child is over six months of age, growing well, and still feeding frequently at night. If you child drinks milk (breast, cow, goat, or otherwise) or formula, this is relatively straightforward. There are two ways to to wean this, and I have a **strong preference** for the first one.
1. **Wean one ounce a night:** Let’s say your child takes three 4 oz bottles a night. You take the last bottle and reduce it by an an oz on night one. On night 2, you reduce bottle 2 by 1 oz. On night 3 you reduce Bottle #1 by 1 oz. When a bottle gets down to 2 oz, substitute a bottle of water. After this step, you get rid of the bottle. **Whatever you do, don’t wake up your child if they sleep through a feeding– that is the goal. If they skip a feeding one night but wake up the following night for that feeding, it is OK to give them the scheduled bottle.** Expert tip: write this schedule out beforehand. You won’t remember it in the middle of the night.
Here’s this example by by night:
Night 1: 4 oz, 4 oz, 3 oz
Night 2: 4 oz, 3 oz, 3 oz
Night 3: 3 oz, 3 oz, 3oz
Night 4: 3 oz, 3 oz, 2 oz
Night 5: 3 oz, 2 oz, 2 oz
Night 6: 2 oz, 2 oz, 2 oz
Night 7: 2 oz, 2 oz, H20
Night 8: 2 oz, H20, H20
Night 9: H20, H20, H20.
I would limit the water bottles to 2 oz, simply to reduce the amount of urine produced and wet diapers to deal with. If your child doesn’t want the water, that is fine. **But don’t give in and give the milk.**
2. **All other methods:** The other ways to do this include increasing the amount of time between feeds, and reducing calories in each bottle. I don’t like the first way, because then you drag out the intervals when your child is potentially crying. I don’t like the second because a) it’s too complicated to figure out how to dilute the milk night to night b) milk + water = gross.
### How to stop breastfeeding at night

This is a bit of a more complicated topic. I reached out to my friend and former colleague Dr. Sylvia Romm for more information on this topic. Sylvia is a pediatrician and lactation consultant. Here’s what she has to say about the evolution of nocturnal feeding in infants:
- All babies are born eating every 2–4 hours, even at night
- A mother’s body only makes more milk if milk is emptied from the breast. If milk is left in the breast, the body gets the signal that it should make less milk
- Women have different capacities for milk storage (it doesn’t have anything to do with breast size). Women with larger capacities can go longer before their breasts are full, and therefore can go longer before their milk supply is affected. Women with smaller capacities have to feed more often, or their milk will go down.
- In the early weeks, breastfed babies should rarely go longer than 4 hours without eating, not only to ensure that the baby is eating enough, but also to ensure mother’s milk supply is established. Even then, most women need to breastfeed at least 8 times per day, although some women can breastfeed often during a period of time (usually during the night, called cluster feeding) and can go longer chunks of time at other times in the day without affecting their supply.
- After about 4–6 weeks, some women can start to feed their children less often, generally moving towards 6 times per day. These are usually women with a larger capacity. These women can start to find that they may be able to go longer stretches at night.
- At this age, most babies will still want to wake often at night, and so night feedings are more for the baby.
- At 2–3 months, some babies can go for longer stretches at night (by that I mean starting to break the 6 hour mark). That’s when mother’s supply can begin to be an issue. Mothers without the larger capacity report that they can never go more than 6 hours without breastfeeding, or their supply starts to go down.
- There are no studies out there that look at this topic, but from my anecdotal experience, I believe that the push to sleep train at 4 months in the US contributes to women “not making enough milk”, or saying that their “milk just dried up”. This is a common age for mothers to both report that they are encouraging their babies to sleep longer and for women to report that their milk supply is failing to keep up with their baby’s needs.
- However, that’s OK, As long as mothers realize that **night weaning may lead to complete weaning at this age**.
- Many mothers report that they need to do an extra pump or feed at night once their child is sleeping longer at night. If you do feed, trying a dream feed (where you don’t wake up the child but feed them anyway) can both help a child sleep longer and help mother keep up her supply.
As Sylvia points out, there is actually not much research to provide guidance with night weaning. She notes that this can be a “confusing and difficult journey for parents and baby.”
Sylvia notes are **a couple of different ways to go about night weaning.**
1. **You can shorten each night feeding session:** This can be hard to do, however, as it is hard to be disciplined and watch the clock in the middle of the night.
2. **You can space out the feeds:** If your child feeds on a pretty regular schedule, you can try to stretch out the interval between feeding. However, this is pretty hard to do if your kid is crying.
3. **Get Dad (or the non-nursing partner) involved:** This might be the most effective method, Syliva says, “I’ve found that the most successful method is moving the child out of the bed and picking a middle of the night wake up that’s usually a feeding, but sending dad in to the kid instead. That way the baby can be comforted back to sleep, but they learn that it’s not a feeding time. Dad can’t give in, so that temptation is removed. It gets dad involved, and gives mom more sleep. Honestly, I love daddies, but usually if the baby isn’t fed, the kiddos just start sleeping through that wake up.”
Note that options 2 and 3 are going to be pretty difficult if you are bedsharing with your child. So you may want to move your child out of your bed first. (Here’s my post on [how to stop cosleeping](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/) the least painful way possible).
### Still feeding at night?
Night feeds are one of the most common reasons night wakings persist. My weaning guide has the exact bottle taper I use in clinic, plus approaches for breastfeeding families. Free for members.
[Get the weaning guide →](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-wean-night-feedings-bottles-and-breastfeeding/)
## The Take Home
Many families, especially those who are breastfeeding, may struggle with letting go of night feeds. However, when you are ready to do so, making the changes above can go a long way towards an uninterrupted night of sleep. Please share this article if you find it useful, and leave any questions you have in the comments.
### "My Child Can't Sleep During Quarantine": What you can do
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/my-child-cant-sleep-during-quarantine-what-you-can-do/
Last updated: 2020-04-17T17:17:53.000Z
Is your child struggling with sleep during the Covid-19 lockdown? You are not alone. Many parents have told me that their child can't sleep during quarantine. I reached out and heard from hundreds of parents about their struggles. I found a few types of problems. Here, I review them and also talk about what you can do about them
The most common problems:
1. Children shifting sleep schedules later
2. Conflict at bedtime and nap time
3. Middle of the night awakenings
[I wrote an article in the New York Times called Bedtime Was Hard Enough. Then Came Quarantine.](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/14/parenting/coronavirus-kids-sleep.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
In summary: here's what you can do:
- Manage screen and light exposure
- Respect your routines
- Limit discussion of upsetting topics around your child
- Have the evenings be relaxed
- Outdoor exercise!!!
- Give yourself a break
- And puppies. Always puppies
These articles are always shorter than I would like, so I also created a detailed Youtube video as well:
### Is Your Child Struggling with Napping? Here's Help
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/nap-problems/
Last updated: 2026-03-01T22:12:41.000Z
If your child is struggling with napping, I recently wrote an article for the New York Times called, [Your Kids Refuse to Nap? There's Hope.](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/24/parenting/child-stop-napping.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) In it, I cover what to expect from your child at different ages, how to deal with nap strikes, and what it looks like when your child (gulp) drops a nap. Nap problems are common.
I recently did an [Instagram Live](https://www.instagram.com/drcanapari/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) and it's clear that many parents are seeing a lot of sleep disruption, especially around daytime sleep, with the whole family home, all day, every day, in the COVID-19 era. The novelty of having older siblings, Mom or Dad home full time (or being home from day care) has resulted in missed naps, irritable children, and stressed parents.
As always, the work you read in the Times is carefully edited by the skilled team at NYT Parenting. Here, I’m presenting some extra content that you might find useful.
## Why are naps difficult?
“‘Donald won’t take his nap any more,’ wailed one weary mother. ‘I put him down to rest just as I always have, but he won’t stay. He keeps popping up and wanting to play. What shall I do with him?’”
This mother wrote to an advice columnist in 1929 about her challenges with her son’s naps. Although we don’t know how old her son was, any parent can relate to the desperation she is expressing.
Naps are less predictable than nighttime sleep, making them more difficult to plan for and troubleshoot. . For example, all children sleep at night in a similar window (generally between 7pm and 7 am). However, nap time, duration, or even the number of naps is quite variable. To understand why, we need to talk about sleep physiology.
[Dr. Sarah Honaker, a sleep psychologist at Indian University](https://medicine.iu.edu/faculty/22672/honaker-sarah?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), notes that, “it can be frustrating for parents when their child drops their nap or takes only short naps, whereas their neighbor’s child takes a daily 3-hour nap. There truly is a wide range of normal in napping patterns. It is important to remember that nap patterns are not predictive of any issues in the future, as long as the child is getting enough sleep overall.”
"One thing that can be frustrating is how much variability there is in nap consistency and length. It's important to remember that nap quality or quantity is not predictive of any issues in the future.”
In 1982, a sleep physiologist named Alexander Borbeley described a “Two Process Model” which explained the timing of sleep and wakefulness.. [The first process known as Process S, is better known as sleep drive](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/).
Essentially, sleep drive accumulates the longer that you are awake and dissipates during sleep. In humans, sleep drive increases most quickly in infancy but gradually starts to increase more slowly with maturation. That is why children nap every few hours at birth, and gradually progress through three daily naps, then two, then one and finally stop napping. Sleep drive can also be assessed by how deep nap time sleep is when measured by electroencephalography. As children get older, naps are also comprised of shallower sleep.
The second process, P[rocess C, is the circadian drive and is best understood as a wakefulness drive](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/). This gradually increases during the day along with sleep drive to stabilize wakefulness. There is a slight decrease after lunch so that is why naps often occur after midday (for children and tired adults alike).
The age at which naps are dropped varies significantly from child to child. Moreover, often the timing of a nap is not often determined by a child’s intrinsic sleep needs, but by other factors (such as day care center nap schedules, or the schedule of an older child). Like many families, our schedule revolved around the sleep schedule of our first child when he was born. When our second child was born, our schedule still revolved around the schedule of our older boy. My younger son was forced to adapt, which resulted in some missed naps.
Napping is not as well studied as night time sleep practices. Thus, we know much more about behavioral interventions for night time sleep (also known as sleep training) than we do about napping.
## What are the typical nap schedules by age?
Note the huge ranges here. Toddlers may give up their morning anytime between eighteen and twenty four months of age. Every child is different. That's why one size fit all systems ([like trying to optimize wake windows by age](https://drcraigcanapari.com/do-wake-windows-help-kids-nap-better/)) don't work.
| Age | Total sleep needs per 24 hours | Nap Pattern |
| ------------------------------ | ----------------------------------- | -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- |
| Newborn (0-3 months) | 14-17 hours but can be more or less | Every 1-2 hours |
| Infant (4-11 months) | 12-15 hours | Two to three naps per dayIf taking a third nap, usually dropped between 6-15 months |
| Toddler (1-2 years of age) | 11-14 hours | Morning nap usually dropped between 18-24 months |
| Preschooler (3-5 years of age) | 10-13 hours of sleep | Usually eliminated during this age period |
| School age (6-13 years of age) | 9-11 hours of sleep | None. If your child needs naps, he is either not getting enough sleep at night, or could have a sleep disorder |
## More napping tips
As always, I could not fit everything I would like in the Times piece (as it is, it ran long). Here are some other tips which did not make the cut.
### Help! My kid skipped his nap for the last two days
You may be dealing with a nap strike. Don't panic. If it persists after a few days, [read my guide on nap strikes.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/what-to-do-about-nap-strikes/)
### Avoid napping after 4pm once your child is napping once or twice per day
Generally, your child will not be ready to fall asleep until three or four hours from the end of her last nap. So babies who are taking three naps often go to bed at 9 or 10 pm. Once you are down to two naps, you likely want the nap to end by 4 pm if you would like your child asleep by 8 pm. Bear in mind that really short accidentally naps (think 15 minutes in the car or stroller) before dinner may also interfere with bedtime.
### Dealing with a napping kindergartener
Some children are still napping when they start kindergarten. In the era of all-day kindergarten, this can be challenging if your child really needs that nap. If your child is near the age cut off for starting school, you might consider waiting a year before you start school. Alternatively, you may be able to compensate by a significantly earlier bedtime on school days.
### More on giving up the nap
Dr. Honaker says, "There is a transitional period during which kids still need some daytime sleep but are not consistently tired at an appropriate nap time (e.g., after lunch). They may resist afternoon naps, but then unravel in the early evening. This may also result in napping some days but not others. When this happens, it’s helpful to be flexible about bedtime, using a later bedtime on nap days. This is contrary to the typical sleep advice of keeping a consistent bedtime, but can help manage this transitional phase."
### What if your child cries when waking up from the nap?
This is common. As Dr. Honaker says, "This can occur when children are not getting enough sleep overall. However, sometimes children just take a bit longer to wake up."
“Similar to the morning, we would expect kids to feel more wakeful and ready to go within 30 minutes of waking.” I would agree that you don’t need to be concerned if your child is back to full power after 30 minutes.
# When to worry about napping
Night time sleep should be your number one priority, Signs that your child is sleeping too much during the day include an excessively late bedtime or early wake time in the morning. If your child is having prolonged late afternoon naps which are interfering with falling asleep by 9 pm, you probably need to wake your child up before 4pm.
Tracking sleep diaries for a few days can give you a feel if your child’s sleep needs are within the normal range for age. If your child seems to be sleeping significantly more than expected for age, it is worth talking to your doctor to see if there might be a medical problem which is causing your child’s sleep to be non-restorative. For example, snoring may be associated with obstructive sleep apnea, a condition where the airway narrows intermittently at night.
Likewise, if your child is sleeping significantly less than expected, it’s worth investigating to see if there could be a medical cause, especially if your child is very irritable.
### Do wake windows help with napping?
An idea which has gained a lot of currency recently is "wake windows"-- using set intervals between naps to predict the perfect time for napping. It's an appeal concept but I'm not convinced there is much evidence for it. [Here's an article I wrote on wake windows.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/do-wake-windows-help-kids-nap-better/)
## What questions do you have about napping? Leave them in the comments below:
### Three Reasons to Ignore Your Child’s Annoying Behaviors
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/three-reasons-to-ignore-your-childs-annoying-behaviors/
Last updated: 2019-06-30T22:50:08.000Z
*Sometimes, your best strategy for dealing with your child’s annoying behaviors is to ignore them. Here are three reasons why.*
Recently, my younger boy has developed the habit of leaving his bed about twenty minutes after bedtime, complaining about the heat (we keep it around 70 degrees). He then climbs into the guest bedroom, wraps himself in multiple blankets, and promptly goes to sleep. [(This may fall under the heading of a weird sleep regression).](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-to-deal-with-a-sleep-regression/)

The main offender, wallowing in the spoils of his crime
My wife is not thrilled with this turn of events. Understandably, she has a preference that each child confine his chaos to his own room. (I’m a bit annoyed, but also intrigued to see where this takes us— more on this below).
Nobody is more bothered about this, however, than my older son C. “He should stay in his own room at night!”, he protests. “It upsets Mommy!” (This is probably a slight exaggeration).
I get it. It is a big flex by baby brother to essentially have two rooms and sleep in a queen sized bed with nice linens— a big step up from his $50 IKEA mattress.
My older boy is a lot like me, and not just because we are oldest siblings who resent the “special treatment” that younger siblings get. C is a stickler for the truth, and for what as right. Ever since early childhood he will not back down once he digs his heels in. (If he can find a way to make a living arguing, he will be very successful).
I’m trying to teach him to let some things go, and that doing so can actually benefit him as well. Here are three reasons why sometimes ignoring behavior you don’t like is the best way to address it. But first, you have to decide which behaviors to deal with, and which to ignore.
## What Behaviors Should You Ignore
This is important. If you think perhaps you should let something go it needs to
1. **Be something that doesn’t harm others.** (Other than annoying them, of course). So if the behavior is resulting in injury to a sibling or lost sleep by his parents (e.g. you) it needs to be addressed.
2. **Be something that doesn’t harm the child.** Unlimited screen time or staying up to midnight nightly are some examples of behaviors that likely aren’t helping your child get ahead.
So here are three reasons why you should just let some stuff go.
### 1\. It’s better to be kind than right, most of the time.
Many times in my life, I’ve found myself in conflict— with my parents, my brother, and now my wife and kids— in situations where I was convinced that I was in the right.
(It’s funny that I even referenced this in my high school senior photo, even though I was often a big pain in the ass if you ask my parents).

Although I was insufferable much of the time I had a few things right.
Some of the time, I *am* right, but it is seldom worth getting in an argument or hurting the feelings of those around me.
There are times in this life when you I have to communicate your point of view— such as when my child is playing too close to a busy road, or when the parent of a patient is afraid to try a potentially life saving medication. However, there are often situations when others make decisions differently than I would. And you know what, I’m learning to be OK with letting these things go.
Last night, I tried to tell C this as he was obviously worked up over the injustice of his brother’s forays to the guest room. “Sometimes, **it’s better to be kind than right**,” I told him.
He didn’t really get my point. “But I am right,” he said.
Even when I gave him some recent examples where I was too hard on him about some persistent points of contention (the way he perches like a bird on his chair at dinner, for example).
I hope he will think about what I told him. Because it has taken me a long time to figure it out. I’m still figuring out. One thing that has helped me with this has been learning to meditate (which I’ve now been doing for just about 700 days in a row).

Insight timer is my jam
### 2\. You save your energy and focus for the things that matter
As parents, we are challenged by our children, often many times per day. I encourage you to not always rise to these provocations. As annoying as your children can be (and believe me, mine can be very annoying) responding to every fart, funny voice, or spilled glass of milk will deplete both your energy and authority with your child. Note that I still struggle with this and frequently use my temper over trivialities such as, say, my son dropping his ice cream cone on the floor within 30 seconds of getting it.
This is basically pure survival. If you squander your energy and authority with all of these little events, each day is a ceaseless set of tiny frictions that will wear you down. Your kids will also stop paying attention if you nitpick every little thing they say or do— the child based equivalent of [alarm fatigue](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alarm%5Ffatigue?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
How do you do this? I’m still working on it myself. Self care is really important— getting enough sleep, exercise, and time without children help. Personally, I have found that my meditation practice has helped me be less reactive [1](#fn1).
### 3\. Ignoring annoying behaviors avoids reinforcing them
Both in this [post on habits](https://drcraigcanapari.com/breaking-bad-sleep-habits-kids/) and [in my book](https://amzn.to/2PfthnX?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affiliate link), I talk at length about how understanding the mechanics of habit psychology can help you be a better and more effective parent.

Double habit loop. For black belts only. From the best sleep book EVER
Let’s take my younger’s son’s newly discovered night time wanderings:
Cue: Gets into bed, is “too hot”
Behavior: Goes to guest room bed, whines about being “too hot to sleep”
Consequence: Luxuriates in queen size bed and linens, immediately falls asleep blissfully in room at same temperature while he listens to his brother kvetch about the injustice of it all

This habit
As parents (and big brothers) we have the power to drive the habit loop by giving positive or negative attention. This ensures that the habit will continue— to stick with a brother themed analogy, I remember torturing my little brother by teasing him as a child, until he would lose his temper and yell at me, or cry.
Cue: My brother’s continued existence
Behavior: I would righteously tease him with hilarious jokes, or sometimes just pants him
Reward: The sweet sweet tears of his rage and impotence

IT WAS TOTALLY WORTH IT
Here’s the tricky thing about “rewards”— negative attention (yelling, criticizing, storming about) is almost as powerful as positive attention (praise, hugs) in reinforcing behaviors. Often, your child’s annoying behavior is a cry for attention— this is why kids are more likely to act out if you are on a work call or trying to get caught up on email.
The classic sleep example of ignoring behaviors you don’t like is extinction, or cry it out sleep training. This involves ignoring your child until he falls asleep. In behavioral terms, this strategy will also work for silly voices, burps used as punctuation, and questions asked a hundred times on a road trip such as, “Are we there yet?”
My point to my older son here is that *getting shouty and critical will actually make his brother keep doing the thing that is bugging you.*
## Stopping the night wanderings
I suprisingly here this complaint a lot from parents— that their children go and sleep elsewhere during the night. It’s hard to address this— and perhaps not necessary if your child is sleeping well (falling asleep without difficulty, being safe throughout the night, waking up well rested in the morning).
On the other hand, if sleep is really a problem, then I would work first on a bedtime based intervention to encourage independent sleep, then perhaps a system to reward staying in the room. These interventions are easier than you think, and described in detail in my book.
## Tell me your thoughts
Does your child wander the house at night? What have you tried to address this? Alternatively, I’d love to hear your strategies for managing your own (often justified) anger if your kids are doing silly kid stuff. Leave a comment below.
1. I tried intermittently to do mindful meditation for years. A few years ago, I started doing Transcendental Meditation (TM), and I love it. It is so much easier for me to do. If you want me to write more about meditation and sleep, LMK in the comments. [↩](#ffn1)
### Can Babies Safely Sleep in Car Seats?
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/can-babies-safely-sleep-car-seats/
Last updated: 2019-05-27T20:55:16.000Z
Safe sleep in infancy is a challenging topic for tired parents. A recent study shows that car seats can be surprisingly risky for sleeping infants.
Although memories of the first month or two of my 11 yo boy’s infancy are hazy, I vividly recall the screaming. It was like *Green Eggs and Ham*\-- he would scream on a plane. He would scream on a train. In the crib, on the beach, it was the screaming we liked the least.
The ONLY thing which would calm him down was his beloved swing. The 30 minutes of blissful quiet until the timer ran out helped my wife and I hang on to our sanity. Fortunately, night time sleep was not too bad-- once he fell asleep. When the Fisher Price Rock and Play swing was recalled several weeks ago, it took me back to those painful memories. If I had depended on one of these swings, I don’t know what I would have done.
[A recent study in the journal *Pediatrics*](https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2019/05/17/peds.2018-2576?sso=1&sso%5Fredirect%5Fcount=3&nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR%3A%20No%20local%20token&nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR%3a+No+local+token&ref=drcraigcanapari.com) looked at over 10,000 infant deaths which occurred during sleep. The authors found a surprising finding-- a subset of these infants were dying in car seats. In spite of the recently publicity around the Fisher Price Rock and Play recall, deaths in swings and strollers were very uncommon.
The deaths in car seats WERE NOT generally occurring in cars. (Riding in a car seat-- even sleeping-- is the safest way for your baby to be in the car). They were occurring when infants were sleeping elsewhere in their car seats-- often not secured correctly, and often watched by someone by their parents.
I wrote a recent article in the NYTimes [reviewing this new study as well as the barriers to safe sleep inherent in infancy.](https://parenting.nytimes.com/sleep/baby-sleep-dangerous?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
In it, I review:
- When the danger occurs with car seats, swings, and strollers
- How you can reduce risk
- What safe sleep really looks like
[Please check it out,](https://parenting.nytimes.com/sleep/baby-sleep-dangerous?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) and share it if you find it useful.
### Adventures in the No-Fly Zone: Toddler Sleep Problems
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/adventures-fly-zone-perils-moving-childs-bedtime/
Last updated: 2019-05-17T20:58:57.000Z
Does your child struggle with falling asleep? Sometimes, changing the time you put her to bed can make it much easier. But you may need to go later or earlier to get the full benefit. Even though it sounds complicated, it doesn’t need to be. Fixing bedtime is one of the best ways to fix toddler sleep problems. Note that I have a whole chapter on finding your child's ideal bedtime in my book, *[It's Never Too Late to Sleep Train.](http://itsnevertoolatetosleeptrain.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)*
## Later bedtimes work for a lot of kids
If you’ve read my work for a while, you know I’m a big fan of matching your child’s bedtime very closely to the time she falls asleep. For a lot of kids, this means moving the bedtime later.
Imagine a 3 yo whose parents put her to bed every night at 7pm. This typically produces a short tantrum, then multiple trips out her her room where she demands a cup of water, a cuddle, or another story. In the sleep field, [we call these field trips](https://drcraigcanapari.com/curtain-calls-limit-setting-and-bedtime-battles-behavioral-sleep-problems-in-kids-part-2/) “curtain calls” and they are the hallmark of behavioral insomnia due to limit setting. (For the best curtain call ever, read about [a boy you used to throw his glass eye out of his crib).](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-best-curtain-call-ever/)
Eventually, she falls asleep by 8 pm, sweaty and tired. Perhaps her parents feel guilty for yelling at her.
This is a situation where a later bedtime will be helpful. If her parents start moving her bedtime later by 30-40 minutes, (7:30-40pm). This will typically not make her fall asleep later, but it will make bedtime go much better. Sometimes, in sleep training, we even move the bedtime later than that to harness her natural sleep drive— [a technique called “bedtime fading”.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/bedtime-fading-the-secret-sauce-in-sleep-training/)
## Some kids need an earlier bedtime
However, some children actually need to go to bed earlier. This most commonly occurs for children who have a late bedtime— later than 8:30 for most children between late infancy and elementary school. They may be entering into a period that a sleep physiologist named Peretz Lavie called the “forbidden zone”. I think of it as the “no fly zone” because if you are trying to guide your child to calm landing after a long day, you are going to be disappointed.
Every night, I feel pretty tired around 9 PM when my older child goes to bed. If I stay up past 10:30 PM, I get a second wind and I’m wide awake until 11:30 PM in midnight. I’m in the no-fly zone.
This happens to children as well. Here’s an example from a friend and former colleagues Diana Balekian. Diana is an allergist as well as an excellent chef. Check out her excellent blog White Coat Pink Apron— [I’m especially fond of her vegan chili recipe).](http://whitecoatpinkapron.com/2018/01/23/instant-pot-vegan-lentil-chili/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) Diana notes, “C is actually not good at nighttime sleeping outside of our house, ever. She went to bed before 9:00 maybe once on our family vacation in Feb. She is also a "spirited"/strong-willed child.” (Comes with the territory when you are 2.5 years old).
Diana wrote about some difficulty she was having with her daughter while staying at her parent’s house during a home renovation. I asked her to write a description of her bedtime routines both at home and at Grandmas house:
> Home routine:
>
> Finish dinner around 6:30 PM. Generally one kid or another gets to watch a show (I know, I know) or we do a bath. At 7:15, change into PJs. Usually there are some shenanigans between the two kids, and by 7:30 we start reading 1-4 stories. Then she goes to bed--most recently, she would sometimes want to sleep in her brother's bed (that was a new thing within a few weeks of moving in with parents). Generally falls asleep by 8:15 latest.
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> Grandparents house routine:
>
> Dinner at the same time. Same thing re: watching a TV show or getting a bath. 7:15 or 7:30 change into PJs. 7:30 begins the fighting to go up and brush teeth. Read 1-2 books. In bed by 8:00 pm. She is sharing a full sized bed with her 4 yo brother because that's what has worked out best here (she is afraid of her own room), and he goes to bed closer to 8:30\. My husband will occasionally lie down with her for a few mins while she falls asleep. Immediately after leaving the room, yelling begins. At the beginning, my mom would go in every time, but now she only occasionally goes in if it's very close to when C was put to bed.
>
Diana initially attributed these issues to Grandma’s involvement at bedtime, or fear of being alone— all good thoughts. Note the curtain calls and the yelling.
After writing me about these routines (and before we spoke), Diana moved her daughter’s bedtime 30 minutes *earlier* \-- to the time she was going to bed before-- which actually resolved the majority of their problems.
In retrospect, I suspect a lot of the issues Diana and many other issues face on vacation is at least due to the fact that bedtime was moved a bit later. On vacation, it’s best to either keep your home bedtime, or lean into it and accept that your child will probably be going to bed later and shoot for the other side of the no-fly zone. (For more on this, read my article on [the painful topic of vacation “sleep”](https://drcraigcanapari.com/vacation-sleep/)).
In many kids the forbidden zone can be 60-90 minutes long. As one mom said on my Facebook page, “My kid needs to be in bed at either 7:30 pm or 9 pm. There is nothing in between.” Often, this surge in energy is attributed to being “overtired” but it’s more accurate to say say kids who are overtired are experiencing a natural surge in wakefulness and energy— which is VERY ANNOYING to tired parents.
## How can you find your child’s best bedtime
1. Most kids in early childhood benefit from a bedtime in the 7:30-8:30 PM range, provided that this allows them a long enough sleep opportunity to wake up spontaneously in the morning.
2. If your child is on the earlier end of this range and struggling with bedtime, a later bedtime (by 30 minutes) is often helpful. However, in other children, this can put you in the “no-fly zone” as with the child above.
3. Writing down your child’s routine often helps you pinpoint the painful sticking points.
For further reading, here are some articles on understanding [your child's sleep drive](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/) and [body clock](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/).
If you like this content, chapter 5 of my book [*It's Never Too Late To Sleep Train*](http://itsnevertoolatetosleeptrain.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) will walk you through the best way to find your child's ideal bedtime and avoid pitfalls and disasters along the way.
#### Now your turn. Have you found your child’s best bedtime yet? Or are you living in the no-fly zone? Let me know in the comments below
### The Agony and Ecstasy of Room Sharing for Siblings
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/agony-ecstasy-room-sharing-siblings/
Last updated: 2019-03-24T19:06:19.000Z

Room sharing for siblings presents special challenges for parents and families when it comes to getting a good night of sleep. I wrote an article in the New York Times on [the promise and pitfalls of room sharing.](https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/25/parenting/siblings-sharing-a-room.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) To help me with this, I asked subscribers to my mailing list to tell me about their experiences.
I’m fortunate to have some of the smartest readers on the internet. I asked my readers about how room sharing affects their family’s routines at night— the good, the bad, and the ugly. This information informed the article I wrote.
## Benefits and joys of room sharing
Several moms mother notes that room sharing helped quite a bit with her younger child’s sleep issues. Natasha says:
> My daughter age 2.5 and son age 5 share a room. This began about 8 months ago after a sleep trainer recommended it might help with my daughter's sleep challenges. She would scream at bedtime and wake up in the middle of the night for up to 3 hours. The room sharing worked like a charm!
Dr. Kara Garcia, [a pediatrician in Pennsylvania](https://tanandgarcia.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), takes about how helpful this has been with her children, now ages 5 and 7.5 years old:
> My eldest has always been a "nervous" sleeper, had a tough time getting to bed alone, but ever since we put them together he has been great at bedtime. My youngest is very flexible and after she got over the fact that she didn't "have her own special room," she likes being able to sleep in a bunkbed with her older brother.
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> I talk to patients about this a lot - each kid has a different sleep style and you have more success if they have "complementary sleep styles," so to speak.
>
> WHAT'S GOOD: kids with separation anxiety thrive with someone else in the room, they are good buddies
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> My big worry now is when and how to separate them! They like having their own space, but want to sleep in the same room. I fear the regression my son will have when they are separated. But maybe they will sleep in the same room until he moves out :)
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Children also tend to wake each other up less than you expect, although the mornings remain a challenge, as Dr. Garcia notes:
> Middle of the night wakings rarely result in both being awake. Neither is a light sleeper, so maybe that's why, but I feel like even with other families, this is an overblown concern.
>
> Sometimes the first one awake will wake the other one in the am, and that can be a bummer. They usually will stop doing it if we ask them to stay quiet in the am and just come over to our room.
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> My big worry now is when and how to separate them! They like having their own space, but want to sleep in the same room. I fear the regression my son will have when they are separated. But maybe they will sleep in the same room until he moves out!
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One father writes:
> At night, it's not a real issue. Even when one wakes up crying from a nightmare, the other one stays asleep. While we were night-potty training them and would bring take them to pee in the middle of the night, they didn't wake each other up (or wake up themselves). Nap time, when sleep is lighter, is more of a challenge. It is much harder for one to get up without waking up the other.
Rachel notes that sharing a room is economically and environmentally sound:
> The best thing about kids sharing a room is saving space. We had to give up our home office space to move the babies into a separate bedroom from their sister, which matters because we both work from home often. We don't have enough bedrooms to give each child their own room. It also feels more environmentally friendly to share a smaller home as a family, rather than heating and cooling a 4-bedroom house.
It can even help on weekend mornings:
> Our twins sometimes are content to babble at each other when they wake up in the morning, rather than immediately crying for us. This helps us doze in the mornings sometimes.
Another father writes:
> One thing that I've found helpful is having an OK-to-wake clock (a stoplight that is red during sleep hours and turns green at wake-up time). We have used this to establish the norm that if the light is red, they can't make noise. There are books and stuffed animals in the room but no toys that make too much noise to keep them engaged and from waking each other up.
## Room Sharing Challenges and How to Negotiate Them
### Compatible schedules
It can be really challenging if children have an incompatible bedtime. Rachel writes more about this:
> Our twins used to share with their 3-year-old sister, but it was a mess. We'd put the twins down at 7:30 in pack-n-plays in our home office so we could do bedtime with the 3-year-old in the kids' bedroom, then we'd have to move the babies to their cribs after their big sister was asleep. She would then wake up in the middle of the night and come into our bed almost every night. The day we gave the babies their own bedroom, she started sleeping through the night in her own bed.
Natasha says:
> We have a challenge that both kids need to go to bed at different times. My daughter still naps - at daycare they let kids nap for over 2 hours until past 3 pm which means my daughter won't fall asleep until 9 pm. But my son needs to sleep at 8 pm. This is difficult. And i haven't yet found a workable solution. If i put my daughter to bed too early she just screams so my son can't fall asleep.
EV writes about the challenge when two children have different sensory preferences for falling asleep. Some children like music or sound; others require absolute silence.
> One of my children falls asleep very easily (7) The other one (9) tosses and turns, wants to listen to a story on the radio etc. This makes it harder for the younger one to fall asleep and she complains.
Another mother writes:
> My son, 7, shares a room with my daughter, 4\. They both go to bed at 7:30pm though my son looks forward to going to bed (he's always been very good about going to bed) and my daughter would rather stay up. My daughter will be disruptive by either coming out several times or doing silly things/trying to get a rise out of her brother. This creates a problem for my son who desperately wants to go to sleep and for us who want to start our evening sans kids. While the 4 yr old's behavior has actually been better this past week, when she is disruptive we move my son into our room to go to sleep and later move him back into bed once they are both asleep. This lets him go to sleep and hope incentivizes her to stay in bed.
Sometimes, one child may be freaking out:
> The challenge is if one is having a melt-down and the other one is ready to go to sleep. We have at times put one to bed and then let the other get through their melt-down outside the room before taking them in to bed, but it's hard for this not to be disruptive to the one who is already in bed.
### Bedtime compromises
Sometimes you need to make some compromises with bedtime. Sara, a mother of three writes about the challenges of having ten month old twins and a 3 yo boy in a two bedroom apartment.
> The one challenge now is that if one of us is alone with all three kids we definitely have to use screens to keep the older boy occupied and quiet during the twins' bedtime routine.
Bedtime stories can be a sticking point:
> I thought we'd be able to read them the same bedtime stories, but they are not really interested in the same stories anymore, so that's not as streamlined as I'd like!
Pamela, who blogs at [The Living Feed](http://thelivingfeed.com/index.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), is the mother of a 3.5 yo girl and 2 yo boy. She notes:
> The bunk bed separation is a challenge for our story time routine. The first week or so we would lay down on the top bunk and read + fall asleep there. It was disruptive to then move my sleeping son to his bed. I tried standing next to the bed while both of them were on the top bunk but that was awkward. Last couple of days we’ve been doing story time on the bottom bunk - it helped the younger one get the comfort of being in his own bed + spend a few extra minutes laying next to his sister (which he actually loves to do, but which I cannot allow them to do because his sister’s movements throughout the night wakes him). This setup is lesser of an issue for the older one, who happily moves back up to her top bunk as soon as she gets the satisfaction of reading enough books.
## Managing the transition:
If you introduce a baby into your older child’s room, doing so mindfully can be really helpful. Sara describes the way she handled this:
> I've been surprised so far at how well it's gone. We're lucky that our older son, E, is very into being a big brother and not particularly jealous of the twins. We bought him a new twin bed (the IKEA kind that can turn into a low platform bed when he's a little older) and made a big deal about him picking out new bedding for his special bed.
Sarah Christian, [a mother and sleep consultant in Pennsylvania](https://onceuponabedtime.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), talks about the difficulty with one of her children when the family took in a foster child. The youngest boy, who is 4, had to move in with his older siblings. She talks about how they negotiated this transition :
> After a time, he became more comfortable with the new routines of life with four kids, and he started staying in his bed all night again. We would offer some encouragement/praise in the mornings when he did, and remind him of how good it felt to sleep all night in his bed and wake up feeling well-rested.
## Tell us about your experiences with room sharing
Thanks to everyone who wrote in— there were so many great responses that I could not include them all. If your children share a room, let me what works and what doesn’t.
### What Bedtime Means: A Short Essay for Parents
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/bedtime-means/
Last updated: 2019-01-21T21:40:13.000Z

Not to be maudlin or morbid, but how many bedtimes do you have left with your children? Each night represents one of a precious and finite number of events with your children. I don’t mean that anything bad will happen.
It’s more that I can’t help but feel that cliche of parenting— my children are growing up so fast (although amazingly I stay the same age).
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[via GIPHY](https://giphy.com/gifs/matthew-mcconaughey-gzj9MpF4E5e4U?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
Bedtime occurs in the limninal space on the the border between wake and the quiet country of sleep. We are all at our most vulnerable. That’s why it is so special, and why it feels so personal [when your children fight and argue at that time.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/curtain-calls-limit-setting-and-bedtime-battles-behavioral-sleep-problems-in-kids-part-2/)
I still cuddle my boys at night. The younger one, sweet but business like, exiles me from his room so he can go to sleep “in his own time”. The older boy still likes to be squeezed tightly and is reluctant to let me go. But both he and I know the pubertal clock is ticking (he is age 11). I’m sure at some point he will not want me hanging out with him at bedtime because it will feel weird and uncool. (Although he may still also perceive this as a loss— entering adolescence is about creating space for independence while missing the safety of childhood. It sure is complicated. [Here’s an article I found on managing this transition.](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/surviving-your-childs-adolescence/201211/adolescence-and-physical-affection-parents?ref=drcraigcanapari.com))
I grew up with a lot of physical affection in my family but I clearly remember when I wanted less contact from my parents as a teenager. I wonder when I become uncomfortable with it from my parents. When was the last time they put me down for bed?
I’m a homebody and hate to miss bedtime. It’s silly how much I love it. I mean I wrote a book about it. (The original title of my forthcoming book, *[Never Too Late to Sleep Train](https://amzn.to/2PfthnX?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)* was *The Bedtime Habit*). Spending this quiet time with my kids is often the highlight of my day.
Once, I was talking with a colleague about [why later school start times for teens are so controversial, even though the evidence is so strong supporting them](https://drcraigcanapari.com/children-teens-need-sleep-thrive-controversial/). She observed that bedtime is a private, sacred time in the life of a family, and that not everyone wants an expert intruding in this context. I feel like this is also a factor which makes some people uncomfortable with sleep training, [although it is both safe and effective.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-fixing-your-kids-sleep-problems-is-not-selfish/)
Here’s my point. You may be here because you struggle with your child’s bedtime. Even when things are difficult, don’t forget to enjoy the small, magical, mundane moments of childhood. A shared laugh over a book you are reading together. Some cozy Snoopy pajamas on a winter’s night. If you like, share in the comments below.
### Does sleep training reduce the risk of childhood obesity?
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-reduce-risk-childhood-obesity/
Last updated: 2018-10-15T13:41:21.000Z
A recent study out of New Zealand suggests that educating parents about sleep prior to the birth of their child, and supporting sleep training during early childhood, can reduce the risk of obesity in childhood. This adds to the literature relating sleep and childhood obesity. Although this is music to my ears, do these results make sense? Let’s dig into it.
My friend Sumathi Reddy sent me a link to a Medscape article entitled, [“Amazing' Reduction in Obesity at Age 5 From Early Sleep Training”. ](https://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/902065?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) As always, the journal article has a less sexy title: [“Sleep, nutrition, and physical activity interventions to prevent obesity in infancy: follow-up of the Prevention of Overweight in Infancy (POI) randomized controlled trial at ages 3.5 and 5 y”](https://academic.oup.com/ajcn/article/108/2/228/5067909?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (sadly behind a paywall)[1](#fn1).
This was a large trial which enrolled 802 women in New Zealand who were pregnant with the goal of examining two educational and support programs to see if they would reduce the risk of obesity in children at age five. There were two interventions in the trial which are [described in an earlier publication:](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3293097/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)[2](#fn2)
1. An intervention teaching the mothers about food, activity, and breastfeeding (FAB). Parents in this group received eight extra education and support visits over the first 18 months of life, starting with education prior to birth and including lactation support and physical activity sessions, as well as education about the importance of limiting screen time and maximizing exercise in early childhood.
2. An intervention focused on developing good sleep habits from birth on. This is comprised of a group session prior to birth, and home visits at three weeks, four months, and six months of age. Anytime between six months and three years of age, the parents could request more intensive sleep health from the research team which included developing a behavioral plan (e.g. sleep training plan) for the family.
When the children in the study were 3.5 years of age, there was no difference in sleep duration or timing, but there was a decrease in [resistance to bedtime.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/curtain-calls-limit-setting-and-bedtime-battles-behavioral-sleep-problems-in-kids-part-2/)
Here’s where it gets interesting. The researchers found that **the children in the Sleep intervention group were significantly less likely to be obese at age 5** when compared with the FAB group or the controls (the children who did not receive any intervention), even though there was no difference in sleep duration at age 3.5\. This was a major result, with **the risk of obesity halved in the children who had received the sleep intervention, compared with other groups.** Even more interesting, the children in the FAB intervention were *more*likely to be obese than the control children.
## What does sleep have to do with obesity in children?
There is a growing body of evidence which suggests that [insufficient sleep at night is associated with increased appetite and weight gain in both children](https://drcraigcanapari.com/lack-of-sleep-may-make-kids-obese/) and adults. The reasons for this are not entirely clear, but studies of volunteers who are sleep deprived showed lower levels of leptin (a hormone which make you feel less hungry) and higher levels of ghrelin (a hormone associated with increased appetite, often for sugary or fatty foods). Here's a video I did a few years ago on this topic:
## How believable are these results?
This study has some significant strengths. It was a large study that followed children from before birth— such studies that go forward in time (called *prospective* studies) are generally considered superior to studies that look back in time (called *retrospective* studies).
Some children and family dropped out of the study, which is fairly typical— about 30% in this case. The authors did some complicated statistical work to show that the children that dropped out are unlikely to affect the results. But it would be better if more the children were followed until the end of the study.
The main issue I have with the study is that I would like to know more about the results of the sleep intervention. (I am, after all, a sleep doctor). A prior article written about this study showed that [there was no apparent difference in sleep quality based on parent observation](https://bmjopen.bmj.com/content/7/5/e014908?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)[3](#fn3). However, actigraphy (measurements by a small device which tracks sleep and wake in the home) showed that there was an 8% reduction in the frequency of night time awakenings and an average of 6 minutes more sleep at night. These numbers were statistically significant (meaning that the data in the study suggested that these findings were not random) but probably did not make a huge difference to the parents.
## What do these results mean?
Although the media tends to trumpet striking findings such as these, it’s important to recognize the limitations of this study. New Zealand (where this study was performed) is a long way from where I live in the United States, and has a much more robust social safety net. Thus the FAB intervention could be useful here although it was not for the families in this study. As to why the children in this group were more likely to be obese, I don’t feel qualified to venture a guess.
One thing I don’t understand is *why* the children in the Sleep intervention were less likely to be obese. Study results at 6 months and two years of age did not demonstrate any clinically significant difference in sleep between the Sleep group and the other groups, although there was a small difference in sleep duration and nocturnal awakenings at 6 months of age . If I would hazard a guess, this suggests to me that even small improvements in sleep quality or duration may help “program” a child’s metabolism towards a healthier weight, although that is at best supposition.
## What’s the take home of this study?
For unclear reasons, children whose parents had intensive education and support around sleep prior to and after birth were less likely to be obese at five years of age. It’s not clear why as they did not sleep appreciably more than the other children in the study. However, this adds to the growing body of evidence that **healthy sleep in early childhood is one factor which determines healthy weight.** Also, that sleep interventions such as **sleep training may have benefits as children get older outside of the proven benefits of improved sleep for children and parents.**
## What do you think? Please leave your comments below and, as always, share this article with your friends if you find it interesting.
1. Taylor, R. W. et al. Sleep, nutrition, and physical activity interventions to prevent obesity in infancy: follow-up of the Prevention of Overweight in Infancy (POI) randomized controlled trial at ages 3.5 and 5 y. The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition 108, 228–236 (2018). [↩︎](#ffn1)
2. Taylor, B. J. et al. Prevention of Overweight in Infancy (POI.nz) study: a randomised controlled trial of sleep, food and activity interventions for preventing overweight from birth. BMC Public Health 11, (2011). [↩︎](#ffn2)
3. 1.Galland, B. C. et al. Anticipatory guidance to prevent infant sleep problems within a randomised controlled trial: infant, maternal and partner outcomes at 6 months of age. BMJ Open 7, e014908 (2017). [↩︎](#ffn3)
### Our Accidental Screen-Free Vacation
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/accidental-screen-free-vacation/
Last updated: 2018-07-30T13:00:03.000Z

The last night of vacation.
*This is from from about five years ago, but we have carried the lessons from it forward, although we did bring our kids' iPads on our last vacation.*
Last month, we were leaving for vacation and were en route to the Long Island Ferry. There was heavy traffic on I-95\. I looked over at my wife and asked, “Did you pack the kids’ iPads?” She looked at me, with panic in her eyes. “No, did you?”
I’m embarrassed to admit that I was wigging out. What would we do when the kids were bored? How would we have any downtime for ourselves? We were going to a family member’s beach house, with lots of unstructured time ahead of us.
On the ferry to Long Island, where the kids would usually be absorbed in their screens, we actually talked. (And *ahem* Daddy had a little computer time to work on a project that I’ll be announcing soon). We hung out with my nieces and nephews for the weekend. They had their devices, which they shared amicably. Mostly, however, the kids just played in the pool. When the cousins left, so did the personal electronics. (In the interests of full disclosure, we did let the kids watch TV. This was pretty limited as the place we were staying did not have access to Netflix).
A few days later, my seven year old said, “Vacation is better without iPads because I’m having more fun.” Of my two children, he is not the one I would have expected to endorse such a thought. That dude loves his screen time.
I tried to restrict my screen time as well. I’d like to think that I put it aside much of the time. But reaching for my phone has become so ingrained that I don’t even always notice it. My seven year old asked me, “Daddy, what do you love better: me, or your phone?” That hurt, but it was a wake up call[1](#fn1). On a lighter note, he also noted that “Mommy has a crush on Instagram.”)
We are not zealots about limiting screen time, but we are more strict that many of our friends. No video games on week days during the school year, although a little TV once the homework is done is OK. We are pretty lax on the weekends, but now I’m rethinking it. We’ve tried “digital sabbaths”, otherwise known as “screen free days”, but they can be pretty impractical. Sometimes, you need to look up the number to the pizzeria.
Our parents didn’t have to contend with smartphones, social media, or online gaming. There was a recent article called [“Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?”](https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/09/has-the-smartphone-destroyed-a-generation/534198/?utm%5Fsource=atltw) which is worth a read. Certainly, this technology is changing our children, as it is changing us. There are good things as well— community, new ways of expressing ourselves, and the benefits of having all of the world’s information at our fingertips.
I’ve written a few articles on the blog about technology as it relates to sleep:
- [Why you should keep all technology out of your child’s bedroom](https://drcraigcanapari.com/prevent-sleep-problems-in-kids-keep-technology-out-of-the-bedroom/) (and probably your own)
- [Vamping, Poor Sleep, and Social Media in Teens](https://drcraigcanapari.com/vamping-poor-sleep-hygeine-and-social-media-in-teens/). Many of my teenage patients describe being on their phones with friends in the middle of the night. It’s more common than you think.
- How going on a [light diet](https://drcraigcanapari.com/light-is-like-caffeine-avoid-insomnia-by-managing-your-screens/) can help with insomnia
I feel like I’m fumbling to figure these things out. In our family, we are not planning on getting our kids smartphones or allowing social media until they are in high school. My friends with older kids think that this will be impossible. I’d love to know how you are dealing with screen time and social media. Hit reply and let me know your thoughts.
Craig
1. It wasn’t until later that I realized that he may have been pulling my leg. Later in the week he asked me whether I loved him more than A) corn on the cob B) Reading the paper C) coffee. After option C, I told him not to push his luck. [↩︎](#ffn1)
### Does Introducing Solids Early Help Your Baby Sleep? New research suggests yes but. . .
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/will-solids-help-baby-sleep/
Last updated: 2018-07-18T20:25:02.000Z
Parents often wonder if solids will help baby sleep better. A new research study was released this week about solid food and baby sleep, and is already generating headlines:

The study is entitled [“Association of Early Introduction of Solids With Infant Sleep”](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/2686726?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), with a lead author of Michael R Perkin. (Perkin, M. R. et al. Association of Early Introduction of Solids With Infant Sleep: A Secondary Analysis of a Randomized Clinical Trial. JAMA Pediatr e180739–e180739 (2018). doi:10.1001/jamapediatrics.2018.0739).
But will solids help your baby sleep better? The question is more complicated that it seems.
## The Background
Many new parents are told that the sooner they start solid foods, the sooner their baby will sleep through the night. However, the very limited research available has suggested that this is not actually the case.One study showed that [adding rice cereal to formula at either five weeks or four months of age did not help babies sleep through the night.](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2672785?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
The problem is, most babies will start sleeping through the night anyway around 4-6 months of age, when solids are commonly introduced. Introducing solid food early has been controversial, with concerns that it may be associated with the development of food allergy or obesity, and that it may adversely affect breastfeeding
## Our Current Story: The EAT Study
The Enquiring About Tolerance study was designed to see if starting selected solid foods in infants prevents food allergies. You can read more about he results of the initial trial here.
This current publication is what is called a “secondary analysis”— meaning that they took other data collected during the study and analyzed it looking specifically at sleep information. The good think about secondary analyses is that they the ensure that every bit of information collected during (very expensive) clinical trials is made available. The downside is that the data is often used to answer questions that the study was not designed to answer. Thus, the authors sometimes lack important information when writing up their result. For example, this study was designed to look at the development of food allergy as a primary endpoint. Sleep information was collected to supplement this.
### What are the sleep results from the trial?
Thirteen hundred and three children were enrolled, with 1225 having complete sleep data. Half were in the Early Introduction of food Group (EIG) and half were in the Standard Intervention Group (SIG— exclusively breastfed). There were three primary findings. (Note that all images are taken from the article above).
1. Infants in the EIG group slept longer than infants in the SIG group— by about 16 minutes per night at six months of age, when the difference in sleep amounts was maximal.

1. The night time awakenings decreased from 2.01 to 1.74 per night. This translates to about one fewer awakening every four nights, or a little bit less than two fewer awakenings per week.

1. “Very serious sleep problems” were reported more frequently in the SIG vs. EIG group. Note that this is based on parental report— not medical diagnoses. Specifically, the parents were asked, “Do you consider your child’s sleep as a problem?” With the options to answer being “A very serious problem”, “A small problem”, or “Not a problem at all”.

### The problem with these results
[My colleague Monica Ordway](https://nursing.yale.edu/faculty-research/faculty-directory/monica-roosa-ordway-phd-aprn-pnp-bc?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) ([shout out to her on Twitter here](https://twitter.com/monicaordway?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)) is an expert in both lactation and sleep disorders in children. She’s concerned about the conclusions of the authors as presented in this study.
Here’s the points she makes about the data analyzed in the study:
1. “The authors controlled for sleep location at baseline because, as expected based on my research findings to date and findings of others, sleep location affects sleep characteristics like night waking. However, they did not control for sleep location after randomization. It is possible that the babies sleep location changed when they began to eat solids and it is plausible that sleep location contributed significantly to the statistical models.. I would hypothesize that the EIG (early feeding group) parents also separated earlier from their children during bedtime than the SIG (late feeding group) parents who continued to exclusively breastfeed. If that were the case then the message from the sec-ondary analysis would be that babies who sleep independently sleep longer and with fewer night wakings, regardless of feeding method.”
2. “There is no mention of the rapid metabolism of breast milk – it is logical that adding calories (especially the dense calories in thehigher protein/fat food items that were introduced) with longer metabolism rates will result in longer sleeping. Introduction of solids at this early age may inadvertently interrupt the supply and demand natural rhythm of breastfeeding and result in early termi-nation of breastfeeding”
3. “Their reporting of “serious sleep problems” is mis-represented. The proper way to report their findings would be to say that there were fewer parents who reported that they believed their children’s sleep habits were a serious problem.”
Here’s my read on the issues Dr. Ordway raises. Essentially, the families sleep practices were surveyed when the subjects were surveyed monthly from 3-12 months of age then every 3 years of age until age 3\. However, *where the baby sleeps* is only considered from the initial survey. Research conducted at our center (and others) has shown that babies who sleep in a different room from parents are more likely to sleep through the night than if they room- or bed-share.
The problem is this. Breast milk is digested much more quickly than other foods. So introducing solid food may be keeping kids sated longer. Or, alternatively, moms who know that the baby is receiving solid food may be more likely to change where the baby sleeps or sleep train *because they think that solid foods make babies sleep better.*
I’m not saying that the results reported are not true— my concern is that important information about where and how the babies in the study fall asleep was not included in the analysis.
## What’s the downside to starting food early in infants?
Both the [American Academy of Pediatrics ](http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/129/3/e827?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)and the [World Health Organization](http://www.who.int/nutrition/topics/infantfeeding%5Frecommendation/en/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) recommend exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months of life as it seems to offer the best benefits for mother and baby. Certainly, starting food early may result in decreased milk supply (especially if it reduces nursing at night).
I’m not a lactation expert, but I briefly reviewed the evidence for exclusive breastfeeding for six months (versus four months). [A Cochrane review from 2012](http://cochranelibrary-wiley.com/doi/10.1002/14651858.CD003517.pub2/full?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) suggests that the main benefit is a reduction in respiratory and gastrointestinal illnesses in infants, as well and prolonged lactation amenorrhea (which delays pregnancy in the mother, thus increasing the time between children and reducing the risk of prematurity). These are important goals, but perhaps more significant in the third world than in the US or Europe.
However, continued breastfeed is clearly an important goal for maternal and child health. Introducing food at three months of age may actually place a mother’s milk supply in particular jeopardy, for two reasons:
1. After several months of nursing, [maternal prolactin levels decrease](https://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/basics/milkproduction-faq/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), which can lead to a [decrease in milk supply](https://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/supply-worries/breast-fullness/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
2. In the United States, most working moms have to return to work around three months after birth. This is a challenging time to continue breast feeding as these moms will need to transition to pumping more. This is a difficult and stressful time which can lead to a further reduction in milk supply.
Thus, the concern is that adding solid foods at three months of age can put breastfeeding in jeopardy.
## So Will Solids Help Baby Sleep Better?
The answer seems to be a qualified yes BUT the downside seems greater than the upside here. To me, the biggest reason to do so seems to be reduce the risk of food allergy in children at high risk of food allergy (infants with severe eczema, egg allergy, etc) may benefit from peanut introduction between 4-6 months of age. [(Here’s the American Academy of Pediatrics recommendations if you want to know more).](http://www.aappublications.org/news/2017/01/05/PeanutAllergy010517?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) Clearly, **this is something you should do in consultation with your pediatrician.**
**I do not think that the very modest benefits noted in this study suggest that you should introduce solids at three months of age *to improve your child’s sleep.*** (Trust me, I understand that those extra few minutes of sleep sound tempting).
## So what should you do instead?
Dr. Ordway notes that you can get similar benefits by changing your nursing strategies at night, “such as pumping and skimming off higher fat content milk for night feedings, ensuring mom is breastfeeding on one side and “emptying” that side before going to the next.” If you have questions about this, I would recommend that you work with your pediatrician or a lactation specialist.
If you need further help, check out:
[Eight Ways to Avoid Sleep Training Your Baby](https://drcraigcanapari.com/make-baby-sleep-better/)
[How to Stop Night Feeding and Sleep Better](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/)
[Sleep Training Techniques for the Exhausted Parent](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
**Tell me, what are your questions about this topic. Are you tempted by the results of this study? If you have older children, would this news around this study have tempted you to start solids earlier?**
### Eight Steps to Make Your Baby Sleep Better and Avoid Sleep Training
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/make-baby-sleep-better/
Last updated: 2026-05-10T20:44:17.000Z
Let me be real for a moment— nobody WANTS to sleep train their child. Although it is both safe and effective, many parents are afraid of doing anything that involves crying. I want to show you the steps I think are key to help make your baby sleep better, minimize sleep problems, and may help you avoid sleep training your baby altogether.
Regardless of your parenting philosophy, I think everyone agrees that good sleep for baby is great for the whole family. Fortunately, if you take a few simple steps when you bring your child home from the hospital, you can avoid major sleep problems, and potentially avoid sleep training altogether.
Note: Everyone’s child is different. Some children sleep great no matter what. Some will struggle even if parents do everything perfectly. However, there are some best practices which will spare you a lot of wrecked nights if you follow them from the beginning. Trust me, [I broke a few of them myself and lived to regret it.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/successful-sleep-in-infancy-flipping-the-switch/)
1. **The best time to start a bedtime routine is when you bring your child home from the hospital.** [**The second best time is today.**](https://drcraigcanapari.com/starting-a-bedtime-routine/) Children thrive on routine. Newborns benefit as well, although the benefits are more for you in the first few weeks. Things feel really chaotic when you bring your child home from the hospital. Having a predictable bedtime routine is one of the anchors to your day. For more on creating the best possible bedtime routine.
2. **If you breastfeed, teach your child to take a bottle once your milk is in.** Like most pediatricians, I’m a huge fan of breastfeeding. There are too many benefts for mother and child to list here. However, I’ve seen many families fall into the trap of only having the mom nurse exclusively for the first few months, and then having the child refuse anything but the breast. This makes it really difficult for the whole family, as other adults are sidelined, and Mom is stuck putting the baby down every night and dealing with every night feeding. It can also greatly complicate Mom’s return to work outside the home, if that is her plan. Once your milk supply is established, introduce a bottle, ideally given by Dad, your child’s other mother, or another adult caregiver.
3. **Make sure that the bedtime is simple enough that one grown up can do it.** When my first son came home from the hospital, my wife and I did bedtime every night together. Which was lovely, but it was pretty elaborate in terms of the bath, lotion application, song, story, rocking, and nursing. (This also felt necessary because of my congenital inability to find towels, soap, pacifiers, books, etc. at any time). My second son did not have such an elaborate process due to Son #1 and it still worked fine. Babies don’t need complex bedtimes. If bathtime feels overwhelming to Dad (and it is usually Dad who is overwhelmed by these sorts of things) do it at another time. Keep it simple. Story, song, rocking, and put your baby down.
4. **Make sure than all the adults in the household participate in bedtime.** I’ve heard the same story from tired moms, over and over: “My husband (or wife) can’t put him down at night! Only I can do it.” This usually means that Mom always put the child down every night for the first few months. Like #2 above, this is a recipe for maternal burn-out. Every parent (or other caregiver) home should feel comfortable doing the bedtime routine and putting the child down at an early age. If you already feel stuck in this situation, the primary caregiver needs to go out with friends for the evening. I promise you that Dad will figure it out. And don’t be afraid to get a babysitter. I don’t think we got a babysitter for the first year of life for my son. Son #2— we went out probably around 3 months of age. Obviously you will be nervous. If you can, start with a grandparent for the first few times you go out.
5. **Put your child to bed drowsy but awake, starting around 3-4 months.** Try it out. If it is a disaster the first time, pick your child up and try again in a week or two. Don’t be afraid to let your child fuss a bit. This is natural. Hysterical screaming is another story— this means you may need to wait until your child is slightly older. Try it at naps as well.
6. **Don’t sprint into your child’s room at night at the first sound of wakefulness.** I remember sprinting into my son’s room at the first signs of wakefulness so that I could stuff the binky in his mouth and perhaps get back to sleep quickly. This led to him waking up more and more for the contact with me. In [*Bringing up Bebe*](http://amzn.to/2Ge8h0v?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)(affiliate link), Pamela Druckerman wrote with astonishment that French babies slept through the night earlier than Anglophone babies. Her Parisian friends told her that [they would ignore random noises made by their babies, and would only pick them up for full throated, wakeful cries](https://drcraigcanapari.com/le-pause-avoiding-sleep-problems-and-why-you-wont-break-your-kids/). Remember, any random cry, burp, fart, or snort does not demand immediate attention. After the first few months, it’s a great idea to let your child fuss a bit before you go in. Often, these brief awakenings will self-resolve.
7. **Don’t obsess over the monitor.** I can’t believe the amount of technology being hawked to anxious parents these days. Babies’ bedrooms are monitored to a degree that would astound a Cold War spymaster. Temperature, movement, sound, ambient light levels, heart rate, etc. I think that the majority of this technology is cumbersome, expensive, and unnecessary. Human infants have thrived for thousands of years without video monitors. Sure, you should be able to hear your child if she is distressed or crying, but you don’t need multisensor surveillance for this. Save the money and get an audio monitor. Parents often ask me questions like, “I check on her with the monitor and sometimes she is wide awake and quiet during the night. What should I do?” My answer: “Turn off the monitor.”
8. **If you are are room sharing, find ways to create a visual and sound barrier between your bed and your baby's crib.** I would recommend a curtain or screen as well as a sound machine.
Now, I want to know what you think. If you had a time machine, what would you tell yourself to differently when you brought your baby home to help them sleep better?
### Facebook Live Chat: Weaning the breast, Weaning the swing, Sensory processing Disorders and other Topics
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/facebook-live-chat-weaning-breast-weaning-swing-sensory-processing-disorders-topics/
Last updated: 2018-01-20T21:47:35.000Z
This is a transcript of questions from my Facebook live session.You can watch the video here. I've also provided a lightly edited transcript below.
We're gonna start with a question by Amanda.
## What should you do, very specifically, about frequent toddler night wakings? Besides quick check-ins and no remove from the crib, how can you manage longer sleep stretches?
You answer, this, he is still waking at night, but now in a bed, climbing from crib. He needs a bottle to lay with to go back to sleep, or it's an hour plus of crying and I just don't have the energy in the middle of the night. Well Amanda, I hear you. And this is a really common problem. Let me just show you guys a few quick pictures that are, explain what we're talking about here. So essentially, this is what a normal night of sleep should look like.
So, from bedtime to wake time. Your child goes through different stages. Your child's falling asleep on his or her own, she'll so through a long stretch of sleep. You know, anywhere from one to three hours. In this early evening, a period of sleep, this is where if you put your child, if your child falls asleep in the car, you could pick your child up, carry them to their bedroom, and they fall asleep. Then about two to three hours in, they have their first REM period. REM sleep is a lot like wake sleep, it's easy to wake up from REM sleep. And in fact, it's really common. And this red bar is essentially just what a, a night of him waking up. Generally, if we know how to put ourselves to sleep, we can just roll over and go back to sleep, maybe adjust your pillows. You don't remember it in the morning. However, if your child needs you to fall asleep, it's very different. You hold your child, you give them a bottle. He falls asleep. You try to relax for a few hours, and then all of a sudden, you're getting into bed two hours later, and he wakes up. Then, you need to repeat bedtime again. The next REM period, you're gonna do it again. And again, and again, and eventually you're awake for the day. So really, this is, this feels like a middle of the night problem because the middle of the night is really painful.
But what it is, is a bedtime problem. And really what you need to work on is getting your child to fall asleep independently. (Here’s more on [toddler night wakings](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-does-my-toddler-wake-up-at-night/)). In Amanda's situation, if your child is in a bed, it's a little bit different. And I really don't think the cry it out approach is particularly feasible or advisable in a child who's sleeping in a crib. Its difficult to institute, in older children, I just think it's too painful. Doing something with a mixture of a later bedtime, and slowly withdrawing yourself from bedtime. You know, what is on my website [is the camp it out approach](https://drcraigcanapari.com/camping-out-sleep-training/). And I want to say I didn't come up with the term. The term came from Harriet Hiscock in Australia. But I would really work on getting your child to fall asleep independently at night. And the nighttime awakenings should extinguish with time. Really, don't beat yourself up, don't feel like you have to solve problems in the middle of the night. Just do it what you're doing to survive, and work on getting your child to fall asleep.
So, Lindsey has a question:
## How should we manage different sleep needs for two siblings who share a room and like to keep each other up?
*“I have a two and a half year old who naps about 90 minutes per day, and no matter what, we won't sleep until between 8:30 and, he won't sleep between 8:30 and 8:45\. We wait until he's down to put his older brother, a six and a half year old brother to bed, because if we don't it's a circus show of mutual shenanigans. The older kid is really tired in the morning from going to bed that late.”*
Well, Lindsey, I feel you because I have two boys, and it can be kind of a disaster sometimes if they get going. And that geographical split can be critical to allowing you to succeed. Now, not everybody has the luxury of a room for each of their children. Or, or, alternatively, how you, you know, maybe your kids want to room together for whatever reason. I think there's a couple of solutions. One is you can actually try to put the older child down earlier. Now that's a tough sell, because it's very unjust to a six and a half year old to go to bed before the brother or sister. Sometimes, a bribe, I'm not trying to say big, can be very helpful to get the child in and settled.
The other thing you could do is try to move the younger child's nap a little bit earlier in the day.
The final thing you could do is you could take some measures to get them to sleep in a little bit later. It's a tough sell, again, because little kids get up earlier. But making sure the room is dark, really, really dark, so light from the outside is not waking them up can be helpful. And also, depending on who your early riser is, if its the six year old especially, ask them to come and get you first.
Now, the question here from, from [Jen from Food Allergy Buzz](http://www.foodallergybuzz.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), which is a great site, you should really check out.
## ”How should I wake a teenage who's a very heavy sleeper. She has a difficult time waking, even if he gets eight or nine hours of sleep.”
It's telling to me that this is a teenager, cause I think there's a couple of issues. One is, if your teenager's getting eight or nine hours of sleep, on average, that's one thing. But many teenagers aren't able to do this. And not to get on my hobby horse, but, [school really does start too early for teenagers](https://drcraigcanapari.com/teen-sleep-info/). So I would say that if your child is consistently getting enough sleep at night and still can't get out of bed in the morning.
If they snore, they certainly should be evaluated for something like, I'm sure if it's sleep apnea, which can make their sleep not high enough quality. And the other thing is, it is, you know, biologically, it's hard to get teenagers up in the morning. They want to sleep from midnight to nine. And if they do that, they're usually pretty easy to get up. But if you're trying to get them up earlier than that, you're going against their body clock and it's a struggle.
So I have another question from Lindsey actually, about sensory processing disorder. And there are a couple questions about this. Those of you not familiar with this, sensory processing disorder is an issue where children have difficulties managing sensory input. And it can be in any domain. But usually we think of sensory issues being around oral or feeding problems, like children that gag on soft mushy foods, such as myself, because I don't like mushy vegetables. They make me gag. But in all seriousness, some kids with feeding issues have difficulty tolerating certain consistencies. There are also kids that have trouble with loud noises, or need loud noise, to you know. And most commonly in the sleep domain, with sensory issues. So Lindsey writes:
## ”Can you suggest sleep strategies for a kid with a sensory disorder beyond the usual weighted blanket, sensory diet during the day?”
I do think those daytime interventions are pretty important. And it sounds like you already have an occupational therapist. I prefer actually Lycra sheets to weighted blankets. Weighted blankets are really heavy, and they're uncomfortable during the summer time. They're also very expensive. A Lycra stocking for your bed works really well. And what you do is you actually, it's like a sock that you slide over your kids bed. They slip down into it. You can actually pack stuffed animals around their body, if your child is that sensation seeking when they want to be wrapped up like a twinkie. There is, there is an Etsy storefront called [Cohsy Comforts](https://www.etsy.com/shop/CohsyComforts?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). It's actually the mom of one of my patients, makes these. She's had a lot of luck with her son. And on [Amazon, there's something called a SnugBug](http://amzn.to/2en4dvp?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)(affiliate link), you can purchase as well. So you can certainly try that.
Question from Jen on starting sleep training.
## What should you do when you start sleep training and your child starts teething or gets sick?
*“I delayed starting because those top teeth looked like they're just about ready to pop through, but actually took three months. So in the end, I started a couple days later, the teething started becoming more painful, and baby got a cold.”*
So there's two questions. A sign when to start sleep training even though teething may be a factor. And what to do when you start sleep training and something comes up. So I'd say the first thing is if you're starting sleep training, first of all, make sure there's no major developmental issues on the, on the horizon. If your child's about to start potty training, if your child's about to start walking, put it off for a couple of weeks. I wouldn't worry so much about teething, because those teeth buds, as you said, can linger.
Make sure you have a couple weeks of runway. And by that I mean, weeks where you're not going anywhere, there's no major disruptions in schedule, and you know, less helpful in laws aren't coming to visit. So just kind of plan that out a little bit.
Question from Beth here:
# My daughter's 14 months and still waking once a night to nurse, and then for good between five and six in the morning.
*“I don't know how to wean her. She goes nuts if I try to calm her without nursing. I'm a single mom, so I can't hand her off to anyone else for comfort. Any advice? I'm dying for a full night's sleep.”*
Beth, I feel your pain. And I think especially single parents struggle with this because, even if you're not single, some of the parents out there struggle with this as well because, only one of you can nurse typically. I think that I have a couple of thoughts.
One is, you have to think about when you're ready to wean all together. If you are a parent that works outside of the home, nursing at night may be the only time that you're nursing. So if you wean those night feedings, it may be the end of your nursing. And that's totally fine. But it's really up to you when you're ready to do that. I think because Beth is kind of alluding to the fact that there's two parents in the house, will often have the non nursing parent be the one who takes over these feedings. I mean the five or 6:00 A.M. awakening you're kind of stuck with, but I think you want to think about when you're ready to stop nursing, and maybe, it may be time to do that. And there's no magic way to do it. You just kind of have to stop. ([For more on weaning feedings, read here](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/)).
## How do you handle night wakings when they happen? My 19 month old and three year old fall asleep independently but both wake up at night and won't go back to sleep until I come in and check on them.
Interesting. I wonder if they wake up at the same time, and if they're in the same room. If that's the case, there may be one child that's driving both of these wakings. If kids are really falling asleep independently at night, and they are waking up. My first thought is well, is there a medical issue that could be waking them up at night? [The most common in my world is obstructive sleep apnea](https://drcraigcanapari.com/obstructive-sleep-apnea-a-common-and-serious-problem-in-kids/), so your child snores, you might have them get checked out by their doctor.
If they're complaining about leg pain, they could have a disorder called [restless leg syndrome, which is a problem where you have a lot of kicking, leg restless, and leg discomfort.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/growing-pains-restless-legs-an-under-diagnosed-cause-of-insomnia-in-children/) It occurs in about 1% of kids. And 1% doesn't sound like a lot but, most kids don't any medical problems, so that's fairly common. So I think that I'd sort of look into, you know, make sure you're not missing any medical cause.
You probably aren't. Most kids are healthy. And then just sort of see about how you could peel back those, those interventions. And really what you want to do is, do the minimum intervention you can. They're sharing a room, think about separating the, so one child is not waking up the other. And a check at night should be, I love you, go to sleep, good night, put them back to bed. So let's keep going.
Katy writes:
## My 17 month old falls asleep while being rocked to sleep, but will only stay to sleep two to three hours tops before crying for mom and daddy.
*“She refused to go back to sleep in her own crib the second time around. So she ends up in the bed with us, help.”*
Katy, many of us have been there, and I feel you. Again, this is a sleep onset association. If you work on the independent sleep, and peeling yourself out at bedtime, that's going to get rid of those nights of awakenings. Save your energy for bedtime. ([On my website, I have a whole bunch of stuff on different ways to use sleep training, whatever your parenting philosophy is.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)) And then the night time awakenings should drop off.
So Sharon's writing:
## My 18 month old daughter, was sleeping through the night but for a month has been month now waking up a couple times a night. Is it a regression, is it a leap?
*“Do we wait out as we have before, try sleep training now? We've been weak trying it previously. She was sleeping through.“*
The heartbreak when your child is sleeping well at night, and all of a sudden, they're not anymore. It's a huge bummer, Sharron, and I've got you. I have a couple of thoughts. I'm not crazy about the term sleep regression because I feel like it implies that kids are going back, and it feels that way as a parent. But really, if it's a change in the sleep pattern associated with a major developmental milestone, I think of it as a step forward. I think that again, if, I'm sorry, let me just look through your question. I'd work on trying to falling asleep independently. I would look to see, you know, if it's been going on, going on recently. Could she have an ear infection or something like that?
I think the first stop should be your pediatrician. If she's not falling asleep independently, then I would work on that. I think you should certainly wait a couple of days and see where that gets you. And maybe you don't have to make any changes.
So Brittany writes asking:
## How should I wean a seven month old from multiple sleep associations. At once or in stages?
*“Our son needs a bottle before bed, including naps. A pacifier to fall asleep and stay asleep, all while rocking him. Without all of this, he will not go to sleep. He's unable to self-sooth, which we know is a main part of the problem, but how do we wean him from all these sleep associations at once without all hell breaking loose?”*
And it does feel like hell when you're trying to deal with these issues. Sorry if I'm offending anyone. I would leave the binky as is for right now because it's pretty common for kids to have that pacifier. The falling asleep with a bottle, I might see if you can move that earlier in the bedtime sequence. So your bedtime sequence is story, song, bottle and rocking. I'd move the bottle earlier. Even if you can do it in a separate room, and then just try rocking him to sleep. And once you've broken out that association, then work on getting rid of the rocking and putting him down while he's still awake.
There may be some crying associated with that. With seven month's age, it's difficult to avoid, but typically, it shouldn't take more than a couple of days to get better. Then you can continue, again, with your middle of the night interventions to survive, but hopefully they're gonna drop off over time.
So Becky asks:
## Can we start sleep training for naps first?
*“After six months of sleep deprivation, I broke down and started co-sleeping and nursing all night long with our eight month old. So many bad habits to break. We have a critically ill mother in law. Not a good time to sleep train.”*
I agree with you, and I think that self care is an important part of any of these conversations, As parents, we need to decide, do we deal with mom, who's in the hospital? Do we deal with baby? I haven't gotten a ton of mileage with sleep training during the day, and a reason is, kids really aren't that sleepy at nap times, when you think about compared with bedtime. At bedtime, they've been awake for most of the day, except for some short sleep periods. Whereas with naps, they're less tired.
I can tell you Becky, when you child gets a little bit older the naps will get better, say once your he is walking. That was my experience. My older son struggled with naps until he could walk, and then it fell into place. I think that, I would think about what are the small incremental changes you can do.
Where would I start? I think you have to start with where you're comfortable. I think that, obviously your child is less than a year. I wouldn't start weaning the breast. I would just again, **work on getting your bedtime perfect.** Work on removing the, your involvement in your child's bedtime, and do what you need to in the middle of the night. Your bedtime is your maximum point of energy and strength to deal with these things. So again, if you can kind of step back a little bit from your nursing the child, if your partner could do bedtime, and you could step out. You can go for a walk for an hour or something. Just work on the bedtime. Give yourself a break the rest of the time.
Michelle writes:
## How do you wean the baby swing?
*“I have a 13 month old who loves her swing. Every night we start in the crib, and she wakes up wanting her swing. If I keep her in the crib, she's up for hours. If I put the swing in, she's back to sleep within minutes and sleeps through the night. When you swing wean you?”*
First of all Michelle, my oldest son loved the swing. I'm guessing this is your first child, because if your have a second child, there's no way your leaving them in the swing for periods of time, because now the older child's going to come and knock him out of it. (Let's be real here. I have two boys.) I think that, it's going to happen sooner or later no matter what, because your kid is just gonna get way too big for the swing.
I would again, peel away the swing at bedtime. Do what you need to survive in the middle of the night. Just make sure your kid is safe in the swing, because a 13 month old is probably getting close to exceeding the tolerances for this device.
Kay writes:
## For a child with autism, the preschool age, delayed sleep onset and early morning awakenings, what is the best first step in addressing the sleep concerns?
Kay, I think a couple of things. First of all, Beth Malow, [wrote a terrific book for parents on dealing with sleep problems in autistic children. ](http://amzn.to/2CDVOOC?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affiliate link). Dr. Malow is a professor at Vanderbilt, School of Medicine, and child neurologist. But she also has two daughters with autism. So she walks the walk. And I would,check out that book.
Here’s step one: get your bedtime just down. Kids with autism will really work well with a visual schedule. So if you actually, just draw it with stick figures, or take pictures of your children doing the things that you want them to do every night at bedtime. Every kid loves this, and I find it works really well with kids with autism.
The other thing is, if you talk to your pediatrician or if your working with, with autism, [there maybe a role for medication like melatonin](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/). I'm not the person to tell you if it's the right thing to do or not, but I'd talk about it with your pediatrician. But, there's no reason a child with autism can't sleep better than what you're describing right now.
Though it is true that some of my autistic patients do seem to need a little bit less sleep than their peers, so also, accepting the early morning awakenings, five to six, and also a later bedtime. It may be meeting your child's sleep needs. But good luck. It and be challenging,
Natasha, has a 12 month old puts herself to sleep, but wakes once a night for feed.
## Will she ever sleep to herself, by herself or do I have to night wean?
Eventually, she'll give up the night wean, the night feeding. I mean it's going to happen. So you can either wait for that. I don't suspect the next couple months, she's going to raise her hand and say, okay, mom, I'm done with this. So if you want it to stop, you're probably gonna need to stop it.
Here’s how to do it: if there's another family member in the house to take care of that awakenings a couple of nights, that would be best. But again, just recognize if you're not doing a lot of nursing sessions anymore, your risk of weaning all together. That may be desirable for you. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about weaning. But it can happen.
Katy writes, good Lord, my two year old has decided to resist getting in bed for his nap, every day. Then he naps for two hours. Its just a fight. We did sleep training, he's in a twin bed. We keep pushing forward, and insisting naps, even though it's very frustrating.
## What should I do when my two year old resists his nap?
[There was a study a couple years ago that was looking at napping for, looking at napping in kids with sleep problems at night.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/does-napping-after-age-2-spoil-sleep-not-so-fast/) And what they found was that a certain subset of kids after age two, napping messes up their sleep at night. And as painful as it is to imagine, giving up that nap, you might try not having the nap, for a week, and doing an early bedtime and seeing if that makes your life better.
The thing is about these nap transitions: they stink. You're gonna have a period of time where your child is cranky and irritable during the day. It's never a picnic when they give up the nap. It's not like they just give it up when they're ready. But I would try that and see.
Sharon's writes,
## My child takes an hour to fall asleep. Should I stick with the current bedtime or move it later?
Great question. If your child, if you put your bed to, your child to bed at 7:30 and they fall asleep at 8:30, then I would just move the bedtime to 8:30\. I promise you it's going to go more easily. The technical term for this is [bedtime fading and it’s often the secret sauce in my sleep training recipes.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/bedtime-fading-the-secret-sauce-in-sleep-training/)
Kelly writes:
## How do you handle bedtime for a kid who's overtired after daycare?
Some kids just aren't ready for bed at bedtime. And we all know melatonin cause it's in the news and people take it, often fall asleep. Maybe you've tried it. Melatonin is made naturally in your brain. What it does is it signals your body to say hey, dude it's time to go to sleep. The time when that signal starts is called the *dim light melatonin onset.*
Normally, your brain starts making melatonin about an hour before you go to bed. A sleep scientist named Monique LeBourgeois figured this out that some kids who have problems falling asleep, actually had bedtime too early relative to their dim light melatonin onset.
So in general, [the later your child is awake, the more sleepy they'll become.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/)
But, you have a natural system the counteract this natural tendency to fall asleep as it gets later in the day. It's called the wakefulness drive. And it peaks after dinner. So essentially, [and this is your body clock sending wakefulness signals](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/), so we didn't, we don't just all, fall asleep every 15 minutes between lunch and bedtime. The wakefulness signal has a little peak after dinner. This is the forbidden zone. But, there's another thing that you need to consider. I'm just going to mention late naps in passing, which can reek havoc on these things. But there's something called the forbidden zone. This term I believe was coined by Dr. Ferber. And it's an interesting idea.
So if your child is, we've all seen this. If you've ever, had, kept your kids up a little bit late for a special occasion, they're acting nuts, and won't go to bed. You're in the forbidden zone.
So I think if you find that consistently your child is overtired and acting crazy around bedtime, either try bedtime that's a half an hour earlier, or half hour later. And then you should get a little bit more mileage from that.
Colleen writes,
## Our 21 month old put himself to sleep for bedtime, and nap time but still won't sleep through the night. We tried to let him cry back to sleep and it just won't work.
*“For example, he woke up at 12:30 and cried for over an hour. It'll get quite for a few minutes, and start crying all over again. My husband ends up holding him in a recliner for him to stop crying. So he wakes up at least one, usually two times, and up again at six, always crying, but can't go back to sleep. His bedtime is at eight. He falls asleep by 8:30 or nine. Any tips?”*
Just looking at these numbers here, Colleen, if you, I would shorten your bedtime ritual. And I would shoot for lights out at nine, cause he's falling asleep at nine.
[I do wonder if there's a little bit of a habit formation here](https://drcraigcanapari.com/breaking-bad-sleep-habits-kids/), because there's nothing more reinforcing for a kid than contact and attention from mom or dad. I would try to have dad kind of minimize the involvement he's doing. At night, just say, “I love you, go to sleep, good night,” pat him on the back, and leave. If you have to go in the room a couple of times, that's okay.
I’d try, the later bedtime first. And, and then again, if there's issues like snoring, or anything else like that, I would have him checked out by his pediatrician and make sure there's not a medical issue. There probably isn't, but medical issues like sleep apnea are common if your child snores for example, it could be disrupting your child's sleep. So I would check.
## How should extended night wakings be handled by parents with three year olds?
I would say that your kid's really having extended wake times every night, the one thing I'd look at is actually a later bedtime, cause it sounds like you may have two distinct chunks of sleep during the night, and you want to push them together. So try bedtime 30 or 45 minutes later and see if that gets you where you need to go.
## Any recommendations for a preschooler who has nighttime wakings and can't fall back asleep alone because she's scared
That can be challenging. And I think that one of the things that's really helpful with the nighttime fears is to, there's things you can do called flashlight scavenger hunts. And what you do is, you have your child spend a little bit of time in the room by themselves, during the day when your right outside and set up a little scavenger hunt for them in the dark. You can give them a flashlight. Encourage them to do this, just for very short periods, and make a game of it during the day. That can help with the nighttime fears.
Natasha writes:
## I tried night weaning several times, but my daughter is a real screamer. She cried loudly for three hours.
I think your child's around 14 or 15 months. You know, as I said, I don't think there's any real quick fix here in your situation. I think that at a certain point, you either have to make your peace with nursing once or twice a night, or you're just gonna have to stop. And after a couple of nights, it would go away. But I feel the pain that that will entail. I know it's not something that can be undertaken trivially.
Jeanine writes:
## Our eight and 10 year olds share the bedroom and keep each other awake. The 10 year old has ADHD.
For this age group especially, reward good behavior works the best. For example, making a deal that if your children are quiet and go to sleep on time, we're gonna actually give you some small rewards for this.
There's actually a great book by Alan Kazdin, He's actually at Yale as well. [It's called Parenting a Difficult Child](http://amzn.to/2BgWKXu?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affiliate link), but don't be put off by the title. It's all about how to use positive reinforcement and rewards, which are going to work very well for eight and 10 year olds.
Lauren asked:
## How do you know when a breastfed baby is night weaning?
I mean honestly, I think the night weaning comes down more to when mom's ready to wean, and not when the child's ready to wean. Honestly, I think that breast is best. I don't want to come across like I'm anti breastfeeding, but, if you're ready to wean, it's okay to wean.
## What are some recommendations to deal with sleep regressions after ear infections or illnesses?
I would say, do what worked before. High quality bedtime, consistency. Things will get better pretty quickly.
So Steve-o writes:
## How should we manage a 15 month old that wakes every half an hour crying, clings to the breast 24 seven.
Steve-o, I would say, in all seriousness, send your wife away for a couple of nights and this will get better. Get her a nice hotel room, send her with her friends, she can bring her pump and keep pumping so she doesn't lose her milk supply. I won’t lie, this will entail some crying. the only way to kind of care this situation is to have a parent, besides the nursing mom, do more of that care. And I'm sure you're super involved, cause you're asking the question.
One of the people watching, Liz, writes, “ I have a 16 month old and her grandma just babysat for three days. I went away. It was a huge difference when I returned.”
Here’s a question from Maria:
## How to remove the midnight milk bottles for a three year old?
Again, it's not always just nursing. I look at the volume of milk that the child is taking in. Cause this is a calorie problem. If your child is consistently taking, you know, if you're consistently eating an ice cream Sunday in the middle of the night at midnight, then I'm going, you know, then you're going to wake up if I take it away. So you want to take the bottle, say it's five ounces. The next night it's four ounces. The next night it's three ounces. Get down to two ounces, and then you substitute water, and that's the end of it.
## Our six year old daughter was adopted from a trauma background. She just started sleeping through the night in her own bed, which is wonderful.
*“She has always gone to sleep in her own bed, but wake at all hours of the night. Would sneak into our bed to feel safe. In the summer, we started taking turns on a cot in her room.”*
In this situation, the normal rules don't really apply. If you have a child with a history of trauma, I'm sure you're already hooked into some services. ***The most important thing is making sure your child feels secure.*** If that means you aresleeping for a temporary period of time in her room, or you having a safe place on your floor where your child could come in and sleep, that’s wonderful Either way is fine. You don't have to rush this.
It sounds like, if you worked really hard to get her in her own bed, just have a comfortable place for her, for you to sleep.
Also, you need to be very clear. For example, if you put her to sleep in her room, and you're like, I'll be sleeping in my room, just follow through on what you're saying. And sometimes what works well is saying well, if you wake up in the middle of the night, I've set up a bed in my room. You can just come in and go to sleep.
But in your situation, first of all, wonderful thing you've done adopting a child. And my friend Julian who was on earlier is an adoption specialist, who's awesome if you're in the Seattle area. But, you know, just make your child feel safe and everything's going to get better.
So guys, this has been great. Thank you so much for your questions. They were totally awesome. And, you know, just to put this out there, I'm actually just signed a contract, working on a book, incorporating a lot of the stuff that I've learned from you guys, which will be coming out at the end of 2018\. Sign up for my email list and I’ll keep you updated.
### Late to Bed, Late to Rise in a 5 year old
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Periodically I get emails from subscribers to my list. I like to share some of the more interesting questions that people have. These entries are edited for privacy and brevity, and shared with permission.
S. writes:
> He naps for 40 minutes in school but it is done by 2 PM. If we let him sleep in, he will sleep until 9:30 AM. It's difficult to get him up in the morning.
>
> **How do we get him to fall asleep before 10-10:30?**
>
Generally, when we think about five year olds, we imagine them to be early risers. They are typically the first ones up in the morning. The reason for this is that most children have a [strong body clock preference](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/) for early to bed and early to rise.
However, some children are on a later schedule. It is usually due to lifestyle, a biological preference for a night time schedule, or both. [It also commonly occurs over summer vacations](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-back-to-school-sleep-tune-up/).
Lifestyle is clearly a factor in this case given the fact that he seems to be on the schedule of the older children.
Given his preference for late sleep onset and late wake up, there is likely a body clock preference as well. He is sleeping 11 hours when allowed to be on his preferred schedule (10:30 PM-9:30 AM) [which is age appropriate.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/)
There is nothing inherently wrong with this schedule, but it sounds like it is inconvenient for the family to have him up so late, and he may be sleep deprived as he frequently has to be woken up. (It’s a good rule of thumb that children who need to be woken up either have insufficient sleep, a problem with sleep ([like obstructive sleep apnea](https://drcraigcanapari.com/obstructive-sleep-apnea-a-common-and-serious-problem-in-kids/)) or both.
If Tommy were my patient, here’s what I would consider.
1. I would use [a sound machine for sound masking](https://drcraigcanapari.com/is-your-sound-machine-harming-your-childs-hearing/) in his room so that he would not hear the rest of the family.
2. He will wake up when he has had sufficient sleep. But we need to move his schedule earlier. **It is always easier to get someone to stay up later that to go to bed earlier.** The best way to move someone’s body clock earlier is to get them up earlier and ensure morning light exposure and exercise. You could go gently (move his wake time earlier by 15 minutes a day) or just get him up consistently at his desired wake time going forward. ***Consistent wake times and morning light exposures* *will move his sleep onset time earlier but it will take a week or two.*** This will likely result in some irritability as he will be sleep deprived.
3. His target schedule will be based on the usual time you need him up on school days to allow an eleven hour sleep opportunity. So if he can sleep until 8 AM on school days, his target bedtime is 9PM.
4. I would also try moving his bedtime earlier by 15 minutes each day, with the goal of him falling asleep within 20 minutes of lights out. I would avoid any napping after 3 PM and not allow him to sleep in the early evening.
5. Once Tommy is on his desired schedule, then you can work on [his sleep onset association disorder,](https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/) using any number of [sleep training techniques.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/)
6. You will need to be very consistent about maintaining his schedule as he likely has a preference for an evening schedule and will shift back if you keep him up for a few nights on weekends or a vacation.
I would discuss this and any adjustment to your child’s sleep with your pediatrician before proceeding, as this is provided for information and is not medical advice.
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### Eight Teen Sleep Tips You Haven't Heard Before
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/eight-teen-sleep-tips/
Last updated: 2017-07-21T15:28:08.000Z
Teenagers are more sleep deprived than ever before— [about 85% don’t get enough sleep at night.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/less-than-10-of-high-school-students-get-enough-sleep-at-night/) There are lots of reasons for this: excessive homework, too early school start times, and the intrusion of the internet into the bedroom. Here are some of my best teen sleep tips which I suspect you haven't heard before.
I’m sympathetic— I see a lot of tired teenagers in my clinic. I know it isn’t easy for either teens are parents. I also know that some advice is easy to give, but hard to follow (like “GO TO BED EARLIER”) [when teenagers are hardwired to stay up later and get up later.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/) (Young people naturally want to sleep from midnight to 9 AM— if school started at 10 AM, teens would be a lot healthier and happier).
In a perfect world, the best way to ensure that teenagers get enough sleep is to work in your community is to [start school later](http://www.startschoollater.net/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (and I encourage you, dear reader, to [contact your school superintendent right now](http://www.startschoollater.net/get-involved.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) and ask him or her why school starts so early in your town). But change takes a long time— and you may be a desperate, exhausted junior right now.
Here are the tips I have found that work, and you can realistically accomplish.
## 1\. Get extra sleep in the morning by avoiding the snooze button
Do you like hammering away at that snooze button? Me too. But here’s the thing— it feels great to get those extra ten minutes of sleep, but you are really cheating yourself. If you set your alarm at 6 AM but never get out of bed before 6:45 AM, just set the alarm to 6:45 and get out of bed. Even if you need 45 minutes to wake up at 6AM, that does not mean it will take you that long to get up at 6:45\. Why? Because you have had an extra 45 minutes of *uninterrupted* sleep.
## 2\. Tactical napping (and caffeine if necessary)
The dogma in the sleep hygiene field is that both napping and caffeine should be avoided— for the reason that they can interfere with the ability to fall asleep at night. However, if you can’t keep your eyes open, you need to do something, especially if, say, you need to finish your history paper or drive somewhere. (Driving drowsy is like driving drunk— please don’t do it). Instead, take a *tactical nap*. I define this as a short nap (15-20 minutes) preferably in the afternoon. Here’s the key to tactical napping: don’t do it in your super comfortable couch or bed. Do it with your head down on a desk or reclining in your car— someplace you are unlikely to fall asleep for prolonged periods.
Sleep experts have actually studied [small doses of caffeine— say, a cup of tea or small coffee— prior to a short nap](http://www.vox.com/2014/8/28/6074177/coffee-naps-caffeine-science?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). (this is sometimes called a napuccino--I can't decide if I find this adorable or horrifying) It turns out that it is a pretty great way to wake up in a short period of time. I would experiment with short tactical naps first as that is often equivalent to having a cup of coffee.
## 3\. Keep an eye on the homework
In college, I only pulled an all-nighter once— to get a lousy B- on my Biochemistry final. I should have known better. Research has actually shown that getting sleep will help you perform better on a test than staying up all night studying. If you can’t finish your homework at night, go to bed. Trust me. It will be there in the morning. If this happens a lot, please talk to your parents and your teachers. Believe it or not, [there’s not a lot of evidence that homework helps kids learn.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/too-much-homework-too-little-sleep-structural-sleep-deprivation-in-teens/)
## 4\. Digital liberation:
Ok. I don’t win a lot of popularity contests here. But cell phones are totally corrosive to a good nights’ sleep. Why is this?
- ***They emit light that keeps you awake at night*** by suppressing melatonin secretion in your brain, which keeps you from falling asleep.
- ***They are powerfully addictive.*** You know how you want to scroll down Instagram just a few more photos or read a few more tweets? Guess what? Social media sites and apps have been engineered by people richer and smarter than you or I to keep you checking in, commenting, posting, liking, etc. That is how they get paid.
- ***They fragment sleep by emitting alerts during the night*** Just the other night, my wife and I woke up because I received a text message. Here’s the thing— my phone was silenced and *in the bathroom*, but the light was still sufficient to wake up two sleep deprived adults at 1 AM.
- **They can generate anxiety and frustration right before bedtime.** [Anxiety and stress are contagious](https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/jan/27/anxiety-is-contagious-oliver-burkeman?CMP=share%5Fbtn%5Ftw&ref=drcraigcanapari.com), and if you are an anxious or stressed teen, your peers probably are too. Trust me, those Instagram posts will be there in the morning.
(If you want more information here's more on [why electronics in the bedroom are a bad idea](https://drcraigcanapari.com/prevent-sleep-problems-in-kids-keep-technology-out-of-the-bedroom/).)
There’s a couple of things you can do so you can control your phone, instead of it controlling you.
1. **Keep it out of your room.** Give it to Mom and Dad and ask them to charge if for you. Tell them to lock it in their car if you are worried you can’t resist the temptation.
2. **Turn on “Do Not Disturb” and “Night Shift”** (on Apple Devices). These options limit interruptions from your apps and lower the color temperature on your phone. These means there is less blue white light, which is the kind of light that suppresses melatonin. (Note that this is not as good as avowing light altogether.
[](https://drcraigcanapari.com/content/images/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/nightshift.jpg)
1. [Use an app like **Freedom**](http://freedom.to/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) to limit your digital consumption. I *love* this service. It allows you to block apps and websites across all of your devices. You can schedule it or do it on demand. I use it to block all of my social media sites every night from 11 PM-8 AM (a routine code-named “Night Sanity”) to break my bad habit of scrolling through Twitter right before bed. Right now I have it running so that I can’t go read any of my favorite sites or check Instagram while I am writing this.

This is what it looks like when Freedom is blocking Twitter.
Now, I know you sometimes actually do need to use electronics to complete your schoolwork. I highly recommend[ the free f.lux software](https://justgetflux.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) to limit your blue white light exposure from sunset to sunrise.
## 5\. Less light at night, more in the morning
So, light at night is bad for sleep— but in the morning it’s great. There was a recent study showing that teenagers camping out without electronic devices [rapidly reset their body clock by going camping](http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2017/02/02/513060769/not-getting-enough-sleep-camping-in-february-might-help?ref=drcraigcanapari.com):
> End all artificial lights at night for at least a weekend and drench your eyes in natural morning light, says a professor of integrative physiology at the University of Colorado, Boulder and senior author on a study on resetting sleep cycles. The most straightforward way of doing this is to forbid any electronics on a camping trip.
One easy way to do this is get an alarm clock that uses light to wake you up. I got one of these, and it is shockingly effective. (It also does not wake up my six year old, who is out of bed like a shot when my alarm goes off).
The clock starts increasing lightly slowly for 30 minutes prior to a more conventional (read noisy) alarm goes off. Since starting with this I am falling asleep more easily at night and getting up more easily in the morning. [I highly recommend this model.](http://amzn.to/2nQEoa6?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
## 5\. On weekends and vacations, stay on the “Plus Two” Schedule
Here’s where I differ a little bit from the traditional sleep dogma. In a perfect world, you should sleep on the same schedule every day. However, most teenagers are so sleep deprived that I don’t think that this is fair.
For my patients, I generally advocate for a “plus two” schedule. **What this means is getting up two hours later than you get up for school.** This lets you catch up a bit on weekends but should not throw your schedule out of whack. I also recommend keeping this schedule on school vacations.
## 7\. Consider melatonin— if your doctor thinks it is a good idea.
Melatonin is a frequently misunderstood medication. ([I wrote more on melatonin here if you want the details](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/)). In a nutshell, it has two effects. It can alter sleep schedules, and it can make you sleepy.
Most of my teenage patients actually need help with their schedule. Thus, the most effective way to use it is 0.5 mg at dinner time, as this will help move your sleep schedule a bit earlier. Sometimes I may add a small dose at bedtime (1-3 mg as well).
Note that melatonin is a medication and I’m not recommending that you take it. I recommend you discuss it with your pediatrician.
## 8\. Have someplace besides your bed to relax
One of the principles of managing insomnia is called *stimulus control.* This is a fancy way of saying, if you are having problems sleeping, stop doing stuff in your bed besides sleeping. If you do your homework, watch TV, eat fried chicken, etc in your bed, tell your parents to take you to Ikea and get you a nice chair for you to relax in. Trust me, this will help.
### So here are my practical tips for sleep deprived teenagers. Let me know what works for you in the comments.
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### Saving Medicaid-- One Woman's Perspective
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/saving-medicaid-one-womans-perspective/
Last updated: 2017-06-27T17:06:19.000Z
*This is a guest post written by Cayla Lemire, a friend and former patient.*

Over my 27 years of being alive, the healthcare system has been a part of my life since I was diagnosed at 9 months old. Since then, the hospital has been my second home, while the staff throughout it, has been a second family. Seriously, if you ever need a tour guide around Massachusetts General Hospital, I’m your girl. If it wasn’t for this hospital, and the staff, I wouldn’t be typing this right now. For those of you that experienced my near-death experience with me in 2009, understand that it was a very close call, several times. Just to have a bed in the PICU, costs $10,000 a day. This didn't include the visits from my 10 specialists, the ICU team, the surgery, the multiple daily tests, or the rehab afterwards. I racked up well over a million dollars during my 100-day stay.
I got to survive, thanks to Medicaid, and MGH's Free Care program for picking up, what Medicaid didn’t cover. Yes, that’s a thing for those of you who don’t have Medicaid. It’s actually really hard for us to get what we need because the physicians, therapists, and ourselves have to justify every little thing to get approval, sometimes causing our privacy to be invaded. This makes physicians and therapists so frustrated at times because of the amount of paperwork needing to be done, that a lot of them decide not to accept these patients, which means less access to care. For those that still do it, it’s because they want what is best for their patients, and I’m lucky enough to say that mine will keep fighting no matter how many phone calls they must make, and letters they must send. Presently, I am going through denials of certain, and extremely important medical care that could eventually impact my overall health, as I write this.
Now that I am home, it doesn’t mean my medical costs have disappeared. I need around-the-clock care, frequent visits to specialists, routine and unexpected testing, equipment that keeps me stable, and medical supplies to make this equipment work. All of this is not cheap, and I can tell you from experience, most of the reason for it not being cheap is due to those whom are in charge and don’t experience these medical issues, first hand. A small example, shipping a $15 box with TWO 10cc syringes (look up their size if you’ve never held one before), and two feet worth of filler paper to make it seem like there’s more in it. Or, the fact that you can only get ONE portable suction machine, which only costs $400, but if it breaks, and you can’t breathe, an ambulance must come. Giving each patient TWO, could save thousands of dollars, if not more because the patient could aspirate when needing to be suctioned, end up hospitalized, or even die. For me, that means $10,000 a day for a bed in an ICU.
To my point, it should not matter what side you are on, politically. There should not be discussions on who gets to have GREAT medical care, and who doesn’t. When it comes to healthcare, or really anything, no one should be above another person. As far as I see it, your life is not worth saving more than mine because I live off of “free” state insurance. I didn’t choose to be born with a rare genetic disease, and decide that, one day, I was going to get H1N1 and be hospitalized for 100 days. I didn’t choose the need for a $30,000+ custom power wheelchair because I would fall out of the basic one that costs $3,000\. Also, I absolutely shouldn’t have to choose whether or not I stop living because of the burden of medical costs that can be put on myself, and my family. This has nothing to do with entitlement. Everyone wants to see the diseases that are advertised on the media to be eradicated, and the epidemic of substance abuse to disappear. Federal funding is what keeps the medical research that finds cures for such diseases going, which is also about to be cut. Unfortunately, most private insurances only cover a percentage of costs for cancer treatments, which means that most families must apply for Medicaid to pick up the rest because it’s impossible to afford. We can all argue about those who have Medicaid that get treatment for substance abuse, yes there are those that abuse the system, but surprisingly, there is a large percentage of people getting treatment due to becoming addicted to pain medications, from those cancer treatments. You can't judge a book by its cover, or in this case, you can't judge a person by the insurance card they hand you.
Without Medicaid, I wouldn’t be here, or be able to live a little more equally to those without medical issues. So, before you judge those who use Medicaid, think about the possibility that one of your family member’s could be diagnosed with Muscular Dystrophy, Multiple Sclerosis, Diabetes, ALS, a form of cancer, and so many others, but be told “sorry, we can’t cover you because that’s a pre-existing condition,” and can’t afford to pay out of pocket. Maybe you're lucky enough to afford the out-of-pocket fees, but don't assume everyone can. You just never know what can happen in life, to anyone, and politicians should not be the ones to decide. If the most important associations in the medical field, and the top hospitals in this country, such as Boston Children’s Hospital refuse to back up this new proposed bill, then there needs to be more discussions, as well as, input from those that are actually working, and seeing patients, like myself, in healthcare. Maybe I am crazy, but there should also be input from families and individuals, whose lives basically revolve around the healthcare system. Like those who were disabled, pulled out of their wheelchairs (to us, our legs), and thrown out of Capitol Hill for protesting. Just hearing their logical ideas, might actually save this country some money, but what do I know?
*You can learn more about Cayla on her [Facebook Page Cayla's Independence.](https://www.facebook.com/caylasindependence/) She just finished her bachelor's degree from Wheelock and is now working on her master's degree in social work. [You can connect with her on Linked In as well](https://www.linkedin.com/in/cayla-lemire-247386143/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).*
### Successful Sleep in Infancy: Flipping The Switch
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/successful-sleep-in-infancy-flipping-the-switch/
Last updated: 2017-02-23T02:10:48.000Z
Recently, a friend contacted me about some sleep difficulties she was having with her baby:
My 7 month old has started waking up more frequently in the last several weeks after a cold. For the last several months, she has slept through the night with only a single awakening at night. However, she recently had a cold and started waking up every 1.5 -2 hours at night. Now the cold has resolved but she awakenings remain! She typically falls asleep at the breast every evening after her bedtime routine, which includes a bath, a story and some songs from her father before I nurse her. She awakens frequently the night and I nurse her back to sleep. These feedings are brief and I don’t think she is getting very much milk. She has started wetting through her diapers, however. Her first awakening is about 2-3 hours but she awakens every 1 ½ hour for the rest of the night. She awakens in the morning around 7 AM and naps from 9-10 AM and 1-:2:30 PM. Lately these naps have been shorter as well.
This is a typical story-- so typical, in fact, that we experienced something very similar. When my older son was about six months of age, he had been sleeping through the night for about one month. He started to wake up once, then two to three times a night to nurse. Our routine had been for my wife to nurse him to sleep then place him in his crib. He had reached an age, however, where **a) he did not need middle of the night calories anymore** and **b) he was old enough to self soothe** which typically occurs around 4-6 months. This is the appropriate time to start putting your child to sleep **drowsy but awake** so he or she does not develop [inappropriate sleep onset associations](https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/) which can cause nocturnal awakenings. **If your infant's sleep starts to worsen around 4-6 months, it is time to "flip the switch" and stop nursing or feeding to sleep at bedtime.**
Here was my advice to my friend:
1. Pick a convenient date to start addressing this issue. I think it is critical to pick a "quit date." Don't start sleep training right before the holidays or if you have visitors coming.
2. **Try switching your bedtime routine so we can separate nursing/feeding from sleep onset. Thus, instead of bath -> story -> song -> nursing -> bed, change the order e.g. nursing -> bath -> story -> song -> bed. This is a great opportunity for the dad (or non-nursing partner) to take a more active role in bedtime.**
3. Please place the baby in the crib drowsy but awake.
4. See if your child benefits from checking. Do checks calm your child or upset them? If you decide to check, check every 5 minutes. Checks should be brief and without contact. “I love you, you’re fine, good night”.
5. As for the night-time awakenings, they will extinguish on their own. Frequent feeding will reinforce them. For this family with a child at the 90% for weight, I recommended Dad offering a 2 oz bottle of water at night.
I just heard back from my friend and this prescription was effective in about a week. I think that the second piece of advice is the most important. As parents, we get in the habit of wanting to nurse or feed our infant immediately before bedtime so as to maximize the sleep time before the next awakening. However, provided your child is growing well, there is little biological need for calories at night after six months of age. Obviously, if your child has nutritional or growth difficulties the calculus may be a bit different. (If your child is older, or feeding multiple times per night, you may need to address this separately. Here's [an article on how to stop night feedings](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/) when they are out of control).
I'd be curious to hear the experience of other parents in this context. Please share what working for you (and what didn't) in helping your infant sleep through the night.
### How do I start a bedtime routine? My child has never had one.
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/starting-a-bedtime-routine/
Last updated: 2017-01-17T14:01:57.000Z
A mom recently emailed me an interesting question. Her three year old has never had a consistent bedtime routine and she is interested in starting one. In this video, I answer several questions:
1. When is the best time to institute a bedtime routine?
2. What time should bedtime occur?
3. Where should bedtime occur?
4. What are the good parts of a bedtime routine?
As you know, I think bedtime is really critical for helping kids get a good night of sleep. It is the [key cue for creating good sleep habits](https://drcraigcanapari.com/breaking-bad-sleep-habits-kids/), and has been shown to [ensure good sleep throughout childhood.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/be-a-bedtime-drill-sergeant/)
### An Open Letter to the Author of “Our Sleep Training Nightmare”
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/open-letter-author-sleep-training-nightmare/
Last updated: 2016-10-08T16:24:35.000Z
*This is a response to this article, [“Our Sleep Training Nightmare,”](http://www.nytimes.com/2016/10/07/well/family/our-sleep-training-nightmare.html?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) published in the New York Times 10/7/16, by [Lisa Selin Davis](http://lisaselindavis.com/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com). Thanks to [Justin Smith AKA the Doc Smitty](http://www.checkupnewsroom.com/thedocsmitty?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) for bringing this to my attention.*
Dear Lisa,
Thanks so much for sharing this article, painful as it must have been. I routinely care for children who have struggled with sleep since early infancy. It’s not clear why some children struggle with sleep more than others. In infancy, [sleep problems may have to do with temperament,](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3190304/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) which is the word used to describe personality traits which may be present from birth. The fact is, most good sleepers are born, but some kids needs some help. Most of these kids will have improvement in their sleep behavior by kindergarten. Some, like your daughter, may continue to struggle and are failed by conventional advice. I routinely see teenagers with a similar history in clinic. As you point out in your article, this takes a huge toll on the child and the family.
I have a couple of thoughts after reading your article:
1. **I have never recommended locking a child in a room.** My mentor [Dr. Judy Owens](http://www.childrenshospital.org/doctors/judith-owens?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) taught me never to recommend this. I think this is really scary for kids who are struggling with insomnia and anxiety. I’m sorry that you received this bad advice.
2. **I would not equate sleep training simply with a cry-it-out (CIO) or extinction based approach.** In fact, I don’t routine recommend CIO in children who are no longer sleeping in cribs, especially at your daughter’s age. (Don’t get me wrong—[ CIO has it’s place among sleep training methods,](https://drcraigcanapari.com/at-long-last-sleep-training-tools-for-the-exhausted-parent/) especially for younger children, and it can be very effective if done correctly). Other methods, including positive reinforcement or [the “Excuse-Me Drill”](https://drcraigcanapari.com/the-excuse-me-drill-a-gentle-sleep-training-technique/) may work better. If you want a great example of how to institute a practical and effective positive reinforcement program, [I highly recommend this book by Dr. Alan Kazdin](http://amzn.to/2dUpSZD?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affiliate link). One size fits all sleep advice DOES NOT work for children with long standing difficulties around sleep.
3. In your article you don’t mention any investigation into **“medical” causes of insomnia.** (Although you do mention that you saw a sleep doctor, so forgive me if this was already addressed). If you were seen in my clinic with this story, I would look for [signs of restless leg syndrome](https://drcraigcanapari.com/growing-pains-restless-legs-an-under-diagnosed-cause-of-insomnia-in-children/) and consider ordering an overnight sleep test to make sure that we are not missing an underlying medical problem which could be making this problem worse for your child. It is most likely that this is behavioral in origin, but it doesn’t hurt to make sure that there is not another hidden factor leading to these difficulties. That being said, I suspect that this is probably [due to sleep onset association difficulties.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/)
4. In my clinic, **[I sometimes will try melatonin](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/) or even a short term trial of a prescription medication, coupled with a behavioral plan**, with the goal of using the medication as a bridge to help the child transition to more independent sleep. Obviously, not every parent is comfortable with this, and I get that— I am very cautious about using any agents to promote sleep. But sometimes some kids need a little extra help.
5. Finally, this needs to be said: **[good sleep looks different for every family. ](https://drcraigcanapari.com/good-enough-sleep/)**If you have reached an equilibrium that works for you, your husband, and your children, that’s wonderful. I love this passage: “At night, after stories and turning out lights, both girls and I lie in bed, listening to the fan whir. There is no greater joy than this, the puzzle pieces of those two bodies fitting perfectly into mine. Maybe tonight they will stay here, all night, and accept the beautiful medicine of sleep. This is parenting, then: trying and failing and reaching and missing and sometimes getting it right, and always loving.”
I really appreciate your candor in sharing this article. Hearing about the struggles of others really helps other parents out. It also helped me get more insight into the difficulty that my patients and their families face.
Craig
### 28 Rules for Better Sleep For Kids of Any Age
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/28-ways-to-sleep-better/
Last updated: 2016-07-25T14:41:13.000Z

Last week I published [my Good Sleep Manifesto.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/goodsleepmanifesto/) This week, I've put together a list of ways to sleep better for your family. Think of them of rules of thumb, and not absolute.
## Good Sleep Rules for everyone
1. **No electronics in the bedroom. [No TVs,](https://drcraigcanapari.com/get-that-television-out-of-your-kids-room-now/) phones, tablets, laptops, or game consoles [Electronics are absolutely corrosive to a good night of sleep.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/prevent-sleep-problems-in-kids-keep-technology-out-of-the-bedroom/)**
2. Bedrooms should be cool, quiet, and dark.
3. You need to allow enough time between bedtime and wake time (what those of us in the business call a *sleep opportunity*. (Want to know if you are getting enough sleep? If you get enough sleep you wake up on your own. Same is true for your kids. For more info, [you can read about suggested sleep durations here](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/).). If your sleep opportunity is too short, bedtime needs to be earlier or wake time later. Or both. Teenagers are a special case I will address below.
4. PARENTS: Believe it or not, children pay attention to what you are doing. If you stay up late on your phone, they will want to do this. If you don’t make sleep a priority, they won’t either. Be a leader.
5. **If whatever you are doing is working well and everyone is well rested in the morning (parents, children, your pet chinchilla) you can ignore everything on this list.**
6. Snoring is not necessarily benign. It can represent obstructive sleep apnea. Discuss it with your child’s pediatrician.
## Good Sleep Rules for ages 0-5 years of age
1. Many healthy kids can sleep through the night by six months of age. Most should by nine months.
2. Naps are hard in the first year even (or especially) if your kid sleeps well at night.
3. It's important that kids and parents both sleep well at night, for health, safety, and general life enjoyment. [Don't feel guilty about this](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-fixing-your-kids-sleep-problems-is-not-selfish/).
4. After a year of age: If you kid wakes up at night once a week, it's annoying. Once a night, it's a problem. More than once a night, it's a big problem.
5. Babies need to learn to take a bottle once in a while (given by Dad or the non-nursing partner) to give breastfeeding moms a break at night. If you want to avoid formula, expressed breast milk is fine.
6. If there are two parents in the home, both need to be capable of putting the children to bed, not just Mom. If they "won't go down for Dad” (and it's always Dad), Mom needs to take a trip for several days. The children (and Dad) will survive, I promise.
7. Put off switching your kid from a crib to a bed until age three if you can. If you are having another child before then, just get another crib, or have the baby sleep in a bassinet. Trust me. The only exception is if your child is jumping out of his crib. Then you don't have a choice.
8. [Don't bed share in the first year of life.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/do-you-want-your-kid-to-be-a-good-sleeper-dont-cosleep/) You can't smother your baby if you are not sleeping in with them. I know that I will take some heat from “safe” cosleeping advocates, but the risk of smothering your child is zero if your child is sleeping in a safe sleep environment, and somewhat more than zero if you are bedsharing.
9. Respect the nap. I know it’s inconvenient. Trust me. Everyone will be happier if your child gets a good nap.
## Good Sleep Rules for School Age Children (ages 5-12)
1. Monitor your children’s activity and homework. Neither should compromise your child’s ability to consistently get enough sleep. Don’t be afraid to tell you child’s teacher [that the homework is excessive, or that you are going to opt out altogether.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/homework-vs-sleep-a-cause-of-stress-in-teens/)
2. Your kids aren’t too old to be read to at night, even if only for a few minutes.
3. If you need to wake your child on school mornings, that is a problem. They are either not getting enough sleep, or they may have a medical problem with their sleep. Talk to your doctor.
4. Most kids past age 5-6 should not need a regular nap (with rare exceptions). If your child still needs a nap into first grade, it’s worth looking into.
## Good Sleep Rules for Teenagers (13-19)
1. [Teenagers have a natural drive to stay up later and get up later.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/too-much-homework-too-little-sleep-structural-sleep-deprivation-in-teens/) This does not mean that they are lazy. [Your average teenager’s body clock](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-you-fall-asleep-part-2-understanding-the-body-clock/) is set to fall asleep between 11 PM-12 AM and wake up 9 hours later.
2. Unfortunately, in most communities, high school starts way too early. (In my community it is 7:25 AM). Thus, [the best way to improve the sleep of teenagers is to move the school start times later.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/cdc-school-starts-too-early/) This is unfortunately hard to do.
3. Teenagers also need to be the custodians of their sleep. Here are some good rules of thumb for them:
4. Be aware of the corrosive effect of your smartphone on your sleep. Keep it out of your room at night, and use an alarm clock.
5. [Use technology to minimize light exposure](https://drcraigcanapari.com/light-is-like-caffeine-avoid-insomnia-by-managing-your-screens/) if you are, say, writing a paper at night.
6. Don’t let your bedtime and wake time move more than 2 hours later on weekends on vacation. If you move more than that, you basically will be jet lagged all the time— meaning that you will feel like you never are on the right schedule.
7. [It’s best to avoid napping if you can because it will make it harder for you to fall asleep at night.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/harnessing-sleep-drive-for-a-better-bedtime/) If you must nap, limit it to 20-30 minutes as early in the afternoon as possible. Try to nap someplace besides your bed so you don’t accidently sleep for 2-3 hours. Putting your head down on a desk in the library can be good. (Trust me, I did this a lot in medical school).
8. Recognize[ that caffeine intake after 2-3 PM can make it hard for you to fall asleep at night](https://drcraigcanapari.com/caffeine-and-sleep-in-kids/).
Anything you disagree with? Anything you would add? Let me know in the comments below.
### A Nice Sleep Training Success Story
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/nice-sleep-training-success-story/
Last updated: 2016-07-21T14:25:12.000Z
I got a nice note from Emily over at [Purely Diligent, who wrote about great success with sleep training her baby:](http://purelydiligent.com/sleeptrainingsuccess/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)
To our great surprise, with this routine, L has not cried once. Zip. Zero. Not a drop. We do not know if her phase simply ended or if the magic formula was found. Either way, we are thankful and pleased. With this new routine, L is now sleeping 11 hours at night versus 8\. Her napping has also greatly improved going from maybe 1 1/2 hours to 3 1/2 a day. L’s sleeping cues have also become clearer. During those couple minutes of rocking, she will make a certain humming noise when she wants to be put into her crib. A bonus in this ordeal! We are expecting the next child to give us more grief than this. L made it too easy.
Sleep training is an aspect of parenting most do not look forward to. I imagine it is on the list between teething and potty training. No matter what your child’s situation is, DO NOT GIVE UP! Slowly, but surely you will find the magic formula that works perfectly for all parties to get a wonderful night’s sleep.
This highlights a couple of important points:
1. Sleep training does not have to involve a ton of crying if you make some changes to the bedtime routine.
2. It is often scarier in theory than in practice.
### The Good Sleep Manifesto: Families Deserve to Sleep Well
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/goodsleepmanifesto/
Last updated: 2016-07-18T13:56:29.000Z
## It's time to stop settling for bad sleep and insufficient sleep.
I spend a lot of time thinking about sleep. My sleep, my kid’s sleep, my wife’s sleep. Everybody does. I also have the privilege of working with families who are struggling with sleep problems. As a result, I’ve developed some pretty strong feelings about what parents and kids need to do to sleep well.

## Let me summarize what I think about sleep:
**Kids and parents deserve to get a good night of sleep. Every night. This means that everyone should get adequate, uninterrupted sleep. We as as society need to make this a priority. How are we going to achieve this goal?**
1. We need to educate parents and families about how much kids sleep need, and how to get it.
2. Parents need to recognize that it is not selfish to work on improving their child’s sleep.
3. Sleep-friendly school policies, specifically later school start times, are critical for the health and well being of our children.
There was a [recent study about the “parental happiness gap”](http://qz.com/708438/the-parenting-happiness-gap-is-real-new-research-confirms/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com): the fact that people with kids are less happy than similar people without kids. I find this sad but unsurprising. I love my kids more than anything, but man, I get pretty run down sometimes. Parenting has become much more complicated than it used to be. The cost of living is higher. Kids do a lot more stuff (way too much stuff, in my opinion). Working parents, stay-at-home parents, single-parent families, two-parent families, blended families: everyone has a lot to juggle. As Louie CK memorably said, “everything is amazing and no one is happy”
I think one of the reasons that families are struggling is because **sleep is no longer a priority*.* Parents are so worried about hurting their kids that they avoid sleep training because they have been told (wrongly) that that will harm their child. [Devices have invaded our bedrooms and our mental space.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/prevent-sleep-problems-in-kids-keep-technology-out-of-the-bedroom/) And many elementary school kids are doing 3-4 activities a week out of school. And, unbelievably, there is pressure for kids to do more and more homework, even though [the benefit of homework is controversial](https://drcraigcanapari.com/homework-vs-sleep-a-cause-of-stress-in-teens/). Over 90% of teenagers are sleep deprived, due to inappropriately early school start times. Change is not easy, but it is essential for our health, as well as the health and well being of our children.
## What happens when you don’t get enough sleep.
Sleeping is like breathing or eating. But we routinely tolerate inadequate sleep in ourselves and our children. [Did I mention that 90% of teens are sleep deprived?](https://drcraigcanapari.com/less-than-10-of-high-school-students-get-enough-sleep-at-night/) Imagine if 90% of the children in your community didn’t have enough to eat. Or 90% were exposed to toxic chemicals that made it difficult for you to breathe. You would be mad as hell. Where is the outrage about heavy homework loads, inappropriately early school start times, or junior high students being up all night on their cell phones? It's strange to me that[ the idea that kids get sufficient sleep is controversial.](https://drcraigcanapari.com/children-teens-need-sleep-thrive-controversial/)
Back in 2014, the[ American Academy of Pediatrics recommended that no schools should start before 8:30 AM](https://drcraigcanapari.com/aap-school-start-times/). Here's an a list the authors put together of the consequences of sleep deprivation for teenagers. Note that many of these are true for adults and some are true for young children as well:

From: School Start Times for AdolescentsADOLESCENT SLEEP WORKING GROUP, COMMITTEE ON ADOLESCENCE, AND COUNCIL ON SCHOOL HEALTHPediatrics Aug 2014, peds.2014-1697; DOI: 10.1542/peds.2014-1697
I’m also mad that many in the attachment parenting community have convinced parents that sleep training is dangerous, when [nothing could be further from the truth](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-fixing-your-kids-sleep-problems-is-not-selfish/). You know what is dangerous? An exhausted mom or dad behind the wheel of a car driving their kids around. [Drowsy driving is as dangerous as drunk driving. ](http://drowsydriving.org/about/facts-and-stats/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)We all know drunk driving is bad, but when did you last drive drowsy?
## What happens you get enough sleep?
Imagine I invented a new medication. Let’s call it vitamin Z. If you take it, you’ll have more energy and be more successful at work. You’ll be a safer driver. You won’t crave unhealthy foods as much. Heck, you’ll even look better. If your kids take it, they will not fight as much. They will be less hyperactive in school and do better on tests. Teenagers will be less argumentative and more motivated. They will also be less likely to use alcohol or drugs, get injured in sports, commit suicide, or get in a car accident.
Let me tell you a few other things about vitamin Z. It’s free. It has no side effects. Guess what else: **these are the benefits of getting a good night sleep.** .
## So what are you going to do?
I challenge you to pick one thing that will help your family sleep better. Institute a strict policy about electronics in the bedroom. Make sure that kids’ activities don’t keep them out too late. Be really strict about bedtime.
Perhaps everyone in your home is well rested. Then advocate for later school start times for the students in your high school. As for me, I’m going to try to go to bed by 11 PM, or even 10:30 if I can. **What are you going to do? Let me know in the comments.**
If you find this interesting, check out my [28 Rules for Better Sleep](https://drcraigcanapari.com/28-ways-to-sleep-better/).
### Sleep Training 2 Month Old Babies: Still Not a Great Idea
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/sleep-training-2-month-olds-still-great-idea/
Last updated: 2016-05-03T01:40:42.000Z

There is a pediatric group in Manhattan recommending cry it out sleep training to two month olds babies. I was just quoted on a [Wall Street Journal Article on this practice](http://www.wsj.com/articles/can-you-sleep-train-your-baby-at-2-months-1462209999?utm%5Fcontent=buffer9d190&utm%5Fmedium=social&utm%5Fsource=twitter.com&utm%5Fcampaign=buffer). Here’s what I said:
While sleep training at 2 months may work, Dr. Canapari says there is no research to support the approach. At 2 months old, most infants aren’t naturally sleeping through the night, whereas the behavior of many 4-to-6-month olds suggests it is natural at that age, he says.
I wrote about [sleep training in young infants](https://drcraigcanapari.com/sample-post/) almost one year ago, and I still don’t think it is a great idea. The reason why is that most two month olds are really different than 4-5 month olds, when I think it is a good idea to consider sleep training.
I’ve said it many times that [sleep training doesn’t hurt your child](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-fixing-your-kids-sleep-problems-is-not-selfish/), but the studies I’m aware of start with interventions at older ages; the best study of the [long term safety of sleep training](https://drcraigcanapari.com/news-flash-sleep-training-doesnt-hurt-your-child/) started with an intervention at 7 months of age. I don’t know if you can extrapolate these results back to an intervention at two months of age.
## Two month old babies are different than 4 or 5 month olds
The first six months of life are a rapid period of neurological maturation for infants. Nowhere is this more apparent than the change we see in sleep patterns. In the first several months of life, infants spend most of their time asleep, suggesting that sleep is the critical developmental work of infancy. Ten to 12 weeks of age is a remarkable period of maturation, with most babies at 3 months of age having stable sleep patterns, with clear cut long night time sleep periods and relatively long periods of wakefulness evolving between 12-16 weeks of age[1](#fn1). Thus it seems to me that sleep interventions at 4-6 months help guide the infants who are still struggling towards a biologically normal period of sustained sleep, whereas sleep training at two months of age is taking babies who are very normally waking up at night and forcing them to behave like they are twice as old as they are. Hopefully this is safe, but I wouldn’t recommend it to my patients. I do agree that it is easier to sleep training a younger child than waiting until they are older.
## But wait. These guys say it works?
It may or may not work. Maybe it is a great idea. But I don't think that there is evidence that it works, or that it's safe. It would certainly be reasonable to perform a study of the practice.
## What can you do to help your baby sleep in the first four months?
Anyone who has had children remembers the sheer exhaustion of the first several months. Most babies who need sleep training may signal this by starting to wake up more around four months of age— a normal phenomenon characterized (somewhat inaccurately) as the four month sleep regression. I’ve written about how to [flip the switch on sleep training in young infants](https://drcraigcanapari.com/successful-sleep-in-infancy-flipping-the-switch/).
Before four months of age, I would make a few suggestions.
1. Work on establishing a predictable schedule with a **high quality bedtime** very night.
2. At 2-3 months of age, try and **put your child down drowsy but awake**. If it is really difficult for your child to fall asleep, take a break and revisit it in a few weeks.
3. If you hear your baby crying out, especially during the night, **take a break before your rush in**; this pause is [a common practice in France](https://drcraigcanapari.com/le-pause-avoiding-sleep-problems-and-why-you-wont-break-your-kids/) and waiting to see if your child settles may actually help him to become a better sleeper.
It seems like there is a lot of interest in sleep training in very young infants. Dr. Justin Smith wrote [a great blog post several years ago about ](http://www.checkupnewsroom.com/the-newborn-sleep-book/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)*[The Newborn Sleep Book](http://www.checkupnewsroom.com/the-newborn-sleep-book/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com)*,** **which also seems to espouse some outre ideas. Check it out.**
When did you sleep train your child? Would you try it again earlier if you could?
1. For more information, see Sheldon SH. “Development of sleep in infants and children” IN **[Principles & Practice of Pediatric Sleep Medicine](http://amzn.to/26N1rUJ?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) (affiliate link)** ed. Sheldon, Ferber, Kryger, & Gozal. 2014 [↩︎](#ffn1)
### Restless Leg Syndrome in Children: A Common Cause of Insomnia
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/growing-pains-restless-legs-an-under-diagnosed-cause-of-insomnia-in-children/
Last updated: 2016-02-08T14:52:16.000Z
*Restless leg syndrome in children is surprisingly common, but is frequently missed. If your child is fidgety or has leg pain around bedtime and problems settling down, it's worth considering this condition.*
## Sleep doctors get restless leg syndrome too
When I was a kid, my parents used to avoid giving me Coca-Cola after lunch. Not because they were overly concerned about my health. (If they had been, my mom wouldn't have given me milkshakes when I watched Kung Fu Theater every Sunday afternoon. But that is a different story). The reason was that I would have really severe problems falling asleep about a quarter of the time. I would feel like I had "too much energy" in my legs and I would be unable to get comfortable. It was not painful, exactly, and it would go away if I got up to go to the bathroom, but come back again when I laid down again. I had one episode in college resulting in an entirely sleepless night and actually gave up caffeine for eight years, until my third year of medical school.
Fast forward to the library at Harvard in 2010 where I was reviewing for my sleep medicine boards, where I read that children with restless leg syndrome (RLS-- also known as Willis-Ekbom Disease) ) may complain of "too much energy in their legs". I realized that I have had intermittent episodes of restless leg since childhood.
Obviously I had heard of the diagnosis before, and even diagnosed patients with it, but I had never heard that description before.
## How common is restless leg syndrome in children?
RLS is a surprisingly common disorder in children, although it is difficult to estimate how common it is. [About two percent of kids may suffer from it](http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/08/070822164653.htm?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), **with about 0.5-1% having severe symptoms.** Many adult RLS suffers report that they suffered from **growing pains** in childhood.
## What is restless leg syndrome, exactly? How is it diagnosed?
**RLS in children and adults** is characterized by leg discomfort which keeps the sufferer from falling asleep. It is usually **worse at night** and **always improves with movement.**
Kids need to describe their symptoms in their own words. Some common descriptions include:
- "Too much energy" in his/her legs
- Feeling like legs are tingly or "wiggly"
- Complaining that feet feel hot or cold
Other symptoms including kicking when trying to fall asleep.
The criteria for making the diagnosis are similar to the adult criteria which are summarized at the [International Restless Leg Study Group website.](http://irlssg.org/diagnostic-criteria/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) **A child needs to** **describe the symptoms in their own words, and, ideally, a close relative with RLS** to make the diagnosis. Let's see how a few children describe these symptoms. (These images are all courtesy of the [RLS Foundation](http://www.rls.org/?ref=drcraigcanapari.com), specifically Georgi Bell. You can view them with [several other great illustrations here.](http://www.rls.org/youth?ref=drcraigcanapari.com))

Aleesha age 13yo. "It feels like I need to stretch my legs. My drawing is showing me being stretched out by ropes because I feel like I need to stretch my legs whenever I go to bed or if it's late. "

Jacob age 9: "Bugs crawling in my legs."

Sarah, age 10: "What I drew was saying that my top part of my body is relaxed and calm, but the bottom wants to run really bad."
## How do you diagnosis and treat restless leg syndrome in children?
RLS is by its very nature a subjective sensation. There is no test for the disorder. A careful history and physical examination by a physician is usually all that is necessary.
- Although further diagnostic testing may not be necessary, a serum iron test, specifically [ferritin](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ferritin?ref=drcraigcanapari.com) is important a**s iron therapy to increase the levels of ferritin over 50 μg/L (or sometimes even 75) may resolve or improve symptoms.**
- An overnight sleep study is not necessary for the diagnosis. It may, however, show the presence of [periodic limb movements of sleep](http://www.sleepassociation.org/index.php?p=aboutplms&ref=drcraigcanapari.com)(PLMS), which are rhythmic leg twitches which occur commonly in RLS and may disrupt sleep.
- **RLS may be more common in children with [attention deficit hyperactivity disorder](https://drcraigcanapari.com/2012/04/19/adhd-and-sleep-unraveling-the-connections/).**
- It is critical to enforce appropriate sleep hygiene and age appropriate bedtimes in children with RLS to ensure an age appropriate amount of sleep.
- Treatment for children with more severe sleep disruption **frequently includes medication, especially if iron therapy is not effective.** In most children I prefer starting [with melatonin](https://drcraigcanapari.com/should-my-child-take-melatonin-a-guide-for-parents/), clonidine or gabapentin. Other medications which may be used include lorazepam, clonazepam, ropinirole, or pramipexole. **Equally important is avoidance of caffeine or medications such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors** which may worsen this disorder.
Clearly, the assessment and management of this disorder is complex and should be made by a physician experienced in caring for kids with sleep problems.
For pediatricians and interested parents, here are some links, some of which may lead to articles behind paywalls:
- A good review article about [RLS and PLMS and children](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21600344?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
- A very nice article with more great drawings of affected children by Dr. Daniel Picchietti is [here](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21636777?ref=drcraigcanapari.com).
- Also please check out the information at the RLS Foundation as noted above.
Special thanks to Dr. Picchietti (the real leader in the study of this disease in children) and Georgi Bell for obtaining permission for the images used in this article.
### Frequently Asked Questions about Sleep Training
URL: https://drcraigcanapari.com/faq-sleep-training/
Last updated: 2015-11-24T02:56:43.000Z
I’'ve noticed some recurring themes in the comments I receive on my blog from desparate and tired parents. Unfortunately, the volume of comments has increased to the point where I can’t provide detailed answers any more. Here are answers to the the most frequently asked questions about sleep training.
## We sleep trained and my child was sleeping great for X months. Then he started teething/got a cold/took a trip with us and now he’s sleeping badly again.
If you successfully sleep trained in the past, try what worked for you before. It will usually work more quickly than the first time. You can try other methods as well, which may also work or be a better fit for you.
## We bedshared with our child and now we can’t get her to sleep on her own.
I’ve heard this story frequently in my career. I have a whole article on [how to stop cosleeping](https://drcraigcanapari.com/want-to-stop-cosleeping-heres-how/).
## I’ve been trying to sleep train for X number of days , and my child is still crying for X minutes.
Sleep training can take time. Are you reinforcing the crying? Are you going in for prolonged checks or picking your child (if you are trying “cry it out”). Are you being inconsistent in the timing or the steps of bedtime, If you’ve tried for a week or so, and you feel like you are not making any progress, I would stop and take a time out for a month, and revisit your sleep training plan.
## I put my child to bed at W time and they wake up at X time, and nap from Y to Z. What should I do about bedtime/nightwakings/early morning awakenings?
I appreciate that you put a lot of detail into your post, but it’s pretty hard for me to make personalized recommendations about the timing of sleep and wake for you. I bet that your pediatrician (or your friendly neighborhood sleep doctor) can take this information and really help you out. It would also be worth tallying up how many hours of sleep your child gets in a 24 period and see how it compares to [the amount of sleep recommended for children by the National Sleep Foundation](https://drcraigcanapari.com/how-much-sleep-do-kids-need-with-bonus-grown-up-info/).
## My child falls asleep without difficulty, but wakes up during the night.
There are a couple of possibilites. 1\. A medical cause for nocturnal awakening 2\. [Sleep onset associations](https://drcraigcanapari.com/behavioral-sleep-problems-in-children-part-1-inappropriate-sleep-associations/), although it seems less likely if your child is falling asleep on her own. Is there something present at bedtime that is absent at waking up, (like a pacifier in her mouth). 3\. Too much time in bed. Some kids need less sleep than others and if your child needs less sleep than they have time in bed, you will have problems. 4\. Feeding at night is associated with persistent nocturnal awakenings. Here’s [what to do about them](https://drcraigcanapari.com/learned-hunger-nighttime-feeding-stop-night-feeding/). For more information, I have [an article on night wakings here](https://drcraigcanapari.com/why-does-my-toddler-wake-up-at-night/).
## My child wakes up too early in the morning.
I had this problem too. Here’s an article on what to do about [the dreaded early morning awakenings](https://drcraigcanapari.com/early-morning-awakenings-what-to-do-about-them/).
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